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PROTUZ Challenges Govt Over Teachers’ Recruitment
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PROTUZ Secretary General Albert Muyembe has told QFM News in an interview that the teacher union is disappointed with the move by government to leave out teachers with certificate qualifications.
Mr. Muyembe notes that while the union is fully aware that government wants to phase out certificate qualifications for teachers, the process should be gradual.
He states that most teachers in the country have certificate qualifications as compared to those with diploma and degree qualifications.
Meanwhile the teacher union has praised government for decentralizing the teacher recruitment process saying this will promote transparency in the recruitment process.
He hopes that those conducting the recruitment exercise will ensure they adhere to transparency by recruiting deserving and qualified teachers without engaging in corruption.
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str8 life
July 31, 2015 at 8:05 am
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
Repressed Homosexuality can lead to abuse when a gay man targets and marries a straight woman. The gay husband suffers from shame, denial, and repression of his true sexual identity. Most gay men who marry will never admit they are gay. Repression can lead to impotence with women. You may find yourself in therapy, marriage counseling, and your husband is having his testosterone levels checked. It is common for closeted gay husbands to suffer from guilt and self loathing, as his same-sex attractions continue. They are angry and resentful. You will never be able to do anything right in their eyes. You are confused. You tried to help as they suffer from depression,alcoholism, or both. The doctor changes or adjusts their antidepressants. Nothing works. They may have legal problems due to alcohol and drugs, this leads to more depression. The wife will also start to suffer from depression. Her psychiatrist will prescribe antidepressants and maybe some tranquilizers. Her confusion continues as she tries to make sense of this marriage. The women who marry these men are the most giving, and forgiving women. They have the biggest hearts.
These men who hate themselves, have nothing to offer in this fraudulent marriage. The wife becomes the target of all of his anger. My gay ex told me I was the closest one to him. He told me this is why I was on the receiving end of his anger, Lucky me! He lacks empathy, because he is so full of his own pain. He simply does not have room to care for you. He will intentionally cause you pain, he also seems to take some pleasure in this. This is because he resents you. His fear and shame prevent him from living an authentic life. He feels pressure to appear straight, what he feels the norms of society expects, this is why he marries. There is more to this, something in his core is disgusted by what he is. He is not comfortable in his own skin. He grows to resent the marriage. He wants to be free after many years of denying his true self. These men move on so easily after the marriage ends. They may have feelings for you like a friend or family member, but they were never in love with you. They feel relief when the marriage ends. The wife did not know her husband is gay, she was in love with her husband. She wanted her marriage to work. She is devastated.
The wife of a closeted gay husband goes through so much to put her life back together after the marriage ends. Many of these women suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. She blames herself for not knowing, and for the abuse she put up with. She thinks something is wrong with her. She has been stripped to the core by a gay man who never loved her. She feels used. She cannot trust her own judgment, or anyone for that matter. Her emotions and sexual feelings shut down, and she wonders if they will ever return. Sadly these men have told their wives, they are crazy. They have been gas-lighting their wives for years, in an attempt to throw her off the trail of truth. Many women find out by accident
abakali bakaliReply
July 31, 2015 at 7:38 am
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
They find gay p o r n on the computer, or receive a strange phone call, or text message. The gay husband will blame the wife, or the children. If he is caught red-handed, he will only admit to what you know. He will say he never acted on his same-sex attraction. He was just curious. These gay/straight marriages become sexless. The closeted gay husband has been actively seeking sex with men throughout the marriage. As he ages it becomes harder and harder for him to deny his same-sex attraction. The gay husband wants, needs, and craves a man. He needs this connection that you his wife cannot give him. While the wife shuts down sexually, the gay husband never denied himself sex with men. Some gay husbands may admit to being gay, or bisexual after being caught, only to take it back later, or deny ever saying this in the first place. It can take many years for the closeted gay husband to come to terms with his sexuality. Some never do. They use the fact they are married to a woman, or have children to tell themselves they cannot be gay.
Tim
Works both ways- the husband of a repressed lesbian goes through the exact same emotional trauma. I know, I am one. And I’m not alone. Visit the Straight Spouse Network for more information.
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Debra S.
Tim you were married forty years? I know how devastating this is. I know you have been through a lot of pain. It is hard moving on when you have spent so much of your life with this person. Then realizing you never really knew them. It is so devastating. These marriages are so destructive to the straight spouse. Soul Shattering.
Tim
No Debra, I was married for 30 at discovery. My wife, though, had these “intense emotional relationships” starting at age 13. It w a s n ’ t until she was 54, when I asked her if she was a repressed lesbian based on some of her more eggregious recent actions, that she recognized that she had a SSA. How someone could live and not know for over 40 years is beyond me. She had 5 of these relationships by age 30, but they all lasted two years or less. This one has been going on for more than five years. That’s why, for the first time in my life, I started therapy. That and the folks from SSN saved my sanity and put me on a road to doing for me. My therapist, without ever meeting my wife, figured her out after one session. And it’s that understanding, along with the support from other people in the same situation, that has brought me back from the brink.
kasantana
July 31, 2015 at 8:07 am
Iwe chi colour who should read this rubbish? Waba itole
str8 life
July 31, 2015 at 8:14 am
[…] Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton. […]
Dear …,
….. I do understand completely. I’ve been divorced 3 years now. It does take time to heal from the shock of it all. I was married 22 years, he suddenly wanted out of our marriage to go find himself he said. He told his mother he was not in love with me. The next thing I knew I was on a plane leaving my home and all my belongings behind. I was not given the time I needed to get my belongings. Once I got to my home state. we were still talking on the phone, when I heard he made sexual advances to a man I know. When I questioned him he broke all contact with me. Of course I had other reasons to know he is gay, one being the gay p o rn I found on the computer. When he made sexual advances to the man I know I just w as n ’ t able to deny it anymore as much as I did not want to believe it. Judy I am 59 years old and I know it’s not easy starting over at our age, but we can do this. Take all the time you need to grieve there is no time limit. I know family does not always understand. I’m glad you are part of the straight spouse network. I do believe therapy will help you too. The grief can get so bad at times it feels like it gets worse instead of better, just know that with each passing day it is a step forward. I read about the stages of grief this helped me know where I was in the healing and recovery process. I want to offer you hope in knowing that it does get better.
Sincerely,
D
kakolwe
July 31, 2015 at 9:46 am
Quote us your uncle dipping it in your father/mother’s mputi to produce you! That should explain your passion. You were anally conceived, had an anal delivery thus, to the umusula you take your d!k. We may as well cut you a new totem: Abena Musula!
str8 life
July 31, 2015 at 8:19 am
Signs of a Gay Husband is based on real life events describing closeted gay husband behaviors. The book covers anger, abuse, and deception in marriages.
-Paperback- May 22, 2015
Famous idiot!...
July 31, 2015 at 8:51 am
You are out of topic twala ifyabupuba ukutali.
Reason
July 31, 2015 at 9:30 am
Typical Zambian gays, always in denial!
kakolwe
July 31, 2015 at 9:57 am
That gay swine is misdirecting data. This PROTUZ guy is saying sense chena chabikapo ifyakutungana mumputi.
Surely ba govt, what Hillary Chipango suggested is not ‘phasing out’ but latterly STOPPING! Phasing out is gradual. Tell me baEducation + examinations council, did you not set exams for certificate teachers last year? If yes (which am sure it is), how are you going to phase those that passed that exam? To phase out, stop all colleges from enrolling certificate courses and encourage ALL certificate holders to upgrade their qualifications AS THEY WORK? Eco balemyebela bu clueless!!!
shuvan kafuwe
July 31, 2015 at 9:58 am
Holy Ghost Fire on these gay demons
Israeli
July 31, 2015 at 10:39 am
Comrades, ignore this gay idiot he wants attention.on the issue at hand government should direct certificate holders the way forward and colleges shud immediately stop enrolling on certificate programs
kayula
July 31, 2015 at 11:37 am
This country needs a person like Masebo, Kambwili and Nkandu luo. PF gave certificate holders and diploma holders same salary scale PROTUZ is saying no and demanding for separation. If you care about certificate holders why negotiating for lower pay for them? Government has clearly stated that come 2015 minimum qualification is a diploma why should the Government employ certificate holders? Let them go to school after all the retirement age is 65.
kayula
July 31, 2015 at 11:46 am
kakolwe you inspire me with your comments hope someone has just used your name . Pliz you are not known for such unpleasant words.
kakolwe
July 31, 2015 at 12:04 pm
@Kayula, apologies for being that blunt. But issues of gayism do go to my head such that it is even the first time I have apologized for being too curt over this. Just the thought of the word makes me lose it. Can’t find any kinder words.
charity tengeleko
July 31, 2015 at 12:23 pm
pipo u’ve gone astray aaaah
kayula
July 31, 2015 at 5:11 pm
Natemwa kakolwe. We need to protect pipo like you kayula because you are a rare seed. When are we going to start making next year’s MP proposes?