The rate of building guest houses or lodges in Zambia is very alarming to some people and it is directly proportional to the rate of fornication and adultery. These groups are the highest patronizers of lodges. If you remove adulterers, fornicators and drunkards, most lodges and guest houses will be empty.
So since the greatest patronizers of these places are sinners, do you think it’s right for Christians, especially heaven conscious Christians to build one and help take people to the kingdom of darkness instead of the kingdom of light? Should a Christian build one? Your thoughts.
Question: Is It A Sin To Build & Own A Lodge/Guest House As A True Christian? added by on
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If you say you are a Christian, then go back to the manual that guides you. You will find all the answers there. Tumfweko is the last place you should visit e to for moral support.
Come to for moral support.
Unless you run brothels.
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
Repressed Homosexuality can lead to abuse when a gay man targets and marries a straight woman. The gay husband suffers from shame, denial, and repression of his true sexual identity. Most gay men who marry will never admit they are gay. Repression can lead to impotence with women. You may find yourself in therapy, marriage counseling, and your husband is having his testosterone levels checked. It is common for closeted gay husbands to suffer from guilt and self loathing, as his same-sex attractions continue. They are angry and resentful. You will never be able to do anything right in their eyes. You are confused. You tried to help as they suffer from depression,alcoholism, or both. The doctor changes or adjusts their antidepressants. Nothing works. They may have legal problems due to alcohol and drugs, this leads to more depression. The wife will also start to suffer from depression. Her psychiatrist will prescribe antidepressants and maybe some tranquilizers. Her confusion continues as she tries to make sense of this marriage. The women who marry these men are the most giving, and forgiving women. They have the biggest hearts.
These men who hate themselves, have nothing to offer in this fraudulent marriage. The wife becomes the target of all of his anger. My gay ex told me I was the closest one to him. He told me this is why I was on the receiving end of his anger, Lucky me! He lacks empathy, because he is so full of his own pain. He simply does not have room to care for you. He will intentionally cause you pain, he also seems to take some pleasure in this. This is because he resents you. His fear and shame prevent him from living an authentic life. He feels pressure to appear straight, what he feels the norms of society expects, this is why he marries. There is more to this, something in his core is disgusted by what he is. He is not comfortable in his own skin. He grows to resent the marriage. He wants to be free after many years of denying his true self. These men move on so easily after the marriage ends. They may have feelings for you like a friend or family member, but they were never in love with you. They feel relief when the marriage ends. The wife did not know her husband is gay, she was in love with her husband. She wanted her marriage to work. She is devastated.
The wife of a closeted gay husband goes through so much to put her life back together after the marriage ends. Many of these women suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. She blames herself for not knowing, and for the abuse she put up with. She thinks something is wrong with her. She has been stripped to the core by a gay man who never loved her. She feels used. She cannot trust her own judgment, or anyone for that matter. Her emotions and sexual feelings shut down, and she wonders if they will ever return. Sadly these men have told their wives, they are crazy. They have been gas-lighting their wives for years, in an attempt to throw her off the trail of truth. Many women find out by accident
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July 31, 2015 at 7:38 am
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
They find gay p o r n on the computer, or receive a strange phone call, or text message. The gay husband will blame the wife, or the children. If he is caught red-handed, he will only admit to what you know. He will say he never acted on his same-sex attraction. He was just curious. These gay/straight marriages become sexless. The closeted gay husband has been actively seeking sex with men throughout the marriage. As he ages it becomes harder and harder for him to deny his same-sex attraction. The gay husband wants, needs, and craves a man. He needs this connection that you his wife cannot give him. While the wife shuts down sexually, the gay husband never denied himself sex with men. Some gay husbands may admit to being gay, or bisexual after being caught, only to take it back later, or deny ever saying this in the first place. It can take many years for the closeted gay husband to come to terms with his sexuality. Some never do. They use the fact they are married to a woman, or have children to tell themselves they cannot be gay.
Tim
Works both ways- the husband of a repressed lesbian goes through the exact same emotional trauma. I know, I am one. And I’m not alone. Visit the Straight Spouse Network for more information.
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Debra S.
Tim you were married forty years? I know how devastating this is. I know you have been through a lot of pain. It is hard moving on when you have spent so much of your life with this person. Then realizing you never really knew them. It is so devastating. These marriages are so destructive to the straight spouse. Soul Shattering.
Tim
No Debra, I was married for 30 at discovery. My wife, though, had these “intense emotional relationships” starting at age 13. It w a s n ’ t until she was 54, when I asked her if she was a repressed lesbian based on some of her more eggregious recent actions, that she recognized that she had a SSA. How someone could live and not know for over 40 years is beyond me. She had 5 of these relationships by age 30, but they all lasted two years or less. This one has been going on for more than five years. That’s why, for the first time in my life, I started therapy. That and the folks from SSN saved my sanity and put me on a road to doing for me. My therapist, without ever meeting my wife, figured her out after one session. And it’s that understanding, along with the support from other people in the same situation, that has brought me back from the brink.
Next will be “Is it a SIN to own Lincoln Navigator”, Coz you saw a woman give a blow job to the driver.
“Is it a SIN to have a stroll through the park?” Coz you’ve seen many couples phuck from there.
“Is it a SIN to own samsung tab4 10.1?” Coz many people download pono on them.
You might as well say: “Is it a SIN to live on Earth? Coz there are more sinners our here?
Just die and go be with Christ. You’ll be better off!
True dat
So you mean then its ok for a Christian to own a bar right?….
Habakkuk 2:15!!
Read it and the come back to me & show how this relates to owning a hotel or lodge.
NDIPO KAKOLWE YOU CAN TALK MWANDI YA COZ WE ARE ON EARTH AND EVERY THING IS HERE ON EARTH I THINK THIS GUY DESIRE HEAVEN AND LET HIM GO TO HEAVEN BFORE HIS TIME EVERY ONE MY FRIEND IS A SINNER EVEN THE WAY YOU TALK THE WAY YOU LOOK THE WAY U DO THINGS YOU ARE SINNING BEFORE GOD SO THE BEST OPTION IS TO STAY WAY FROM THESE GUEST HOUSES COZ ITS NOT ONLY FONICATORS AND ADULTRERS WHO FOUND THERE EVEN WEDDING SO ON AND SO FORTH.
[…] Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton. […]
Dear …,
….. I do understand completely. I’ve been divorced 3 years now. It does take time to heal from the shock of it all. I was married 22 years, he suddenly wanted out of our marriage to go find himself he said. He told his mother he was not in love with me. The next thing I knew I was on a plane leaving my home and all my belongings behind. I was not given the time I needed to get my belongings. Once I got to my home state. we were still talking on the phone, when I heard he made sexual advances to a man I know. When I questioned him he broke all contact with me. Of course I had other reasons to know he is gay, one being the gay p o rn I found on the computer. When he made sexual advances to the man I know I just w as n ’ t able to deny it anymore as much as I did not want to believe it. Judy I am 59 years old and I know it’s not easy starting over at our age, but we can do this. Take all the time you need to grieve there is no time limit. I know family does not always understand. I’m glad you are part of the straight spouse network. I do believe therapy will help you too. The grief can get so bad at times it feels like it gets worse instead of better, just know that with each passing day it is a step forward. I read about the stages of grief this helped me know where I was in the healing and recovery process. I want to offer you hope in knowing that it does get better.
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July 31, 2015 at 8:19 am
Signs of a Gay Husband is based on real life events describing closeted gay husband behaviors. The book covers anger, abuse, and deception in marriages.
-Paperback- May 22, 2015
Even owning vehicles which people use to drive to lodges would be a sin. This kind of thinking would touch on almost everything!
Please it’s not the lodges or guest houses that are sins but the way they are used could be sinful.
It’s wrong for a christian to own anything that promotes evil before God like lodges etc
The location of the LODGE to me matters. Lodges and Guest houses should be made mainly for people who have know where to sleep,ie strangers who find themselves in that area for some reason. But if as a christian I am going to build a guest house right in the middle of say Kanyama or Garden compound, where people stranded with night accommodation is low or nil, then I am a sinner for I know my customers.
Tumfweko keep repeating the same stories….
You cant control what happens behind closed doors…ubucende will always be there, ku mulungushi ba born again balanyengana nga kuli ama concert, muma office abantu balanyengana, ku southern sun abantu balatombana.
So let business be business, no wonder we are poor!
Yikali iyo ayi. as a Real Christu aiming to help the Children of Jesus – Own a Guest House Trading on 1 name but in two Places 1 For the Female only including workers starting wit a security Guard then another for Male with same criteria… if not invest in a Church than a guest house which 90% of its earnings only promote adultery and other Satanic vices!:—-IoI Amen.
be realistic bane, having a lodge might be a sin and at the same time it might be not.
OK! Eating nshima might be a sin and at the same time it may be not. Should we ban or run away from nshima because of a few gluttons who are eating their health away?
metrosexual anyone? 🙂
Firstly of all I like such questions, they make people think and analyze issues. Remember all responses given are opinions.
No its no good
it depends
some businesses are not good for Christians. no one can tell you what you ought to do as a genuine christian. Remember you have no control over what happens in the rooms you book-out: some of your clients come for sex only and in most cases with friends who are not marriage partners. your interest is money, kwasila.
The Good Samaritan found a man beaten and left for dead. He took the dying man to an Inn (Guest House) and asked the owners to look after him until he returned to pay for the attention given to the total stranger. Though a Parable, it has its significance and relevance in teaching. Now as to what happens behind the closed doors..uuum ya kosa. The Bibles found there have their importance. The way to go is firstly, there should be no SHORT TIME. Secondly, all those clients known for their Adulterous activities should not be allowed. Now begs the GRAND question..HOW DOES ONE BREAK EVEN ON OPERATIONAL COSTS in this prevailing economic malaise if one does not bend…(quiet-am trying to think) !!! Uuuum iliko BAAADii
Many of you cannot even afford to own or run a kantemba under the poor economically performing pf
If we are just Christians it depends but if we are Christ Followers then its a must to reflect Christs’ ownership,operating according to his principles in anything we have as our possesion or occupation. There is no excuse to this because we create a condusive environment for the Holy Spirit to work and have a special encounter with people in edifying his Kingdom and Glory. Just to remind you that Salvation is for free because Christ has paid it all but following him will eventually cost us something even rejection from close friends and family,or lack of business.
I feel sorry for upnd everything with them is poor economy by pf. Even if upnd was the onlyone left in this country, we would still not vote for it. Vote pf 2016 to 2060
Yes it is a SIN.
Ba Tumfyeko naimwe muli boring. This is just straight forward you we all know what happens in lodges and guest houses too.
whether recycled or not the topic is still hot and debatable. Unlike the UPND way of educating friends. Who always look at the economical failure of PF, even in this issue which is not related to any political discussion. Anyways I have enjoyed reading all your comments guys, lets keep the fire burning. Business is business period it does not matter where you invest as long as you ROI (Return On Investment) is good. That is Caesars’ and the Bible says, it is impossible for a rich man to enter heaven than a camel to pass through the eye of a needle. Complicated but true. Money is the whatever of all EVIL. So ilikochabe …….mauless…