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She regularly uses male prostitutes. As an educated single mom who works at a bank and stays in Migson Manor, in Soweto, she admits that most people would never expect her to pay for sex.
“It happened by chance,” Selekane explains. “A good friend and colleague was getting married, and we organised her a bachelorette party. The girls decided to hire a male stripper, who charged us R2500 for his erotic performance.
“He was tall, dark, very well built and we all went crazy when he started performing.
“Afterwards, I found out that he had a fee he charged if you wanted to take him home with you.
“Maybe it was the drinks, but I asked him what the fee was, and he said it was R800. I forked it out and off we went. The rest is history,” she says with a shy smile.
Since then Selekane has used rent boys frequently. He even introduced her to another colleague and she solicits their services at least once every two months.
“They just know what to do in bed. No judgment and no emotions involved. It is very liberating and can be a much-needed break from the typical dating scene,” Selekane says.
While the use of female prostitutes sparks heated debate, the concept of women using male escorts is either unheard of or just not talked about at all. But, as Selekane’s case shows, it is certainly happening.
According to recent research called Women Who Buy Sexual Services in the UK, more women are using male escort services than ever before.
In the UK alone, the number of male escorts advertising online has more than tripled in the past five years, showing a growing increase in demand for their services.
But are South African women in the same boat?
Sowetan spoke to two male escorts we found online about their observations.
“Many of my clients are black, successful women,” says Rodney, who refused to give his surname.
“They have money, drive nice cars and have nice houses. I have never received a call from a broke student. Most of them are professionals and executives, and they pay very well.”
And how do these high flyers procure their services as male escorts hardly stand on street corners advertising themselves?
Rodney says most deals are conducted online. “Someone will respond to your ad, tell you what they want and, because we can travel, we can be at their house within an hour.”
Rodney, who is originally from Uganda, says he was introduced to the escort world by a Nigerian friend.
“He told me South African women [can] pay a lot of money for sex with us. For me it seemed like the answer to my prayers because I was struggling to get a decent job in South Africa because I don’t have a work permit.
“I started being an escort, or [a] rent boy, as they call us, and I am making a decent living. I bought a car [and] I stay in a great apartment in a nice suburb,” he says. Rodney says he charges R1000 per hour, and has a pricing list, depending on the client’s needs.
“If you want to have me overnight, my fee is R5000.
“For a two-day stay, I can give you a discount and charge R8000, but a weekend is between R10000 to R15000.”
Asked if his fees don’t put many clients off, Rodney confidently disagrees.
“This is the reason I don’t deal with broke clients. All my clients are happy with my rates because they know every cent is worth it.”
Another escort, Mike, says he deals specifically with couples. “I get a lot of calls from husbands asking me to come and render a service to their wives. Most like to join in, but some prefer to just watch. I don’t care, as long as I have my money in my pocket at the end of the session.”
Mike says his rate is R3500 per couple per session.
*Not her real name
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Posted by
FTJ
September 18, 2015 at 10:43 am
Madness!
kakolwe
September 18, 2015 at 10:57 am
@Kunda, Get your sex addictions out of your head and concentrate on matters that can build. These things happen even in Zambia. You know my email address. Send me a request and I will drop you a true of the source if the first Hyundai I drove while at UNZA was actually supposed to be the carrot dangled before me to jump at some fat rich woman with a huge assess.
Xenophobia
September 18, 2015 at 11:05 am
Kupusa, these ladies and their education. They think they know it all, in the end they fail to get married as men shan them. Chasala ni ku gula sex. Be careful of human rights, they have brought harm to our society. The fact that you are educated is not a license to disrespect men.
Chief of Grief
September 18, 2015 at 11:30 am
Can someone fill me cuz i’ll do it probono!Provided i burst a nut, my debt with u is set,shit!!
Shi Mwana
September 18, 2015 at 11:46 am
Sounds enticing!
mj banda
September 18, 2015 at 2:45 pm
The story is true and it happens without shame.
one tim
September 18, 2015 at 3:04 pm
wat a job?
Chama Chishimba
September 18, 2015 at 6:11 pm
Imipamba yeka yeka.
amankolobwe
September 18, 2015 at 7:40 pm
Ba zed guys job iyo pa sasasa
Michael chamunji
September 18, 2015 at 9:30 pm
kindly update me on the news concerning Zambia.
New Educated Zambia©❤√
September 18, 2015 at 9:48 pm
This is not zambia because due to pfs lack of economic management and vision we have very few career women. And yet lungu keeps preaching about hoe he has empowered women by putting inonge as vp. Useless
Stanzo
September 20, 2015 at 4:31 pm
NEZ you must learn to keep quiet especially when you have nothing constructive to say.
ba guy
September 18, 2015 at 10:24 pm
this is useless,I can never buy sex even if am suffering under pf.my man knows how to hundle me I even forget all these sufferings in Zambia.please!
agnostic
September 19, 2015 at 12:46 am
*** African man Watching someone bonking his wife? ****
cracker chocholi..
September 19, 2015 at 2:51 am
Imbwa
kalembe kafyuke
September 19, 2015 at 4:17 am
nez uletashako naiwe limolimo,you re just jealous of Inonge,ako kana mayo,number 2,banono,go Inonge girl go mama,nez asabailafye nge shilu kubuchushi mumano,upnd will never rule our Zed,NEVER.maybe cow dung can rule Zed not under5.
kasantana
September 19, 2015 at 1:15 pm
It is common even where I live.I bonk for payment mwana,not the other way round.
ba guy
September 19, 2015 at 2:01 pm
please!
tutu
September 19, 2015 at 6:05 pm
lucky guys!!! can some1 give my email address to mampi..t wil be 4 free
Chinyama
September 20, 2015 at 9:00 am
Times of the end. Prostitution at its best.