HOW WE MET with SYLVESTER CHISHIMBA, Lusaka
“Before we became husband and wife, we were high school friends, our friendship started many years back when we were in high school and in the same class. I liked him because he was different from most of the young men; he was handsome, quiet and very intelligent. He always came out first in physics and mathematics,”
These were the words of Feng Kehong a medical doctor who has been married to Shen Sen for 28 years.
The romantic bliss between Feng Kehong and Shen Sen started way back between the 1978 and 1979 when the two were pupils at Tanga Yin First High School.
“The day I developed feelings for him was when he came in class just as the bell was ringing and his new jacket was caught by a loose nail from my desk as he was passing, I thought he would be angry and shout at me that instant but instead he just looked at torn section of his jacket and sat quietly,”she said.
Kehong said even though she was in love with Sen, she could not face him and tell about her feelings directly as both of them were busy with school.
“We just became very good friends and as time went on we came to discover that we were from the same city called Luoyang city located in western Henan province of Central China.This brought us even closer. Later, we discovered that our parents knew each other and built a relationship already,”she said.
Kehong said after they completed high school, they lost communication because they went to different universities to pursue their future careers.
“After years of not seeing each other, we again met in 1985 in our home city, when we both had completed our university studies.This is the time when Sen officially proposed love to me and we started to date.In a society where I come from, friendships between families play a key role in relationships and marriage, our families knew each other very well and above all I and Sen understood each other very well,”she said.
Kehong said two years later, Sen proposed to marriage to her adding that the marriage was well celebrated as our both families were agreeable.
And smiling, Sen said when his friendship with Kehong blossomed; he began to develop feelings for her especially after liking her character and conduct.
“She was very different from me, I was on the quiet side but we were able to understand each other even though she was the opposite of me.I was a very private and reserved person who loved doing things alone. I never had time to mind about other people or what they were doing as I concentrated much on my studies.
Kehong was the opposite of me, she liked to be with people, talking to them and always working and sharing knowledge with them,” he said.
Sen said Kehong has been a perfect wife and partner in their marital union because his wife has enabled him change as he had difficulties in believing or talking to other people.
“We do a lot of things together and we normally fuilfil our plans and the years we have spent together has enabled us to tolerate and accept each other’s weaknesses with the love we share,”he said.
Sen and Kehong have a 17-year-old daughter together named Shen Xia Fei, who is currently in China studying.
When advising wouldbe couples and those already in marriage, Kehong said people should be very serious when marrying because marriage is a life time commitment that should not be taken for jokes.
“People should learn to trust, understand and help each other than spend most of their time insulting each other,”she said.
And Sen chipped in saying when couples agree about spending the rest of their lives together, they should learn to work together and that total co-operation between them is mostly needed.
“Partners must always make decisions and always work together because they need to overcome most difficulties as couples. Life is never easy; couples must work hard to provide for themselves.
They must have the ability to do things well, couples divorce because they don’t want to work together or lack commitment, they should have tolerance for one another.Love is important in a marriage because without it nothing can work,”he said.
I been ditched by a woman who proposed to me because of her Love for money
You are just a broke looser!!
@ Chimo. Only God can assist us find our true soul mates. Your time will come, and you will even forget that someone had ever ditched you. This is how JESUS works.MASTER OF COMFORT.
Religious people are some of the biggest hypocrites on this planet, they’ll say one thing, then do another.
Marriage is between two people .the most important thing in marriage is communication between two people and also learn to forgive and forget when your partner makes a mistake.These successfull marriagies we see today if you ask them they have gone through many challenges of which some were embaransment in presency of people but they endured.
Marriage is the worst thing one can aspire for.What is the purpose anyway. Is God married -No,were Adam and Eve married -No but as a helper Eve told Adam to put in.Was Jesus married -No,only had a relationship with a prostitute -Mary Magdalene. In all these cases marriage has never been important. You can have sex and children without marriage.
In Holy Scripture it is written “God created Adam (man) in His own image, and after His likeness” (Genesis 1:26-27). In Genesis 2:18 God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone, I will make a help meet for him.” In verses 21-22 God took a rib from Adam’s body, and He made a woman from the rib taken from Adam, and brought the woman unto the man. In verse 23, Adam spoke these words: “this is bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh.” Verse 24 tells us that a man shall leave father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh. Henceforth, marriage is instituted as God has established it for the first man and woman. In this creation of God there is no thought of another woman for the man, or another man for the woman.
mmmmh article too long and boriiiing…anyway inkama muchupo kumutungafye bwino chapwa,ifyashala fyonse useless!! aslong as ulelasapofye bwino pa chipunda,nangula wingamuponona,nangula wamutungila abanankwe pamofye naka nkanshi yakwe alekubwesha!
Jason, read the bible correctly. It is full of myths and imaginations especially Genesis. If you understand what is written,from creation to date it can be less than 7,000 years only .To the contrary,it has been in existence for several million years.Mind you apart from Euphrates and Tigres rivers from garden of Eden, the third river is missing to date. The fruit being talked about made them become naked,how does eating make one naked.Lot was raped by his daughters after being made drank,you mean when nicely sloshed you can have an erection,and can you not feel sperms oozing what type of kukolewa was it.Many other myths follow.
The advocate, you need to read the bible in context not isolated verses. The same Genesis tells you that man shall leave his father and mother and cling to his wife and the 2 shall be one.The bible has no myths, but a true written word as inspired by God almighty, Yahweh!
“Keep thy religion to thyself!”
ma Muslims, yali nanchito pali Bible.
Well elaborated story A good lesson to learn from this couple especially us who intend to settle now