By KT Editor
HE lost his wife suddenly following a short illness. On the day before she died, three hours before, Thomas Sipalo alias Diffikoti was text-chatting with his late wife Doreen Ashanti -Sipalo. In the messages, Diffikoti told his wife that he was worried about her and that him and then kids had missed her home.
From her hospital bed where she had been admitted, she said all was okay and that she was only feeling a headache but assured her husband that she would be fine. Hours later, she died . Diffikoti had difficulties to explain it, he announced on his facebook post in a scant script “just lost my wife ”
A week later after the burial, Diffikoti was home all alone as a single parent celebrating the birthday of his one year old boy. He said, Doreen would have been so happy to witness the boy turn one. His post carried with it sadness as if to express that the boy doesn’t even know that he will never ever see mum again. She is gone to dust for good.
And today, Diffikoti still recounts the vanity of chasing material things at the expense of not spending more time with loved ones and appreciating them while you live.
He says, when you divorce, you may meet and even call your ex-partners but when your partner dies, that’s it.
“To those with living partners, please use the opportunity and ultilise quality time you have with them to the fullest, we spend alot of time looking for money which becomes useless when the person to enjoy it with is no more, ” he says.
“spoil them, love them, appreciate them, spend as much time as you can with them coz some moments /memories can never be reversed “