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What Do You Do When Your Boss Demands Sex?
By Angela
Sarah wrote the following on her facebook wall: I am two months old on my job, I think my boss wants to sleep with me. I love my job and I think sleeping with him will jeopardize it.
It started with invites to dinner (business dinners –he called them!), then me accompanying him on business trips which he asked me to book myself because he couldn’t do the booking through the company for obvious reasons – that’s when I knew he wanted to sleep with me. What should I do?
Many people are thrown in such scenarios, what do you do? It is inappropriate and illegal for bosses and supervisors to make romantic or sexual advances toward their employees in the workplace. If your boss is making unwelcome advances toward you, here’s how to handle the situation effectively and professionally.
Sexual harassment
Tell your boss what behavior you find inappropriate, and ask that it be stopped. If he insists and wants to force you, then this is clearly a case of sexual harassment and you should gather as much proof as you can and get a lawyer and him. You are under no obligation at all to honour your boss’ sexual advances. Make sure that you are not guilty of leading him on or it will all backfire..
Say no
Tell him flat out, “I’m not interested.” If he presses it more, then file the paperwork. Sometimes it is not just about the job, your working conditions are important too. If you can’t handle some of the situations you are put in, you say no. Tell him straight up that that you just want to keep it professional.
In a relationship
If you are not in a relationship, but you got guy friends; pretend to date that friend and act like you really love him in front of your boss. He just might leave you be.
Blackmail
When the worse comes to the worst, then tough measures have to come into play. Blackmail him. Get a voice recorder and record what he says, then refuse his advances. Keep a dated, written record of the offense(s). You may keep this record for your own reference or retain it in case you need to make a formal complaint against your boss later. If he tries to fire you, use this ammo to blackmail him.
We are human
If he is cute, good looking and unattached (single) why not! Go for it, but be careful, he could be using you just for sex not because he genuinely likes you. You need to think through this really carefully. Sleeping with your boss is really going change the way he thinks of you, and how he treats you. But whatever you do, make sure you put yourself first!
Posted by
angie
September 30, 2011 at 5:15 am
Just give him a bj.
Danny
September 30, 2011 at 5:37 am
most of our women are victims of sexual harassement in the corporate world and the sad thing is most of them have given so that thy can secure their jobs.
Abaakaabaa!
September 30, 2011 at 5:44 am
C-mon girl you f*ck-him he 4gets you and you will always be a disgust in his sight but I love the blackmail part its the best witness ever! Remember tho that he must not hold anything against you concerning your wanting to do it! Be careful!
WILLIAMS
September 30, 2011 at 8:05 am
JUST FUCK HIM…
Kelvin
September 30, 2011 at 8:37 am
Blackmailing is the best for the lady to Protect her job.Its realy a bad move for the Boss, respect is very good in any organisation
Name
September 30, 2011 at 8:50 am
Dont sleep with him.Tell him you are on ARVs.
Niine
September 30, 2011 at 9:09 am
If he demand to use a condom. What will you do?
Zero $ugar
October 11, 2011 at 3:18 pm
or if he say he is +ve too
purity
September 30, 2011 at 9:34 am
if you like him then go ahead. And if you can record the conversation with him and use it as protection from being fired. Afterwards, tell him he can never fire you as u have evidence that he was harassing you sexually. As for sex, if you want it go for it
niine
September 30, 2011 at 10:40 am
You guys do you fear God? remember everything belong to Him jobs, money, friends, sex, just to mention a …stand up for your acting in accordance with morality. Its a system or method based on a given set of rules from God.
mo pot
September 30, 2011 at 11:02 am
I would screw her! I wouldn’t really mind my female boss asking me out even if its temporal!
dede
October 4, 2011 at 12:07 pm
kumutomba mwandi boyi
Stress
September 30, 2011 at 11:35 am
Jst do it.
pate
September 30, 2011 at 12:38 pm
kwena bamo mwalifwa imitwe how can u accept such an offer? pliz lt us do wat joseph in the bible did to portipherz wife
saint wazanga
September 30, 2011 at 1:05 pm
forbidden
Nzovwa
September 30, 2011 at 1:54 pm
please keep it in mind that Boss can be femal or male and subordinate your wife, husband, daughter, son etc…
these are life changing issues in your life.
I for one am lucky i have not encountered such….. yet.
Good luck to all of you in such a situation
NKANDU PETER
September 30, 2011 at 2:49 pm
if u do it, it might become an habit and u likely to loose respect from yo boss. let character and right conscience prevail. remember u are not the first one to sleep with yo boss. yo boss is careless and very foolish. say no with respect to a fool and u will retain you values.
JALEM
September 30, 2011 at 3:20 pm
It takes wisdom to handle such a situation. Realy cruitial one. Try to lay a trusted friend decoy for a private or secret “CHEATERS” move that will be security for you in an event that he (boss) threatens to fire you just because you have turned down his move or motive.Atleast you could also threaten him you have his dirty tricks on record (friend decoy.Otherwise,”tune him coke”.
jessie (male)
September 30, 2011 at 4:17 pm
Hey guys,remember that the values of a woman lies between her two legs, the more you open them. the more you loose values
TITO
September 30, 2011 at 4:21 pm
TELL YOUR BOSS THAT I AM A MARRIED WOMAM OR I HAVB A BOYFRIEND. SEXUAL HARRASSMENT.TELL PEOPLE IN HUMAN RESOURSE ABOUT YOUR BOSS PROPOSAL IN CASE HE FIRES YOU WHEN YOU REF– USE TO SLEEP WITH HIM.HE IS A VERY DIRTY BUSTARD.JEROUS HUSDAND BEAT SUCH BOSSES.IF HE WAS SLEEPING WITH MY GAL,I WOULD WRING HIS BALLS CHIKALA.
Imagine Life Without Sugar
September 30, 2011 at 4:37 pm
If i were a gal, I would tie his balls to a 320V step-up transformer and turn the switch on!
Kopala Swag
September 30, 2011 at 4:38 pm
This article only talks of a male boos not a female boss coz I happen to a victim of a female boss (though I enjoy it), so there’s no big deal, cabafye efyo ipassa.
jack 5
September 30, 2011 at 4:40 pm
just offer after all he will not get it, you will remain with it under you and sit on it
pierre
September 30, 2011 at 4:43 pm
sex is good,i ll wud utilise that rear opportunity if my female boss came my way
melman
September 30, 2011 at 5:25 pm
just give him a BJ and pretend his dick is a MIC and you are audition.
happy chingola
September 30, 2011 at 5:35 pm
No man can becom a great leader anless u ar madi.jst riport him & fack yr ass too.tel him tht u dnt olfthr sex,bt if u wnt a fackn job, thn do a thin wel. fack u
Option
September 30, 2011 at 6:20 pm
Ba Tumfweko. Am against that point of blackmail cause you cant justify it in as much as what the boss does. If you have evidedence that implicates him/her, hand it to your company PR dept cause the tables can turn on you if you do it yourself. Justice, am out
Kat001
September 30, 2011 at 9:31 pm
Castrate him
Chelsy
October 1, 2011 at 7:26 am
I wouldnt mind my boss wanting some coz i would gladly do her, seeing that i secretly ”swallow saliva” for her!
Matanga
October 1, 2011 at 9:37 am
Please bosses out there stop what i call, fucking the payroll!
What!!!
October 1, 2011 at 11:34 am
Protect ur self.
Tim Mwanza
October 1, 2011 at 1:03 pm
Ala bambi mwe maZambians mulatusebanya jst by looking at the comments you’re adding. Just report it immediately. Rather loose your job than your dignity. You can always find another job but dignity……awe mwandi!!!!
Tha zed stud
October 1, 2011 at 5:02 pm
Happens all tha time.. Just screw her like u missed her.. Nd when she asks how was it?? Just say u’v had better..
Isaac
October 1, 2011 at 8:26 pm
Fear God. Preach him and tell him it is sin 1John 1:9 ,quote the Law of God.Invite your boss to church
chanda bwalya
October 1, 2011 at 9:45 pm
sleep with him and you will enjoy your job.
PUSO
October 2, 2011 at 12:46 pm
Let my boss try me, i will fuck her like never before, until she dries up,…..cries dry,& cries no more!!!!!!!!!!!! And she will learn not to solicity sex from men!
dot com
October 2, 2011 at 11:53 pm
tell him u are bewitchd of attending everytime
kisho
October 3, 2011 at 4:52 am
its just sex. i can give it to the anyone who wants it. what more of a boss. he can have this pussy any time any how!!!!!!!!
Ubuntungwa Mu Jambo Jambo
October 3, 2011 at 11:44 am
If your boss wants sex, tell him: Sir, if u want to get laid, u shud crawl up a chicken’s ass and wait to get laid!!
SPEAKING TIME
October 3, 2011 at 11:55 am
Tumfweko or is it angela..you are evil,how do encourage someone to sleep with the boss when she is not married to him..shame and God forbid..Ladies do not sleep with him even when he is cute..if he is interested in you then let him get into a normal relationship with you and it should not affect work then proceed in a Godly manner until you get together in holy matrimony
Chinyopilo
October 3, 2011 at 1:28 pm
No big deal about f*cking my female boss over and over, again and again on her office table. Only that most female bosses I have encountered are ugly. Cute ones are rare…..
FINE_BWALYA
October 3, 2011 at 2:44 pm
Lets be realistic here and stop pretending!! First of all I am a MAN myself.
Now a BOSS i.e FEMALE BOSS in my case is just a human being. So it will depend on how cute she is. The danger is that cuteness is not always proportional to BED WRIGGLING SKILLS.
Ok, let me not beat about the bush. If she is cute, i would definitely tap THAT. Imagine (with due respect) if a BOSS like MASEBO or MIZINGA MELU (these are just examples please) approached me. I would definitely go for it as long as they are SINGLE. I don’t TAP married material.
Please ladies and gents NEVER EVER EVER TAP MARRIED MATERIAL!!!
kekekee
October 3, 2011 at 3:30 pm
me i have been fu*king them anyway
felistus
October 3, 2011 at 4:11 pm
this is an ungodly act i respect my body and my boyfriend if u are going thru such a thing then that job is not God given,the best is to tok to ur boss and make him undstnd that wht he is doing is wrong if u give in he will take advantage of u believe me it will becum a habit and having sex with some one means making a covenant.Do u knw how many girls he has done that to?Dnt take risks in life and its not about AIDS of course there is protection but satanism exists think carefully b4 u give in
melody luhanga
October 3, 2011 at 10:16 pm
no manzi at work please.respect.
FINE_BWALYA
October 4, 2011 at 12:24 pm
I RESPECT MY BODY???
NO MANZI AT WORK PLACE..RESPECT
COME ON…ITS JUST SEX..YOU BANG AND GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE
Malilisho
October 4, 2011 at 12:46 pm
Some people love these encounters and have even made a career out of it! Yes they have gotten by by sleeping around. A Boss for promotion, a rich client for expensive holidays and clothes, a pastor for divine intervention and even a well connected family for a bastard child! Then that rich family can pay for the child and all his expenses and all you worry about is “YOURSELF”
Some women or men can’t help it. In fact in some corporate organisations it is beleived to help the organisation gel together. If a guy is known to be energitic enough and well endowed he will keep the women in the organisation happy. Women also like this brush with danger, doing it in the Office, elevator, top of the stairs, carpark, at the office party, on the business trip, at the office retreat or strategic planning retreat.
Sexual Harrasment usually occurs if the woman discovers she is not the only lucky girl and the boss has had a fair share of the women folk! There was one incident were a female supervisor was sleeping with a junior officer, and the two would meet in the Controlled Stationery store every night at 19:30hrs. They needed two people to open this sensitive area and after going there together for years, the two just decided it was an opportune place to have sex since it was a restricted area & every one else kept away, until one curious intern happened to stumble upon them.
Some people have even been caught on CCTV. How can you not know that there are Cameras in your workplace? One group of women complained on being fired. The said we were told that as long as we ‘serviced’ the Boss he would always protect our jobs. They sued for harrasment but lost as there was no ‘credible evidence’ and between thm and the boss, the organisation opted to take that of the boss.
Sex is about animal attraction and it will happen regardless of the circumstances! Boss and Junior, Client, Pastor, churchmate, even strangers. The best is to avoid falling prey to our natural instincts and this stakes years of self denial and of course spiritual intervention. There are those of us who are fortunate to work in an industry that has one gender and we have less temptations.
As a Manager, I have never gone out with a workmate or Junior. I always keep my professional life seperate from my private life and in certain organisations have been deemed to be a loner and anti-social. I have only kept contact with females I desired after leaving the organisation though my principles are not to have sex out side of my relationship. Its usually safer but we all require female company from others other than our spouse or girlfriend, once in while.
Bosses let the girls do their work!
Nomba Ninshi
October 4, 2011 at 3:51 pm
NIce story
PAULO MWANASAWASAWA
October 4, 2011 at 1:12 pm
iwe mupase yapa Table nangu yakumbuyo mu office
peter kapepa
October 4, 2011 at 5:13 pm
say no to sex,and tell your boss that it’s the job that you followed and nothing more or less.
Mundia
October 5, 2011 at 12:22 pm
Quite frankly,I have a feeling that this is a set up.Angela was never in such a situation.She just wants to get people comment.the reazon why Iam leaving my comment here is just to share my opinion with those who might be in the situ.First and foremost,sex is not by force.I wouldnt enjoy sex with someone I forced into bed. So,ask him first of all,how many of his employees has he not slept with,how many more does he intend to sleep with.Then ask him what his objection is.Finally,tell him you dont wana be part of the agenda.If you loose your job on that account,then you are a true defination of a human being and god above will proudly tell Satan in his face,”There goes my Daughter.”
Mundia
October 5, 2011 at 12:24 pm
For crying out loud,we live in a world of freedom of expression.If the worse becomes the worst,start up your own business where no one will harrass you.Remember also not to harrass others.thank you.
FINE_BWALYA
October 5, 2011 at 6:13 pm
IF AS ADULTS YOU REACH A MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING, THEM THERE IS NO PROBLEM..GO FOR IT!!
IF I LIKE THE BOSS,AND SHE IS NOT MARRIED, I WOULD BANG!!
IF I DON’T LIKE HER, I WOULD MAKE ALL SORT OF EXC– USES NOT TO..I HAVE DONE IT BEFORE SUCCESSFULLY.
BUT TO BE HONEST, I FIND IT RATHER UNCOMFORTABLE TO APPROACH A JUNIOR DESPITE MANY OPPORTUNITIES THAT HAVE PRESENTED THEMSELVES. WELL THAT’S JUST MY PRINCIPLE!!
ZOC
October 5, 2011 at 10:50 pm
MANY WOMEN THEY DO IT COZ OF LIKES OF MONEY,NECHIBELESHI KULI BA BOSS BAKULAMICHITA
Vegetarian lion
October 7, 2011 at 10:09 am
Life of sex before formal jobs was there.boss does not make you become another thing,you are still human,juniuor female or male employee,still human.so just do wat normal humans do in watever case.My juniours are well to do than i am,equally some bosses are well to do than other juniours,so its not about social status,its about doing wats appropriate.from your heart.he cant fire you for not doing it,how you treat him the first time you notice it is wat matters coz be ready to continue like that