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DAMBISA’s Inlaws Want Her To Stop Singing
Dambisa
According to ezmmagazine sources close to Dambisas fiance and his family members have come out and said that they are not pleased about her career and lifestyle as a musican now that she is engaged and they want her to stop and start doing something else.
The magazine earlier reported that Dambisa the young Diva had gotten engaged to her longtime boyfriend Chanda Brian Mulenga, a Multichoice dude and who publicly proposed to her at Manda Hill Centre.
The Magazine further reports that the family only came out about their dislikes of her career and
Dambisa about to recieve the ring
lifestyle when actually Dambisa and her fiancee have been dating for three years and have a kid together.
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ubanzakulanga
October 27, 2011 at 12:21 am
Wat an imbroglio,eka duka chain for sure, sad hey!
musonda
October 27, 2011 at 12:49 am
Dambisa does not have a fiancee she has a fiance Ba tumfweko. her fiance is the one who has a fiancee. both words should have a have Hyphens, above the last “e” in fiancee and the single “e” in fiance. Having said that, poor dambisa she loves to sing it’s a shame she has to sideline her talent and passion to appease the inlaws.
miss piggy
October 27, 2011 at 1:45 am
Can those relatives go to bed if they have nothing to do. Let the girl enjoy her life, who do they think they are. I hope she can show some sturboness and refuse to give up her career. If dude is cool with it then she should just go ahead. In laws my foot!!!!!
bwana
October 27, 2011 at 2:52 pm
uli kasolola iwe pussy. ukafwa ukutemwa ukotombe kubengi.f*******u
Tonga Steel
October 27, 2011 at 5:54 am
Ba Musonda
I understand that you had a burning desire to correct the english but by refering to quotation marks as hyphens u are equally astray. Its a case of one blind leading the other blind….both are bound for the ditch.
Judged too quickly
October 27, 2011 at 3:59 pm
He actually said ‘hyphens above the “e”. where did you see the quotation marks?
musonda
October 27, 2011 at 10:26 pm
Thankyou “Judged too quickly”.
Zambian
October 30, 2011 at 11:53 pm
Hey guys. Firstly, it is not a hyphen. It is an accent. In particular, an acute accent(é). The words fiancé and fiancée are borrowed from the French language where fiancé refers to the male and fiancée refers to the female getting married. No big deal though, I think communication serves its purpose if there is an understanding of what one was looking to convey. Definitely, it is nice if bloggers can be grammatical correct and write properly however there is an unsavoury trend of bashing each other in blogs over spelling etc. I think it is unfair. We live in a digital age that has made access to such mediums of communication almost universal. If I happen to have access to the internet (God bless the internet) but I don’t have the ability to spell well and construct grammatically impeccable sentences does that exclude me from participating in your esteemed blogs? I think not. If I can’t put an accent on an e does that make my opinion and less valuable? I don’t think so. Just look at how easily you have all displayed your ignorance in trying to display your genius. Relax, life is too short to get your knickers in a knot of accents from the French language!
hungry tonto
November 1, 2011 at 8:14 pm
Well said, Zambian
As for you guys a hyphen is a dash(-) and an accent is the little thing on top of a letter, and it is not regularly used in the English language. You need to calm down a bit not everyone is as “well-versed” as you seem to convey yourselves.
think zero
October 27, 2011 at 6:12 am
iwe ka miss piggy jst shut up if u don’t have a mature comment to add. marriage is abt two pipo but sacrifices have to be made sometyms for it to work.
bebe
October 27, 2011 at 6:41 am
I just hope its a thing that both will have to agree and not cause any problem. What is sad is that we are blocking a talent and I just hope dambisa has other things to do apart from singing. Suppose it was there daughter would they have said she stops singing? Let the guy provide an alternative if she has to stop singing.
MWANAWAKWITU
October 27, 2011 at 7:11 am
It is sad that even modern today, parents want to dictate who their children must marry. For me this is a big problem. As long as she meets the basics, the details are for the two to agree.
This is why marriages of nowdays are not lasting.
annoyed
October 27, 2011 at 7:44 am
why…. why…. why…. why….. why…… this dude liked Dambisa because of her singing talent or career,if she stops singing then the dude will no longer feel the same about her.if he didn’t like her style he would have found someone else in church o anywhere else..The devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know.let them be………………………..
Kelvin mulenga
October 27, 2011 at 8:15 am
To bad 4 the diva.
Th0ne1
October 27, 2011 at 8:20 am
pipo,ther is nothin wrong wit singin 4her bt sinc she has aceptd 2marry th guy.she shud mind th way she dresses.th thing guys is no boobs,thiz,butts outside.cover her self up.its modern world.for Godsakes she is getin marigd.she shud 4get it.tht tim has passd 4her.shud start lukin lik she wil b a wife soon.i seen th way she dreses.th parents shud just tel her 2chang her dres code.
chikwa
October 27, 2011 at 8:30 am
its unjustified for him to stop her from singing thats what she likes doing in life and i guess the man should accept her the way she is, iam a man as well who understands such matters of the heart so he should love her for who she is. LONG LIVE TRUE LOVE
whybiz cartel
October 27, 2011 at 9:26 am
Who is marrying? The multichoice guy or his family. If family have nothing to do,they can go and hang.once the guy bows down to their pressure then definetily they will be controlling his house even after he ties the knot.some of us guys jst love women who are ticking and that’s what attracted that guy to Dambisa.
TUCHILI TULE BEBA
October 27, 2011 at 9:43 am
Its a shame her talent will go to waste…I mean when the guy met her he accepted her as a singer so why should it change now…..and for the dudes family I hope they are not the control freak typr whereby they will be running their lives….Let the two Dabisa and Chanda decide on what they want to do with their future….its not up to the family…Love is between two people.
Stress
October 27, 2011 at 10:17 am
I just hope Petersen has stopped giving head to Dambisa, otherwise she wont stop singing.
mia
October 27, 2011 at 10:17 am
please da relatives and you will live a miserable life. where were they when the two were just dating? remember a man loves excitement and someone presentable, now they want to turn her into da old ‘pregnant and barefoot in the kitchen’ kind of a woman. dambisa live your life as long as your fiance agrees. modesty is the key. marriages are no longer lasting and husbands are no longer respecting their spouses pantu tufwaya ukwikala mu shadow iya balume…its sad!!!!
Kalok
October 27, 2011 at 11:30 am
Tonga Steel! They are not quotations, they are accents (the one for fiance(e) is an accute one which faces forward above the first ‘e’). You just made a lame man blind!!!
Wren
October 27, 2011 at 12:13 pm
Congrats babe!
Wren
October 27, 2011 at 12:18 pm
Imagine if this guy fell in love with her because of her singing, what will happen if she cant sing anymore?
Bashi Tasha
October 27, 2011 at 1:04 pm
the guys knows her weaknesses when shes involved in singing thats the reason for the demand of change,,mwandi boi protect what is yours
Dien
October 27, 2011 at 1:05 pm
The pips correcting each other above have made my day. Its like three blind men looking for a black cat in a dark room which is not there!
nana
October 27, 2011 at 1:28 pm
soo!!
Obnoxious
October 28, 2011 at 9:05 am
hehehehe, you all are making my day already
Billy Tomba
October 27, 2011 at 1:58 pm
Ba fikala what are you tryna correct?
meeeeee
October 27, 2011 at 2:45 pm
thats the problem with the “some of us” type of family, its a really bad to hinder some1 talent and its a sin to seperate wat God has joined, so family leave that to the couple, i would advise Diva to continue….
snr citizen
October 27, 2011 at 3:26 pm
The in-laws might not know why their son was attracted to this young lady could be her music. Before they say no let them consult the son first. According to our culture I see nothing wrong with music, the most important thing is the way one dresses and the way one performs her dances, make sure it is not the dancing or the dressing that will bring or cause an embarrassment before the in-laws otherwise there is nothing serious about music which is done in a decent way.
dnice
October 27, 2011 at 3:44 pm
this poor beautiful and now vulnerable young girl should follow her dream and if this dude from multichoice loves her as a whole, he should respect what she does otherwise he should bugger off because someone reasonable and responsible will come her way. She should not change what she does just to please him and his controlling family, after alll arent they the ones coming to marry her? this is chronic stupidity. I think his family is full of control freaks
Holy ghost fire child
October 27, 2011 at 5:22 pm
kinda lost? whuz this dambisa???
Mwenya capetown
October 27, 2011 at 5:37 pm
Ubu bututu,when he proposed,he knew she was into music,and now that she has accepted to marry him,they want her to drop her passion.If you cant stand a musician,then go marry someone else.
Dorika
October 27, 2011 at 5:57 pm
Nshmwishiba uyu!!! Ninani?? But ka photoshop picture kakwe kalemonekako bwino panono.
Dorika
October 27, 2011 at 6:05 pm
By the way, Dambisa, you should smell a rat in this dear! If they really insist on dropping what you love, consider thinking twice. Marriage is for a lifetime, I don’t want you to have a constant frowned face as a mother in the future, NO, NO, NO.
observing from London
October 27, 2011 at 6:06 pm
hahahaha ati wrong english lmfao….dude u hilariously foolish! and dambisa i hope u have taken time to read pipos views here, they myt help in making your decision in life…..if its ur talent from God, dont let go of it girl!
Soja
October 27, 2011 at 6:24 pm
I wonder why you are complaining on Dambisa’s behalf.Do you think the parents as old as they are don’t know what is good in life.They are not talking from without after all you haven’t heard how she feels about it.Stop poking your nose in other people’s families just because you have no one to correct you poor ones.Did the to be husband tell you that he was attracted by her singing? Love is love with or without singing he will still love her. All the best Dambisa do what you feel is right girl.
Poor_Billionaire
October 27, 2011 at 7:23 pm
sometimes old school is right
PUNKA
October 27, 2011 at 7:26 pm
if your man’s family z not that considerate of ur career. there are still chaps like me ready to mend the kaduked chain. love ur music to the bone shawty
Florence Wachimonahu Dehi
October 27, 2011 at 7:49 pm
For 3 years they were going out while Dambisa was singing. The guy asked for her hand in marriage while she was singing. Why did he not abandon her and go for the plenty non-singers? This is manipulation and a sign of insecurity. The man should come to terms with the fact that she acceted him. Where were these jealousy and wicked relatives when the negotiations were being made?She can stop singing and still be unfaithful if she wants to. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop. Does Dora Bokosi sing? We all know that she is free for all. If at all there is a problem somewhere that can be resolved independently. For all I know it has nothing to do with the career. In-laws can actually make you carry a horse on your head intead of riding it. Listen to them, analyse what they say and make up your own mind,it’s your life my girl. Am a married woman and I can assure you some in-laws specialise in brewing chaos in other people’s home. They can’t clean or even cook the basic decent meal in their homes. But my, my, my, they have a catalogue of faults in others … kaduka fulu fulu. Mwaice ala umuko tecibusa.
buzzbee
October 28, 2011 at 12:39 pm
wen u dating they dnt talk, now they start. be who u are dambisa,in the long run what will hppen wen u miss singing. anyway its ur life, sacrifice if u can, if u want to.
GK
October 28, 2011 at 5:21 pm
Iwe Chi Tonga Steel, ba Musonda is right, its a hyphen not quotation mark. You are the one who is blind probably because you are Tonga Steel.
dnice
October 28, 2011 at 6:00 pm
Soja you spoke well on the 27/10, but you should remember that any business that comes to tumfweko becomes every one’s issue to discuss. If they want the issue to be left as a family matter, they should not open their mouths to tumfweko. I however do understand your point
fredro
October 29, 2011 at 9:56 am
you know this has just made me even more depressed. i made a girl pregnant whom ive realised i dont really love. she insisted we go without protection because of her ‘safe days’.
nikaliko
October 30, 2011 at 12:27 am
Now that’s what is referred to as what…….I guess you know the answer……it is spelled as f.o.o.l.i.s.h.n.e.s.s
Mukelebai
October 29, 2011 at 3:36 pm
YAWN…..
Papa Zai
October 30, 2011 at 6:57 am
If this is true, this attitude from the in-laws is primitive and should not be condoned. This is an insult to the profession and to the young lady. This is not even the man’s decision to make. Its HER decision to make. He can only suggest to her, if he has a problem, which has to be more than just the fact that she’s a musician. That itself would be ridiculous because he found her that way when he proposed (unconditionally i assume). Besides, if she is forced to quit, she wont be happy, and will therefore be a frustrated wife, and that will be the beginning of the end of this marriage. The man had better think this through and not leave it to his relatives, who obviously are more prejudiced against musicians than they know what they are talking about.
Nakabemba
October 30, 2011 at 8:15 pm
Too much speculation in Zed. The biggest question is ” what is Mulenga saying about the career of his wife to be? If he is cool with all then I would advise the parents to Mulenga to talk to him(Mulenga) than dictate that the girl stop singing. I ve respect for elders but telling the girl to quit singing as a
condition for marrying there son is somehow outrageous. What I mean is Let the guy getting married decide and not the parents pliz.
Wanu Ngwee
October 30, 2011 at 9:20 pm
The problem with musicians is that they have to show a bit of something in order to be appealing to their fans, so the in-laws think the young man’s soup may become a communal dish.
hmm
October 31, 2011 at 12:29 pm
after seen her doing the dirty dance with leo munthu by trends 2weeks ago,i doult if that girl is ready for mareg!she was doing a ka bedroom dance!sure sure!a dance tht one is supose to give her hubby,she goes to give leo???was really spooked!not even beyonce the real star can do that with other men knowing that she gat her jayz!
jam
November 1, 2011 at 11:57 am
celebs usually don,t make good wives.
Nganiza
November 6, 2011 at 10:45 pm
Word of advise, you are a modern woman,your career is more important than marriage.What can that multi choice boy give you.He can’t even afford to feed himself, he is a parasite on his mother and not to mention his womanising nature.
Chendabwanba
November 7, 2011 at 12:43 pm
Ifwakubuko tafyololwa, the guy has taken her as she is but who are the inlaws to dictate her dos & don’t ma rubish****
Peace
November 8, 2011 at 11:21 am
Ebubi bwabantu amusangila alemba.ichupo chababili.takuli ifwatwina boka apa.live them,you destroyers
Haamachende
November 11, 2011 at 9:43 pm
The inlaws should back off, this is not Mukwikile villages where norms are still carried out the old or traditional way. Things have have changed, that is her career and if they do not like it, then they should just find some else for their son. In this era this shit happening. It is really embarrassing!
Haamachende
November 11, 2011 at 9:59 pm
The inlaws should back off, this is not Mukwikile villages where norms are still carried out the old or traditional way. Things have have changed, that is her career and if they do not like it, then they should just find some else for their son. In this era this shit happening, the so called inlaws should get a life and leave the young lady alone. Ifyakumunshi atase!
shilika
November 13, 2011 at 5:06 pm
Dambisa dear,
Just follow your heart. remember, us women we need to be empowered economically. It’s no longer fashionable for a woman to depend on a man. Go go girl, i love your music and will kip buying your CDs.
mwiya
November 15, 2011 at 1:43 pm
a beib like ndabzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz, anyway she cool