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10 Questions Every HUSBAND Should Ask His Wife ANNUALLY
Every year, Tom and Jeannie Elliff get away for a private retreat. Once, while sharing a meal in an intimate restaurant, Tom asked Jeannie the following questions — he wanted to listen to his wife’s words and hear from her heart.
These ten questions have become an annual exercise as Tom seeks to follow the apostle Peter’s exhortation: You husbands likewise, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman, and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. — 1 Peter 3:7 (NASB)
1. What could I do to make you feel more loved?
2. What could I do to make you feel more respected?
3. What could I do to make you feel more understood?
4. What could I do to make you more secure?
5. What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?
6. What attribute would you like me to develop?
7. What attribute would you like me to help you develop?
8. What achievement in my life would bring you greatest joy?
9. What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christ like?
10. What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?
Optional – Have I overlooked any question you would like for me to ask?
Posted by
Amake mwana
January 19, 2012 at 7:05 am
Yawn
Munalian
January 19, 2012 at 7:18 am
Good grief…hope Tumfweko editors are joking with these ridiculous questions!!!
To my dearest and darling Dahlia….
I will never ask you any of these questions coz
When you give your hand,
Two souls shall live in one minds
When our love has won,
Two hearts shall become one.
Rude bwoy
January 19, 2012 at 7:25 am
Where do they get such tuma issues? Mu AWAKE?
rated x.
January 19, 2012 at 7:26 am
you gotta be kiddin me! and when does she get to ask the questions?
rated x.
January 19, 2012 at 7:28 am
@rude bwoy. true dat!!!
War
January 19, 2012 at 7:35 am
This be a very insecure man!
ZED lols
January 19, 2012 at 7:40 am
am sure she would be so confused to hear that she would probably mistake you for the boyfriend, “Omg! How sweet, wish my hubby would be this considerate”
11. Mwana uyu niwandani?
12. Can we get a prettier maid?
Twende 2011
January 19, 2012 at 7:42 am
I can never ask Question 4 and 6.Asking a woman what to me her secure, she will definitely say some challenging thing which will be a problem. about attribute she will mention somebody in a movie forgetting those people just act.
Ma pipe
January 19, 2012 at 7:51 am
Ma rubish,they’re more serious family issues than these petty ones.tumfweko stop being childish,those discusions are for boyfrends & girlfrends not us atate bake chite.
Qstion 13 n 14
January 19, 2012 at 7:54 am
13- should i stop phoning o textin my girl friend?
14- so u hv never playd me ka?
Come on! Get a life. Da answrz 2 dos qstion are so obvious! DAAAAAA. Wht cn i do to ….. Bla bla bla! Answr…. Bring yo friend to f%*§ me. Wht wil he do then?
Wemfula Isa Isa
January 19, 2012 at 8:04 am
The editor of “Tumfweko” must be a woman who is always on the lookout for happiness but never finding it. She must also publish something that women should do to make men happy. Love must flow in both directions. If women knew how to love (not only in bed and in the kitchen) men would want to reciprocate with greater love. Period.
nana
January 19, 2012 at 8:08 am
ok this is BORING.. *yawn*
soror
January 19, 2012 at 8:10 am
Ba tumfweko, bring serious issues twapapata.. Its stil morning 4 cryn out loud, do u wnt us 2 drop dead cuz of yo crap? UGH!!!! U guys. Cn b such bores at tyms.
Kiwis yang
January 19, 2012 at 8:36 am
Askn these questions will differentiate between a real man en a boy..thumbs up to the big man.
FORMER ONETIME
January 19, 2012 at 8:42 am
11 can i stop having an affair with your young sister.
saint
January 19, 2012 at 8:43 am
c’mon guys. y do you have a negative attitude towads advise? n way this is for serious, God fearing and loving hubbys. heed to good advise nd you wil see how madly in love you wife will be wit u
concerned
January 19, 2012 at 8:52 am
Kiwis, I agree with you. I can’t believe the selfishness in some of these comments. To all of you, when you marry a woman, u must love her as Christ loves the church
@ apbl ©2012
January 19, 2012 at 9:18 am
ninshi tamwaishiba nanomba? u just went straight into a life long committment without dating in a courtship? i mean one should no what pleases your partner. hell women are hard to read but you can tell what turns her on! its like a switch u press it it gets dark in visa vi. you cant ask these questions mwana ninshi washitisha ubwaume minganda
better wafaula so u know not to do it again
some women will begg u to make that move you can see it in her eyes
unless your girl is one hard nut to crack. but every woman has her own soft spot touch it deligently n shes all yours to ride then you know what to do next its a chain of reaction
you donr need to ask you partner what you have to do for her, unless you dont have enough time to yourselves to really know each other you will end up asking her “so what style do you like i b behind you o on top of you?”
Woman
January 19, 2012 at 9:25 am
I cn see that all of you that have respondd are men… En youre all leaning on one side. Bt sme of those questions are really cardinal en they shud be asked. Coz resolutions to ur problems that anger u, or put u off ur wife lie here. As men God put you to be th head of th hme en your wife, finding out your weakness helps you to lead better. Ths process has nothng to do with insecurites in th negative way youre jus checking up…
Woman
January 19, 2012 at 9:33 am
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believe7
January 19, 2012 at 9:34 am
Kiwis,wemfula isa isa and woman,quality contribution, i think this is important for any well meanning couple!
Woman
January 19, 2012 at 9:38 am
Yall (married men en women) should gt urself sm john nixon on desperate housewives and frankeinstien monsters. You cn go on youtube. Sme good sermons on ths isu…
REAL MAN
January 19, 2012 at 9:40 am
11.sex with my its ok ka………..!!!!!!!!!!!!.
Mambala
January 19, 2012 at 9:46 am
11.Does size matter to you?
Agness
January 19, 2012 at 9:48 am
*sleepy*
FORMER ONETIME
January 19, 2012 at 9:57 am
I can never ask those questions to my dear janet c.i love so much girl.
Lowelela
January 19, 2012 at 10:48 am
Guyz, getting it from de horse’s mouth is better than assumptions. Love shud be balanced lyk dat statue at magistrate court. Much as our wives are second in command, an opportunity should be accorded to den for de betterment of de home as de adage goes 2 say, ‘To every successful man lies a woman’. As such we should have adquate consideration for these people by loving them as they submit just as christ loves the church & heads it. By de way, no man is an island. Moreover, its not all abt insecurity, but an investment since when U give luv, U shall in return recieve it on a double portion. If anything, dont look at this in the physical but in the spiritual. I believe marriage is a gift from God coz its only in de Bible where it states that “A man shall leave his parents 2 be with a woman & de 2 will become 1 fresh”. Thus the need 2 look at it spiritually. Thats my test on de issue
Alangizi
January 19, 2012 at 10:50 am
You can ask her all those questions but without home financial security ,kawele no daily munyumba.
Very Keen Observer
January 19, 2012 at 10:52 am
All these questions are very pertinent for any long-lasting relationship. They help to see where one can make improvements.. Bonse mulemoneka kwati you are taking your marriages for granted and have buried your heads in the sand – mukapapa sana. Just a free advice.
Phebby Chiwama SA
January 19, 2012 at 11:09 am
RUBBISH
nakferd
January 19, 2012 at 11:11 am
eeee!! my wife move with o thz points assembled in one and that is:i dont need another woman apart from her and our joy,happiness,excel,hardwork and or fortune is emboded in your faith and trust.not these exuasting lies.
Ayatollah
January 19, 2012 at 11:23 am
If I asked my wives any of those questions, I will die from their cackling!!!
Buju
January 19, 2012 at 11:30 am
When are you posting questions every wife should ask thier husbands?
Dog Sellaz n zed r Billionaires
January 19, 2012 at 11:30 am
15. Wife’s question, babe am i becoming so big for you?
sadi
January 19, 2012 at 11:41 am
nervous wreck
ONETIME RELOADED.
January 19, 2012 at 11:59 am
HI THATS MY NEW BLOGNAME.FORMER TIME
umupandapwiti
January 19, 2012 at 12:09 pm
The only important question is “Do you love me?”, and if the answer is yes then go on and make love.
Chuku chuku makes the world go round!!!
tk
January 19, 2012 at 12:43 pm
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Pungwe Noff
January 19, 2012 at 1:54 pm
When i call, you answer MUKWAI!
Call: Chi Colour eee!
Answer : Mukwai.
Repeat this 10 times daily during boring lunch breaks like this one.
Kiwis yang
January 19, 2012 at 2:36 pm
Its selfish of u wn u r vry happy in a relationship en dnt knw if ur spouse z..how well wud u fill if ur wife askd u such question,then u wud knw that ur wife luvs u vry much…en the only secreat to a happy relationship z if u knw how ur partner z fillin about the relationship en only a real man wud.thnx
NSHIMA BOYS
January 19, 2012 at 4:44 pm
STUPID QUESTIONS
NSHIMA BOYS
January 19, 2012 at 4:45 pm
STUPIDit QUESTIONS
Cholembedwa
January 19, 2012 at 5:49 pm
You can only ask these questions if you have enough money. How do you ask your wife how best you can please her if you are broke? Money is the answer to almost evry thing.
malabishi
January 19, 2012 at 6:37 pm
yawn yawn,boring!
mandy
January 19, 2012 at 7:03 pm
U ve really made my day all of u!!!
Youngest DJ
January 19, 2012 at 8:59 pm
11. Am I the owner of yo pregnancy?
12. Should I stop coming home late?
Ma rubbish………..
Synt
January 19, 2012 at 9:31 pm
Great, this guy is considerate & reads widely which is gud. But the game goes either way & if there are children in the relationship who are atleast grown they get 2 ask there parents questions aswel
Barca 10
January 19, 2012 at 9:36 pm
All of u guys thanx 4 completing my day with yo stupid but fun comments……fikala fyenu.gudnyt.
mukolwe
January 25, 2012 at 1:40 am
16. How many rounds do u want
17. Can i wank when u r away