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“Help! I Had Sex With My Sister’s BF, Dont Know How To Tell Her”
Dear Bloggers,
I love her with all my heart and we have been through so much together. The last thing I would ever do is hurt her intentionally.
Over the festive season, we all went to a party together with other friends. I got very drunk and ended up having sex with my sister’s boyfriend.
Since then my world has come crashing down. He is demanding that I continue having sex with him or he will tell my sister.
I am so ashamed of myself and so scared. I cannot sleep or eat. I cannot tell my sister because she will never speak to me again and neither will the rest of my family and our friends. Everyone will be so disappointed with me.
I feel that the only solution is to kill myself because if I tell the truth I will lose everyone I love. My life will not be worth living.
What do you think I should do?
Confused Zambian Woman
Posted by
Jeremy good luck mugabe
February 27, 2012 at 8:41 pm
you are all so small-minded and brutal. no wonder the rest of the world thinks africa lives in the tribal days.
563
February 27, 2012 at 10:12 pm
Shit happens, just tell her and set yourself free,blackmall holds your freedom.
LUKE CHAAMBWA
February 27, 2012 at 10:37 pm
KILLING YOUSELF IS NEVER A SOLUTION
When are we drinking?
February 27, 2012 at 11:39 pm
Before you kill yourself can i take you out for drink?
pant
February 27, 2012 at 11:57 pm
you are not even ashamed of posting this rubbish in the print media. I can tell that you are in love with your sister’s boyfriend.And you know it will be foolish of you to take your sister’s man. Now you have no choice but think of killing your self cos you can’t stand watching your sister with this man you love but who is not yours.
Go and kill yourself because you deserve to die like a prostitite cos thats who you are. Cheap *****.
Mukwai Ndandepo
February 28, 2012 at 12:02 am
Tell your sister’s boyfriend that you are headed to the Police to report him for rape. You will see how quickly he begs you not to that. He will promise never to blackmail you again.
opness
February 28, 2012 at 12:48 am
my sister it not your fought if really you were very drunk if you keep it so long it finish your life badly so be strong face it the result will be different from what you are saying your sister will be hurt but will heal, if she hears it from someone else am sorry you never handle the situation. remember the conscience is an open wound only the truth can heal it.
DOLLAR BILLS
February 28, 2012 at 7:15 am
MWANDI KILLING URSELF IS GOOD,I ALSO DID THAT ONCE AND SLEEPING WITH UR SISTERS BOY FRIEND IS NOT BAD UNLESS THE HUSBAND JST GO ON SLEEPING WITH HIM AND LATER KILL URSELF COZ U R NOT WORTH LIVING.REST IN PEACE.
BarotseLander
February 28, 2012 at 9:35 am
Before u kill yourself,kindly come for another shag,I promise I’ll not tell your sister!!
mayomayo
February 29, 2012 at 11:40 am
i thnnk u bin doing it for a long tym,now ure afraid of wat pipo will say bout u wen they find out,nyway ko a spade a spade ure a ***** nd dnt blame it on the beer.dnt tell yo sista let that usless boy tell her nd wen he daz kufwa nanoooo….slut
james
February 29, 2012 at 2:32 pm
just kill your self ****** gal
SUNY
February 29, 2012 at 6:47 pm
just tell yo sister ,ask GOD to 4give you and move on with life.
mandingo
March 1, 2012 at 12:26 pm
kui kulika fye we kanyo aka nenena.
Overcomers
March 1, 2012 at 12:26 pm
Repent and restitute yoself. Its gonna be fine with you. And with you brother man you are a danger given a chance to marry that family. Am afraid you`ll end up making everygal sister to yo wud be wife drunk and then sleep with them. Avoid this character to enter yo family.
As at now i will do say He is a resident Devil. Kick him out men!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
liard
March 1, 2012 at 9:22 pm
you whore kill yoself en burn in hell!!
liard
March 1, 2012 at 9:22 pm
you whore kill yourself en burn in hell
Jua
March 3, 2012 at 11:33 am
This story makes me remember one incidence which happened when this sister used to keep da younger sister at their home. Her hubby slept with da sister in law and she conceived. The older sis olso conceived and they both had baby girls. Now when this girls grew up they were told to marry the same man by their first mother. It’s terrible coz no one is married up now as their men could not stand the demand of marrying the two at the same time.
WISH
March 6, 2012 at 8:48 am
KUFWA FYE. THEY IS TOO MUCH ADULTERY IN THIS COUNTRY WE NID TO REDUCE ON PEOPLE LYK U.
ubuloshi
March 7, 2012 at 10:29 am
hule!
chale nkula
March 8, 2012 at 8:58 am
beta u die we nkoko yabula inondo and jes take bom so that u die fast like ichipemfu we mbwawe ni we chilende u deserve to die
aggie
March 10, 2012 at 8:40 am
ask for forgivness from God and yo sister aswell, coz u were drunk she will understand.that man iz a disgrace to yo family watch out.
Celeste
March 14, 2012 at 9:31 am
If you love your sis,you will tell her and save her from marrying that fool. She will be angry with you,but it will pass. Blood is ticker than water my dear. And most important,pray to God to forgive you for your sins.I hope you have not continued sleeping with him,coz if you have,ninshi walikwata problem.
mwansopelo
March 15, 2012 at 1:04 pm
hurry kil yourself before u sleep with your sis son. planet earth wil be better without u.
Chocho
March 17, 2012 at 9:02 am
The men is lying he can’t even tell your sister, all he wants is to take advantage on you by sleeping with him, before its to late do something, this guy can destroy your family and he’s not even serous with your sister, coz when u slept with him he was not drunk, just face your sister she will 4 give u in time.
musonda
March 21, 2012 at 10:16 am
the guy is a fool and not good for both u and your sister, so for the sake of your sister and clean concious about yourself tell your sister, since u say u were drank then the incident is justifiable he took advantage of you. stop drinking as well, y drinking? most importantly go for HIV test,limbi bingi aba dodako kuli iwe… since ubwalwa tabukusenda bwino.
muzimuwache
March 21, 2012 at 11:57 am
Pakati pa mendo pationongera calo. I wish God Come fast
muzimuwache
March 21, 2012 at 12:06 pm
Vigololo too much pa zed. Those people should not even ask for forgiveness coz if you allow them,they will contine doing cigololo in the name of alcohol.That is total stupidness.That is the reason why girls should not allowed to go out with relatives or anyone. Anyway (MADZI ATSATA MKOLO)Like parents like children.Bad manners IDIOTS.
JABS
March 21, 2012 at 10:58 pm
just tell him that you will tell your sister and that you will report him to police, he will beg you. but most important is repent to God and confense to your sister. she will be bitter but with time she will forgive you. alas if she descovers on her own, she will never trust you.
JABS
March 21, 2012 at 11:02 pm
do not pass judgement on yourself by taking your own life. God loves and cares for you. just come to him in humility He will surelly forgive you and bring peace in your life. God richly bless you.
Salome Violetta
March 24, 2012 at 9:22 pm
Hey, accidents happen. Nobody knows it like me. I’ll not bring my own situation into this, but my advice:
You may think everyone who cares about you will utterly hate you if you tell them what happened, but you never know until it actually happens. It could be a better resolution, or maybe a worse one. But if your family really loves you like a family should, they would get over I and accept the fact that you didn’t want this to happen any more than they did.
You are not a slut, or a prositute, or a whore. If you knew how many people this has happened to, you would know what the right thing to do is. I should never come to killing yourself. When young people die, it doesn’t take a scientist or a doctor to tell us the world’s falling about our ears.
And coming from a non-religious person, in the end all that matters is that Aslan himself accepts you as a beautiful human being, and no less, into a magical world where everything is so much more peaceful than it is here. If you do die young, remember there is always someone who is thinking about you.
missworld
March 25, 2012 at 10:30 am
my dear to say you were drunk is not on because if you were u could not hav a recount of all that. i think like u hav been advised go tell your sister so that she has a clear picture of the man she is about to spend the rest of her life with. from the look of thinks he might hav had interest in you and was waiting for the opportunity to stike.
xxxx
March 29, 2012 at 11:18 pm
stop drinking and tell yo sis about it
bobo
March 30, 2012 at 2:08 pm
Well like the other blogger said this girl is hooked to the sisters bfriend .If she ‘ll never repeat the mistake its better to tell her sister so that she b’comes free to that mischievios rapist who takes chances on drunk prey….., Now this guys calibre is not of the model of modern young men who are steady ‘en they know what they want in life .How do you engage in sexual activities on any female looking thing even if you are drunk is it the essence of drinking that you turn your self into a sex maniac , shame on this twag of a half human.
Ruth
April 3, 2012 at 5:02 pm
Hi,
Repent and tell your sister every thing.She will be mad for now but will understand later. Its not worth it.
Killing yourself is even a bigger sin!pray and live holy.
ANGEL
April 4, 2012 at 10:37 am
AM sorry to tell you this but how many men have you slept with in your drank state.IF ALCOHOL HAS that effecf on you then stop drinking take some responsibility for it, because you are capable of doing it again even with your friends boyfriends. You need deliverance and the devil used your weakness so as to destroy your life.Repent, tell your sister and God will restore.you killing yourself was devil’s plan from the begining so as to destroy yourself.Am hurt with what you did with what you did to your sis but who am i to judge you.May God forgive you and SHINE HIS LIGHT UPON YOU.
CHIKALA
April 27, 2012 at 6:12 pm
Your so foolish, go kill yourself fool.fyo fyofyo u fool,i can help to bring you a rope u fool without conscious
CHIKALA
April 27, 2012 at 6:22 pm
Ur even proud to say that u got very drunk n fo tht matta ur a woman,ur not different from a prostitute u fool. Chanibaba che baddddddi.uli chishushi che shilu
chichi
July 29, 2012 at 2:37 pm
whats up with ladies and alchol… they become so luse when they drink it… i guess there brain comes to stand still. my friend runing away does not solve any thing. face your trouble head on and ask God 4 guidnc in yo life
BigTymer
July 29, 2012 at 3:26 pm
Ina wama ka!!! so is death. May u b granted your wish. See u in hell if at all we’ll meet Kaule iwe.
sosoliso
October 2, 2012 at 9:41 am
I think you started thinking for him a long time ago.And the beer you took was just somthing to hide in.If you have got a small heard stop drinking beer.