I am a young lady from NIPA. I once found myself in a sexual relationship which I am living to regret. I was very young and little did I know that this man was just after using me and infecting me.


Mutale chisenga lumbwe broke my virginity after which I was damped .

This man has moved on and is now seeing several other innocent girls. Mutale Chisengalumbwe and his brother Ben Mulenga are both married and are renting a house in kalundu which has been turned into a brothel. Ben used to go out with my friend who later introduced me to Mutale. My friend has also been infected.

These people are using this house to ruin other people’s children. Am sure they have children and they would not want to see the same happen to their flesh and blood.

I sometimes wonder what kind of sexual appetite they have ? What role are their wives playing? I am very bitter because this man has infected me and my life looks like it has come to an end. I don’t know how to break the news to my fiance who doesn’t know I’m HIV positive.

I am urging girls out there to look out for these men who pretend to find love in the name of helping with school fees.



  1. MAM   March 23, 2012 at 7:23 am

    U must learn frm yo mistaks ma dr.

  2. diana   March 23, 2012 at 8:06 am

    the story is so sad.if you knew this man was married and fell for the money then the problem is yours.if your parents managed to enroll you at nipa then they should aswell be living a confortable.do not have sex for money.its not just wrong but in our age its very risky.inform your partner about your status GOD will bless you for being honest.be a living example to you fellow youths.May God forgive you.

  3. DAIZY   March 23, 2012 at 8:18 am

    it is real sad but you cant do anthing about it.so my dear the best you cane do is to chenge for the bertter and stertat a new life oll eals you well die of BP.

  4. The Voice   March 23, 2012 at 8:22 am

    I just feel sorry for your fiance. You played him and probably infected him as well. That’s what you get for fooling around. And you NIPA girls are overdoing it. Shame on you and the foolish men who aren’t men enough to be faithful to their lawful wives.

  5. ALEJAM   March 23, 2012 at 11:43 am

    @ Realtalk, this girl should not even stress us and start mentioning her partners in sex all over… ni mbushi sana!

  6. MIllz   March 23, 2012 at 2:15 pm

    Let me call this black nigga Mutale chisenga lumbwe ….and am sure the other gilrs out there are reading…

  7. Ba Real   March 23, 2012 at 2:21 pm

    These two embecile brothers are killers, period.This young lady was neive and probably got taken by excitment and the peer preasure charecteristic of many girls her age. The fact that she was a virgin at the time of the incident is pure proof of her sincerity.Gentlemen, redirect your venom and life frustration to the killers and not the innocent angel. Young lady, I feel for you and I hope we find a cure or something close sooner to this dreadful disease some ‘idiotic’ serial killers have started using.

  8. MARTHA NYAMBE   March 23, 2012 at 3:56 pm

    The story is sad. i m sory to disapoint u but this man is not 2 blame alone but u were both in 2 it, i m sure he did not mak luv 2 u with a gun in his hand. any way its not 2 late u can stil liv a beta life if you want 2! repent to God 4 all the sins u commited when u were out there in the world of ignorance… accept jesus christ as yo personal savier en all ll b well with u.

  9. JASTO   March 23, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    Too bad 4u bitch but u deserv it wat wer u doing with a maried man?u desrv to die befo u kil many and stop tanishing pipos images,who knos mayb u r th 1 who infected the married man..panyo pako hule iwe,Just prepare for the flames in hell,fuck you

  10. pwachu   March 23, 2012 at 8:25 pm

    this doesnt sound real, coherence is missing

  11. Katyusha Rocket   March 23, 2012 at 9:34 pm

    Ubuchende nabwaiche,umunt matwi ukwikala pachalo.it happens move on.

  12. JUDGE NOT   March 24, 2012 at 10:32 am

    If at all this story is true, let us not judge or condemn the girl. She made a mistake and probably 1 or 2 people have learnt something from this. Young lady it’s not the end of the world and you are not on death sentence. You can go and see Mr. Mendez, or browse http://www.aidscurefound.com you’ll get his full details from the site. Above all give your life to God. Those that are insulting her, it could happen to your girlfriend, wife, sister or daughter. Are you going to condemn them they way you are condemning this girl? Let’s try to help by giving her good advice and encouragement.

  13. Truth   March 24, 2012 at 10:50 am

    2 bad 4 u,bt u 4got to say u were cheating the only innocent 1 is ur fiance

  14. Redeemed   March 24, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    Using a picture of someone who is not affiliated to the story is un acceptable ba Tumfweko. please remove that picture before you are sued. Young lady, Jehovah is a God of a second chance, make things right with him, forgive the man who infected you and confess your sins to your fiance so that you can also be forgiven! we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

  15. DJ MAVUZI   March 24, 2012 at 5:51 pm


  16. Just ice   March 25, 2012 at 7:22 am

    Sad situation and turn of events. I have heard stories like this one before & it’s terrible. Isn’t there a law in Zambia to prosecute individuals who willfully infect others with the HIV virus?
    These guys are actively and deliberately increasing the incidence and prevalence of HIV and they need to be sorted out.

  17. zakazaka   March 25, 2012 at 2:37 pm


  18. Amake   March 26, 2012 at 11:27 am

    Young girls have become too materialistic. You need to learn to struggle for your own things. There will always be men prowling for vulnerable girls at colleges , University and even at the workplace. Usually its just your youth they are after because most of them will go back to their wives and would actually not want to be associated with you in public.

    I feel for the young men who eventually marry these girls. I have seen girls go out with men that evidently have AIDS just because such men are generous – in the meantime they have innocent fiances. In certain cases these girls will even discuss how much they were given.

    Men also need to learn that this money wasted has better uses and there will be a time when they wish they had spent it on their family. Some men also ge infected because they thik they are dealing with a naive girl when they are just one of the many financiers.

    There is a reckoning time for everyone. Let this girl live positively and dedicate her life to God.

  19. Eshu the Comfuser of men.   March 26, 2012 at 3:40 pm

    marry h legaly through court and follow him elsewhere to avoid him infecting million lives GOD will see you dear.

  20. What   March 28, 2012 at 1:33 pm

    Two but my dear men think the own this world,but one day time will come for them to pay but not every one is like that and they like pretending as if they love you i feel for you but there is a purpose why you are still alive.

  21. lame excuse   April 3, 2012 at 6:20 pm

    These guys are fucked sons of bitches we know them
    Mutale drives a 4×4 hilux and Benny drives a RAV 4 with number plate RAV 4 and a corrola, We shall fuck them up if they show up at NIPA

  22. lunch box   April 11, 2012 at 9:15 pm

    I know that mutale n his brother ben, mutale is married to former miss zambia tukuza tembo. shame thoses guys are fools. it shall be well my dear be strong.

  23. Phonebook   July 2, 2012 at 2:35 pm

    iyeeee!Ba Micopos mwasebana Ba Mutale i used to think that you were a smart guy ba director so imwe kanshi mutombatomabafye?.Kwena eeeee!!!

  24. Phonebook   July 2, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    I know this guy he always wants to be known when introducing himself,he likes saying My name is Mutale Chisenga Lumbwe am the shani shani to the late something something to attract attention.
    Some names you can’t hide(teti mufisame).

  25. TOBA UMUTWE   July 2, 2012 at 2:53 pm

    Ba Mutale Mwasebana!!!!!!!!!!

  26. Adage   July 16, 2012 at 1:23 pm

    This is so sad and I would like to encourage you girl to not look back. Accept that it happened and try to see how you can go on in your life, it’s not the end of the world, you can still live and be happy. You made a mistake and mistakes can be corrected even though your situation cannot be reversed by human intervention, only God can. It is hard to forgive in situations like this but forgiveness is strong madicine. Many people will tell you that this is not anything to forgive but try it. Try also to repent of the mistake that you made on your side. Sex outside marriage is a sin. I am nit trying to accuse you but if at that time you consented to having sex with this man, that was a sin, accept it, repent and forgive. You will receive healing of some kind. It may not be healing from what you were infected with but there will be spiritual and emotional healing. I know this is not what you want to hear and not many can be in support of it since many people hurt God even though they can claim to be Christians. God be with you.

  27. mulenga mumba   July 16, 2012 at 1:34 pm

    yu have leanrt a lesson. good for you. how could u have been undressed for an older man. you are even too young to be involved in such rubbish. may you burn in hell, you little slut.

  28. Adage   July 16, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    In our beautiful country Zambia, many things are happening that are un Christian. The problem is not about declaring Zambia as a Christian Nation, the problem is people as human beings. The Israelites were called by God to reveal His glory to all the people in the world. They were called God’s own people. The fact that The Israelites were called God’s own people did not stop them to do bad things. They did worst things; adultery, killing, worshippng foreign gods etc. Yet God continued loving them. Disobedience is the origin of all wrong. Adam disobeyed God and that was the origin of all wrong.

    A country can be called Christian or Muslim nation or whatever it can be called but that does not prevent bad things happening because naturally man has an evil nature within him. Yet a Godly nation which exalts God can prosper. Godly people who have the true fear of God can transform the social status of their community. It is unfortunate that today we have people who call themselves Christians and yet their way of living is a shame to the world. The answer to today’s problems lie in the hands of Christians. Politicians without the fear of God just make things worse. Let us examine our life styles as Christians and let us change the way we think and behave. If we have the fear of the God stories like the one above will become less.

  29. abaume abume   August 13, 2012 at 7:11 pm

    Firstly, I wish to condem all the dim wits who ahve condemned this young woman. We need a better level of intellectual debate in these blogs than insults and blaming others.

    Zambia has dropped to the bottom of the pile in the world because we do not know how to hold intellectual debates, develop a plan of the debates, be informed and then implement solutions.

    The woman has clearly identified those responsible, i dare say at great risk to herself, shouldnt the police be taking an interest and investingating to see if there fire where there is smoke?. I bet not. We do not have a law enforcement institution nether do we have social care. We seem, as a people to fumble from one problem to another.

    We have not learned anything in nearly 50 years of Independence.

    Be respectful, hold intellectual debates and learn from mistakes to move forward. Tomorrow it could be your daughter, sister or grand daughter.

  30. Saddened   August 14, 2012 at 9:31 am

    You are one step away from freeing your conscience. Tell your fiance and let him make an informed decision on how your relationship will proceed. Whether he accepts it or not, you will have informed him. secondly, let your family know, you will need their support as you re-align your life to a more or less completely new way of living. Remember, not all is lost but rather all depends on the decisions you make from now onwards.

  31. malema   August 14, 2012 at 9:33 am

    its good that u are infected why go out with a married man, and why have sex before u marry.

  32. sam316   August 20, 2012 at 4:22 pm

    wow these girls never seize to amaize me,i would say stupid and naive, but hell no,this gal is foolish and deserves no mercy,she got what she deserves and i hop all the other college girls learn from this,nothing cams easy in life,easy cam easy go

  33. Uncle B'   November 7, 2012 at 11:30 am

    I really feel sorry for your fiancé, first of all you cheated on him he never slept with you becoz he loves and respects you how could you pay him like this?

  34. pipes23   November 23, 2012 at 3:20 pm

    ukutemwa indalama(money) @ 1point am sure you thot u were very hot and xpensive kanshi waili icakutombafye……..