Dear Editor,
I would really appreciate if you could publish my story so that I can get some advice from you readers.
I am a 27yr old lady who resides in Ng’ombe compound. I’ve been married for four years now yet I have been masturbating for the last 3 years . My husband has been sick for three years now and we can’t have sex but the urge it just too much for me. I am also childless.
Please help what can I do?
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Uluse how was your first year did you know his health status before you got married.
Too bad but you need couseling.What is the problem with your husband?Do not take chances this is not the right fora to get advice.
@Janet c ,start the ball rolling on this matter
Cheat on him.
You sound like a woman of virtue. I empathise with you & pray your hubby recovers. Unfortunatly, the fondling activity may go beyond his recovery such tthat you may do it even after a hetero- encounter. The best is for you to renew your mind. All the best!
2 BAD THAT YOU ARE IN THIS SATE E PRAY THAT ZOUR HUBBY RECOVERS
I feel for this woman. I think she is indeed a woman of virtue, but it is also true, this may not be the best fora for good advice.
Too bad my sister,my appeal to you is that pray to God for healing and go ahead and seek medical attention from the hospital and you will be fine.
This story/situation is not true in no way u can stay for three yrs without hevin sex with some one dot fool us bt if its true talk to his relatives so dat they can giv u someone among da family (compazt) marry other gentle
If u ar hiv-continue wit yo mastbsn,there’s nothin rong wt dat, if hiv+still mastbt using a tooth brush, may b egesi inga choke while waitin 4 his dipar.,,
Ask for assistance from government through Government Ministries like Health and community development.Your hubby can be evacuated for specialized treatment.
Your hubby will be cured and you will enjoy yo life again.
Although this is not the right fora, You are lucky there are people who can help! My sister you cannot die by not having sex. In fact it is much easier for women to live without sex than a man. What you need are prayers to deliver you from masterbating. Jesus is able to deliver u. Take good care of your husband! May God bless U.
See a Social Worker because like Ken says this is not the right fora for such advice. Notice that we all use pen names because most of the bloggers want to have fun at your expense
How do women masturbate.no clue and am a lady
Fellow readers. Tell me of any married person who has never masturbated during the marriage for one reason or another. This case is just a bit different.
Iye . Uluse
Iwe wiseman bwafya nshi walkwata pali uyu mkashana wit her mastubation,so u telin me that she should start flirtin while her husband is in danger-unless nga mwachinjeba ati alechto bu chende while husband in danger,anyway we differ in thinkin
Too bad,so how is your husband?is there any hope he will be fine?my advice is pray for him am sure one day he will be fine,remember for better for worse.
Sad story, this issue is quiet sensitive & private a wel talored advise is nt likely to be reached the best is to seek more profession assistance frm appropriate orgs,govt nt on this fora,coz mo info need to be availed pertaining to yo situation all the best of recovery to yo hubby
keep on doing it to yourself..kaili he’s sick..
Its spiritual. A spirit husbnd/wife is involvd, until u get delivrd u neva gonna benefit 4rm ur marriage, u need 2 pray against ths u knw, mch as u may seek worldly advce it aint gon chng, demons r meant 2 be cast out nt counselled (therapy session).
Many of the comments above are empathetic and helpful. In addition you must pray for help to manage to apply Colossians 3:5 in you life ’till your hubby recovers. With God nothing is impossible.
mared 4yrs nd 3yrs no sex,dis prblm statd smwhr nd dey both no it,its quiet had to advice wn da facts ar nt clir bcoz in d 1st yr tngs wr nomo,if ts siknes daz t affect hz manhud,most men erect even wn sik,bt f nt den wt siknes afect erection. Analyse
a women can stay without sex for a longer period of time what is the problem of you husband which has taken 3 years have you taken you husband for screening including HIV/AIDS go for vct also than seek advise from health
Juldan!! I am discouraging this lady not to get in the habit of this unnatural act and encouraging her to abstain from any sexial immorarity and wait for her husband to recover so they could have marital sex. This unnatural sexial act is biblically discouraged and could have evil spiritual connection and hence requires deliverance. I just pray that the husband recovers quickly. God bless you all!!
Can you leave that sick man and find someone to satisfy your sexual needs. Do act gainst nature.
My dear lady the best advice u can get from here is that u seek professional help from the right places.To begin with go to any women NGO,they will direct properly.Forget what some of these psychos are saying here.Every problem has a solution
masterbating is healthy married or not married. There are plenty of people who masturbate in matrimonial beds, especially those that are married to “limp dicks” and drunkerds tend to masturbate while the partner sleeps next to them.
nothing to worry about, even jesus would agree if he were real that is..
From all the comments given, I qualify this FORUM to be a good one to get an opinion on which to base judgement. This is because even those with negative thoughts will speak to you while proffessional councel will only tell you the positive.
Cheat on him.U can’t live without sex for that long.
Live on at least u r not cheating on him,if anything let him help u by finger f…..g u or indeed licking u.
awaiting to hear from janet c
Though this story is not true …. someone can still help you go through this.
I agree with N. Masturbation is spiritual. You are a victim by a spiritual husband and to stop it, you need to be delivered from this demon spirit. I can advise like this because I was once a victim but was delivered and I am now free. Be born again and then let the Holy Spirit filled believers deliver you and you will be free. Medical help will never help you.
I just want to thank you for remaining faithful to your husband even when he cant perform coz I heard one issue where a wife sneaked out of the house because of the same issue. And remember what is happening to you is for a purpose pray hard you will be out of it soon. Through experience, you never slept with any man before you married your hubby. Stay strong!
Mustrabation is not an easy habit to kick. Lady if you are new to the devise kick while you can. Your husband will recover only to find you married to mustarbation. Seek psycological help while there is still time.
ni sickness ya bwanji iyo.3yrs. hw old is yo hubby?woman tell us the truth.we all get sick but sickness alone is noexcuse to not getting yo conjugal rights.a manhood that goes limp for over 14days is as good as dead.my dear just stop mastur. …for 7 days.wen presuure builds up just ride him.hes yo man.is he paralysed?a penis is a die hard tool.its never paralysed
ITS NOT EASY TO MASTURBATE WHEN U GET WHAT U WANT AT A RIGHT TIME.SOME WOMEN GO INTO A MARREGE KNOWINGLY THAT THEY HAVE A PROBLEM,EVEN MEM.THIS BECOMES A DISADVANTEGE FACTOR TO THE OTHER.MOTHERS AND FATHERS JUST WANT TO MARRY OFF THERE CHILDREN WHITHOUT CONSIDERING THERE SICKNESS HISTORY.SO FEARING CONTRACT DEASES WHEN GO FOR ANOTHER PATNER MAKES PIPO TO MASTURBATE.
Just be faithfull to your Hubby God’s time is the best. *it is well with God has answered your prayer* REJOICE!
what type of sickness suffer your husband? where is he; in Hospital or at home. because the Hospital can’t admit anyone for 3yrs,if its at home, am sure you gave him food,the food that you give him
its produce sperm,you can stil make sex with him.unless or otherwise;if a man is sick he doesn’t mean that Muzonpiki can’t stand.
masturbating its a sin before God
What is your phone number. Can help u out.
just pray to God he will help you my dear,such things have bad addictions
Go to the book of Luke 1: 37,have faith that your husband will recover from his ailment and seek deliverance for the issue of masturbation. you will be delivered in Jesus’s name Amen and Amen.
It is a medically known fact that masturbation is actually good for the soul – when a woman comes, the nerves calm down and we get the most restful sleep and sweetest dreams. get a toyboy my dear – if it was her that was sick, the husband would have found a mistress by now – or his relatives would have found him a second wife by now !!
Janet C waba akanono
@dikky zozo LOL!!
janet c the DEFILER for toyboys. We men are more patient EXCEPT in situations were a lady is denying him in a matrimonial home.As for the lady keep masturb.ating, with time your hubby will be fine & you will start enjoying with him.
Your husband should get well,u are honest,i understand u are still young,feelings of sex are very difficult to control when your friend is unable to fill the space.Just like long distance relationship,its either u mastarburt or cheat,it is not good to cheat,when u cheat that is when your husband will recover and it will be difficult to stop.Cheating is both dangerous and very sweet
I pity you sis, should you need a real one feeel free to contact me.
Thank you lord that I have been faithful in my life ever since I got born again at age 10. Not that I do not feel sexy, but by your grace I have been an overcomer. My husband broke my virginity on our wedding night when I was aged 26. After 4 years of our marriage he was sentenced to a 7 year term of prison for crime. Its now been 3 years without him but I have not misbehaved. Help me lord to endure the 4 more years to come.