My Brother In law Aged 45 Wants To Have Sex With Me

Dear Editor,

Please don’t disclose my Id. There is something I want to share with your readers that has been making my life miserable. I’m seeking advice.

I am a girl aged 18 years and I had just been accepted at CBU( copperbelt University)to study medicine. I had 7 points at Grade 12. I am initially from Kasama.
The problem is my brother in law who is an engineer.

When I was processing my papers at CBU I was staying with my sister in Kitwe. Now her husband has been on me for sometime now, he wants to have sex with me, he has on several occasions stormed into my room while I am either sleeping or dressing demanding for sex.

One day he stormed the bath room while I was naked and demanded for sex, he usually goes for work around 06: 00 hours, meaning I would be up by 05:00 hours to prepare food and water for him, during this period he would be all over me wanting to touch me but I would either run away from him or threaten to scream.
One day around 14: 00 hours my sister was away at the market, we were the two of us at home plus his son. He chased the son aged 8 years to go outside and he started watching a porno movie, when I was passing through the sitting room to go outside he held my hand and forced me to sit next to him to watch the porno movie but again I threatened to scream and I left.
He sent me an SMS saying “Your sister (his wife) since she is pregnant, she produces a lot of water from her vagina and I don’t enjoy sex so I want to be having sex with you and you will always be having money in your pockets.”

I have these SMS with me and after I realized that it was becoming too much, I had to run away from Kitwe.
I told my mother who is a nurse in Kasama and my brothers and dad everything what her son in law has been doing, she was and she is still shocked but she advised that we must not inform my sister who was then pregnant saying her (blood pressure)BP can easily go up and anything can happen.

True to my mother’s words, my sisters BP went up during delivering, she almost died. She had to undergo a lot of medical requirements when giving birth.

People my brother in law would around 03: 00 hours call me or send me SMS to go to the other room or sitting room so that we can have sex, it was just too much.
Recently, I visited them, they are keeping my cousin who is 17 years old, I asked her if my brother in law has been doing the same to her, she said he has been doing the same but that she warned him that the entire family knows his behavior and that we no longer respect him that is how he stopped.
I overheard him on the phone talking to a woman saying “ you must come to Kitwe, I will book you a room and I love you very much”. Here are my questions, did we make a mistake by not telling my sister about her husband’s behavior and could it be that he is seeing another woman?
My mother has maintained that we must not tell my sister about this issue. I still have the SMS’s he has been sending to me and I am not comfortable with my brother in law any more.

Thanks in advance.

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176 Responses to My Brother In law Aged 45 Wants To Have Sex With Me

Matokoso

December 3, 2012 at 11:25 am

Am not happy with him talking about water in his wife’s pussy. I have a wife too and I feel like he is insulting my wife. My wife has seen three pregnances, the engineer should know that the water in a woman is normal. He is making it sound bad, water! Which woman has water? Polo yake chikala.
- GOOD -SON
  
  December 14, 2012 at 11:15 pm
  
  THE JUDGEMENT DAY IS COMING FOR YOU NOT FOR ANY ONE NO! BUT FOR YOU. MY DEAR LOVELY SISTER GO TO SCHOOL,THANKS!!!
Karen

December 5, 2012 at 10:12 am

wow! what has become of some of these married men with dependats? surely how are we going to be living in this world esp in Zambia? to many stories and am a victim too and i actually had to leave too coz my brother in law just couldnt spare me. Glad u stood your ground and never gave up! its sad that your sister doesnt know the kind of man she is married to and thats always the case. Keep those messages they will become handy one day thats all i can say.
mulenga

December 5, 2012 at 10:18 am

Yes Am also disappointed in the watery comment, that is actually an insult to all women since we pass thru same conditions at certain stages called (Heat) . and as for you mama just stop visiting them for a while, and never tell your sr.
Chrispine

December 6, 2012 at 11:14 am

THERE IS NO WATER IN THE VIRGINAL. BA ENGINEER MULI BA CITONGO TAMWAFUNDILWE PANTU IFYO FINE MWALEEBA ABAKASHI BENU ATI AMENSHI, EFYALENGELE UKUTI MULE UMFWA BWINO PAKUBEPALE IFUMO. MULEIPUSHAKO KUBAKWETE AMANO. MULI IULEFYE BAKALAMBA MWILASENYA ABAKASHI BENU
BCM

December 7, 2012 at 12:35 pm

He just didn’t know how to wallowooo di machine there z nothin like water in a woman.
cosmas musonda

December 11, 2012 at 7:20 pm

Do the right thing by telling your sister what has been going on……and try by all means not to give in to that monster of a brother in law …..he is a disgrace to the menfolk
A.D.S.

December 13, 2012 at 1:59 pm

WRONG WAY OF MORE MONEY IN UR POCKETS
weaver

December 14, 2012 at 5:25 pm

Your brother-in-low is a wicked man & he’z a fool. But all you have to do is to tell your sister after 6 months & if you wont tell sister she will be sick & what of if he starts dating other woman who can kill you sister with other disease. Also just your brother-in-low direct that what he doing wrong.
INTERLLECTUALS

January 14, 2013 at 3:45 pm

This is a sad development young girl. Not all men are evil. such men want to have sex and look for onother and it goes on. Lust is something controlled in the mind. This is an iniquity (something to do with the family) TAKE TIME TO FIND OUT ABOUT HIS FAMILY THEN YOU WILL KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT.
For advice about your sister please take care how you inform her but she needs to know. your mum might be worried about divorce many women do not like there daughters divorced. He dose not keep girls not all can be strong.
mumu

January 22, 2013 at 10:42 am

may God forgive him and he needs deliverance.