Iris Kaingu Tells Zambians “Don’t be like me, This Has Traumatised My Family”

Iris Kaingu Tells Zambians “Don’t be like me, This Has Traumatised My Family”

Iris Kaingu, the daughter of opposition law-maker Michael Kaingu, has regretted having been found in the compromising situation following a leak of a sex tape which landed her in and out of state detention after two nights.

Iris has also advised girls her age — in their teens — to be careful with the decisions they make in life and avoid at all costs to be found in the ‘embarrassing’ situation she found herself in sucking in her entire family and friends.
The 20-year-old former accountancy student at the prestigious and pricey Zambia Institute of Chartered Accountants (ZICA) college is now seeking a sea change and relocating abroad to start her shattered life afresh away from the glare of the Zambian media.

This is according to an interview taped for the state broadcaster, Zambia National Broadcasting Corporation (ZNBC).
Conversely, her dotting father has described the year-long ordeal as totally traumatising for the close-knit family as he vowed to stand by his adventurous daughter, who shot to instant national fame when her sex romp tape was leaked to the media and went viral on the internet turning her into a household name, a development that could have won her a role in a movie in Hollywood but certainly punishable in Zambia.

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He was commenting on the Lusaka Magistrate Court’s decision to convict Iris last week and fine her K10 million for making obscene material tending to corrupt morals.
Don’t be like me, says Iris

“I would not want this to happen to anyone,” Iris said, for the first time showing remorse for the ‘crime’.
Iris’s father has shown nothing but relief that his daughter is finally out of danger with the law even though she is now marked convict after being found guilty of producing obscene material that has the ability of corrupting minds and being charged K10 million instead of a jail sentence.

“Let us rest because the case was too much for us as a family. I can’t continue [commenting] and we will only be in a position to comment 10 days from now,” Mr Kaingu said.

Mr Kaingu is also MMD vice-president for politics.
Iris, on the other hand, is grateful to the people who stood by her during the case, that includes her family. She did not name her partner in the tape during her ZNBC TV appearance or in court.
Meanwhile, a concerned Lusaka parent has cautioned fellow parents to spend more time with their children, especially daughters in order to avoid an “Iris” recurrence.
In an interview yesterday, Christopher Sakala, a deacon at ZAOGA Church, said the moral fibre in society has deteriorated because most parents are not spending enough time with their children and inculcating good morals in them.
“Iris’ case is just a tip of an iceberg and there are worse things happening. As parents we need to teach our children to have the fear of the Lord…that way they will never subscribe to such evil acts,” Deacon Sakala, who also runs Supreme Pharmacy in Lusaka’s Northmead area said.
He said a number of youngsters have resorted to immorality because of frustration, anger, and lack of proper parental guidance.
Another parent Elliott Sililo said parents must learn a serious lesson form Iris’ case and keep a close watch on their children.
Mr Sililo said Iris’case is an eye-opener regarding the levels of morality or lack of it among youths in Zambia.
He advised the Kaingu family to remain strong despite the possible embarrassment this particular incident could have caused them, no matter what happens.
Others however, are a bit sceptical and are asking why Iris has been slammed as a ‘bad girl’ when Big Brother player Talia Hayward escaped with a slap on the wrist for making out with two guys on the widely-followed 90-day show watched all over the continent.
What is clear though is that despite having paid the fine, it may take quite a while for Iris to overcome the fact that thousands, perhaps millions watched her on the internet in sexual ecstasy when she should have probably been studying.

73 Responses to "Iris Kaingu Tells Zambians “Don’t be like me, This Has Traumatised My Family”"

  1. kakolwe   October 29, 2012 at 4:21 pm

    Newzealand,Ausie out of the question because of the ‘convict’ pronoun. Just make yours a ‘new start’ issue. You already have leaverage in family fortunes’

  2. Greg Kadimba   October 29, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    I’m sorry Iris for the trauma on your part.We all make mistakes.Even those that are looking at you in a weired way make mistakes,But one thing you should know is that every journey has a beginning and an end.It will come to pass,believe me.

  3. Nyumba Yamene tinagonamo   October 29, 2012 at 6:45 pm

    … a development that could have won her a role in a movie in Hollywood but certainly punishable in Zambia. You sure ba Tumfweko. Hollywood doesnt just accept because you can do porn you must have acting capabilities

  4. Nyumba Yamene tinagonamo   October 29, 2012 at 6:58 pm

    What morals is Zambia trying to protect? Ministers beat up wives..Some openly have concubines.. People in govt bury millions on farms…the list is endless.

    • Lungowe   October 29, 2012 at 8:05 pm

      Well said

  5. Lungowe   October 29, 2012 at 8:05 pm

    ukese kuno ku canada mami. No one will give you further grief for your transgressions.

  6. estyre   October 29, 2012 at 8:51 pm

    only God is the judge…leave her alone

  7. chichalito   October 29, 2012 at 10:01 pm

    I pray that God will give you courage to forge ahead and carry on with life, this is not the end but the begining of your journey to success.God bless you dear.

  8. joseph alex lungu   October 30, 2012 at 12:42 am

    Every human being can make mistakes.Lets give her a second chance and sure not only Zambians have
    learnt from this but even the rest of the world.Please Lets forgive our sister.

  9. Juicy Coochie   October 30, 2012 at 5:06 am

    READ MY COMMENTS ON YOUTUBE! Tumfweko is rubbish

  10. Abakonzi   October 30, 2012 at 5:27 am

    Iris surely,who on earth or in hell would want to be like you…my dear young lady you are your only kind so make a big change in your life and maybe one day your Mr Right will pop up,am sure you watched R4M on Muvi TV so you still have a chance at life.

  11. Shimuchita panono   October 30, 2012 at 7:46 am

    believe me its not everyone that blames her and she is just a sinner like me.i have had sex almost everywhere.lesson from this is that most beautiful ladies are shallow at brains and make the worst mistakes.were is the boy she was sucking?????????

  12. DNS   October 30, 2012 at 12:54 pm

    Iris, move on life is a journey, yes its so hard but remember no one is perfect we all have sinned.

  13. bob   November 9, 2012 at 12:24 pm

    Talia apologises for her public fornication, says was under ‘pressure’

    Big Brother Africa star game finalist Talia Hayward has appealed to her fans and Zambians to forgive her for her public fornication with fellow housemate Keegan of South Africa.

    Withing 90 days, Talia dated two men one Angolan and the other South African

    She was watched by the whole world including her parents and younger sibblings having sex with Keagan on live TV.

    Keegan 21, emerged winner of the US$ 300, 000 grand prize of the seventh edition of Big Brother Africa reality show which ended on Sunday.

    The soft spoken Talia said at a media briefing that society should not be too quick to judge her for the ‘sins’ she might have committed while participating on the show.

    “I would like to apologize to my fans and society for the activities that happened in the house. It is difficult to be in the house, there is too much pressure especially that that there are a lot of people from different backgrounds and culture and in a small space,” she said.

    Talia who acknowledged that she might not have represented Zambia well in during her 91 day stayed in the house, said she was only human and bound to make mistakes.

    “Being in that house can be overwhelming and it is difficult to control certain emotions,” she said apologetically.

    Prior to Keegan, Talia had an affair with Angolan housemate Seydou just after a few days in the House.

    Talia has not spoken about her Zambian boyfriend, if he has any

  14. jones yamba   December 6, 2012 at 9:23 am

    well spoken may u prosper in yo life sister iris

  15. P.K   December 10, 2012 at 10:54 pm

    Can someone tell me where is the guy in this whole episode?is he not charged? Nathan should be an accomplice,so am i missing something here?