Comments on: I’m HIV+ and My Man is Negative. Please Advise

By: scone

scone — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 10:47:21 +0000

go go you are not marrying the relatives but you are marrying your man you love and who loves you and respects your status. its good that his parents they have accepted dash the relatives stay blessed and stop worrying.

By: Judith

Judith — Sat, 03 Nov 2012 15:49:05 +0000

Being hiv+ does not mean dat you can’t marry death sentence no, you can marry as long as u take measures so dat yo hubby does not get infected hence make sure dat you use condoms daily unless you want to have a child but visit de doctor 4 more advice.

By: ashmail

ashmail — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 18:57:53 +0000

being hiv postive is not a barrier 4 you 2 continue being in a relationship with him, if he truely loves you he will take that, remember if you are not infected you are affected.

By: GOOD FRIDAY-LUNDAZI

GOOD FRIDAY-LUNDAZI — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 18:15:07 +0000

YOUNG LADY, U ARE FREE TO GET THE MAN NGATI AMAKUMVELA SUGAR, BUT NGATI SINDIWE ONZUNA,SAKILAKO WINA MWAMUNA AWAWASHA

By: Ndora N$hiliya

Ndora N$hiliya — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 13:04:56 +0000

What a site to get sympathy from!!!!!!!!!!
Ndeloleshafye……………

By: patty

patty — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 10:43:32 +0000

Chi Chama febie danda head!!!!

By: Mushkarano!!

Mushkarano!! — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 10:06:53 +0000

Great piece of advice…Cheers for that!..NOT chi Chama febie..ba tumfweko muchifumyepo apa chatupesha!

By: Kaluku Emmanuel

Kaluku Emmanuel — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 07:33:39 +0000

it is gud that your man is aware that you are Hiv positive if he had not known it would have been wrong. Now that your so called guy have known your status you shouldn’t worry about what other people may say because he would have left you long ago, so my advise is that if you truely love this guy and the guy loves back, go on marry him coz you want him to be happy. would you like to see your guy cry? ofcorse no, if you disapoint your guy he never be happy again. wish you will understand.

By: zemuntu

zemuntu — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 07:28:45 +0000

@lp, i agree with u on the behaviour of foolish chama febbie, i thot Janet C was the only foolish person on this blog kanshi kwaliba ifipuba nga chi chama febbie ukuchila Janet C. I have lost 3 pipo in my family from AIDS related illnesses and i know how it feels but nowadays its no longer a big deal as long as you living a health life.

By: Tendai

Tendai — Fri, 02 Nov 2012 05:52:17 +0000

Your situation is called ‘being sero-discordance’.
There are many couples – both married and unmarried, who are in a similar situation. It is not a disaster, especially since your partner is comfortable with pursuing the relationship.

Your aim now is to make sure that he remains safe and that your baby is born free of the virus, both of which are possible with assistance from the correct medical services.

Firstly, you need to make sure you start attending ante-natal services as soon as possible. Inform your health care provider about your status early and start treatment to prevent transmission of the virus to the baby. I always advise on both parents attending the first visit together because that way you can both ask questions (and please ask as many as possible). You need to have a very clear understanding of what to do during your pregnancy and have a plan for delivery that is advised by a qualified health practitioner.

Secondly, your partner needs to use protection and get tested every six months to make sure he remains HIV negative. Medical advice from a trained doctor will help you work through your fears and expectations etc

Thirdly, make sure you eat correctly – fruit and vegetables, a lot of water (guided by your blood pressure of course)and if you are not a vegetarian, stick to white meats like chicken and fish. Avoid fatty foods, too much processed sugars and fizzy drinks.

Finally, this should have been first, laugh, love and live. Be grateful to GOD in all things, trust Him and let Him direct your paths.
All the best!!!