Husbands Are Pushing Their Wives Into Sex With Strange Men – Married Woman

Husbands Are Pushing Their Wives Into Sex With Strange Men – Married Woman

I’m in a similar situation too but mine is somehow different. I’m also married for 2yrs now I love my husband so much hence we got married after sometime he started misbehaving probably because I didn’t have a job then.(even though I was engaged with some other things so I wouldn’t be idle and look lazy).

He treats me like trash, talk about his other female friends all d time, giving them more attention etc. I managed to swallow all that. As if that wasn’t enough he picks on me unnecessarily, finds fault in nothing. My husband who is supposed to be my best friend became or is a stranger to me. The bond is no longer that strong.

Which woman would be happy to see her man exchanging nude pics with another lady?

He does all that and in his small mind he thinks I know nothing about it. Feeling like a player and funny enough when we were dating, he never showed any signs of all These nasty attitudes, trust me I wouldn’t have even thought of even getting married to him. Luckily for me I got a good paying job and I was happy that at least I have a friend now (my job) something I would look forward to every day.

I started work, things were going on fine until I met this young charming guy (my age mate) who lends me the listening ear and all. He is fun with a great sense of humor. We talk for long hours everyday even have dates outside the office, we flirt a lot (no sex) we are very good friends in fact people always think we are an item.

Now I’m so happy n joyful because I know I have someone to lean on. Now the tables have turned around and my ‘dear husband’ is beginning to feel bad.

The long and short is: the men are the ones who push us to the wall. You feel you can do all the nasty things and expect us to take it? We are humans please, if u cannot remain faithful then please stay single! Don’t make us go out.

Ladies please don’t sit there and say tradition forbids this or that… make yourself happy u have only one life don’t live it for you husband it should be mutual. Sorry to say if u die in silence. He wouldn’t even wait one day before hooking up another lady. I’m not saying u should go sleeping around, just don’t let it get to u go out have friends and be happy (just like me now)


75 Responses to "Husbands Are Pushing Their Wives Into Sex With Strange Men – Married Woman"

  1. Natbush   November 29, 2012 at 9:29 am

    he doesn’t love you!!

  2. MOJO   November 29, 2012 at 9:42 am

    Just fac the hell out of that marriage it wont work just marry the ka same boy.Good lucky.

  3. martcox   November 29, 2012 at 9:44 am


  4. Dalitso   November 29, 2012 at 9:44 am

    it seems you have an attitude you do not concentrate on one relationship no wonder your husband was behaving the way he was ,.even that new guy, it’s a question of time

  5. mule   November 29, 2012 at 10:11 am

    Question is,is this guy you seeing married if so you are ruining another woman’s marriage you greedy lady

  6. Mimi   November 29, 2012 at 10:15 am

    just forget about that man concetrate on your job he is a player

  7. temitop   November 29, 2012 at 10:33 am

    a leopard cant change its spots. once i whore always a whore

  8. Tunda   November 29, 2012 at 10:41 am

    Mwandi help yoself its life y should u be sad with a man u just met a few years ago. Enjoy life and be careful u may just end up getting sik with matenda for nothing.

  9. Yellow Snake   November 29, 2012 at 10:59 am

    Just from that photo,you are a big problem.that lady doesn’t knw how to dance,u r not sweat.

    • Smart the brown eyed kid is back!   November 29, 2012 at 4:16 pm

      that photo has nothing to do with the story. Tumfweko always use random pics for stories frm other websites.

  10. david musonda   November 29, 2012 at 11:08 am

    yourself and your husbands re both flirts….no or little wonder u married each other.Mind u even the new guy has no respect for u and he is not a gentleman,because gentlemen do not flirt especially with married women.He just sees a whore in u….be careful and change for the better and start appreciating yourself,and above all sort things out with your own husband,become a better couple,and stop preaching flirting around and unfaithfulness…non is Godly.Be Godly,and u will never go wrong.

  11. Lady Gaga   November 29, 2012 at 11:17 am

    Oh yes! It’s high time we women were scared of tradition, it just oppresses us. Am in the same situation, my husband sleeps in our baby’s bed with no apparent reason leaving me in our matrimonial bed alone yet we share the same bedroom. Can u imagine how sexiually starved I am?
    Yesterday I said YES to meeting some guy who am sure read the loneliness on my my face. Am meeting him next week!!!

    • Mushkarano!!   November 29, 2012 at 2:21 pm

      Tawafundwa..I can even tell from your blog name..Id!ot!

    • HORNY LADY   November 29, 2012 at 4:28 pm

      Im also thinking of hooking up with a HOT guy just for a SHAG

  12. Comfort   November 29, 2012 at 11:25 am

    and all da men commenting are crying foul…yet dis husband exchanges nude photos wit hz gfrnds! many of u men either do da same or even worse.either ways u ar cheats.i want to know frm u so kod MARRIED MEN, why marry wen u wana mess arnd? y not stay single nd hav all da whores at your disposal.i really wana knw.

  13. Mutototo 2   November 29, 2012 at 11:34 am

    If you think you’ve had it, divorce him and move on with your life. It’ll even be more painful when that young guys rides u, coz he’ll be over you sooner than expected.

  14. Mutototo 2   November 29, 2012 at 11:35 am

    If you think you’ve had it, divorce him and move on with your life. It’ll even be more painful when that young guy rides u, coz he’ll be over you sooner than expected.

  15. Jorris   November 29, 2012 at 11:37 am

    The best is to take a good closer look of yourself maybe you might be a cause of his attitude. Meanwhile for better or worse u stay right!

  16. Salamano   November 29, 2012 at 11:48 am

    akatu ni weka, salamano before you grow old and die

  17. Comfort   November 29, 2012 at 11:56 am

    find someone whose gona appreciate you.hav fun wit da young man tho.mak sure hubby catches u then dump his arse..nd dat advice goes to all wives wit cheatn husbands-let them niggas GO!

  18. mike   November 29, 2012 at 11:58 am

    it seems you like being played the second man will be just like the first eventually. find out the root cause.

  19. Chama Febie   November 29, 2012 at 12:06 pm

    Well said,i wish i knew this lady,just continue cause some husbands are very pathetic

  20. uncle pwi   November 29, 2012 at 12:37 pm

    Anyway some guys too much into tombanism

  21. Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 1:32 pm

    Great advice dear lady – tell these men that the world has changed, zambian women have evolved – two can play that game. Yes – they will call us whores, but it doesn’t change the fact that they are slowly, but surely, loosing their oppressive power over women. It now time for married men to dance and become insecure because for all the past generations, women were very much oppressed – it is our time now, go girls

    • Grant   November 30, 2012 at 12:56 am

      Is this an admission that women are slowly becoming the weaker sex?

      At one time a married woman used to spend so much time with me and I used to wonder why. Now I understand.

  22. VIP   November 29, 2012 at 1:45 pm

    I wish my partner would be so generous! I need to ‘taste’ other sizes and shapes…lol

  23. Comfort   November 29, 2012 at 1:47 pm

    amen sister Janet.and for da husbands who say-its because shez stopd bin creativ or takin care of herself,check urselves..wen last did YOU bring somethn creativ to da table or looked ur best anyway?

  24. chola   November 29, 2012 at 2:12 pm

    hahahaha there Janet c the mother of all whores, I guess you been gang banged & dumped I whore that you are thas y u are so bitter, but remember mwamuna saasila Iwe uzasila & who wud want to marry a woman hu cheats a her hubby? we just use & ryde

    • mwamba   November 29, 2012 at 2:13 pm

      @chola thats ryt son…

  25. Lady Gaga   November 29, 2012 at 2:45 pm

    @Janet C I almost asked for you to comment on this one and thank God you did. I honestly love your posts. Hooray! It’s time to make men feel insecured yes. Oppression, fyakale!

    • Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 3:09 pm

      @ Lady Gaga – thanks. Many of them are not even the fathers of their ‘children’

      • tombist   January 5, 2013 at 1:13 am

        atase, we kasushi we

  26. Mr wise   November 29, 2012 at 2:51 pm

    @Chola- thumbs up… let them know that a cheating wife can,t get married to another man even late PK said ‘that man u have killed is like me bcoz of bread u ll equally kill me’so never be proud and justify infidelity u ll never win.

  27. Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    @ Chola & @ mwamba & Mr wise – please, can you get circumsized and start pleasing your wives.!!! From your attitudes, I bet your wife is shagging the gardener, driver or even your best friend. It’s a level-playing field nowadays for men and women – many rich married old zambian women are dating fine young unza boys.

  28. Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 3:03 pm

    with all this choice, why settle for a cheating man with a beer belly, man boobs who isincapable of providing your needs – fyakale. Change with the times or die from ignorance….Oh, and you can insult till the cows come home, this won’t change anything apart from drain all your testosterone such that you fail to perform when you get home – and then your wife cheats on you yet again  AND you forgive her

  29. Tonga Bull   November 29, 2012 at 3:26 pm

    all those women commiting adultery should have their v*ginas burnt, then they should be skinned alive and then beheaded. that should teach them a lesson.

    • Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 3:30 pm

      And what is your remedy for cheating men?

  30. Kays   November 29, 2012 at 3:29 pm

    i wish de man cud tel his side aswel. if u r dscent, de indscense of a man cnt stil change u.remember dat even de new catch ll ve his own problems,maybe beating u o ll giv u matenda

  31. Mr wise   November 29, 2012 at 3:33 pm

    @Janet c -thanks for yo insults i ll revenge later.

  32. milky   November 29, 2012 at 3:42 pm

    If my woman misbehaved,i would insert a red-hot iron bar into her wandering private before sending the idiot to her final resting place;the devil’s den.

    • Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 3:55 pm

      Boza – you would forgive her and tell her to keep it quiet – you would be too embarrassed, yuor ego would be deminished, you would even fail to tell your friend

  33. MASTER CHOTA   November 29, 2012 at 4:13 pm

    Am still reading you stupid rubbish comments, Ndeisa

  34. Shame   November 29, 2012 at 4:32 pm

    Starting walking naked in front of him in your bedroom, this will stop him sharing nude pix with other women.

  35. Mutototo 2   November 29, 2012 at 4:43 pm

    @Janet C, Those older women who you claim to be dating Unza guys just lack self esteem-they are tired assets nowonder, the same guys end up screwing their daughters. If you think Men are too much for you, go screw a dog!!!

  36. Lozi Bull   November 29, 2012 at 5:17 pm

    @janet c,
    I second u.
    My thumbs up 4u.
    Some men are foolish,& they dn’t consider women’s feelings.
    Teach them.

  37. DPV   November 29, 2012 at 5:45 pm

    ubupuba banamayo, i respect women but i understand that they wont stope desiring ama fokstrotion. its ok keep on bringing your selves to us gentlemen and we will continue fucking. Am happy i will be more than a gentleman so that i continue fokstroting these women who needs our attention. thanks aunties you are wellcome for more fokstrotions. I will be careful kuti fyakulwalika finamayo ifi

  38. Namutowe   November 29, 2012 at 5:59 pm

    Iyeee!!! awe bonse fye muli mashilu! But on a serious note, whatever I do, my wife’s best interest is number 1 ee boom. Give these women the best she will never leave. She will just be saying “Chipuba chandi” epo mpelele

  39. Barbed Wire   November 29, 2012 at 6:07 pm

    By the way, the same ka guy will play you again….and you will go into a deep depression or you can chose to have another one to lean on….until you become a full-time solola…

  40. Barbed Wire   November 29, 2012 at 6:16 pm

    Awe kwena….ba Janet C will either get some serious desease if not already afflicted. your perspective of issues emanate from deep pain, probably out of personal experience. I agree with you on some issues, but a woman makes the home what it is and usually, they are more sencible and tollerant than men. There is need for men to change though while acknowledging that all male animals are natural hunters…it is in the gynes.

    • Janet c   November 29, 2012 at 6:20 pm

      It seems you can’t face facts – I am merely stating the bleeding obvious. So when one states the truth, they are either a whore, bitter or suffered pain – you guys are absoolute jokers! You will come back to me when you find your wives cheating, or when DNA tests prove yuo are not the fathers of your ‘children’!!! Those days where men ‘ruled’ are long gone – you are merely paying for fathers and grandfathers’ mistakes – they oppressed women, and now it is men who are being oppressed by women. Life is dynamic, not static

  41. Lozi Bull   November 29, 2012 at 6:30 pm

    @Janet c,
    Tell them,
    Imisango shacilamo mwee!
    Kwati finama,”animals”,nashyena “imbushi”.Ba “Sawee”.

  42. TimZ   November 29, 2012 at 6:42 pm

    I see no difference in behaviour bitwin u 2 guys. If ur husband has girl friends as u claim & u equally ‘ve a guy who is right & who is wrong? Madam u ‘re worse dan yo husband coz u ‘ve showed the whole world dat u are a prostitute. I hope u will not regret yo actions in future. Let me won all married men 2 be on look out of their working wives, or those whose wives are in training schools. Women are well respected pipo, but dis gender thing were is it taking u ? Shame on all those women supporting dis foolish behaviour.

  43. Barbed Wire   November 29, 2012 at 7:22 pm

    Janet C….If you are married, I can bet my small finger, you are being bunged by other men too. If you are single, I think you feel liberated by sleeping arround. Any which way, a woman who whats to be at par with her man ends up finishing up like an old chitenge material. Keep your dignity little one.

    • Mushkarano!!   November 30, 2012 at 8:55 am


  44. The Beaurocrat   November 29, 2012 at 7:40 pm

    Lady please be reasonable a bit more sensible. As already stated, two wrongs will not make anything right. Pray hard madam, your husband is certainly bound to adjust for better. Stop sinning because of his stupid behaviour. Be blessed!

  45. Comfort   November 29, 2012 at 8:27 pm

    @the beaurocrat,,,who tod u every woman is a prayer warrior for foolish cheatn husband.wud u pray for ur cheatn wife to one day wind up her cheatn ways.da bible says ADULTERY is ground for divorce…it doesnt call for women to bind it out.

  46. Comfort   November 29, 2012 at 8:31 pm

    and another thing…his messin around coz he aint happy or satisfied wit his woman so my lady it wudnt hurt if u use ur arsets else wer..comfort urself.i knw i wud.

  47. Shapilo   November 29, 2012 at 8:43 pm

    Janet c chili ule destryin other womens mind.

  48. Mr wise   November 29, 2012 at 9:17 pm

    rotten women are wasting our time …comfort,janet and gaga.

  49. Umunyebeli   November 29, 2012 at 9:40 pm

    Akuchenduleni fye ifyofine.

  50. Ladyy Gaga   November 29, 2012 at 10:54 pm

    @TimZ who says only working wives can play the game?? Hehehe lobe!
    Thumbs up Janet C, comfort and lozi bull