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Women and their Extravagant Beautifying Budgets
Dear Editor,
Men and women of goodwill, we need to double check our spending on certain things. Thus I seek your critical examination: why do females spend so much money just on hair and cosmetics in the name of innovation and sophistication? Why spend too much on Brazilian or Indian hairs? Why spend K1, 000,000.00, K1, 500,000.00 or even as much as K2, 000,000.00 on disposable Brazilian or Indian hairs? Are they not proud of their Natural-Beautiful-Dark African hair?
Why are some women egocentric in spending million/s just on hair alone? Beautifying oneself is great and something I do appreciate. I believe it is the responsibility of a man and woman to complement each other. But beautifying oneself should not be a very egocentric veracity and not thinking of tomorrow. I see the mindset of not thinking about tomorrow becoming more evident in some women who behave like children.
They want the whole world to stand still has while they modify themselves from naturalness to artificialness. I call this temperament self-centeredness which is tantamount to babyish mentality. Sadly, some men have become prey to this mentality. They suffer to please they partners and not talking about it at home, they come to share their pain in public on how their monthly earnings are drained by Brazilian or Indian hairs.
The following are some of the emotion expressed by some: “These women of nowadays, they are too expensive and too selfish. We paid large sums of money when marrying them. We keep spending more even after marrying them all in the name of love. They do not know that before they came into our lives, family was part of us. They monitor our ATM and want to determine how much we give our parents and relatives.
Some have become FBIs – Former Black Individuals. Some lacked attention when they were young. They want the whole world to be evolving around them. They have no sense of common good and looking out for interest of others.”
And some men say, “Females, they never seize to amuse me. I keep wondering and asking myself why they think they are the only ones who want attention and fat budgets. My wondering does not mean that I am against women beautifying themselves. NO. I am just concerned with the amount of money spent on disposable every month. They buy once and never use them again. We men buy the hair clippers once and it takes time to have it replaced.”
Ladies, mind how you spend. Do not go into a relationship to dab the pockets of your partners. They too have needs to attend to. They have families to take care of. You are not they only one in their lives. They came from a family and they have to still care for their families.
Concerned Zambian
Micheal K.T.C
Posted by
sosikisi
December 18, 2012 at 7:44 am
Am proud cause my wife is a real mama africa. She is in her early 30′s but a role model for women. imagine at her age be a marriage couselor! those fake women who are easyly disived by so called fashion need to checked and couseled.
major
December 18, 2012 at 7:49 am
my friend,just look after your wife or else she will start earning an income from somewhere/someone. even my partner likes those brazilian/indian hairs.
they want you to feel like you are dating those beautiful brazilian ladies.
viva brazilian and long live indian hair.
keo
December 18, 2012 at 7:53 am
Some have forgoten that black is beautiful now they are turning thmselves into pan bricks which is very sad,spending on our women is not a bad idea but how they use the money is really what matters.A wife who spend the money wisely is really a good wife moreover natural ladies look more beatiful than those who always turn themselves into GOD knows
Ba medza
December 18, 2012 at 8:11 am
Good observtion micheal, but I think there is no harm on spending any amount on our beloved ones as long as it doesn’t affect our budgets after all we feel great to see our partners look more beautiful. The problem with some of us is that we force ourselves to acquire what is beyond our reach so spend according to what you earn, period!!!
African Dude
December 18, 2012 at 8:53 am
I have not issues too living within the means and spending! But they have to know how to spend. Too much money on hair when I can only spend K20,000. 00 once a month! Some spend a Million! Is it realistic?
Kay
December 18, 2012 at 8:57 am
I earn enough money to buy my brazilian/indian hair and whatever fashion accessories I desire. My husband earns good money and spoils me too. Nothing wrong with looking clean and beatiful just because you cant afford doesnt mean everybody cant…you are the same men who leave your ‘natural wives’ with all their scruffiness and admire women on the street
BAD ASS
December 18, 2012 at 12:20 pm
KAY U R VERY ****** AND SPOILED.THE ARE PIPO THAT HAVE RICHES,BORN IN WEALTH AND JUST MODEST .U BEHAVE LIKE KNOWLEDGE OF CASH HAS BEEN IN UR ADULTHOOD
SHAULI YAKO
December 18, 2012 at 9:05 am
To all of those cheap men ” BITE WHAT U CAN MANAGE TO CHEW” Marry a villager if u can’t afford.
mc
December 18, 2012 at 5:45 pm
hahahahhah uli shilu shauli yako
1kilogram
December 18, 2012 at 9:07 am
Kay you sound so dull i hope its not the case with everyone with this name,honestly the few i know are worse than you
Prince TDC
December 18, 2012 at 10:07 am
Pipo lyk Kay thnk being natural z backwardness or poverty,No! Who knoz wat yo husband does jst 2 kip u aaround.simplicity en bin modesty r da issues here…exposing da real u. Besides pipo wt money dnt behave da way u came out! Try 2 learn frm othaz en question da motive behind their reasoning.If it were posibo ask hw otha ve managd…
Vitumbiko
December 18, 2012 at 10:25 am
Natural is beautiful yes, there is nothing wrong to do some beatifying to it here and there! but not to exaggerate like most of our ladies are doing! how can a full time house wife like my wife demand these things? she is always home with my children and cooking for me. why buy such things? but when she starts working she will have enough money to afford that!
Beautiful face
December 18, 2012 at 11:30 am
As a lady u can either have face, body or have an ugly face/body + a vry good personality. I would say I am a beautiful gal and i have neva plaited brazlian hair wen i walk i certaintly do turn heads around, so beauty z not in brazilian hair. i buy the simple wigs and tone em well believe i get compliments on my hair. pipo wud think i cant aford bt I prefer the simpler wigs and wud rather buy all my clothes,shoes and jewelery from manda hil or levy. Gues we pipo are diferent in our own ways and want diferent things to sum extent material things do make us all hapi. so make ur woman hapi by buyin ha da brazilian hair.
PUNJIE PIE
December 18, 2012 at 12:22 pm
@Shauli wako,kwena waboca mambala,hahahahahaha
Why complain get what u can afford,wako ni wako
nevin
December 18, 2012 at 12:39 pm
money was meant to be spent! am a natural woman who keeps short untreated hair but guess what,i spend so much on my wadrobe ,parfum (not perfume !)and type of cars i drive
Good Samaritan
December 18, 2012 at 1:15 pm
why not helping an ophan than spending 2,000,000 on Brazilian Hair , we have pipo around and even some families where we come their pipo in need of help
wondering
December 18, 2012 at 2:22 pm
@ nevin what kind of cars do you drive?
brazillian hair
December 18, 2012 at 2:30 pm
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brazillian hair
December 18, 2012 at 2:36 pm
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ayoba
December 18, 2012 at 2:48 pm
Materialism is what is eating us as women and as humans. I believe every spending is a moral issue. If you spend all that on hair,then what does your conscience say? Am a woman, every spending I indulge in, I ask myself if my spending is ethical and morally right!Women should know they are beautiful with soap and water, spoil yourself once in a while but in a moral way.
osward mumba
December 18, 2012 at 2:57 pm
my people are perishing becouse of lack nknowledge .Natural hair is what God given us anything else like sisal,tail of a horse is an ambomination in sight of God in isaiah 3:16-23.
kakolwe
December 18, 2012 at 3:47 pm
what suprises me is the dullness of this Michael Tiketi metamorphoside into Michale TKC. What you feel about a woman is from a blinkered vision. WE men have made women who & what they are. Ngabaikala na Kinki hair you run after Dorika Ndaifulila, you are a SH!T HOLE..
james
December 18, 2012 at 4:12 pm
Zamnian culture use ur punani to get stuff
Mutototo 2
December 18, 2012 at 4:18 pm
It is these same materialistic women who leave their husbands when they’re not financially stable. Ladies these days fancy their looks more than personality, nowonder, some of you are not getting married!
Village Chicken
December 18, 2012 at 4:41 pm
The main reason why ladies always go to these so and so hair/nail/ whatever parlours is because they understand Men very well. One above declares she turns heads because you men look to the surface. Often too fast and dull to see what is hidden.
But beaware when the product fades on the market, you keep it alive by among others, improved packaging and labelling because buyers will take it for the package. Eg Village Chicken to Improved Village Chicken to New Improved Village Chicken to New Tasty Improved Village Chicken. The dull people are you men. Ladies viva improved visible packages!
mc
December 18, 2012 at 5:43 pm
Too many coca cola,fanta women walking the streets.With jaribu bleached faces and black arms and legs! atase
umu bemba nkonko
December 18, 2012 at 5:50 pm
Thats why ine i married aka koko kakumushi!I groom and mould her and all services are 100 percent and vice versa.
gebna
December 18, 2012 at 7:27 pm
fanta face,coca cola legs+loose blond wig=disastar,ask the zambian diva
gebna
December 18, 2012 at 7:27 pm
fanta face,coca cola legs+loose blond wig=disastar on stage,ask the zambian diva
Ku'mutulesuba
December 18, 2012 at 9:20 pm
@Ayoba, I like your intelligent and soul-searching comment, keep it up! Agreed! It’s not really a question of affording to spend big on Brazilian hair, skin-bleaching creams, etc, but an issue of morality. African women, be proud of your natural beauty, do not indulge and enslave yourselves in the name of modernity
Dora siliya
December 18, 2012 at 9:21 pm
divorce ur wife and mari a fellow man, that way u il v less expenses.
Abena PJ
December 19, 2012 at 2:41 am
IF A MAN LOVES A WOMAN BECAUSE OF BRAZILIAN HAIR THEN THERE IS A PROBLEM. A WOMAN MUST BE CONFIDENT THAT HER MAN OR HUSBAND LOVES HER JUST BECAUSE OF HER NATURAL SELF. EVEN IF BRAZILLIAN HAIR COMES LATER YOUR MAN WILL NOT LOVE YOU MORE BECAUSE OF BRAZILLIAN HAIR BECAUSE HE ALREADY LOVES YOU VERY MUCH. BUT IF HE LOVES YOU BECAUSE OF THE BRAZILLIAN HAIR JUST KNOW YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL NOT LAST BECAUSE THERE ARE OTHER WOMEN WHO WILL LOOK BETTER THAN YOU WITH THEIR HAIR STYLES AND YOUR HUSBAND’S OR MAN’S ATTENTION WILL BE TRANSFERRED TO SOMEONE ELSE. HAVE YOU HEARD JIM REEVES SINGING: “I LOVE FOR A HUNDRED THOUSAND REASONS, BUT MOST OF ALL I LOVE YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE YOU” OR MAMPI SINGING “NDALAMA ZIMASILA, ZIKASILA TIZACITA BWANJI. IKASILA MONEY KULIBE LOVE. TIZASUNGANA BWANJI?” SO IKASILA MONEY NO BRAZILLIAN HAIR AND THAT IS THE END OF LOVE.
gweny
December 19, 2012 at 9:57 am
Men who sounds stingy, can blame women who can afford a slice of bread, some idiots do not just give women some cash they do the shoping for the house themselves. I married my husand 15 years now, I can assure you I do most of the things, I support even the mother, he sometimes threatens to leave me, I also give him a goahead, and I know the type of man he is, no woman will stay, he will ask for money for his mother and will gladly give, so such type of men, what do you expect, the only thing to buy you life boy every day. I stick around because I love him and I have accepted him besides we have four kids. otherwise another working lady would not stay long with such kind of a man. He can have a girlfriend but am sure she can last because he is shorthand.
gebna
December 19, 2012 at 11:15 am
@gweny,big up,i respect u so much
No Insults
December 19, 2012 at 11:17 am
I suppose the author did not have the intention of provoking insults! Why cannot U accept positive criticism on the wasted of moneys.
natural beauty
December 19, 2012 at 11:21 am
some of this indian and brazilian hair may even belong to some died brazilian or indian women.so be careful with what you wear cause it might be from a died or alive person .people in business sale anything as long as u buy.and we man lets nt enbrace everything
shree
December 19, 2012 at 11:28 am
Men are the biggest culprits of wasting mula,they leave their wives and pay for sex for as much as K1million/day.i wil punch holes in his pockets until am 45yrs,after all am geting old and hes not
Love Natural
December 19, 2012 at 11:29 am
I love my sweetie heart for her naturaalnes! She is beautiful! Her beauty makes me feel like throwing up wen I see sick minded ladies who prefer unnaturalness! I love seen my love my wife natural! She is all the natural God has given me! I love her very much!
She - knows
December 19, 2012 at 11:52 am
You cant all look like beyonce. Who the hell wants to feel like thier partner was Brazilian, Indian or even from mars or where ever the hell you dream of coming from this week. Screw it you are zambian and you need look it.I date a Zambian because I want Zambian, In behavior as well as in looks. Stop wasting money on creams that spoil your skin to the extent of exposing you to not only skin cancer but other skin diseases.
Sweet
December 19, 2012 at 12:06 pm
Both women & men waste money.Only yesterday a 21 yr gal demanded tht i pay her k500 000 if i wanted.i had to pay and the service was exceptional and unique.iam rushing back for some more.
She - knows
December 19, 2012 at 12:40 pm
Iwe sweet uka shibukisha isho indalama. K500,000.00 just for a few minutes. Sex is sex wether paid for or not. In that vain why should anyone force themselves pay extravagantly for sex when they are a lot of girls one can have fun with using reasonable monies.Get a life.
Dodo
December 19, 2012 at 2:07 pm
individuals spending habits ranges from one class to another some get as high as K15million so they can afford so let those who can afford afford, because they are reasonable wigs on the market which wen a woman plaits she will still look good and for men why pretend to your woman that you can afford to buy her brazilian hair when she,s actually stretching your budget, be real en tell her you can exceed such en such amount on hair period…..
jlo
December 19, 2012 at 2:39 pm
Spend wisely ladies i mean how can you spend k1 million on just disposable indian hair. If your partner or you ve alot of money, share the money with less privaledged pipo. we have alot of street kids, the sick, etc
Elijah
December 19, 2012 at 2:50 pm
If someone is able to buy brazillian hairs then its ok the problem comes in where one buys things out of what he or she can manage.
dw
December 20, 2012 at 4:05 pm
Dnt be selfish just buy ur wives what they need before sameone else does dnt say I didn’t warn you. My husbands buys me whateva I need that he can afford am so satisfied that leaving him nipatali even if he lost his job today I wud spoil him myself why?coz he has neva neglicted me.
Comfort
December 20, 2012 at 5:35 pm
@sweet u are some clown ey, twenty one years z too young nd too good for you.you must be OLD *****.
padre shikofu
December 21, 2012 at 8:44 am
for some women it is insecurity and lack of confidence that makes them spend so much on propping themselves up. a secure and confident woman would remain modestxand still be loved and appreciated
Kayla
December 21, 2012 at 6:08 pm
I have natural black kinky hair and its a pain. I’m constantly covering it in cheap weaves and braids. If I could afford expensive weaves I’d always use them.
On bleaching the skin that’s a big NO NO for me but only coz its irreversible, if it was reversible or changeable like weaves and braids are, I would try it. Not because I’m not proud of my natural skin and hair but coz it’s good to try something different.
I sneer at those that look good with their bleached skin and expensive hairdos not coz I think its wrong but merely coz I’m envious. No courage to bleach and my skin would react badly, rashes and black n yellow syndrome and no money for expensive weaves.