If I Get A Gal For BJ Only Would it Be Cheating?

From married,

I want your reader’s perspective on this issue. I’ve been married for 3 years to a beautiful woman (inside & out) and we have a baby girl thats two years old. Life is good and God has been kind to us in all things but the major problem is our sex life….do not get me wrong, sex with my wife is beautiful, intense and fulfilling apart from the blow jobs!..the increasingly lack of it leaves me a bit empty and unhappy.

For 3 years I have not cheated on my wife and don’t intend to except if things continue as they are…..lately my wife finds blow jobs “demeaning” and a chore that lasts for like three minutes instead of the fun it once was…we both work a 9-5 pm shift.

Her head game used to be tight but now its uneventful..don’t mean to sound uncaring, I know she gets tired from work, the baby and me…I practically have to beg her to put it in her mouth for longer than five minutes.

We’ve spoken about it but things haven’t improved..infact learnt that women tend to give less head as the relationship progresses..is this true?..I love my wife and don’t want to cause her pain but I can’t live without my blow jobs too (I love it…men really do)…spoke with some friends and almost all are telling me to get a ‘headmistress” that their Madams don’t give enough BJ’s..should i get a girl for BJ only?..would it still be cheating?..(heard its the new thing for guys)…dunno if i can handle the guilt tho (before God and my wife)..am i just being selfish?..i do give her head anytime she wants it tho..which is like 5 times a year..lol..really at crossroads right now..the thots of a BJ less marriage is something i really can’t come to terms with..iImiss my BJ’s

74 Responses to "If I Get A Gal For BJ Only Would it Be Cheating?"

  1. Akamunofu Kalowa   December 21, 2012 at 2:49 pm

    My friend you need PRAYERS! Intense fasting will help liberate you

    • kapoko   December 21, 2012 at 5:02 pm

      and also sex, please. wife must create time for him period

  2. Dora siliya   December 21, 2012 at 3:01 pm

    u r a fool, feeding ur wife ur dirty cock. so gross, yak.

  3. Kabimba   December 21, 2012 at 3:02 pm


  4. biggie   December 21, 2012 at 3:04 pm

    Uko…………….! Makes the two of us.

  5. Rizzo   December 21, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    he he headmistress

    • She - knows   December 21, 2012 at 3:24 pm

      What? U mean oral sex mistress. Man you funny. Ati He He Headmistress. Imagine that, a mistress strictly for licking a niggas boz.ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha.

  6. Lozi Bull   December 21, 2012 at 3:17 pm

    That’s unacceptable.

  7. kuksi   December 21, 2012 at 3:19 pm

    awe sure! …brother man are u suffering from dementia? i so hope you were cocussed or smack’d on the head for you to attain that kind of reasoning otherwise am afraid you are losing ability to think normally.

  8. chechwe   December 21, 2012 at 3:31 pm

    Looks like you have the answers…

  9. Vic- Malloy   December 21, 2012 at 3:33 pm


  10. Ba Zed   December 21, 2012 at 3:49 pm

    Most of these responses look like are from ladies. Now you ladies why is it that in the beginning you are very good at going down on your knees(BJ) and when the relationship progresses it becomes nasty, why really? Its the same thing with my wife, before we got married she was good at it, I never used to ask. But since we got married a year ago, I can count how many times. Why Why Why? Ladies tell us please.

    • Nshinwa bwino   December 25, 2012 at 6:59 am

      Ma rubbish!!

  11. bakulu ba nchito   December 21, 2012 at 3:57 pm

    I must meet ur wife, she deserves me and not somebody like u. Appreciate that u get satisfying sex when some ppl cant even get it in their homes

  12. She - knows   December 21, 2012 at 4:01 pm

    Ba Zed did you marry your wife for oral sex. If so divorve her and get another one who you will set terms and conditions of the sex life of your new marriage and let us see where it will take you. This is perveted lust. come guys get life. By the I am not female that name is a nickname given to me by my male friends.

  13. empire   December 21, 2012 at 4:29 pm

    thats just sick man! why wash dirty linen in public? i’ll tell you what,a gentleman never tells.

  14. Mary   December 21, 2012 at 4:37 pm

    Why are u forcing her to use a mouth what it wasn`t intended for??You need to clean up your dirty mind and avoid this morals u see in movies!

  15. Ku Mpatamatu,Ku Luanshya   December 21, 2012 at 4:39 pm

    Young fool d@s not lyf,BJ is not needed in yo marriage…u are jst bin cheatd by yo frendz 2 help yo wife contract w@eva sort of cancer….doz are jst demonz coz BJz are nt a must in sum1z sex life.MAY GOD HELP U!

  16. barotse diaspora   December 21, 2012 at 4:42 pm

    damn you !during your wedding or premarital counselling did they advice u to use your wife for a blue movie insticts?for my advice leave your wife alone and blow job yourself so that you break your neck and report yourself to the police.

  17. Zibwidi   December 21, 2012 at 5:05 pm

    This man is sick….this is called addiction, and certain addictions can lead to destruction. You never married for BJ’s. My friend if you love your wife there are many ways to explore your sex life, stop depending on one method. You never know she might also love to you to be down on your knees and do the needful. STOP BEEN GREEDY.

  18. kapoko   December 21, 2012 at 5:10 pm

    why does he want to develop throat cancer for no reason, foolish behavior. read tumfweko story on this. tumfweko is only good at such stories and when they talk politics- they loose it all- because they are bootlickers

  19. Barotse MP   December 21, 2012 at 5:41 pm

    Iwe chikala, what the Hell do you think you will be doing? U are really late.Kindly go for Deliverance.It seems you have Marine demons

  20. Masala Market   December 21, 2012 at 5:50 pm

    Thats agony

  21. Kaesha   December 21, 2012 at 6:16 pm

    Awe mwandi. Umulumendo alila blow job. Hehehehehe lol!

  22. zolfa   December 21, 2012 at 6:20 pm

    its harram!..some women are sinful,y allow a babaric act like that,if Allah had intended the cock to be sucked,we would have another special mouth just for that,shaaa!

  23. Lwanginga   December 21, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    ati ‘will it be okay if i have sex outside marriage?’ kwena some questions,awe mwandini

  24. monk   December 21, 2012 at 6:25 pm

    do u go down on yo wife 4 u 2 dmand that?u need to pat her lips and lick the soft skin down there.u will c hw she responds but do not make it a habbit coz there is a new cancer attacking throats.

  25. Democrat   December 21, 2012 at 6:35 pm

    Too much watching of porno. Cancer of the mouth and throat is around the corner for yo wife.

  26. I cant imagine this kind rubbish!
    anyway maybe your 2year child was born through vomiting!
    uli cikopo!

  27. Koswe Banda   December 21, 2012 at 7:03 pm

    Mukanwa emo mwasanga ubukumo mwa, walitumpa idiot. Get out pasopo lyobe. Try other styles

  28. Bed secreets   December 21, 2012 at 7:18 pm

    I fail to undstnd wat these beautiful girls u c around go thru bcoz of mney. Imagn kissing a girl who was sucking a man who is not circumcised. Yack?

    • tombist   December 28, 2012 at 3:45 pm

      awe mwandi, ilyashi lya manyami. koswe go 4 circumsition…

  29. SaPrIzEd   December 21, 2012 at 7:51 pm


  30. akakakakaka aka!   December 21, 2012 at 8:08 pm

    I feel dirty evertime I log on to this site

  31. contradictor   December 21, 2012 at 8:19 pm

    soldomy at its highest cost chik hala, u r even advetisng?

  32. umuvelevele   December 21, 2012 at 8:23 pm

    atase fyabupuba? by the r u cicurmcised…..

  33. umuvelevele   December 21, 2012 at 8:24 pm

    atase fyabupuba? by the way r u cicurmcised…..

  34. kachale   December 21, 2012 at 8:55 pm

    Remain faithful to God and yr wife by not getting involved with other women.In His special way God will provide the time needed for your love life.
    The so called BJs can land you and your family into serious problems.
    Pray and fast and you will have victory over your situation.

  35. dw   December 21, 2012 at 9:06 pm

    Atase iwe chitata u were not taught ati that’s a very bad habit?what kind of love is this that u want ur wife to do sick things?walitupa chimakaka iwe chi stupid married man and father go and find a hule to do that u wil reap what u sow.

  36. Winter kabimba   December 21, 2012 at 9:13 pm

    Mbuli tawakwata amono

  37. B1   December 21, 2012 at 9:39 pm

    @Zibwi and Monk,teti bamumyonpe ukwabula ena ukumyonpa ihule lyakwe (this act is for prostitutes to arouse ones feelings fast),nao ala myanga bukala bwa nsofu. Chabipa pantu alamina, ukalwala icifuba chaba kolwe, alyonauka satana mukumusuka icimulembe, wasasa

  38. Bee   December 21, 2012 at 10:16 pm

    First of all yes, you are being selfish. Your sex life is supposed to be a something that makes both participants happy. Sometimes the best satisfaction is knowing that you satisfied your partner first. Make compromises. Forplay involves more than just getting head.

  39. ndimbwi   December 21, 2012 at 10:25 pm

    may god deliver you . those are unnatural acts my brother described in th bible together with lesbianism n homosexuality .god warns us not to commit these and many other abominations,

  40. Ba medza   December 21, 2012 at 11:16 pm

    But kweena! Bushe how does it feel ukukumyanga? Ni loly pop? Ke!ke!ke!ke!ke!

  41. Umusambashi   December 22, 2012 at 2:42 am

    Have u heard of HPV? If not,not u have, its an STD transmitd via oral sex…th virus attacts th throat and mouth. It is deadly and is th leadng cause of mouth and throat cancers in Zambia today. So, if u stil ok, hn happy blow jobbing and RIP

  42. (HH) Hakainde Hichisankwa   December 22, 2012 at 4:18 am

    Go ahead and get a headmistress. It is the only solution. I advised my Un Popular Naughty Devils (UPND) MPs to do so. I also have quite a good number of them. Ndimusankwa.

    This week I ordered all headmistresses to deny PF men sex. You see! I believe in Headmistresses

  43. charles666   December 22, 2012 at 5:16 am

    Satan is not stupid , he knows each ones weakness. Everything you are going through in this life try hard to seek the will of your Creator.An evil spirit is in you and sooner or later mwalashala skeleton imwe. What you call your cleaving it does not justify you leaving your marriage. You can say today just for this tomorrow you will find yourself deep in sin,chained by the shackles of the enemy and your innocent wife will be spending sleepiness nights in U.T.H.Mwikala patalala mwine apatalalika.Epo mpelele.

  44. shibukommbe   December 22, 2012 at 8:53 am

    You need serious cancelling baba. Use you body parts accordingly. Mouth for eating and otherwise. Haven’t you head about HPV?

  45. king   December 22, 2012 at 9:07 am

    if i found this Ningar stripped Naked, will not get suprised. Man u need deliverance sooner than today otherwise u wil run mad.

  46. king   December 22, 2012 at 9:09 am

    with Sex Sex, your mind is really poluted. repent man for the better tomorow.

  47. Truth2   December 22, 2012 at 9:44 am

    My friend,am happy you have said that you are happily married.The best you can do to your marriage is stop watching porn movies.Go by what you have and stop comparing your sex life with pornstars.You are not a pornstar and forget about your BJ allucinations.Prayers will do.

  48. mwandu   December 22, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Imagin if u wer 2 hear tht yur wif had found a man just 2 lick her v…, wud u say she z stil faithful. The truth of the mater z tht u jst want kapa mbali & nw u want som1 2 bak u. Thts rubish mwana. Tht bj u want z a kind of sex (oral) & t wud b imoral. If nythng, wat lady wud accept 2 b usef lyk tht. Think wit yur brains & nt yur pen..s

  49. Minister Without Portfolio   December 22, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Ati what? BJ? Nonsense!!!!!!!!!!

  50. petasons david   December 22, 2012 at 10:06 am

    You know what, having a bj with onether girl is cheating, just eat your wife’s pussy for anhour and she’ll do the same to you, its a two way thing.