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I’m A Single Lady at 42, Will A Man Still Marry Me?
Am I under a spell? I feel ashamed and embarrassed. I know some people would want to nail me after reading just the headline but I feel this is getting out of hand.
I clocked 42 last July and to be candid I’m not into any serious relationship. I’m from Southern Province, the first daughter out of 7 children. I hope you won’t feel offended as I would not further disclose my identity for obvious reason.
Just last year, our last born who works with a popular telecommunication company got married to her longtime boyfriend, leaving only me hugging ‘tubes and tyres.’ I’ve gone for prayers in several churches; they promised me that my husband would appear in no distant time. In fact, the last prayer house I went in a popular church, the man of God told me that ‘if he be a man of God, before the year runs out, my dream man would appear.’
Another one told me I was the architect of my predicament, saying that I’ve missed the opportunity. When I was in my mid 20s, I had many ‘toasters’ but they were never my dream men. I used to think my kind of guy was the tall, dark and handsome one. Preferably banker, but now they are not forthcoming.
I was in a relationship with an ex-footballer but I dumped him when I could no longer cope with his kind of person. Now, I’m even ashamed of living in the same house with my parents at my age.
Please what can I do to help myself at 42?
Posted by
Aubrey
February 28, 2013 at 9:09 pm
Give this lady my email address so that we can have a chat and see how best I can assist her. God is the provider. Read about Sara in the bible.
M.K the original
February 28, 2013 at 10:02 pm
Let this pridicament story of this sister be a lesson to many women and girls out there. Your story has all the answers it deserves and no normal man can fail to read between the line what has happened to your life. 1. You were too playful in your 20s and then what to cry foul, whom are you fooling? 2 different men approached you to ask for the hand in marraige but you foolishly turned them down, obvously looking for someone with wealth, were you fare to yourself? 3. Looking and praying for the banker, and yet you are lying that you approached different pastors and churches for help, is that not being matrialistic? 4.Like self esteemed women who have highly priced themselves thinking you are so beautiful to catch the most handsome man, is it not a lesson enough that you casted your own spell of shame and unluck in your life? The answers to you problem is endless, but take heed, you are more than a second hand woman who can not catch the heart of any serious man looking a decent womn to marry, meaning its either you will get marriad to a widower, a devourcee or a ploygamist with many children on board. Its not time for you to cry, but to look for someone who can help you buld your life.
Vinco
March 1, 2013 at 9:01 pm
I like your comment, cash talk!
alfred
February 28, 2013 at 10:42 pm
adge is not problem as long as youv got percience u will find yo happyness,just put every thing in gods hands,remember that he does not fail.
Zyuku Walola
March 1, 2013 at 3:47 am
Wonderful observasion MK. I would add that she went to the Lord’s houses with very un reasonable purpose. She did not go there in belief and faith. Any way, she can try this guy in USA who is just 72 and rich.
MMD Cadre
March 1, 2013 at 12:21 pm
Spelling please
BRICKMAN
February 28, 2013 at 11:06 pm
My dear lady,marriage is not everything. You can still be happy without being married. In fact,most marriages nowadays are a source of UNHAPPINES that people wish they never married.
Ask God the Almighty to reveal your true purpose in this life.
Yes you have your own desires as a human being but let God show you the way.
yabili
March 1, 2013 at 3:53 pm
iwee obo ebupuba tweba
Mutoba kongo
March 1, 2013 at 2:58 am
Mbuya! Old is gold.some gold digger will surely come your way.am sure for you to have wanted a banker so badly,you must be some sort of a treasurer os some organisation.
I bet u heard wht men had to say?????ukutemwa money nabamukabene wechipuba
March 1, 2013 at 8:01 am
I bet u heard wht men had to say?????ukutemwa money nabamukabene wechipuba
PIKE
March 1, 2013 at 8:23 am
Zambian ladies the problem that you have is pretense and love of money which will kill you.Virgin nkote crying. few people marry their choice. what is important is mutual understanding between the parties involve. do not look at the wealth of a person, morphology and other attractive things but what that person wants from you.women are best psychologists and you are able to know whether somebody is cheating you or not. the advise to that lady is continue praying to you God and he never fails.the problem is praying and doing other immoral things.
poorman
March 1, 2013 at 10:22 am
God will give one day.
yortum
March 1, 2013 at 10:43 am
You know,things have changed these dayz if no guy is coming forward to propose why not propose yourself i have seen that.
mike
March 1, 2013 at 10:44 am
there is time for everything yours passed but even so never loose hope for with faith anything is possible
Anthony chisanga
March 1, 2013 at 10:52 am
AT 42 YEARS YES YOU CAN BE MARRIED AND HAVE CHILDREN
IF I WAS NOT MARRIED I COULD HAVE MARRIED YOU BUT CAN YOU AGREE
Dig deeper
March 1, 2013 at 11:00 am
Marriage is not a casual relationship to be entered into or dismissed at will.
mwebe
March 1, 2013 at 11:48 am
Your amswer is with@MK Original.Women are pretentious animals,they spend more time pretending.and when they realised that time is running out….. they discover that all potential men are taken…..
Umupandapwiti
March 1, 2013 at 12:00 pm
Singing ” Kukwata umwana
Kukwata umwana
Kukwata umwana eponshilasendwa na ma years
Boma iyelele boma” x2
MUMU
March 1, 2013 at 12:32 pm
just keep on waiting
Voicaman
March 1, 2013 at 1:02 pm
I am sorry about your story.What i can tell you is this, never belitle anyone in life. Each one of us has a role to play in life,rich or poor.And it is from this two groups of people that you should expect to find a husband or wife. So, what I can say is that you may have missed your God given husband in the past but still your Heavenly Father will still give you someone at your age, poor or rich but a husband for you.
Bonkist
March 1, 2013 at 2:47 pm
just come to me; i will be bonking you for free..
Edwin Phiri in Luwingu
March 1, 2013 at 2:56 pm
put everything to God. At 42, yes you can be married. I remember reading one article in the post newspaper were an 50 year old known women (unionist)was married and she is happy. with God everything is possible. in most cases what makes women not to be married is boasting when they are still young.
mcm
March 1, 2013 at 3:49 pm
im 38 and i have never been married.i proposed love 2 a lady that i wanted 2 marry but ser rejected me because she was maybe looking for a superman.many years passed by and there was no man forth coming. when i proposed the lassed time after so many year she agreed 2 get married 2 me and we’ll get married next year.i almost moved on bcoz of my studies and work. now, the message here is if i had moved on may no other man wud have approached her and she wud have ended up like u.pliz let love be love.money can go what lady needs is someone who can love her and money comes leta. thank u.
8walya
March 1, 2013 at 11:27 pm
action speaks louder than words act now … We chat on facebook …. mathews mubanga …. 0955/0965274737
TETA
March 2, 2013 at 1:06 am
owe menopause yafika bana peleniko umuntu ka baby