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My Sister-In-Law Wants To Handle The Food Shopping In Our House
Dear Readers,
Last week I told my husband that I needed money to do some food shopping, while we were having this conversation on the phone he was in the presence of his sister (his unmarried senior sister).
After asking my husband how much money I needed she concluded that the supermarket that I go to is too expensive, she then suggested that she would handle the food shopping in our house from now on.
My husband thinks this is a great idea, while I think it is outrageous and we have been constantly arguing about it.
My best friend has told me to call my sister in law and tell her to keep out of my marital affairs, and in all honesty that is what I want to do, however I thought I should reach out for some advice from fellow Kitwetimes readers before making any rash decisions.
Posted by
kakolwe
February 28, 2013 at 2:49 am
If was a kitwetimes reader I would advise you to check your spending. It maybe that you overspend & you spouce wishes you to learn how to live within the budget. So go with your Mlamu, see her expenditure the takeover after that. If that fails ninshi tapali iceenu sister.
scone13
February 28, 2013 at 3:34 pm
you are right it looks like this lady spend so much when she cant even work for such money
Democrat
February 28, 2013 at 5:20 am
Its not in order for your sister inlaw to do the shopping, however, check your spending. Being the head of a “home” a woman must be extremely frugal in the way she handles finances.
CALLED WISE
February 28, 2013 at 7:05 am
IT MIGHT BE THE CASE AS Democrat AND Kakolwe HAVE PUT IT.
DEAR SISTER FOLLOW THEIR ADVICE.
FOR YOUR HUSBAND TO CALL IT A GOOD IDEA,THEN THERE MUST BE SOMETHING HE SEES WRONG.
MY QUOTE:’IF A COCROACH TRESSPASSES IN HENS’CAGE,HENS ALLOW IT.’
Candy
February 28, 2013 at 7:57 am
My Sister,It may be that your Husband wants you to learn one or two things.I know how it makes you feel but go for it then compare your expenditure with that of your sis in laws.Learn something and then take charge.Sometimes us ladies are just too extravagant…Your Husband should equally learn that 3rd parties are not allowed in marriages especially financial wise..Communication is the key word..May there be peace and harmony in your marriage.God bless you..
Mpumba Mikowa
February 28, 2013 at 9:14 am
For your own husband to call his siter’s suggetion as a great idea,surely,there must be something wrong with your spending.In homes,it’s not a matter of spending,it’s all about looking at how long the needs will last before the next salary comes in ofcouse, taking into account the financial resources available.You should at the same time be firm not to allow third party involvements into your marriage.Anyway,give it a try and allow her accompany you go shopping.
nawaitwika
February 28, 2013 at 10:08 am
Why the elder sister not married, and why is she staying with the young brother? Remember in the bible Moses was Mirriams brother and Aron they lived together when time came for Moses to marry they were jealous because they knew that Moses will now concentrated on his wife and stop supporting them the way he did they started gossiping about him and Mirriam was struck with leprosy am sure she is the one who started the whole issue. Let me just heat the nail on its head most women even some mothers are jealousy of their in-laws the issue of overspending here is out If I were you I cannot allow that instead I will do a shopping list then take her with me of course I should keep the purse it me to pay for all the items from the same suppermarket she suggested if I do not like the the things from the same place I will take her were I get things of course no one would like to overspend pipo now buy only necessities unless otherwise. My dear discuss with your husband its you he married not her and she shud even keep away from your marriage ala. Let her get married and control things in her home and not in other pio’s homes period.
man
February 28, 2013 at 12:20 pm
nawaitwika, your a bad advisor,it is not jelousy as you are putting it. Remember the same lady has been doing the shopping all along and and the sister in law never interfered,but why now? it is because she overspends thats why the husband supported it.she is a show off type of a person.You know my dear, it takes time for a man to react,i think it is too much for him,so he is trying to teach her something.It’s a good idea Girl go for it and take over later.you have my support.
mwiya
February 28, 2013 at 10:53 am
Advisors, pliz dnt crucify this lady, its not about her expenditure….problem here is these inlaws in the business of poking their noses in peoples homes… The sooner they learn to accept the marriage set up, the better!!! Mine are equally a pain in the flesh…. Had I known what I was getting into before I got married, I honestly wouldn’t have…. Nalema nabo!!!! Yaba…..
Sata = Chimbwi No Plan
February 28, 2013 at 3:08 pm
Are you the friend who advised to tell off the sister in law??
am
February 28, 2013 at 10:56 am
if he thinks you are over spending,sugest doing your shopping with him over the weekend,and not your sis in-law,i know how men are with thier relatives they suport it all,but y did he marry in the first place it was better if he just let his sis run his home than to bring u and keep u like…”what possition i dnt even know”
Tonga Bull
February 28, 2013 at 12:52 pm
B4 you condemn her clear yo buttocks as well. hwz your buying? do u manage it well? she may be correct by sugesting so.So give her a chance u se if she cant do it well and wait for a coment from yo hasband.
I think she can do better than u
ck
February 28, 2013 at 1:08 pm
A house which is divided will not stand,learn thru your mistakes and live within your means 0therwise a third person is an intruder period!
CNP-4U
February 28, 2013 at 2:15 pm
he’s a silly man..why should he allow the sister to..?
woyera
February 28, 2013 at 2:42 pm
marubbish
ken
February 28, 2013 at 4:22 pm
Kick asssss!!
kalichee
February 28, 2013 at 5:43 pm
FUNKIN TELL HIM OFF TO MARRY THE BOTH OF YOU IF SHE DOES THAT
fred chishala
February 28, 2013 at 7:44 pm
Tell your husband to live by the bible which teaches us that ,a man will leave his parents and cleave to his wife and they will become one therefor, He should not allow his sister to come and do your work because she will bring confusion in your marriage and eventually separate you.
chishala
kakolwe
February 28, 2013 at 8:26 pm
Nawaitwika, have you ever seen ladies who will blow a monthly salary within 2 weeks & go crying the husband ati ‘bupi bufelile!’? With such, one may welcome the ‘thrifty’ sister.
nawaitwika
March 1, 2013 at 8:34 am
Man and kakolwe thank you for the correction I have got your point I think I over reacted to that story and thanks for not insulting me way to go guys love you all.
Mwila Nkompo
March 1, 2013 at 10:05 am
YOUR SISTER WHATEVER MUST LEAVE YOUR HOUSE
IMMEDIATELY.
SHE WILL CAUSE MORE PROBLEMS IN YOUR HOUSE.
NEXT TIME YOU WILL SEE HER FEMALE FREINDS
FREQUENTING YOUR HOUSE AND THEN….. YOUR MARRAIGE
WILL BE IN TROUBLE.
ACT NOW.
mike
March 1, 2013 at 10:17 am
you just have to know that two ladies can not stay in the same house the sooner you lean the better.
jk
March 1, 2013 at 3:14 pm
you know marraige is blessing from God, and if your hubby knows this than he should think like a Man, l am sure you old to think and read between the line
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pat
June 6, 2013 at 4:04 am
the husband should help the wife how to budget.soon the sista wil bring confusion in there marrage.let her wait her time is coming when she gets marrege she wil do her good shopping
Mimi
June 6, 2013 at 1:03 pm
The husband should trust his wife and if he sees something wrong he should discuss with her. Or else he should as well start sleeping with the sister, why involve the sister thats nonsense..