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West’s Stand On Gay Rights In Zambia Hypocritical
Dear Editor,
KINDLY allow me to provoke some thinking among my fellow Zambians over the topical issue of homosexuality in Zambia and the position the Western countries have subtly taken to promote it in our country.
I begin by asking the West why they want to promote homosexuality in our country, which is both against our cultural values and the Constitution.
Yet their values and constitutions do not allow any discussion on polygamy, which is an offence attracting custodial terms in their countries.
And the Constitution is something that our Western friends respect so much. But why do they want to downplay ours?
This is a show of double standards. In case some people may not know, the grandfather of a prominent United States senator was exiled to Mexico because he was a polygamist.
While on one hand they are saying this homosexuality is an issue of human rights, they are failing to acknowledge that polygamy, which they have criminalised, is a cultural choice in the African contest.
No culture is superior to another globally.
And we should not even allow open discussion on homosexuality.
I am glad the majority Zambians are very opposed to this promotion of gayism because we know it is a disorder or disorientation of sexual desire for the opposite sex.
GK,
Lusaka.
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izubu
April 12, 2013 at 10:51 am
atleast we have people who can think right…
Nebo
April 13, 2013 at 2:08 am
The shocking thing with these gay people is that a male person lusts after another male who acts like a female. Similarly a female person lusts after a female who wants to be male. Why not get the real thing made to be what it is and not a pretence or cheat. You are deceiving and being deceived. Shibukeni.
Messiah
April 12, 2013 at 10:57 am
No one is promoting homosexuality in Zambia especially the “West”. Homosexuals are in every country and society! Just as much as they are heterosexuals all over the world!!!
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 2:41 pm
And adulterers for that matter
FM
April 12, 2013 at 11:05 am
The problem that we have here in zambia is we want to be what we are not and yet we have our way of life and culture,yet our colleagues in western countries they stand for what is theirs.Even just music we have stopped playing what is ours but western type(whether we call it zam music) but the beat type of singing is western.We have lost our culture thats the reason why we can even have these so called homosexuals(alatukandwa kuli Lesa).
arnol
April 12, 2013 at 11:06 am
poor understanding of the all issue. does it mean than when there are thieves in every country , then their is a need of advocating . no ” contracy , a rightful person needs to conden the vice despite the so call existence .
if a pig knows where to go , what about a human being
FM
April 12, 2013 at 11:09 am
Walasa bru.
What’s up bro?
April 12, 2013 at 11:22 am
ati bru! Ebufontini ububwine… ifintu nga tamwaishiba muleikalafye.
Grandma
April 12, 2013 at 11:18 am
Zambians…what do you suggest i do with my grandson, he is starting to show signs of homosexuality? He is more feminine than most boys… the boy’s father hit the road once he found out he had banged up my daughter!
If you ask me, i love my grandchild just the way he is.
Heterosexual
April 12, 2013 at 11:21 am
@ Messiah
Its true we have homosexuals in Zambia just as we have thieves and murderers. But we have laws and traditions against such practices. Our culture does does not promote any of these. Yes we have heterosexuals all over the world and i believe you should be thankful that your mother and father had such a relationship and you are a product of such.If you have homosexual inclinations please practice them where we can not get to you, lest we lynch you. You are sick to the core. Mind you its a human right to take you to a mental institution.
Bullseye
April 12, 2013 at 11:28 am
Oi!, are you saying Joseph actually BONKED Maria to concieve Jesus Messiah!
Uncle B'
April 12, 2013 at 1:21 pm
Read the book of Luke in the Bible?
ZNN
April 12, 2013 at 2:57 pm
useless book
Nebo
April 13, 2013 at 1:43 am
ZNN, God the author of the bible loves you. Jesus Christ died for you too. Be blessed.
Messiah
April 12, 2013 at 11:35 am
You sound as if you are just blood thirsty as the Ku-Klux-Klan ready to lynch anyone different from yourself. Shame on you! May your children turn out homosexuals, so that you will learn a lesson of your life! It’s not a choice you know!!
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 11:22 am
GK! Man after mine own heart! Look here gays. We know ALL deviations abound. Thieves, Gluttons, Lunatics, Pedophiles, Wizards, Conmen, Liars. Together with U, they will NEVER see their right in my Zambia
Illuminati
April 12, 2013 at 11:41 am
“Thieves, Gluttons, Lunatics, Pedophiles, Wizards, Conmen, Liars” are your leaders what are you talking about, that they will never see their rights!? They make the laws for you kakolwe.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 12:43 pm
@ Illuminati – totally agree with you. In fact these are the same people (thieves, adulterers, prostitutes, dictators) who declared zambia ‘a christian nation’ – laughable indeed
Uncle B'
April 12, 2013 at 1:40 pm
@Illuminati and Janet c whats your take on this scripture Leviticus 20 vs 13? When a thief is caught what happens to him or her? Janet be truth to urself can you go to America and start advocating for polygamy?
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 2:13 pm
@ Uncle B – what exactly does Leviticus 20 vs 13 say? The same bible which was imposed upon us Africans by the west!!! This bible which is not part of African culture!!!!
ZNN
April 12, 2013 at 2:59 pm
Who reads useless scriptures anyway! Gays are here to stay! You can shove your scriptures up yours!
Katwamba
April 12, 2013 at 12:28 pm
in a christian nation gay rights will never be put on the agenda for discussion, will never be taken to parliament for consideration, will never be subjected to a vote, as long as we remain a christian nation.
thank God Christianity is very accommodating, very tolerating, patient and merciful. but may i remind you Christianity will not COMPROMISE. if you want to advocate for gay rights, your first battle is the Zambian Constitution, remove the Christian Nation clause.
only then will the door open and you will marry whatever and whoever you want.period.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 12:37 pm
@ GK :
1. The west is promoting democracy – democracy means ppl (including zambians) should be free to be who they are without being persecuted – adulterers live freely amongst us yet you fail to condemn them
2. Polygamy is illegal in Zambia – what makes you think it is acceptable in Zambia to be a polygamist?????
Mioto Longa
April 12, 2013 at 1:29 pm
Adulterous and all their type will never campaign for human rights. How come homosexuals are crying for recognition? They are just as dangerous to society as pedophiles, murderers, thieves and the like. Can you give human rights to such?
ZNN
April 12, 2013 at 3:02 pm
You’ve got it all wrong.. Adulterous people choose to cheat, gays are born gay.
Nebo
April 13, 2013 at 1:47 am
Nobody was born Gay. Wake up ZNN. Do not be deceived by hollywod and their agenda. Wake up man, please.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 12:38 pm
3. You say we should not even discuss homosexuality – remember that not too long ago we zambians didn’t want to discuss the ‘strange disease’ called AIDS. Look what happened – zambians perished un-necessarily because we were not open about it.
4. Gays have always existed in Zambia and african culture – that is why we have african terms/names for gays. Little boys are abused in villages by men – same sex boarding schools like Kafue boys, homosexuality is so rampant. Same sex girls schools like Fatima – lesbianism is so rampant.
Nebo
April 13, 2013 at 1:51 am
Janet c, The fact that a vice is happening does not mean it has to be legalised. Stealing does happen but it does not mean making it law or acceptable. Its a vice that has to be kept to the minimum if not stopped.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 12:40 pm
Remember that Christianity is a western concept – the bible was used to colonise Africans – so your argument of the west imposing things on us is baseless – you are using a western-imposed argument (i.e. the bible) to argue your case
Uncle B'
April 12, 2013 at 1:52 pm
Are you trying to say since its democracy and we shud who we want to be without persecution so even murderers, thieves, etc shud come out and start fighting for their rights ka? if u say polygamy in Zed is wrong then why shud homo foolishness be right?
Wane
April 13, 2013 at 1:56 am
Forget the messenger prove the message first. Christianity did not start with the West, they copied it, used it for many vices and people are still doing that even today. The fact is my Redeemer lives. He reigns forever and ever. Stay blessed. Have you have questioned why you live, why you are on this earth? You just can’t be on this earth to be gay, surely. Ask God with your sincerelity if He exists and you will find Him.
sakastik
April 12, 2013 at 12:51 pm
Christianity,Homosexuality,Public Nudity came from the same source.And that is ‘the west’.Why worry about one component when this is a package.
bushman
April 12, 2013 at 3:10 pm
Thousands of africans in the kalahari and serengeti are still going about naked without a care in the world… rape is not the norm in their society…
Unlike you niggers who dress yourselves with rejects from the west (salaula) and call yourselves civilized while you worship an invisible white man with a long beard that sits on cloud and watches your every move. ID!OTS
Nabwinga 2013
April 12, 2013 at 12:59 pm
Whether you agree with me or not, here is the truth. People involved in Gay affairs need Deliverance. Very few people know about Spiritual Wives and Husbands. These demons are behind the destruction of most marriages as well as failure to get married or failure to find an opposite sex partner. Listen carefully; If a person e.g a man is possessed with a Spiritual Wife (Demon which is of the opposite sex)they will be made to be interested in fellow men (human being)who shall be making love to the female demon which has married them spiritually. Vice versa for Women. You also need to know that Spiritual things will always have a bearing on the Physical. This is why we ve Gays and the Devil has also lied to them that it is their natural way of being! I would advise all the Gays to find your way to a True man of God (Mark my words I suggest Prophet T B Joshua,Im not forcing you), you will be delivered at once and you shall be blessed to love and procreate the way your Creator planned for you.Also remember that the enemy comes to STEAL (your Joy of having Sex with the opposite Sex), KILL (has stolen your Children if you cant bear any in Gay Relationships) and DESTROY (Your relationships with others are broken when they learn that you are into such, You have no peace, you ask yourselves why and why,in the end you may even resort to things like drugs that may DESTROY you completely. My prayer is “Lord Jesus Christ, help all these Gays to come out of their bondage” AMEN.
Bullseye
April 12, 2013 at 1:15 pm
Rubbish!!
bushman
April 12, 2013 at 3:12 pm
deliver yourself from mental slavery! You worship a muzungu gay called jesus.
witness
April 12, 2013 at 3:17 pm
TB JOSHUA is a conman that brainwashes his blind followers. He sodomizes his church members and call it a blessing from god.
Danje Lacky
April 12, 2013 at 1:06 pm
The Lord says thou shall not lie with a fellow man as with a woman
ZNN
April 12, 2013 at 1:18 pm
Then its ok to bend a fellow man doggie style like a man!
Terry Gambino
April 12, 2013 at 1:20 pm
@Janet c, I feel so sad to see that you are so comfortable to support and even talk about gays!.
1.I am glad though you acknowledge that being gay is not normal (For me its a disorder / sickness that needs serious address)
2.Are you gay?, if you are, your sickness is mental, you need people with an open mind to talk to you how unnatural and absurd it is.The sun will never raise from the West and set in the East.I feel sorry for your parents who did a natrual thing acceptable to nature as God intended to have you.
3.I would like to point out that, the way you feel as a gay is influenced by an evil force (SPIRIT)that only the Son of man can conqure (JESUS)
4.You are a very normal person phisically but you need time to study all you are hearing and seeing.
5.If you wonder why you feel so different with all your heart, try – just sit alone ask God for help!
6.I will continue to ask God for his intervation
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 2:07 pm
@ Terry – thank you for your ‘concern- – But I must tell you that I am heterosexual, I prefer men and I am in a very loving relationship with a man.
Abraham Lincoln advocated for black ppl who were being persecuted for being black – mr Lincoln was WHITE (not black). So just because I (a heterosexual) am calling for gays not to be persecuted , does not make me gay – can you at least get that through your head.
Adultery is not normal and is a sin in the bible – my question to all you hypocrites is, why aren’t you condemning adulterers? Adulterers are not fighting for their rights because they are not being persecuted like the gays
Uncle B'
April 12, 2013 at 2:49 pm
Can you confidently show us one adulterer that you know with proof pliz instead of you just accusing pipo? Or may be u re cheating on ur man and trying to hide muliba chilende….
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 2:53 pm
Uncle B – be serious. Zambia has so many adulterous affairs. Our very own ex-president CHiluba and his wife Vera and his new wife Regina – all adulterers! The same Chiluba who declared zambia a christian nation to blind us from his thieving activities. I recommend you check your wife is not cheating on you
Uncle B'
April 13, 2013 at 10:32 am
Ba Janet nshilaupa…but thats great that u know some adulterers but DID Chiluba or his wife ever said I want rights to continue what am doing? Or did u ever hear anyone saying that’s ok leave him alone? He was condemned right? If something is wrong its wrong…Deep down ur heart you know homo is wrong….
BIG DADDY
April 12, 2013 at 1:21 pm
The Bible is supreme authority on this issue and we can not discuss without referring to it. Thieves, murderers, fornicators, witches, adulterers all in one basket and heading for doom. We all have inside potential to become one of these but the Love of God prevents us from developing full blown status of these vices.
bushman
April 12, 2013 at 3:13 pm
The bible is a useless book to the wise!
«؟؟??»
April 12, 2013 at 1:55 pm
@heterosexual.iwe ndiwe chikali.
Haward Mulenga
April 12, 2013 at 1:57 pm
Time
«؟؟??»
April 12, 2013 at 2:03 pm
Nga ama wankers(masturbators)?
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 2:26 pm
Is polygamy legal in Zambia? Coz I can’t manage with just one woman. I get bored.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 2:55 pm
The bible forbids such sinful acts – you shuold be jailed and stoned to death!!! You are in the same category as the gays
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 3:50 pm
The writer of this article seems to suggest that polygamy is legal in Zambia.
clema
April 12, 2013 at 3:20 pm
Janet C you are very sick you are not a fit to be a zambian.If you want to promote these useless norms join your friends in the west zambia is not ready for people like you.
Bullseye
April 12, 2013 at 3:22 pm
@clema, you are just ignorant and backward id!ot
Messiah
April 12, 2013 at 3:20 pm
My toilet paper is printed with scriptures from the bible. That’s what i think about that useless book. It’s as good as SHINDA PAPER no more no less
Prof-B
April 12, 2013 at 3:32 pm
The issue here is that, we do not want the so called gays/lesbians to be persecuted but to repent from this evil act. Gays are humans who should be well taken care of by preventing them from practicing homosexuality. Those who are supporting gay rights are not helping the gays because they want these people to continue in a wrong direction until destruction eats them up.
What we must do is, help them through PRAYER and COUNSELLING and not encouraging them to continue. Should we legalize gay rights, all the children in our country will consider homosexuality as normal 10 YEARS FROM NOW. So please lets help the gays/lesbians to come back to their normal state and avoid persecuting them. MAY GOD DELIVER ZAMBIA FROM THE WICKED ONE.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 3:42 pm
Too late Prof B – in 10 years’ time, being gay will be normal- just like adultery
clema
April 12, 2013 at 3:50 pm
bullseye your time is near wait you will cry for help soon.for you to be born it was sex between your mother and father respect were you come from not man to man.
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 4:05 pm
So is someone supposed to be thankful that their parents had sex and they were born? You are not a result of someone doing you a favour by having sex with the opposite sex. People have kids because their want to have them, and not because there’s a place where unborn babies live waiting for people to **** each other so that they can be born. Whatever motivates a couple to have kids is the reason. It’s the law of causality at work. Cause and effect.
Bullseye
April 12, 2013 at 7:56 pm
Time for what you id!ot? Go and curse your children you ape.
Prof-B
April 12, 2013 at 3:59 pm
Jane C. in your opinion, what could be the solution to this issue? I believe you are a woman of high caliber and understanding please help MOTHER ZAMBIA.
Janet c
April 12, 2013 at 4:30 pm
@ Prof B – the solution is this: accpet that gays exist and let them be. Adulterers exist in zambia and we have let them be.
We have more serious issues to debate here – like corruption, theft of our hard-earned tax payer’s money, white collar crime, hunger, infrastructure, sufficient enery supply, etc
So what two ppl do in their bedrooms is none of our business
tripoli
April 12, 2013 at 4:51 pm
U AR RIGHT
Zambian rabbi
April 12, 2013 at 5:01 pm
Then they dat feared da LORD spake often 1 to another; & a book of remembrance was opened written b4 him 4 dem dat feared da LORD, & dat thought upon his name.and they shall b mine
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 5:26 pm
And the point is ….
Zambian rabbi
April 12, 2013 at 5:25 pm
He is coming wether u like it o not.His eyes as balls of fire,His hair like wool,His face shining like da sun at noon,His robe white like snow down to da feet.Feet like rifined brass.Out of His mouth came a double edged sword.He reaps were He did not sow.Every knee shal bow & evry tongue confess dat JESUS is LORD. Dats wat I call POWER. Repent he therefore & turn to da LORD.
Jack Malama
April 12, 2013 at 5:27 pm
He’s coming for gays. Or sinners in general.
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 5:44 pm
@janet c. & illuminati, Where do you find “the right to adultery” “the right to steal” “the right to bewitch”? You are begining to sound repeatative. There are no such rights. If found 1 is prosecuted.
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 5:51 pm
For sure! janet c, what they do in the confines of their bedrooms MUST NEVER be a bother to US. BUT these dildo/sewer liners are going to TV & Radio station to preach to US on their repulsive acts
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 6:03 pm
With respect due to yo spouse (who doesnt even know the blog name janet c) have you given him his adultery or drunken rights? My woman can NEVER tolarate such. Else she CUTS my pipi!
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 6:15 pm
Conversely, there exists no rights for my woman to swallow my gardener’s diik nor for my son to steal Liato’s loot! If found they must be jailed. What more the fagots? Born that way kwisa?
Uncle B'
April 13, 2013 at 12:13 pm
@Kakolwe thank God there re pipo like u who can call a WRONG a wrong and not try to defend it bcoz of tuma degrees they ve obtained from colleges on top of shops.
kakolwe
April 12, 2013 at 6:19 pm
By the way. We have just received a newly born boy in the family. Can the Reverand Dr, Illuminati & janet c come & show us if he is born gay or straight? Its all in society mwetupuba mwe!
Bullseye
April 12, 2013 at 8:09 pm
kakolwe you can only tell when the child reaches the adolescent age.
Meaning, many in the homosexual community say that they become aware of their sexual orientation when they are over the age of 12.
Once they hit puberty they start realizing that they are different in a pretty big way.
Wilson
April 12, 2013 at 7:32 pm
@Nabwinga. May God bless u 4 those wise words
lulu
April 12, 2013 at 8:07 pm
Janet,I like yo reasoning and am wit u all the waay.I see there’s lotsa hypocryts in this country wich is very sad.dear,I undastand yo argument.bigups
Facts
April 12, 2013 at 8:15 pm
Genes + Brain Wiring + Prenatal Hormonal Environment = Temperament
Parents + Peers + Experiences = Environment
Temperament + Environment = Homosexual Orientation
While environmental factors may include experiences of sexual abuse or other traumatic events, a common contributor to same-sex attractions is a disruption in the development of gender identity. Gender identity refers to a person’s view of his or her own gender; that is, his or her sense of masculinity or femininity. Gender identity is formed through the relationships that a child has with the same-sex parent and same-sex peers.
The process of gender identification begins approximately between age two and a half and four. For boys, it is during this phase that they begin to move from their primary attachment with the mother to seeking out a deeper attachment with the father. For males, the relationship between a boy and his father is the initial source of developing a secure gender identity. It is through the father-son relationship that a boy discovers what he needs to know about being male, including who he is as a boy, how boys walk, how they talk, how they act, and so forth. As the father spends time with the son, shows interest in the son, and gives the son affirmation and affection, the father imparts to the son a sense of masculinity. The boy begins to develop a sense of his own gender by understanding himself in relation to his father.
When the child reaches the age of five, he begins to face another task, that is, to begin to attach to same-sex peers. At this age, he starts school and begins to look to the other boys to answer the same questions that his dad has been answering. He looks to the other boys to discover how they walk, how they talk, how they play, and how he measures up in relation to them. He seeks to be included, accepted, and acknowledged. Through the relationships he forms with other boys, he continues to gain a sense of masculinity, discovering more about others boys and therefore more about himself as a boy.
During the early years of elementary school, children are not usually very interested in playing with members of the opposite sex. They desire to spend time with members of the same sex. This is a very necessary stage of development, because a person cannot be interested in the opposite sex or in others, until he or she first understands himself or herself.
Eventually, after many years of bonding with members of the same sex, the boy enters puberty. At this time he begins to turn his attention to the opposite sex. He becomes curious about the gender which is different from his own, the female gender. With the simultaneous emergence of puberty, this curiosity becomes a sexual interest and a desire for romantic connection with the opposite sex.
Conversely, for the child who will develop a homosexual orientation, this process does not happen. So, what happens in the development of gender identity that would lead a child to have same-sex attractions? Typically, for this child, there is something that prevents him from attaching to the father. Either he doesn’t have a father or a father figure, or he doesn’t have a father who he perceives as safe and/or welcoming. Of course, there are many children who grow up without fathers and yet do not develop a homosexual orientation. In addition, there are many children who have loving fathers, yet still become homosexually oriented. This is due to the fact that there are various factors that contribute to a homosexual orientation. Human development is very complex and includes events, as well as perceptions about the events.
Perceptions are very important. Perceptions are more powerful than what actually happens, because perceptions become that person’s reality. Perceptions are influenced by temperament. For example, a child with a more sensitive temperament might perceive rejection even when rejection is not intended. Temperament is the biological contributor; however, temperament alone is not enough to create a homosexual orientation. The temperament type must be met with the right environmental factors in order to produce same-sex attractions. Typically the child who will later develop same-sex attractions is naturally sensitive, observant, intelligent, and is sometimes more artistic than athletic. This child often tends to personalize and internalize experiences and observations.
So, if a child perceives that his father does not want a relationship with him, that child might try a few times to connect with his father, but will eventually retract in self-protection. This is called defensive detachment. Upon sensing rejection, the boy chooses to reject the father in return. He detaches from the father and even what the father represents, which is masculinity (Nicolosi & Nicolosi, 2001). Typically at this point, he will stay connected to the mother and will instead soak in femininity. Usually he is also surrounded by other female figures, such as, a sister, an aunt, or a grandmother. So at a time when he is craving masculine input and seeking to understand himself in terms of his male identity, he instead receives feminine input and begins to develop a sense of the feminine.
By the time this child enters school, he often has a difficult time relating with other boys. Either he is just more comfortable with the girls, who are more familiar to him, or he is intimidated by the boys. Often this child sees himself as different from the other boys. So he may hold back from bonding with them. If he has developed any feminine mannerisms, he might also be rejected by the other boys and quite possibly even ridiculed. He is craving acceptance from the other boys and continues to need this acceptance, though the need goes unmet. The boy watches the other boys from afar, he longs to be noticed by them, and included by them, yet he remains with the girls, further gaining a sense of the feminine while deeply craving the masculine.
This child typically spends his elementary school years learning about femininity while craving to understand masculinity. Specifically, he desires to understand himself in terms of his own masculine identity. Yet, he does not assimilate with the same-sex parent or same-sex peers, so he does not acquire a masculine identity. He associates with the feminine, which is his primary source of input. He does not develop a secure gender identity. So by the time this child reaches puberty, the craving for male input has grown and intensified. At this time in his life he is not curious about or interested in the opposite sex. He already knows all about the opposite sex– they are quite familiar to him. What he is craving to know about is his own gender. He still deeply longs to know about boys. He longs to experience connections with males. This emotional need, the need for same-sex love, which has gone unmet, now begins to take on a sexual form. His unsatisfied cravings for male love become romantic cravings with the emergence of puberty. (Satinover, 1996).
To this child, it feels very natural that he longs for male love. In fact, he typically thinks that he was born that way, having craved male love for as long as he can remember. Indeed, he has craved this love most of his life. However, initially it was not a sexual craving. Instead, it was an emotional craving, a legitimate need for non-sexual love, an emotional need that has become sexualized.
The female development of homosexuality is a bit more complex. As with the male development, there are a number of factors that can contribute. For some women who end up with same-sex attractions, the development is similar to the male development previously described. For others, negative perceptions regarding femininity may lead to an internal detachment from their own femininity. For example, if a girl watches her father abuse her mother, the girl might conclude that to be feminine is to be weak. At an early age she might make an unconscious decision to detach from her female identity. She might detach from her own gender in an effort to protect herself from the perceived harmful effects of being female.
Sexual abuse is another factor that can contribute to a homosexual orientation. In these cases men are seen as unsafe, and lesbianism becomes a way of protecting against further hurt from a male. For some there might be a disconnection from the mother, and lesbianism becomes a search for motherly love. For others, same-sex attractions may not initially be present, but may later develop as a result of entering into a non-sexual friendship which becomes emotionally dependant. An emotionally dependent relationship is one in which two people seek to have their needs met by one another. It is a relationship in which healthy boundaries are not in place. The absence of appropriate emotional boundaries can then lead to a violation of physical boundaries.
For any of these reasons listed above, and in combination with other factors, same-sex attractions may develop. To the one who has these feelings, they are very real and very strong. There are many people who find themselves attracted to members of the same sex and yet do not want those attractions. For those who are dissatisfied with their sexual orientation, it should be noted that change is indeed possible. Research studies have revealed that change of sexual orientation does take place (see Spitzer, 2003; Byrd & Nicolosi, 2002). It is not a quick or easy process, but as with any other therapeutic issue, varying degrees of change are achievable through therapy and other means.
The inaccurate concept that homosexuality is solely biological is extremely misleading. Many therapists tell their clients that homosexuality is biological and therefore unchangeable. These therapists encourage their clients to embrace a gay identity, even when such clients are seeking change for their orientation. In doing so, therapists negate clients’ rights to self-determination. Clients have the right to choose their own goals for therapy and should be allowed to pursue the path they desire. Clients should not be discouraged from pursuing change when change is what they seek. In order for clients to have the options made available to them, it is vital that therapists as well as clients become better educated on this issue.
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Gay
April 12, 2013 at 9:57 pm
I am a Proud GAY guy and I am deeply in love!!!
KOMA EAAH
April 12, 2013 at 10:03 pm
my heart is filled with sorrow…my people perish because of luck of knowledge, the Bible says so. for sure with all your five senses how can you say that “My toilet paper is printed with scriptures from the bible. That’s what i think about that useless book. It’s as good as SHINDA PAPER no more no less”. whoever you are, where ever you are and whatever you maybe doing,i strongly pray for your forgiveness and deliverance.
Toka
April 13, 2013 at 1:16 am
Only those who sick in their thinking can advocate for such things. There are more important things to discuss than spending time discussing gays. Gay life is not productive. What positive thing can one contribute by being gay. The fun thing about these gays and lesbians, they want to adopt other person’s children. If they want children why do wrong things. This goes to show that something is wrong in the way they think. This is demonic and should not be allowed in zambia. Let them go and try discussing this issue in an Islamic state and see what will become of them
Fyo
April 13, 2013 at 6:45 am
@ janet c, were you born from a gay or lesbian couple. just think through if your father had married a fellow man before you were born were u going to be born or u have heard somewhere a man with a natural uterus. Tell me did u suck from the breast of your father when you were born.
Trywell Chifita
April 13, 2013 at 10:53 am
Thieves, prostitutes, murderers, paedophiles, rapists, the list is endless ahve been in existence from time immemorial so is homosexuality. Now what is so special about being gay and it being more of a human rights issue than all those vices listed above. A mad person killed a man with a knife in Kitwe, this person if he did not die from beatings, he was going to be confined for the safety of others because he is kokai. So are gay people they are supposed to be confined and loved from the confinement until they are rehabilitated. The truth about homosexuals is that they are sex pervets. Their expression of being gay is through the action of sex. So they are a danger to the children around them. Am sure you have all the stories from the catholic sexual abuse. It is the children who have been abused when those priests knew very well that their fellow adult priests are gay. So if you allow these so called human rights, it is the children we are putting in danger. This behaviour which cannot bw found among animals should not be allowed in Zambia, because we are not America, Zambia is not Europe, Zambia is not whatever but it Zambia governed by Zambians. No to homosexuals, No to lesbians but yes to treatment to homosexuals and lesbians and casting demons that have invaded their lives.
Trywell Chifita
April 13, 2013 at 10:55 am
Can you imagine, when we as Zambians agreed to be called a christian nation, some chaps started fighting it to pave way for homosexuals but they have hit a road block. Jesus Christ is powerful. No homosexuals, no adulterly all you need is to repent from your sins and you will be clean.
OSMORE
April 13, 2013 at 12:56 pm
Gayism is demon possesion no more no less. No matter how you try to justify it.Even thieves have a craving to steal.So are prostitutes,wicthes and wizards and the like in deir area of demon possesion. De West are simply possesed nd need deliverance.
OSMORE
April 13, 2013 at 1:23 pm
IT IS STUPIDITY OF THE HIGHEST ORDER TO THINK WHATEVER IS FROM THE WEST IS RIGHT. IN THIS TIME AND AGE U THINK THAT WAY?GAYISM IS SATANISM AND THOSE IN IT ARE UNDER THE DELUSION OF THE DEVIL. HOWEVER,WE MUST FEEL 4 THEM AS WE DO WITH OTHERS.