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‘She Milked Me, Beats Me Like Child’
BY NOMSA NKANA
A LUSAKA man lamented to the boma court how his wife, besides milking him of his terminal benefits, also beats him up like a child.
Lameck Njobvu, 45, of Garden told the court that when he received his terminal benefits, his wife, Grace Lungu, suggested that they invest in a salon.
The case was adjourned to April 15, awaiting Njobvu’s payment of dowry.
He said after Lungu operated the business for some time, he asked her how it was fairing and she said it wasn’t doing fine but after a while, she bought a Toyota Corolla.
Njobvu said she heard from someone that she had bought a plot but she did not inform him about it.
He said Lungu opened a number of accounts but he was not even a signatory yet he was supposed to be a director in their business.
Njobvu told the court that Lungu began to disrespect him by coming home late, around midnight or 04:30 hours.
He told the packed courtroom that Lungu has reduced him to a house-boy who sweeps the house, cooks for the family, bathes the children and does the laundry including her dirty underwear.
At this point, Njobvu produced pictures that showed a high heap of Lungu’s underpants which he said she’s lazy to wash.
“As if to add more salt to my wounds, your honour, this lady is so violent that she beats me up. Her violence is such that one day while drunk, she punched on one of house windows leaving a blood strain on the pane and wall,” he said.
An emotional Njobvu whose voice was breaking as he spoke also told the court that Lungu bought the house they’ve been renting but she refuses to show him the title deeds.
Njobvu told the court that he wants a 50 percent share of their property.
He said the problem with Lungu is that she interacts with young single ladies who give her bad advice.
Njobvu said Lungu has now moved from their bedroom and left him to share the bed with their young son.
And in her statement, Lungu told the court that Njobvu gave her KR12,000 and not KR16,000 as he purported.
She said when Njobvu started working; he was not giving her any money to run the home.
Lungu said she bought everything for the home while Njobvu took a laid back position.
She said she has been open with Njobvu over the property she has acquired by showing him the plot and the ATM cards she has.
Lungu said when Njobvu had the opportunity to buy their house, he refused, saying he had no money and as such she sold their plot and the Corolla to buy it.
“He is aware of all my transactions but I can’t understand why he is denying everything right now,” she said.
She also said their problems have also been compounded by the fact that Njobvu had no children from his previous marriage and now doubts if the children he has with Lungu are really his.
Justice Namangala adjourned the matter, saying she would only pass judgment after Njobvu pays dowry.
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Bemba girl
April 23, 2013 at 12:14 pm
Elephant Njovu, ulicipuba? How can a woman beat you up like a child. Even speaking emotionally in court, atase, ifibaume fyaku eastern province fipuba mostly. Lungu, keep beating this so called man. There are a lot of us women in the world, why not just move on. Ulecinyela mwandi Lungu.
matilda
April 23, 2013 at 12:30 pm
Kuchuma nga chatumpa,i wish i can have one to be hitting.Kukututula nomwinko nga watumpa,zambian men need a wake up call!
ABENA CHILE
April 23, 2013 at 11:49 pm
……Kukututula nomwinko nga watumpa….. Made my night indeed, have laaughed my lungs out. Atleast no woman can beat me!!!!!!!
real man
April 23, 2013 at 1:02 pm
A woman can never beat me no matter how tough or big she is not even the retired Esther Phiri nangu ka Catherine, chi Njovu ndiwe chi mental, atase u r embarassing the male fog.
May the court disolve dis mariage with imediate affect 2 save dis ****** man’s Arss.
abavelevele
April 23, 2013 at 1:48 pm
no comment bro,keep hanging and give that woman of yours to be beating you.WAKE UP MAN.
ntomba ndeya
April 23, 2013 at 1:51 pm
Bemba girl na ka Matilda get married to me and you will never have any energy left each morning to beat me because nkalamitomba saaana! Ukunyengela kumo namukanwa and winding up neyakumbuyo. Try me you will never regret. For those guys the court shud divorce them
Mundia M
April 24, 2013 at 2:54 pm
Awe walipena!
Mundia M
April 24, 2013 at 3:05 pm
Iyee mweo a Phiri ni cizendo!!! How can you allow a woman to intimidate you in this manner? Neo nelepela!
DangerMan
April 23, 2013 at 2:38 pm
Most of the women are like that. Especially if they are into too much functions and consume a lot of alcohol! They will milk you and leave you to dry. Worse still, and “beat you up!” Lol!!!
CALLED WISE
April 23, 2013 at 2:58 pm
DEAR JUDGE,
PULL THE PLUG!
MY QUOTE:’A WOMAN IS THE PARADISE OF EYES,THE MASTER OF WALLET AND THE CELL OF MAN’S SOUL’
MR NDJOVU WILL AGREE TO THIS.
bm
April 23, 2013 at 3:25 pm
lungu ni ule,njovu ndiwe chipuba.bemba gal and matilda muli finangwa,ntomba ndeya uli tole sana makaka z dat wat o u cn say.court finish dis marriage manje manje so
Bemba girl
April 23, 2013 at 3:32 pm
@bm, icaume ngacapwalala ukucililafye indalama noku cipuma nabikapo capya. Kabili cipuba. That is why the ‘wife’ did what she did to him. True let the court dissolve this marriage because Lungu is a genius be married to this nicompomp of a man. Atase, I still think he is not a man but a ‘man’ with female hormones of a retard.
Zebige
April 23, 2013 at 4:49 pm
But ba Njobvu.Mawe ! Wemwaume balekulibula ? We are in the last days.Lol
bm
April 23, 2013 at 4:57 pm
i think njovu wa-kachasu sana,alanwa sana bomu kachasu no.1 and some local wine,ama-wiskey.ki.ki.ki.ki dats y bamulibwila kwi ule lyakwe.
moneytree
April 23, 2013 at 5:13 pm
I’m also looking for a ZAMBIAN “houseboy” to get married to. I’ve got enough money for a LUXURIOUS LIFE, now I want to spend the rest of my years in Zambia after years and years of making money abroad.
Uwakwamununga
April 23, 2013 at 6:15 pm
ISA!
by umwana waku Lwansase uwatumplwamocha
April 23, 2013 at 10:49 pm
Uleposanenhsita am read to receive your call
CALLED WISE
April 24, 2013 at 6:51 am
CONGRATS TO ALL PARTIES THAT PARTICIPATED IN KAPHIRI BY ELECTION.CONGRATS TO THE WINNER’PF’.
WHAT NEXT NOW?
dre
April 24, 2013 at 8:15 am
I also used to wonder how a woman can beat a man till i found out that those women who beat men are demon possessed .They have a spiritual husband which does not want them to get married hence you find these women have power to even beat up men.
Mulundu
April 24, 2013 at 8:33 am
Why beat your husband or indeed wife? these people do they understand what marriage is! Marriage is LOVE. Anyway it depends on where and how they met, is it in the bar, church, wedding etc.
mwewa
April 24, 2013 at 9:30 am
too bad for you man! i think govt shud also open up centres where men who are abused shud air their grievances!
NGAIWE
April 24, 2013 at 12:03 pm
MANY MEN ARE BEATEN VERBALLY BY WOMEN. WOMEN CAN TALK BADLY AND INTIMIDATE EVEN A MAN EVERYONE FEARS IN THE STREET.
LIMBI BA LIMULISHA KA MALENGENYA LIZARD BLUE MUTWE.
YOU HOW IMWE MWEKU EASTERN MWABA, BAD IN BED BUT ALSO PAKAMWA SO EVEN BEATEN REMEMBER SECRET NIKU BED.
NGAIWE
April 24, 2013 at 12:05 pm
MANY MEN ARE BEATEN VERBALLY BY WOMEN. WOMEN CAN TALK BADLY AND INTIMIDATE EVEN A MAN EVERYONE FEARS IN THE STREET.
LIMBI BA LIMULISHA KA MALENGENYA LIZARD BLUE MUTWE.
YOU KNOW HOW IMWE BANAKASHI BAKU EASTERN MWABA, BAD IN BED BUT ALSO PAKAMWA SO EVEN BEATEN REMEMBER SECRET NIKU BED.
ABBY
April 24, 2013 at 3:50 pm
U PIPO….MAYBE HE JUST CHOSE NOT TO HIT HER BACK….