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She Refuses To Shave Me, Husband Tells court
A 38-year-old man told the Lusaka boma court that he was ready to divorce his wife for failing to perform her duty of shaving him.
Kennedy Banda of Mtendere told senior court magistrates Hilda Chonya and Ackim Phiri that he has taken to shaving himself even though he is a married man because his wife, Naomi Chisenge, 33, was lazy.
This was in a case in which Chisenge also of Mtendere sued Banda for divorce. The two got married in 2011 and have one child. However, Banda has five children from his previous two marriages while Chisenge has one from her previous marriage.
But Chisenge told the court that she opted to stop shaving him because he told her that he would never make love to her as long as his father was dead.
In his statement, Banda told the court that Chisenge was also lazy in the bedroom, adding that she lay like a log when making love.
“I have to beg her to have sex with me yet she is not even good in bed. She is lousy and does not know anything about satisfying a man like me. I had sent her back to ‘Alangizi’ (traditonal counsellors) for training but I have since changed my mind about reconciling with her,” he said.
Banda said the other problem was that he did not trust Chisenge, whom he suspected of having a relationship with her former husband. He said Chisenge was also fond of drinking alcohol with neighbours.
“I know I am a jealous man but she has given me reasons. That is why I beat her sometimes because I do not want other men admiring her,” he said.
In her statement, Chisenge told the court she stopped shaving him because he wants to reconcile with his second wife.
She complained that Banda did not respect her as his wife and would usually scold her in front of his family telling them that she was not good in bed.
“He does not respect me as his wife. He treats me worse than he treats his nephew usually scolding us together and demeaning me about my bedroom tactics which he says are lousy.
And even in situations where we argue, he prefers to starve us and sometimes beats me in front of his children to disgrace me,” she said.
The court adjourned judgment.
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iwe
April 30, 2013 at 10:07 am
some stories awe mwe,muletushikula fwebambi plizzzzz.find better stories for this site ba tumfweko
boastful Banda
April 30, 2013 at 10:47 am
fipube ifi….amaso amaso..complaining..why not clean yourself if she is not doing it..uli wandotifye naiwe wine…alaaaah!
divorcee
April 30, 2013 at 11:03 am
Atase ifibaume fyaku Eastern province ifingi fyalitumpa. Doesn’t this Banda man have hands to shave his smelly pubic hair? Atase ci Banda, uleibeya fye. gone are the days when one should be handling another’s private parts in the name of cleaning him. Mwandi Chisenge, leave this ci man, after all he has too many children. Let him find someone else or go back to his vomit of the previous wife. I am shingo-fli-tu-mingo, emulate me and will never regret.
abene bansamba
April 30, 2013 at 11:28 am
Iwe ci Banda you a fool.what would you do if your wife was out for some months?would you just let the simber glass overrun the field?uli musalifye wecipubawe.
lolo
April 30, 2013 at 12:34 pm
Imwe bantu,when are u going to respect marriages,sure u got married recently n u are now demanding a divorce for petty reasons,no wornder marriages have lost meaning in this error,coz even those still in marriages,their marriages are that u can’t even admire,men are sleeping around lyk a horny dogs,its jx that our women are realy strong other wise I personally can’t mannage, O Jah! This is realy the end of the world
Democrat
April 30, 2013 at 12:38 pm
yaaaaa!!!!! ilyashi lya mu local court awe sure. Banda, ………………………..
Mav
April 30, 2013 at 1:10 pm
Tradition is tradition learn to preserv culture
chileshe
April 30, 2013 at 1:29 pm
why are you jealousy of her. when you say she is lazy and lousy? leave her alone and find another barber in town. let her come and mingle with me i will teach her everything.
good old days
April 30, 2013 at 1:30 pm
Let the grass grow till it comes out of your trousers through the lower ends
nkamu
May 1, 2013 at 11:18 am
Good old days,ala wandepulee mbafu kukuseka,taumfwa.
cuty
April 30, 2013 at 1:51 pm
wechipuba chamwaume iwe! ULICHITONGA?
mail
April 30, 2013 at 2:00 pm
THIS IS WHY I ALWAYS SAY THIS COUNTRY IS RUN BY PROS……. FOOLS, because they cant stop rubbish comments, we have no respect for our selves.
KA GELO
April 30, 2013 at 2:51 pm
Just shut up iwe ci mail. You sound like the likes of Banda. Just as someone has said, go and find yourself a barber in town, there are so many of them itching for customers. Ataseeee!!!!
bm
April 30, 2013 at 4:15 pm
ha!ha!ha! bt some tradional practices r jst too much.why cnt sam1 clean himself sure?tel traditional elders wat z de meaning of de wife shaving de husband?
Johnson
April 30, 2013 at 4:30 pm
a Banda. I think you are the one who is lousy. Can you sebanya your wife like that. Teach her
Real Bwalya
April 30, 2013 at 7:13 pm
Kaibeye. Utuleza twaliba improved nomba.
khunga
April 30, 2013 at 8:09 pm
useless fool u cant even clean yourself.
mm
April 30, 2013 at 8:35 pm
Chi banda iwe waba ama shinsha,kaibeye fye
Great zakelo
April 30, 2013 at 8:37 pm
Banda,kongawaligela
ADIABATIC
April 30, 2013 at 11:07 pm
IT’S JUST USELESS AND UTTER FOOLISHNESS TO MARRY NOWADAYS. GUYS, JUST STAY SINGLE AND ALL THESE ISSUES WILL BE KEPT AT BAY. IF POSSIBLE, CONTRACTS SHOULD BE THE IN THING TO SOLVE ALL THESE PROBLEMS. 2 TO 3 YEAR LOVE CONTRACTS WOULD MAKE SENSE.
aNgoni Ngao Ngao
April 30, 2013 at 11:14 pm
You un cultured Bembas, let us be! It is the job of the woman kuchosa mabvuzi. It is not our fault that your monkey eating tribe doesn’t have mwambo. As for us we will continue kugelana mabvuzi
Real Bwalya
May 1, 2013 at 5:27 am
Chopeti! Tulezala tuli namatenda nowadays Mufuna kufera pamodzi? Chopeti! Mphudzila ko nafuti kuba bemba ba nzelu. the updated ones! Adzatsunga muzake ni ndami muka mwalira montse?
Dis language is daunting writing it. But boys, it wasn’t enough chasing you over the hills. This time we will make sure you are into Malabi.
Real Bwalya
May 1, 2013 at 5:32 am
Udziwa kumene kuyenda mudzako? Basikana ba funta zaka zino. Constantly kuma kitchen party, kitchen party ma card mbwee. Matrikisi! Unga mugwire musikana iwe ka angoni-ngao-ngao?
Request muntanga
April 30, 2013 at 11:15 pm
Yaba!
Request muntanga
April 30, 2013 at 11:21 pm
Imwe. Stop insulting the guy. Its nomal even my party presdnt hakainde he dznt shave
Charles
May 1, 2013 at 5:20 am
oh!
Marriage Counsellor
May 1, 2013 at 12:01 am
Banda is right. Who wants to marry a log? Only a Bemba or a tonga I think. Next time iwe Banda get yourself a wife from the following: Tumbuka, Nsenga, Lamba, Luvale, Kaonde. And your nights will brighten up.
Charles
May 1, 2013 at 5:19 am
I have a log too. She is sleeping and snoring now. Ain’t fan in doing it. You can simply pop your heart in trying to force matters! Let her sleep as long as she wants! She wants to blame you for concluding your assignment early whislt she does nothing. Outsiders can take you for nearly half a day giving your heart a comfortable pace all the time! No stressing!
Some get even mad at it without actually entering them – so hypersensitive an great! Now… since you have metioned these other tribes, I will address that issue pronto! Or, is there someone on this blog?.
MAFUPA YOKOYOKO
May 1, 2013 at 1:34 am
Banda schopeti kamani beya ifimaso fyobe! mmhh obviously filanunka thats y wife alichita refuse ukufibeya. Wilachibeko mwandi chafiko… Grow up man, we are not in the stone age!!!!
mable
May 1, 2013 at 3:36 am
imwe bantu fwebaishiba ukuchita ni fwebo asenga tulibanakashi..tulachita umwaume nokumonka ichikala bwino blowjob elo ukumwingisha,mukati elyo ichinyo chamonka ..anyway that lady needs some skills in bed she needs to come for lessons..men are like babies they can easily be manipulated by other women who are sexually good in bed..chisenge u dnt lay in bed like a log..gal u need to stepup the game..my man is th happiestvman on earth sexually..ndamuchita
Anyanokunya kukulowa..nanwa na sperm yakwe kaili bonse we are healthy…
Charles
May 1, 2013 at 5:08 am
How can I find you?
pay hay
May 1, 2013 at 5:45 am
Ichaume icho chibwa sana. U treat yo wife like a rug and expect her to love u. ****** fool.
Kapros
May 1, 2013 at 8:41 am
I we chi Banda just go ku Baber shop okay.Lazy Chap.
madamy
May 1, 2013 at 8:58 am
@ mable washaina mwana, my man cries when ever he;s on top of me and when my tyme come to f*****k him oh it’s haeven on earth. ladies it’s important to know how to entertain yo man in bed
Danje Lacky
May 1, 2013 at 9:26 am
Just go and get married again and again etc. To you two this is just a game
Airwaves
May 1, 2013 at 9:48 am
This guy is a fool, how can you feel jelas for a person who you think does not perform am surprised bushe ifyaume fimo fyaba shani kanshi wechichendewe nowander you can’t keep a marriage
iye
May 1, 2013 at 11:28 am
@ madamy AND mable,are you here to advertise yourselves?i thought u are married women and should respect yourselves not telling the general public what u do with your husbands in beds.bad manners.
iwe
May 1, 2013 at 11:31 am
ur right,these two are not natured,ma hule fye,i would rather marry a woman whose bad in bed and keeps what happens there a secret than marry a good woman in bed and tells the general public what happens there.
awe
May 1, 2013 at 11:32 am
@mable nomunobe mukule mumano we,are u sure ur married women or maybe ur just cheap prosititutes?
nkamu
May 1, 2013 at 11:32 am
uwawa tabula kabepesho ci Banda iwe ngataulefwaya umwanakashi kumwebafye apyamo than umusebanya ati log…i can also do it nganshilefwaya.naiwe cisenge ubupuba ngawalandile ati tacima icakwe kuti nalafwekula umungulu kwati ndishilu elyo tapela ulupiya kuti nafunya kwisa ulwakushita akarezo? wasulanako.
mable
May 1, 2013 at 5:42 pm
Iye na awe..im not advertising myself..im just being real..i didnt ask anyone to know my where abts or **** with me..this is not an advertisement…im happily married…freedom of speech..maddamy sweetie thats the way to go lets continue making our men happy..wink
Counselled Eastern Woman
May 1, 2013 at 9:28 pm
Whatever the smells-actually aroma-from my husband I will love them. Shaving your partner is part of the sex act. Utulo ifibabemba! I would jump at the request to shave my partner.