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‘My Wife is Beautiful and Loving But I’m Still Cheating On Her’
This is my real story people and I hope the mature men reading this can help me.
I am married to the most wonderful woman in the world. We dated for four years before I married her three years ago. We are blessed with two kids and hoping to have more in the future.
My wife is simply the best. She’s caring, honest, giving, very respectful and responsible and on top of all that she’s drop dead gorgeous. I wish I could show you her pictures to see but that would give me away.
I couldn’t have asked for a better woman. In fact my biggest prayer is when I return to this planet in another lifetime, I hope I marry the same woman. The only issue is that I am not faithful to her.
I actually have never been faithful to any woman in my life but I feel this woman deserves that from me, I just don’t know how to give her that. I’ve been with several women since we got together 7 years ago but lately I’ve been feeling she deserves more from me.
I want to be faithful to her but I just don’t know how to. I promised myself that 2013 was going to be different and I stayed faithful until last month. I’ve been with two other women since then, but God knows I want to stop. How do I break away from this behaviour? How do I stop myself from wanting and sleeping with other women?
Serious advice only please.
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nature
May 23, 2013 at 6:02 am
pliz give yo wife kamutombe akanya nokunya its like ure tired of seen her,patu ngunamutomba chapwa nishi iwe tawaka tombapo nishi ichinyo chakula sana ninebo mutonmbela kunya nangula pwanya denene
Kombwe
May 23, 2013 at 4:05 pm
You are sick
Lady P
May 29, 2013 at 1:50 pm
stop insulting please!!!!!!!!!!!
CB Dweller
May 23, 2013 at 9:45 am
Dear writer, thank you for being honest and for acknowledging that what you are doing is not right. My advise is that you need God’s help, these are some of the habits which we cannot stop with our own efforts. Once the fear of God is in you, you will hate sin and naturally the habit will stop. One of the consequences of that act is given in Proverbs 5:3-11. It sounds too long but I want to show you how you are punching holes in your own wallet.
You are already on your way to recovery. Am praying for you and for your wife.
Kombwe
May 23, 2013 at 4:08 pm
You should have offered your contact so that you can help him find the needed spiritual support. He may be too guilty or ashamed to approach any man of God.
Bernard
May 23, 2013 at 11:13 am
This is a problem men have including me,they tend to do ****** things especially when they are in love with an honest,loving and beautiful woman.you are not the only one my bro.Maybe man was made to be a hunter.safuna vakufakufa kale.besides,women have stopped saying no to any sexual advance.This is My obsevation and experience.
michelle
May 23, 2013 at 11:41 am
u seriously need players i feel for your wife
prissy kays
May 23, 2013 at 11:44 am
my advise to you my brother is …..seek GOD first and all shall be added unto you.its never too late to pray…….
dodo
May 23, 2013 at 3:20 pm
we are in the same boots my brother!!! wat can we do?
Mental Disorder
May 23, 2013 at 3:25 pm
Have also been having the same problem , i even had to see a shrink over this shit .
The final analysis is that u and i should stop seeing woman as sex objects ,thats why every time you see a woman ,u are always thinking Banging her i mean every nice girl that pass by .1. Stop watching porn on your phone 2.stop communicating to all the bi@%ches that you have shaged before ,they will only entice you for a shag .3.Clean out your Facebook friend list and delete all the bang-able chicks numbers ..4 Stop hugging around with friends who are doing the same infidelity crap.5. Find a God fearing friend .6 Talk to wife and tell her sex twice a week is not cutting for you ,u need more.and make love early in the morning that will put same sex thoughts off through the day .
If you can’t do all of these continue screwing around and pray you are not caught . Gud day
Cycle Mata
May 23, 2013 at 4:59 pm
i just did….may be your advice will help.
vision
May 24, 2013 at 8:23 am
Great advice! Very practical and workable. This is good for all Johns to follow.
dodo
May 23, 2013 at 3:26 pm
I think CB dweller is write to seek the presence of God first ……prayer and fasting is the solution…as well as confesing to our wives about the challenge we are going through so that they may remmember us in prayers as well..they will understand..Good advise is it?
bonyface
May 23, 2013 at 3:32 pm
Ba nature sure is this an advise? seek God first then come back and give advise.
Brother with this problem, there is nothing impossible with a willing heart you can change only if you are serous with what you do in life and above all depend on God for Good results.
sir
May 23, 2013 at 5:17 pm
The Man need spiritual help, his possessed with an evil spiritual wife. Were he can’t stay or see any woman and this is very dangerous. My man be very prayerful and reject this evil spirit
Biggie
May 23, 2013 at 6:40 pm
The most important issue is that you have realized that what u are doing is wrong. Do not mind the sins u have been committing against yo wife. Only if u subject them to the Lord a way out will be found. You know what if a feeling of guilty exists in you it simply means that God has not given up with you. I suggest u share this to yo wife if she is understanding as u put it so that she can put u in prayers. You must as well understand that it could be her spirituality which is keeping the spirits working in you to be unease. Spend much of yo time at church if u were not praying
mumbulu
May 23, 2013 at 7:06 pm
Ala tulibengi…!!!God help us
Narrant
May 23, 2013 at 7:10 pm
Sex is simply in your mind. You just have to will yourself against it. Sex is not compulsory.There are no hard and fast rules about getting rid of the weakness, apart from making a determined and binding decision.
roundandbrown
May 23, 2013 at 7:16 pm
i think i too have the same problem, only am not married. I think i am addicted to sex and it keeps coming so easily. I feel like i cant live without it. every woman I see i imagine doing her, and I mean every, guys…is it just me? do you other guys also feel the same way? maybe its because of women’s dressing these days. i have no one to talk to, i mean, who can i tell? who can help me honestly without them going off gossiping? I think sex is too easy this age and I understand the writers problem.
Pidolix
May 24, 2013 at 12:16 am
My friend I want to first say you are brave to reveal your weakness too. Probably this is the same problem that the writer had before his marriage. You will too face the same problem. Find some good counselors to help you. all this needs counseling I wish I knew you. The best way you can help yourself is to train you mind to concentrate on clean things. By doing what you are doing you are only harming yourself, you are robbing yourself the enjoyment of sex once you get married. Try to think about other lovely things in your life. imagine yourself catching HIV AIDS. The most important thing is to think about your future in eternity. When you are dead where will you go?
Mental Disorder
May 24, 2013 at 9:33 am
Have also been having the same problem , i even had to see a shrink over this shit .
The final analysis is that u and i should stop seeing woman as sex objects ,thats why every time you see a woman ,u are always thinking Banging her i mean every nice girl that pass by .1. Stop watching porn on your phone 2.stop communicating to all the bi@%ches that you have shaged before ,they will only entice you for a shag .3.Clean out your Facebook friend list and delete all the bang-able chicks numbers ..4 Stop hugging around with friends who are also screwing around .5. Find a God fearing friend .6 Get married …. stop out sourcing ,you need in-house sex . Then pray to God to give u the strength to abide to the list above .
. Gud day
Gettolink
May 23, 2013 at 8:12 pm
Nice man, i like you. Lesa achindikwe and may he bless you 4 revealing your stuupidity.
nature
May 23, 2013 at 9:45 pm
am sorry guys for my wrong advise,thanx ba bonyface for advise.let us help this man in prayers
Pidolix
May 23, 2013 at 11:36 pm
You are really ****** you mean you can not tell serious matters from jocks? is there any seriousness in your head? I know this will not mean anything to you because you are sick.
Pidolix
May 23, 2013 at 11:38 pm
This is a reply to nature
Pidolix
May 24, 2013 at 12:00 am
Now to help you my friend. First I would say you need counseling. This is not an easy problem to overcome. If you were a Christian (Born again)I would have given you a simple formula. I feel so bad to learn that your wife is so good and I believe that she trusts you so much. The easiest advice I can give to you is i) to keep a distance from the opposite sex ii) if you drink minimize on that, possibly stop because when you are drunk; sense of judgement is affected. iii) spend plenty of time with your wife and children take them out to places often. iv)have your wife get a very beautiful photo which you must be moving with in your wallet. Any time you are tempted look at it and remember she loves you and she is waiting for you innocently and lovingly looking forward to seeing you back home. v)Remember there is HIV AIDS and you have three children you need to educate. We can all easily do that but my mind tells me it is wrong. (REMEMBER YOU ASKED FOR ADVICE I HOPE I HAVE GIVEN IT)it is now up to you to discipline yourself and try and follow these steps.
Servant of God
May 24, 2013 at 8:20 am
A problem identified and acknowledged is half solved.The fact that you are willing to change simply means you are on your way to finding the solution.Without doubt,this is a spiritual issue and cannot be solved physically.All you need is deliverance.Please find a living church anywhere near your home and go there for prayers.If you are economically sound,please take a flight and go to Synagogue church of all nation(SCOAN) in Nigeria.If you are really serious to find a solution please visit thsi website address and start watching in order for you to understand what am talking about.(www.emmanuel.tv.Wish you all the best as your solution has come!
bupe
May 24, 2013 at 1:49 pm
FAITHFULNES PAYS AND NO WONDER YOU ARE FEELING GUILTY BECAUSE SHES BEEN NICE TO YOU BUT ASK FOR HELP FROM GOD BECAUSE SHE DESERVES THE BEST AND SHES RARE TO FIND. HOLD HER WITH BOTH HANDS BECAUSE MANY PEOPLE ARE PRAYING TO HAVE HER IN THEIR LIVES.
identity 2
May 24, 2013 at 2:16 pm
THAT MAKES 8 OF US. IMWE SURE AS I WRITE……ndelasa ka NIPA student pa Lodge. she can shake really ore that my wife though am using a condom. Can i remove it i do live?
identity 2
May 24, 2013 at 2:18 pm
THAT MAKES 8 OF US. IMWE SURE AS I WRITE……ndelasa ka NIPA student pa Lodge. she can shake really more than my wife though am using a condom. Can i remove it i do live?
SCONE13
May 24, 2013 at 2:53 pm
ala tufilwafye ukulanda,twalipaka.but your courage to share it is cadinal and a path to stoping.have courage my brother ,change and u are changing
Mojax
May 25, 2013 at 9:17 am
Sky news,u r not th only1 hu knw hw to insult,u think u r being a gangster?infact insult harder.u wil get ther.atleast he is man enough to look4 help.if u hav nt found a faithful woman so wat?wat woman wud wnt to listen to insults like tht?u nid rehabilitation.i dare u to insult me,u r a genius so i knw n m evn expecting yo tuma insults.lets c hw hard u hit.
bm
May 25, 2013 at 1:54 pm
its gud dat u luv yo wyf,dats the starting point.secondly for u to stop,do involve yourself in various activities lyk sport,maybe @ church etc.insure dat ur always with yo family.ul manage my dear,weve all gone thru diz.good luck.
rexidoo
May 26, 2013 at 8:51 pm
for me I was very faithful to my beautiful wife… I did all what a good man can do to a lovely wife, now the problem came when I discovered she was being banged by a religious guy at her work place, believe me I saw it…so I stopped being faithful even when she has repented ,i have been screwing good time,i seem not stop soon, what can I do?
suzyo tembo
May 27, 2013 at 1:09 pm
stop seeing women as sexual objects bro and u need prayers.
mj
May 29, 2013 at 9:02 am
ur an *****.wait til she starts cheating aswell ukachula
Lady P
May 29, 2013 at 1:37 pm
Thanks for your honesty. Pray to God for help do you have Jehovahś Witnesses in your area? if so ask them for a bible study it will definitely help you it has for me. all the best
lucy.mwape
May 30, 2013 at 11:44 am
g0..f0r…prayer
samuel
June 4, 2013 at 2:57 pm
i am also experiencing the some stuation. mind you what you are in, you are not alone.
GIDMAN
June 5, 2013 at 11:03 am
THE FIRST THING LUK FOR JESUS U ALONE JUST THE WAY U ARE WEN U FIND HIM TELL HIM WAT U WANT HIM TO DO TO U IGNORING THAT HE KNOWS U BETTER,U WILL FIND YO SELF MINISTERING TO THE SAME PIPO U USED TO HAVE SEX WITH EVERYTIME WEN U MEET,READ MATHEW 6:33 JOHN 3:1 ROMANS 12:1,GOD IS WAITING FOR YO DECISION BROTHER,BUT FOR MORE CONTACT ME ON,[email protected]