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‘My Wife is Beautiful and Loving But I’m Still Cheating On Her’
This is my real story people and I hope the mature men reading this can help me.
I am married to the most wonderful woman in the world. We dated for four years before I married her three years ago. We are blessed with two kids and hoping to have more in the future.
My wife is simply the best. She’s caring, honest, giving, very respectful and responsible and on top of all that she’s drop dead gorgeous. I wish I could show you her pictures to see but that would give me away.
I couldn’t have asked for a better woman. In fact my biggest prayer is when I return to this planet in another lifetime, I hope I marry the same woman. The only issue is that I am not faithful to her.
I actually have never been faithful to any woman in my life but I feel this woman deserves that from me, I just don’t know how to give her that. I’ve been with several women since we got together 7 years ago but lately I’ve been feeling she deserves more from me.
I want to be faithful to her but I just don’t know how to. I promised myself that 2013 was going to be different and I stayed faithful until last month. I’ve been with two other women since then, but God knows I want to stop. How do I break away from this behaviour? How do I stop myself from wanting and sleeping with other women?
Serious advice only please.
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Cycle Mata
May 22, 2013 at 9:30 am
This makes the two of us! advice bloggers…..
MG
May 22, 2013 at 12:50 pm
3 of us!!!
Chang Sam
May 22, 2013 at 1:55 pm
Actually 4 of US( even me).
HNIC
May 22, 2013 at 5:06 pm
5 of us gents.
Gilbert Chilala
May 22, 2013 at 6:43 pm
6 of us bane.
Mailon
May 23, 2013 at 8:19 am
Fikala fyenu
Comfort
May 22, 2013 at 9:37 am
Well everytym u’re doin sum otha chic-picture ur wife in da same position wit anotha man,makin da same noises u do.
otherwise u hav said it urself dat u cant stop so js continu n leav us to read more on real MEN!! who ar serious wit their lives n trully luv n respct their women.
kakolwe
May 22, 2013 at 9:39 am
It beats me that she’s all you crave for & yet you still poke around. Try this. It works. Tell her your weakness, you’ll surely stop. If she leaves you, it will still be your HARVEST!
Chief
May 22, 2013 at 9:40 am
My man the only thing how ask you is,please you need spiritual help,make your marrige work and enjoy.I wish you all the best and God help you.
ggg
May 22, 2013 at 11:10 am
Why do many people think “how” and “I’ll” are the same thing?
Cycle Mata
May 22, 2013 at 3:33 pm
Bukopo fye @ggg; How can I WILL,I SHALL and HOW be the same?
Faithfull
May 22, 2013 at 9:41 am
You need deliverance. When a problem gets beyond your control, then you need an extra force of power, becouse what controls you is beyond human effort.Find a christian person ( pastor ) who can take you through. It will be a process and you will have to do a lot of sacrifices. Go for change brother… the devil must not destroy you. Rebuild your spirit. Presently you are a dead thing but you have chance to resurrect.
kakolwe
May 22, 2013 at 9:43 am
Better still, as comfort says, have someone bonk your wife everytime you bonk other women.
man mule
May 22, 2013 at 9:44 am
this is serious my friend honest even me I am in the same problem.Let us pray hard to the Almighty GOD to solve our problem.
the 3ye
May 22, 2013 at 12:01 pm
Lol…yaba
zambian
May 22, 2013 at 9:44 am
you are not alone in this strugle to do good,many men are unfaithful so are some women.First identify your weakness and ask the power of God to interven on your behalf.Repent and ask jesus to come in your life ’cause lucifer is the father of all sins.Its possible to be faithful to your spouse GOD help and bless u good day.
bosslady
May 22, 2013 at 9:54 am
Chipuba icho!!!
believer 7
May 22, 2013 at 10:07 am
Brother you have the right desire,and God is obligated to meet you in there..hold on dear be on your knees..and He will help you surely.
I hope you i had your number i will surely have called to help you…you also need prayers and deliverance.Come to Christ brother its just a spirit!
I like that my brother God bless you!
Faithfull
May 22, 2013 at 10:13 am
Bottom line you need deliverance becouse you are possesed (controlled ) deliverance will cause you being in control(posseser).
SM
May 22, 2013 at 10:20 am
Youu need to sit down and identify what is wrong with your relationship. Try to identify what gives you the insecurity to sleep with other women. What is it in your past or present that makes it difficult to be faithful? Did you marry her for her looks or are you really in love with the person? Thereafter you need to sit down with your wife and discuss what is missing and work on that. Honesty goes both ways and you have some hard decisions to make.
Dimma
May 22, 2013 at 10:22 am
You say that love your wife quite alright, but I think someone else is living your life.
If you are a conscientious reader I will give you this verse: Matthew 16:18-23 where one minute it is “Upon tis rock, I will build my church.” and the next, it is “get behind me Satan!”; This was being referred to different possessions, but the same person.
GETRUDE
May 22, 2013 at 10:34 am
Dear brother, you need spiritual help. If you do go to church, please ask your Pastor to assist you. If you do not, go to Radio Christian Voice for spiritual halp and counselling. God ordained marriage, allow Him to come into your situation, I am glad you want to stop those wrong tendencies. May God help you.
bana mfumu
May 22, 2013 at 10:40 am
U need prayers and deliverance or else u might lose yo wife. Its very painful 2 be cheated on. Imagine being in her shoes
wina azalila
May 22, 2013 at 10:49 am
Stop clubbing and you need spiritual help. Imagine, picking up all demons from different women and dumping them in her. You are bn very unfair to her.
Mara
May 22, 2013 at 10:54 am
Just confess to God & HE will help you. Good luck..
Mkay
May 22, 2013 at 10:58 am
am worse than you. but i can justify it. married without courting only to find out that she was a lier and unfaithful now she is perfect, but i cheat on her without any guilt. even with her friends
CALLED WISE
May 22, 2013 at 11:00 am
‘CHEATED ONCE,SHAME ON YOU BUT CHEATED TWICE,SHAME ON ME.’
WE JUST HAVE TO STRAIGHTEN AND STRENGHEN OUR OPENESS AND TRUST FOR AN EVER LASTING RELATATIONSHIP.
sky news
May 22, 2013 at 11:23 am
musula wakwanoko
isaac
May 22, 2013 at 11:43 am
Thats addiction in its totality. No man can change that from you its something instinct cause other ladies will still keep on passing before your face. The only Man who can intervene, is the Man uptairs God. Look for serious prayers sooner than later your mind and eyes will be opened and began to realise as if your wife is the only woman and love will be immense.
Honest Opinion
May 22, 2013 at 11:44 am
This is a problem with most addictions. Firstly admit you have a problem and you need help. Secondly find a trustworthy person you can confide in or church. Thirdly, avoid situations that make it easy for you to pick women eg clubbing, alone with women in secluded places etc. Fourthly, think of the consequences of your actions eg disease, divorce, court cases etc and whether sleeping around is worth it. Lastly as a Christian I would advise you to give your life to Christ Jesus and let Him give you power to live a life that pleases God and gives you self control over temptations.
Queen
May 22, 2013 at 11:48 am
Bro, you can’t do the same thing and expect different results. You need to change your life style. Kudos to u though for admitting that you have a problem coz it is d first step to recovery. Good luck!
the 3ye
May 22, 2013 at 11:59 am
Story of my life
bernrd chisanga
May 22, 2013 at 12:04 pm
dear i no u lov yo wife so march but stop from 2day anathing u kill yo self.
Chuma
May 22, 2013 at 12:13 pm
Okay try watching Emmanuel TV this Sunday wait until the mass prayer by man of God TB Joshua, it might be your day. distance is not a barrier.
Mwene mushi
May 22, 2013 at 12:29 pm
@Mkay, You r a fool! How dare u justify your idiotic behavour by blaming your woman. If u were man enough,she wouldnt have to lie n cheat. Bytheway, those kids calling u “daddy” aint yours. U pathetic gud for nothing imbwa. You are a shame to manhood. Also, go for HIV test n youll b suprise that u r a rotten mangro!
shax
May 22, 2013 at 12:41 pm
cheating is inevitable,pipo are made differently and so there is always the need to taste something new,you choose not to agree with this for your own convinience but however way you take it, it Is a FACT
From A True Friend
May 22, 2013 at 12:42 pm
I’m a testimony that Jesus Christ THE ANSWER not only you BUT all of us need. HE is the ONLY SOLUTION I urge you to embrace. Even Apostle Paul identified with your situation in Romans 7:18-25
OK
May 22, 2013 at 12:42 pm
YOU NEED JESUS BROTHER,YOU CANT STOPING BY YOUR SELF, ITS IMPOSSIBLE. YOU DELIVANCE. JESUS LOVES YOU VERY MUCH AND HE WANTS YOU TO STOP THAT EVIL HABIT. ITS ONLY JESUS WHO CAN MAKE YOU STOP NO ONE ELSE.
Jsims
May 22, 2013 at 1:14 pm
Leading Separete Lifestyles After Marriage Syndrome(Leseliams) to be explained later.
Monkey koo
May 22, 2013 at 1:51 pm
You are possed with demons. Go for deliverance i know the devil is using you. such behavoiurs are not nomal. Deliverance my brother is the soulution.
sky news
May 22, 2013 at 2:11 pm
chikala iwe,we r busy looking 4 faithful women and yet u r cheating on yo faithful wife, musula wakwanoko chikala ma ******.
ellie
May 22, 2013 at 7:32 pm
lolest!!!..awe kwena…uv made me laugh…
Bo
May 22, 2013 at 2:36 pm
Go for deliverance in a Bible believing and living church. You can’t stop on your own.
************** *****************
May 22, 2013 at 2:48 pm
Try watching a sunday live service of Emmanuel Television,pray along with the man of God TB Joshua.In fact make Emmanuel Television your daily companion with your bible besides you.Distance is not a barrier,i pray that the power of sin be broken in your marital life.
Alkado Daniel Kapakala
May 22, 2013 at 2:54 pm
Try watching a sunday live service of Emmanuel Television,pray along with the man of God TB Joshua.In fact make Emmanuel Television your daily companion with your bible besides you.Distance is not a barrier,i pray that the power of sin be broken in your marital life.Be rest assured with a changed life.
Abakonzi
May 22, 2013 at 3:03 pm
To begin with,who told U that your wife is the most beautiful woman in the world.How far have U travelled.Such guys behave like this after ka exposure then they begin to notice other ladies.Just stop what U are doing U idoi.t
The Jackal
May 22, 2013 at 3:28 pm
Stop wasting time thinking that someone will think for you and pump some sense in you. The fact is that, your wives are also being screwed by other men. Better off go home straight after work and try spending time with your wives. You know the problem and you know exactly what is expected of you! Wise up! There is definitely some dud doing your wives you guys, you just do not know!
Evelyn Mwamba
May 22, 2013 at 3:43 pm
Turn to God. Invite Jesus in Your life.
billionaire
May 22, 2013 at 4:08 pm
facing that weakness aswell…
WANGU NI WANGU
May 22, 2013 at 4:33 pm
YOU ARE WRONG DUDE…..BELEIVE ME SHE HAS BEEN WITH MORE MEN THAN THE LADIES U TALKING ABOUT
Kokoliko
May 22, 2013 at 4:46 pm
Actually, your wife has known about this for years and that is why she confided in me. I am sorry to say that I have been making sweet love to your wife every time you went to f…k other women. I have been comforting her as she cried about your deceit ! You see I have been looking for such a giving, respectful, considerate and beautiful women all my life ! It hurts me to see her being hurt by you in such a way BUT IAM THERE…and THANKS for having given such a chance to BEHOLD HER once in a while !! I know that she will eventually become MINE soon coz I am a very patient dude ! Oh, and I am hoping that she can have my baby, so that we can have a little life to prove seal our love forever ! I cherish your wife, my secret lover !
mr right
May 22, 2013 at 4:53 pm
wembwa we walamulwalika umukashi obe. pathetic beast
callboy Lusaka
May 22, 2013 at 5:02 pm
Yaba. a very common problem from the time of Kind David. The answer to the problem is simple. Good luck on implementing it!
inzaghi
May 22, 2013 at 5:43 pm
The only solution is not TB Joshua or Christian radio…none of that….but by reading the word of God to help you make the truth your own. It is a shame you doing this to your lovely wife but the most comforting thing I got form you is that you have come to admit that you got a problem…therefore….repent and follow Jesus Christ….He will set you free for life in fact…!!
BASHI MANONE
May 22, 2013 at 6:40 pm
UMWANA TAIPALA
Robinhood
May 22, 2013 at 6:51 pm
I always wonder why men think that when they are cheating on their wives, the same is not happening to them. Very foolish. Just because your wife has never confronted you, do not imagin that she does not know that you are sleeping around.
sexaholic
May 22, 2013 at 7:16 pm
Spirit of lust. U need deliverance! I wish your wife can cheat on u that’s when u will learn a lesson. I end here!
u save me
May 22, 2013 at 8:24 pm
That makes a 7 of us cheating on your wife looks swity but it’s bad, that”s why the say ulg once we marry beautiful once we share
Edwin
May 23, 2013 at 12:06 am
My Bro you need deliverance,no two ways about it.Swallow your pride and seek for prayers.