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Zambian Couples Living Apart Due to Work ‘It is Breaking Family & Marriages Apart’
By Godfrey Katongo
It has been noticed that there has been an increase in numbers of men and women working in different parts of the country as singles. As we may be aware, Zambia is a Christian nation by declaration which should live by the principles of Scripture, tradition and reason.
Inasmuch as we appreciate the PF government and its leadership, there is need for it to seriously attend to this issue.
I would like to find out the government position in consolidating marriages for its employees and those working in private sector but living apart. I am deeply concerned about tormented men and women detatched from their spouses especially those in the education sector, where you find a husband is in Mwinilunga and the wife in Chilubi Island.
I believe, among other duties, it is the responsibility of the government and faith-based organisations to effectively promote peace, reconciliation as well as strenghthening relationships among families and couples.
It is suprising that even the clergy are victims of such a vice and yet, are a conduit to national peace and tranquility. If their spiritual contribution cannot be appreciated now, it would be wrong to need them when it is too late.
We can’t undermine the fact that ‘Families are nation’ and are electorate of the day. As we campaign against vices of corruption, cervical cancer, HIV/AIDS, early marriages and so on, let us also take on board the aspect of building marriages that are locally living far apart due to the nature of work.
My appeal to the government teacher unions, NGOs and other stakeholders is that, together, revisit the policy condition, that seeks to separate couples from their spouses by means of holding on to transfers especially provincial ones and come up with something that would help coulpes enjoy life together.
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on June 28, 2013. Filed under LIFE & STYLE, STYLE.
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truthful
June 28, 2013 at 3:35 pm
filachitika-just wank when u feel the urge, its the safest!
cash money
June 28, 2013 at 3:36 pm
well said
ndolaman
June 28, 2013 at 3:38 pm
Ministry of Education is the worst when it comes to breaking up couples. They are so inconsiderate of what this does to families. This is more with the initial postings and in some situations this is after you send you wife to teacher college then she is posted hundreds of kilometres away from you.
Kwacha-Rebased Lungu
June 28, 2013 at 3:48 pm
When the economy is bad, it affects everything! They ur doing so for survival!!
LAMPARD
June 28, 2013 at 3:57 pm
We need this to change,marreiage should be respcted in all areas.
mwine sister
June 28, 2013 at 4:28 pm
UKUTEMWA SEX Mmmm!
bm
June 28, 2013 at 6:20 pm
awe dis is so unfair,government resolve dis issue wit imediaty effect,marriages shud b considared seriously.hmmm! jst imagin,de husband in choma while de wife in nakonde!lol iliko bad its nt fair.
da bishop
June 28, 2013 at 6:36 pm
This matter is quite sensitive and delicate. The bible echoes on the need to live together as a family. It is not just civil servants who are affected but also mine employees. This is due to the fact that mining activities have shifted to northwestern province. The miners leave their families where they come from and marry prostitutes who they start supporting at the expense of their respective families. This usually leads to poverty back at home forcing the wives to start getting small packs of sugar and some buns from the tuntemba boys to feed the starving children. In the end the tuntemba boys assume the roles of quenching the starved women pelvic fires. Sad indeed.
Dimma
June 28, 2013 at 6:38 pm
Government can not resolve this. This is the only way superiors can get to other people’s wives. What sort of specialization is lucking anywhere in the country?
Seriously, the one who promoted such a marriage breaking vice did not do it in the spirit of family unity and promotion of morals. In short, such can only come from instruments of the dark world.
bm
June 28, 2013 at 6:58 pm
awe mwandi,de wife in shangombo de husband in muchinga province. do samting government.
sim2
June 28, 2013 at 7:23 pm
Those who can’t cope should resign. People are taken to were their services are needed. It seems pipo want a salary without working! While I respect marriage, it shud not be at the xpense of the rural poor
sim2
June 28, 2013 at 7:24 pm
Those who can’t cope should resign. People are taken to were their services are needed. It seems pipo want a salary without working! While I respect marriage, it shud not be at the xpense of the rural poor.
lwansha police
June 28, 2013 at 7:32 pm
@ 2sim y posting de same comment twice?u wil finish de page 4 athers 2 comment.
sim2
June 28, 2013 at 7:44 pm
The only thing the govt must do fo our rural tchers and others is to build decent houses with solar pannels, clinics and passable roads. Our tchers are suffering in the jungles of Zed.@ lwansha police, apologies. Its not me bt the mobile 4n provider to blame. Pliz if u can, delete the comment on my behalf
monica
June 28, 2013 at 8:18 pm
iyo mwalitemwa ukunyengana
nokutombanaa!
makali
June 28, 2013 at 11:01 pm
i lost my marriage becoz my husband went 2 work out of the country. He just abruptly stopped coming home
Sweet & Tight
June 29, 2013 at 11:02 am
I bet he found a beautiful foreign woman. I have watched married men pick up ‘prostitutes’ when they are working away from home… many end up falling in love with the same ladies.
kakolwe
June 29, 2013 at 4:45 am
People apply for jobs where there are vacancies. You ask yo wife to apply for a job in Shakumbila Village as a teacher & cry when she leaves you in Mufulira? Bupuba! If Muf is overpopulated with teachers, ask yo pouse to resign! Wy choose salary over marriage?
Interpol
June 29, 2013 at 10:50 am
This is serious more than u can imagine. Lets air our views to get this thing of the past, marriage is holy and shud be respected @ all cost. Inasmuch as we need to make the ends meet, marriages shuold not suffer. If we achieved liberation from the greedy colonialists, this too we can.
Xandamukeni
June 29, 2013 at 11:09 am
Some miners on the copperbelt have left their families to go and work in Solwezi… Kanshi kuli bana mayo bapa C/belt kuli uku nyenga-nyenga… kaili kuichaila
Mr wise
June 29, 2013 at 11:22 am
@da bishop-’pelvic fires’true that the moment tuntemba boys patches the gap and performs nicely the lady easily replaces her distant husband as a virtual priority and the ka boy as a real priority.And by the time he comes back he ll be welcomed by a pregnancy test which came out positive.
MWANA RB
June 29, 2013 at 12:41 pm
so dat fwebafwaya ababomba ulecitomba ecilekupelako nendalama bakamba kaili ninshi icilume caba ukutali.elo filomfwika bwino ifibomba ukulacilasa.nshakaleke kulacilyapofye!!
Jema
June 29, 2013 at 2:10 pm
You are absolutely right. The Living apart together families as we call them in sociology are a source of concern and need urgent solutions otherwise we are going to plunge our citizens into chaos.The effects of such families can not overemphasized and extend beyond generations.Lets solve this problem people!!!!
CALLED WISE
June 29, 2013 at 5:00 pm
ALL IS SAID THOUGH IN SOFT, SMOOTH, LOW, COLD, WARM, HOT, ROUGH AND TIMID WAYS.
JUST FOR A WEEK A LEFT MY G-FRIEND AND WENT TO EASTERN PROVINCE;
WE BOTH FELT IMPACT.
I WONDER HOW A FULL MONTH COULD HAVE BEEN, ESPECIALL THOSE OF 31 DAYS.