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‘I’m Tired Of Being Treated Like A Maid’
I am staying with my fiancé and his brother who has two kids.
My problem is that my boyfriend does not want his brother to do anything even after eating he cannot tell him to wash his own plate.
I cook,I clean, I do every household chore a woman can do, but the brother does not lift a finger to help.
He brings girls to the house and sleeps with them.
The brother doesn’t say anything but I am talking about someone who doesn’t even know how to buy himself bathing soap.
When I ask my boyfriend if this is how it’s always going to be, allowing his brother to do as he pleases inside the house even after we get married, he just says he doesn’t know.
This is beyond me. I really can’t take it anymore because I too have sisters and brothers, but I can’t allow them to come with their boyfriends or girlfriends in my house that I pay rent for.
Really, this is disrespectful and I’m tired of being treated like a maid. What can I do?
Posted by
nkhuwachi
July 28, 2013 at 12:52 am
Thats just the begining of marriage frustrations and theres very little you can do just soldier on and get married.(when gets married then troubles begin)
Eagle
July 28, 2013 at 1:22 am
Leave and by the way what are you doing in that home. Am sure that brother is also tired of seeing u there
MMD Cadre
July 29, 2013 at 9:26 am
She says she is the one paying for rent, so the intruders should go.
Zimya
July 29, 2013 at 10:14 am
MMD Cadre you are wrong she is simply giving an example of what can not take place in the house she pays rent for and not that she is paying rent in the house she is in hehehehehehehe.
Nyax
July 28, 2013 at 4:43 am
Rubish!! U r staying wth yo fiance but u condemn the brother that he cant hv sex b4 marriage. Wat r u doing wth that guy so called fiance in the same house? Are u nt havin sex b4 mariage? Kikikiki
kachinga
July 28, 2013 at 5:59 am
You are not married so u have no right to complain abt anything. thats y yo boyfriend is not doin anythn abt it.
just for kicks
July 28, 2013 at 6:57 am
1. You’re the hoe, living with your boyfriend unmarried 2. He knows you’re a hoe and that’s why he let’s his bro bring over OTHER hoes 3. Get the heck out till he marries you if you’re not a hoe.
kikiki
August 1, 2013 at 2:19 pm
Hoe or Whole or Hole or Whore. The right word while all rhyme is WHORE.
Evans
July 28, 2013 at 7:05 am
You are not supposed to do all those house chores, that so cold b/friend is not yet yo husband. You are in a wrong place @ a wrong time. Get off from that ‘kama’ house.
semaj
July 28, 2013 at 7:47 am
Seriously sister u r cohabiting en u r condemning other for the same sins u r doing?then secondly yo marriage wnt stand becoz u have no self respect u cnt wait for the ryt tym?mind u marriage is eternal,so u have sampled yo boyfriend hw it fils to slip with a woman everyday so he wnt b luking forward to anythin.dnt get suprised if he doesn’t marry u.Go home and repent.
CHIEF ADVICER
July 28, 2013 at 7:47 am
u ar a shameless womn hw cn u start contrlng yo fianc in his hse and wanting hz bro to clean plates 4 hmself? U ar nt fit 4 marrige bushit!!! Go and get marrid to a dog whch doz nt require any thng to do @ hme rubbish….!
Tabita
July 28, 2013 at 8:33 am
Iwe sikwanu, go to yo house. Tryna play wife before yo tym. As far as they r concerned, they r stil single n kn do as they please.
CALLED WISE
July 28, 2013 at 9:07 am
1.WHAT ARE BOTH YOUR FAMILIES SAYING ABOUT IT?
2.DO THEY EVEN KNOW YOUR WHEREABOUTS?
I BET IT’S YOUR MAN WHO IS TIRED OF YOU AND HE CAN’T CHOOSE YOU OVER IS BROTHER.
TO BRING IN HIS BROTHER IS ONE OF MANY MORE ATTEMPTS TO HAVE YOU OUT.
MY ADVICE:
KICK YOURSELF OUT BEFORE YOU ARE KICKED OUT.
RUUUUN AWAAAAY!!!
joelove
July 28, 2013 at 10:34 am
Just have have a close look at yourself! Remove a log in yor eyes and then help your fiance’s brother with a stone in his eyes.
matebeto
July 28, 2013 at 10:44 am
You are just a fool. Why allow tourself to be used like that? If you get married you will be treated like a SLAVE!
muntu
July 28, 2013 at 12:20 pm
That is a simple way of chassing u other wise brother wakwe aka kuponona
Noe
July 28, 2013 at 12:20 pm
Stop complaing woman 1st of all how do u move into a mans house and expect him to respect u bet the brother thinks u,re cheap with no morals at all….the man hasnt evn payed ur bride price…. Learn to do things the right way or maybe u,re desperate for a man who will neva reapect u evn once u,re married….. most women bring certain issues on themselves…too many brainless women nd their ****** stories… Wen r u going to wake up…. Disguted fellow woman
KATE
July 28, 2013 at 12:39 pm
U are worse than the girls his brother brings atleast they go back to their homes, as for u, u are an in house whore.
Amaka Pa Nchende!!!
July 29, 2013 at 2:45 pm
Only fools ask for advice when they refuse to do what is right.Besides your so called fiance is not the one who pays rent in that Boba, he is John solye ubwali, thats why he has no say at all, and so as you. He lied to you that he pays rent you fool,dumping your self in a lions den you think you can be spared!! even his brother banged you, get wise!! you fool!!
wayne
July 28, 2013 at 4:10 pm
I think people need to slow down and read the article. It says her house and she pays rent. To the lady seeking advice; dump the loser and get a real man. I real man helps in the house. A leader is suppose to serve and not be served. Once you are married it will only get worse. This male is a very spoiled selfish person.
one pastor
July 28, 2013 at 5:39 pm
zambians think western manners is part of civilization..The has just turned herself into a prostitute in the name of being modern.OLD IS GOLD.
one pastor
July 28, 2013 at 5:43 pm
zambians think western manners is part of civilization..The has just turned herself into a prostitute in the name of being modern.OLD IS GOLD.old fashioned ladies are a gud marriage material.
pipi
July 29, 2013 at 7:03 pm
yes
edward tembo
July 29, 2013 at 8:37 am
If the man does not marry you.you would have laboured for nothing force the fool to formalise the marriege or simply take him to court for compansation.
casim
July 29, 2013 at 9:04 am
how can your boyfriend mistreat you? why is she complaining? she doesnt have were to stay or what? some of these things are just foolish issues.
Mm
July 29, 2013 at 9:39 am
mushye!!!!!!
Zimya
July 29, 2013 at 10:30 am
Only fools ask for advice when they refuse to do what is right which is even very well known by themselves! Some women can be so CHEAP!!! Bambi kupwa abakote almost their fathers age just because they have money, some kulalolela another woman’s husband to divorce his wife hoping that bakamupa,others go cohabiting like this one and wanting to receive the kind RESPECT SHE HAS NEVER GIVEN HER POOR SELF.
mukukulu
July 29, 2013 at 10:47 am
be asharmed with how u re selling yoself publicly. though u re not officilly marrd u ve marrd yoselves. so just leave the bro alone and find somewhere else to stay with yo so called fiance if yu love him
i LLUiMiNaTi
July 29, 2013 at 12:01 pm
Some are ****** to the extreme just, shut up, move on and live that bastard to live his own life….obvious, this is just not a true story, I bet!
supersub
July 29, 2013 at 12:12 pm
hahaaa lelo lelo
Ounce
July 29, 2013 at 2:30 pm
If atall they will marry,infidelity won’t leave their home.Since they are busy planting it now.
sodje
July 29, 2013 at 2:48 pm
He didn’t, marry u!!so what are u complaining about, u are just a hule.
NEMULANDA
July 29, 2013 at 3:12 pm
She doesn’t pay rent for that house. she was simply giving an example that assuming she had a house and paid rent for it she would not allow her siblings to behave as they wish
umusungu
July 29, 2013 at 3:36 pm
Uli huule mune, stop even complaining as yu are in a wrong place. Yu are a maid and only becomes girlfriend in bed. Go where yu came from bakakufunde
ati bwa
July 29, 2013 at 4:51 pm
Artificial story
kasaka
July 29, 2013 at 5:33 pm
Satanyoko y have gone to disturb them ule iwe?coz u are not married to him anyway ni guy che.
tifi-tifi mukalamba
July 29, 2013 at 8:02 pm
Young lady you are in the wrong place to start with.
That person is not yet your husband and according to my understanding love and corncern is shown in that stage but look at the treatment you are being given before you are even married, then you can imagine the horrible future you will have to face when you are married.
The answer to your situation is ” no matter how much you love your bf, leave him and find yourself love somewhere else period!”
Epo mpelele mayo.
nyimbili charles
July 31, 2013 at 2:54 pm
In the first place young lady you are not purpose to be staying with your fiance,you can only live together with your husband not fiance.Therefore,you should blame yourself for not following the right procedure of getting married,so a punishment to you so as you can do the right thing.STOP !
nyimbili charles
July 31, 2013 at 2:56 pm
In the first place young lady you are not surpose to be staying with your fiance,you can only live together with your husband not fiance.Therefore,you should blame yourself for not following the right procedure of getting married,so a punishment to you so as you can do the right thing.STOP !
kikiki
August 1, 2013 at 2:21 pm
This girl need to watch Love Games and she may change. Aids is real and there is no two ways about it. If you are there, you are sure having sex and unprotected because you think he is faithful. Poor *****, get a life out of that home and only move in when you are pronounced Husband and Wife.