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Health Benefits Of Being Single
1: Healthier finances
Although marriage can lower costs and create financial opportunities, the event itself costs a huge amount. The average wedding costs £18,500 in the UK – flowers, food and favors certainly add up. However, not only is getting married costly, ending the union is a rather expensive process too. The average cost of ending a marriage through the British courts is about £13,000 per divorce; whilst in the USA the average cost of a divorce is estimated to be around $20,000. And how does this affect your health? The wealthy enjoy significantly better health whilst they are alive, and they live longer than those in low socio-economic groups.
2: Singletons keep fitter
It seems that when you get married, you not only gain a spouse, you also gain a considerable amount of weight. A poll commissioned by the Department of Health found that only 27 percent of adults met the recommended 150 minutes of physical activity each week. Of those 27 per cent, the majority were married. So how much weight does a pair in couple-kingdom gain? According to US researchers it depends on your gender. 46 per cent of the 5,000 ladies who took part in the US study gained at least 20 pounds. However, for the guys the increased weight risk was not as high. Unlike women, men gained the most weight during divorce.
3: More friends
Ditching your buddies for cheeky nights in and romantic dates out is a classic symptom of a serious relationship. However, friendship is a hugely undervalued resource. A 10 year Australian study found that older people with a large amount of friends were 22 per cent less likely to die during the study than those older people with fewer friends. Also Harvard researchers suggested that strong social ties may promote brain health as we age and another study found that those with high social relationships were 50 per cent more likely to survive during the period of study. So it turns out friends are not just there for secret sharing and karaoke fun.
4: Less fights
It’s pretty obvious that screaming until you’re hoarse and yelling at your partner is no fun. However, research has shown that there may be more sinister health risks associated with fighting with your loved one. One recent study concluded that a stressful marriage can be as bad for the heart as smoking. Other research suggests that a stressful marriage can also be worse for women than men. Women who didn’t speak their minds during a fight were found to be four times more likely to die in the 10-year study period than those women who always told their partners their thoughts.
5: Smaller portions
The fairytale goes… girl meets boy, they fall in love, marry and live happily ever after. What the fairytale doesn’t tell us is that when you meet that someone special you will find yourself feasting on man-sized portions and calorific meals. Women typically gain weight when they begin a relationship because they eat man-sized portions; but men tend to burn calories faster than women. Similarly men gain weight because couples order in more takeaways and eat out too. Considering that the average Indian takeaway contains 1,338 calories and a similar sized Chinese takeaway contains 1,436 calories it is not surprising that couples pile on the pounds.
6: Healing powers
We don’t mean to imply that if you’re single then you can cure broken limbs and nasty cuts with a wink of your eye and a sprinkle of magic dust. However, if you are in a bad relationship with high levels of hostility then your body will take longer to heal injuries. Research was conducted in America to measure how a bad relationship affects people’s immune system. The researchers blistered participants’ arms to measure how quickly the wounds healed. They found that the blisters on the couples who had a lot of marital stress took a full two days longer to heal than those of couples who had less hostility.
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Divorcee
March 20, 2014 at 10:51 am
I agree 100%. Most married women are very envious of my lifestyle. I am enjoying myself more than the time I was married.
Trixy
March 20, 2014 at 11:28 am
Depends on which side of the coin you are looking at.
MUKWESU
March 20, 2014 at 3:09 pm
What do you mean?
Chisenga
March 20, 2014 at 11:51 am
Deep down your heart, there must be a longing in your heart. It is not marriage which is bad but the people who get into it. Actually marriage is a very good thing created by God. If we want to enjoy marriage, we should go by God’s rules for marriage. The benefits of being married outweigh those of being single. For instance, when you need sex you can get it within the confines of marriage. This is safer than going to the street to get a sexual partner. The best sex is that which is enjoyed in marriage. The question to you madam is that how are satisfying your sexual needs? The other good thing about marriage is that it helps to balance your life. The fact that you married will help you to put boundaries in your life. This may act as a safeguard in life.
Trixy
March 20, 2014 at 12:51 pm
Excellent observation there Chisenga….Bravo!!
#Guru
March 24, 2014 at 11:07 am
jamakudi
March 20, 2014 at 11:35 am
I agree trixy. it depends on a number of factors. Marriage can provide a good support system for both man and woman.
man
March 20, 2014 at 12:01 pm
@ Chisenga u r right.
mwine mushi
March 20, 2014 at 12:39 pm
am marrying on 3rd may, sorry u can’t convince or z it confuse me.
mmembe chikala
March 20, 2014 at 12:43 pm
@ Chisenga you are 100% right. @ kunda, you are living in denial. You seriously need a partner. Stop wanking n get a loving partner then you will stop thinking like kabimba.
ili bad
March 20, 2014 at 2:56 pm
Awe being single is a sign of being a problem. its either ba guy tabwima or ba gelo tabaishiba ukushana pakutombana nangu bafumya amenshi so men shan away from them.
orga de top
March 20, 2014 at 3:51 pm
Single life is best. Luk at catholic priests they do enjoy been single.
Chisenga
March 20, 2014 at 4:26 pm
Are you sure single life is the best? It is good that you are using the example of catholic priests. However, you have deliberately not mentioned anything about moral shortcomings the priests have faced. Are you aware that many priests have admitted that it has been difficult to keep celibacy vows? Are you aware that many priests have been having secret affairs with nuns and ordinary church members? Are you aware that the same priests are having children secretly and are being kept in orphanages? What can you say about Milingo? I actually salute Milingo for coming out in the open. Which is better, to enjoy sex in marriage with a clear conscience or do it secretly with a troubled conscience? Priests have admitted that they are flesh and blood troubled by sexual feelings just like us. If you enjoy being single, then stay away from sex outside marriage. You are saying ”vibakazi kutali” but at the same time you want to enjoy the ”cargo” offered by your girl friends. What a contradiction! The fact that you had a marital disappointment caused by one lady does not make all women bad. There are good ladies who can make good wives. If you are a responsible man, marry this type of ladies. I hope you are not a man who has such an attitude just because you are scared of marital responsibilities.
fredrick Chiluba
March 21, 2014 at 12:14 pm
It is not as easy as ABC to find a partner one will be compatible with.In most cases men and women go for beauty and career which is good.Sad however to mention that many have ended up with partners who are not available to them.They can not be respected by their spouses and sex can only be enjoyed once or twice in three months.
There are strange things happening in these homes. Those of you in happy marriages should thank God almighty, many of your colleagues out there are in hell;no wonder the old generation called it shipikisha club.
orga de top
March 20, 2014 at 3:54 pm
I canot marry, its not normal, better I live alone and enjoy buying sex. I am a hapy single man. vibakazi kutali.
Chisenga
March 20, 2014 at 4:40 pm
Are you sure single life is the best? It is good that you are using the example of catholic priests. However, you have deliberately not mentioned anything about moral shortcomings the priests have faced. Are you aware that many priests have admitted that it has been difficult to keep celibacy vows? Are you aware that many priests have been having secret affairs with nuns and ordinary church members? Are you aware that the same priests are having children secretly and are being kept in orphanages? What can you say about Milingo? I actually salute Milingo for coming out in the open. Which is better, to enjoy sex in marriage with a clear conscience or do it secretly with a troubled conscience? Priests have admitted that they are flesh and blood troubled by sexual feelings just like us. If you enjoy being single, then stay away from sex outside marriage. You are saying ”vibakazi kutali” but at the same time you want to enjoy the ”cargo” offered by your girl friends. What a contradiction! The fact that you had a marital disappointment caused by one lady does not make all women bad. There are good ladies who can make good wives. If you are a responsible man, marry this type of ladies. I hope you are not a man who has such an attitude just because you are scared of marital responsibilities.
mundiaM
March 20, 2014 at 5:24 pm
Chisenga, marriage is good for all of us at certain times, but not always. I was once married, lost my hubby in a road accident after I had 2 kids with him, built a house and had a career. After, the misfortune of losing him, I choose to stay single, focus on developing my career and bringing up my children with the least stress.
I know the kids have missed out on having a father, but they have had the best mother in a single woman who has concentrated on them and career.
Marriage is therefore not for all as some single men and women just do fine on their own.
SINGLENESS ROCKS!!!
NDANJI
March 21, 2014 at 2:41 am
@ MundiaM. imwe mayo tamwakwata insoni. You sound like you are happy your hubby died. was he so useless in your life that you would prefer singleness to being marriage coz if that waz the case you wouldnt have married your late husband. if i were your late hubby’s relative i would institute serious investigations against the death of this man.
Chisenga
March 21, 2014 at 9:30 am
Your reason for staying single is understandable. Sad that you lost your husband. This was beyond your control. However, my argument is that we should not ignore the fact that our needs are not just financial. We also have spiritual, sexual and many other needs. A human being is a complex being. You may have all the money that you need but your heart may still crave for other things. There are ladies with so much money but they are so lonely in their lives. I have met single ladies who supported singleness as the best but a few years down the line they start going out with married men. I do not agree with your statement that SINGLENESS ROCKS. Why is it that you people who claim that singleness is the best would still jump at an opportunity of having a boyfriend/girlfriend? Why can’t you completely close the door to all such relationships? If you have never had any relationship from the time you lost your hubby, then I will believe that SINGLENESS ROCKS. I challenge all bloggers who are pro-singleness to keep away from sex if what they are saying is true. Somebody said where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable. Sex is not for singles but for the married.The reason I doubt the claims of the so called pro-singleness groups is that they want to enjoy things meant for marriage and yet they are denouncing the institution of marriage. Madam mundiaM, how have you been satisfying your sexual needs? I know you have a good career and income but that is not enough to satisfy your sexual needs. Sexual needs do not respond to money.
Trixy
March 21, 2014 at 11:09 am
@Chisenga…what more can I say…you said it all my brother…Very well said indeed. I hope MundiaM understands what you are saying.
Waka
March 20, 2014 at 8:00 pm
Chisenga ur right
CHIEF KATOMBA FINYO II
March 21, 2014 at 7:28 am
I HV NAVER SEEN A BUNCH OF ***** LYK DOS SUPOTNG BEEN SNGLE.
former bachelor
March 21, 2014 at 9:13 am
single men and women stop wanking and get married.stop using yo figures or other objects because thats the best way singles use to satisfy themselves mwaba ifimatole ne finyo
Chisenga
March 21, 2014 at 10:12 am
I do not believe that this site should be a platform for insulting others. We can still put across our views without insulting each other. Why use such language? Tone down on your language.
kwa george
March 21, 2014 at 10:43 am
YOU ARE JUST TELLING WHAT YOU HAVE JUST FOUND OUT BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR WIFE .
ili bad
March 21, 2014 at 9:48 am
Ba man just say nicely unlike insulting, mnn! former bachelor whats your problem?
ili bad
March 21, 2014 at 10:00 am
And ‘Chief chakuti-chakuti II,’ you should change your name otherwise I will command Libongani to command Jere to arrest you because of your insulting name. each time someone mentions your name, he/she is insulting
Kapaso
March 21, 2014 at 12:35 pm
Why sure do you name your names insele nsele. Kotomba finyo II you are wicked. You think by naming such names you will see the kingdom of God NOOOOOOO!!!! Shame on on you useless man.
me
March 21, 2014 at 12:50 pm
post my comment pls
zalimba jere
March 21, 2014 at 1:28 pm
Being single is some how same as deforestation. it can only lead to human extinction. get married en stop cheating. we exist because some people some where got married. play your part!
Davido
March 26, 2014 at 10:26 am
I did not want to finish reading the comments on this blog because I anticipated insults and vulgar language but #Chisenga made me finish it to the last comment. I like your factual and intelligent contributions to the forum and you are the blogers we need, Bloggers who add value to discussions like this.
Keep it up Chisenga.