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My Wife Is Having Secret Phone Conversations, What do i Do?
DEAR EDITOR,
I strongly suspect my wife has secret phone conversations with her former boyfriend she has a child with. Their son is now 16 and he is with his father in Chingola and I live in Kabwe. What disturbs me is that one day, I overheard her promising the man a lot of money and a cellphone.
I married her when their child was 2 years old and I have supported him before, just like my son. They had this child when they were at the same school and were living with their parents. We have been married for 11 years. I have one child with her. I am a civil servant and she has a small business. Is this in order?
DEPRESSED
Posted by Editor
on June 28, 2014. Filed under LIFE & STYLE, STYLE.
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chile1
June 28, 2014 at 9:20 am
dats simple kick her out,y entertainin an adulterous wife?
Thief Justice
June 28, 2014 at 12:00 pm
Ppl ask questions whose answers they already know…
RSK
June 28, 2014 at 9:36 am
pliz try to investigate more.talk to her and ask her if she still loves the guy and then are to make a devoice if she say she loves him too.
Chief of Grief
June 28, 2014 at 10:02 am
Just increase on giving her enough sex.I wold suggest 8-10 times a day,jus take heed to my advice…..
Fran
June 28, 2014 at 10:25 am
Do not rush.Pretend you know nothing and operate normally.Ensure that all is well at home give her the neccessary support that you having been,do not ask her about it.But bear in mind that you are investigating something form her.As time goes on you will catch them.Nothing is hidden form the eyes of our creator.Read jeremail 33vs 3.Pray for guidance it.In Bemba we say icpela ikula cilaimpeneka.With time the problem will start un folding and will catch them.How have you known now it means the same way our true God has revealed the matter to you is the same way he will show you.
mule
June 28, 2014 at 10:41 am
she is a birch.why keep a death trap at your home
Nduna
June 28, 2014 at 10:57 am
Surely that’s not in order but you have to take it easy and get to know the nature of conversations they are having. The tricky part is that they have a child together and they may use that as an excuse.
Pate
June 28, 2014 at 11:10 am
Its not in order and not accepted but just make you have facts and not just suspicions, if true then my brother move on, she maybe a business lady but she is using you
Mr.Right.
June 28, 2014 at 11:17 am
@Fran,that is very good advice dear.It feels good to have wise people like you.Keep it up and God bless you.I advise my fellow depressed man to follow the advice from Fran.
Surprised Zambian
June 28, 2014 at 12:00 pm
And you call that ‘secret conversations’ when you even heard one of them. In the first place how did you meet her? How did you marry her? Did you get to know her well before you decided to marry her? She had a baby while at school, did you question her morals before deciding to marry her? are you sure she has not been cheating you all the eleven years you have lived together? Fimo fimo kwati mulaba no kushishita. Empo mpelele.
nshendi
June 28, 2014 at 12:31 pm
She has a son 16 years old. You got married when her son was 2 years old & you have been married for 11 years. It doesn’t add up,I suspect its fabricated due to inconsistencies in the story
Isaac Chigololo
June 28, 2014 at 12:36 pm
Your wife banikonda chabe everyday ni ma fone telling me tht I should come to your house again nafuti like last week, naine ndine muntu nimalema!
tutu
June 28, 2014 at 3:37 pm
boyi nawishiba no bwasuko y finishin our time? bala kulila ka chilemba,obvious uli waka bukala akanono…11+2=16?!?! lyashi lya muchibuku ili
Kamushi
June 28, 2014 at 4:28 pm
communication is important in relationships sit down wit her let her tel u y shez bn lying to u.tel her how u feel,if shez lost interest in u let her go.their r a lot of chicks that desire u my friend.stay focused
burret
June 28, 2014 at 5:25 pm
Be careful maybe sata(lassa lassa) is busy bonking your wife.
Kankomba we Lala
June 28, 2014 at 6:17 pm
I doubt if this story is true. I’m a psycho-analyst who has handled matters of depression so often. You would fail to think of a social media like this one if you were depressed let alone sharing your disappointment. If I’m to read between line, you just have a child with this lady just like your rival; you are not ligally married. Grow up.
burret panyo pako
June 28, 2014 at 6:22 pm
@ burret wabeyiiii! waumfwa ulemona kwati niwe waishiba ukutuka abakalamba? Noko ichilufu musula wa wiso. ta walaya kuntu wafuma mustanyoko.
burret
June 28, 2014 at 7:53 pm
Lol lovely insults but Sata panyo pako
dekopolize
June 28, 2014 at 6:52 pm
Be a man dnt rush into chasing her put yo foot down ,ensured you gather enough evidence which will warrant a correct decission
Judas
June 28, 2014 at 7:01 pm
Wemwaume open your eyes now.Shimucita panono apokele mwikalafye umukashi.Gather more evidence before acting.
x5
June 28, 2014 at 7:14 pm
Munda wakudala
never trust
June 28, 2014 at 8:13 pm
Never trust women, especially ones that have been fvcked before.
castrated poker
June 28, 2014 at 9:53 pm
Poor calculation of years you are just a real lier those are just your rubbish thots out of your illusions.
Jeff
June 28, 2014 at 10:10 pm
1. Recognise that she loves her son.
2. Discuss how she can fulfill her desire to regulary see her son. Maybe he should come to Kabwe say once per 6 months or so.
3. Tell her you are not comfortable with her contacting his father and she should respect that.
maggie bones
June 29, 2014 at 12:05 am
stiopeti iwe ditch the biatch,bali kulisha kolio kolio!
kakolwe
June 29, 2014 at 6:33 am
11years 1 child. OK, Nangu ni family planning, probably, even that second child is from the first man. You shoot blanks boy & she has duped you. Leave her be & nurse yo broken ego. She enjoys the other man better. This is the bitter truth: you fukc as bad as you do math.
SMILER
July 5, 2014 at 11:26 am
CHIKALA IWE,ULICHIPUBA..HOW CAN YOU MARRY SUMONE WITH A KID?GO TO HELL