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Mail From TR: My Aunt Is Dating My Married Lover, I Need Help
I need advise from Tumfweko readers, my name is Monica(nick name), I have been dating a married Zambian businessman who promised to leave his wife for me after giving him a son. when he moved to England with his other family he brought me along to further my education as well as my sons education.
Unknown to me he was having an affair with a then married woman my aunt . She was close to me to attain information to utilize to break my relationship with Mr. X and has succeeded, Mr. X has stopped supporting me and my son and I am begging for help in my situation.
My Aunt went ahead and divorced her husband for Mr. X and now I am left with nothing. I need help Mr. X has stopped supporting me and my son, he used to buy and take me on nice trips to England and south Africa and bought me gifts like cars and now I have nothing. I need advice people, I don’t want to lose him even though I know what I did was wrong for dating a married man.
My aunt has dated all rich Zambian men and now she wants my man.
Posted by
vuto777
July 22, 2014 at 8:40 am
But iwee,you think he can leave his wife for you and your prostitute aunt! imwe kula tombwafye chapwwa.
manchise.
July 22, 2014 at 8:49 am
U needed to consult when u were plotin to start datin that man without morals.Now its too late.Your Aunt will also face the same problem u’re facing sooner.Take this problem to be an opportunity to flee from that adulterous syndicate and find yourself something to do since u’ve education now as yo weapon against suffering. Otherwise I can say that u’re an evil woman( Husband snatcher just like yo so called aunt),Evil is in yo DNA.
Salt
July 22, 2014 at 8:54 am
The problem with zambian women, you date for money than love, if cash finishes then, even your love ends. Love that guy who he is not what he has. Hope you know the HIV status for that rich guy.
BRAMS
July 22, 2014 at 10:26 am
Ba Salt! you are very much right although its not everyone.The genuine ones are few.
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 9:00 am
Ala chikashana iwe waileta fye pamulabasa,nomba leka tukupishemo chikala!!First of all,u even had the balls to snatch somebodies husband with no sense of guilt makepula iwe?Elo ulefwaya tukunfwile inkumbu iwe chinyo mutanu?Ati i want him back fonyonyo fonyonyo.Ngipusheko,bushe uli mutuntulufye nangula shani,ati av got nothing!So ulenjeba ati tawakwata ichinena,chi bonfye,”CHIBELO NIKAPITO”u ought to Know beta,waikata teh?Kamin kuli ba ‘NOKO SENGE’abo,nkuti ba ku pampula shani wemukashana?Okay naishiba,bali kubonfesha imyaka expertize teh?
chile1
July 22, 2014 at 9:05 am
Namashina yene,Rashai sure? Anyway jus cm I pick up 4rm where dat punk left off.nakulakutombafye bwino wisakaman until u u manage to get ur man back.so 4 nw it will b me stickin my 9inch inside u
Tobias Mumba
July 22, 2014 at 9:30 am
U were happy wen u snatched and wen aunt snatched u start asking help,mad woman, it is a family disease.okey just look for another becoz its not yours
Kays
July 22, 2014 at 9:45 am
your family is rottern
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 9:51 am
Wipema nshilapwisha uku ku pishamo,shipafye waunfwa,ichachine chilatunga ati Rashai!Nomba Mr X wobe,tawalemukondenkanya bwino nangula shani?Thats way in encourage u solola ukuleyabikila ifinyo fyenu mumenshi aya salt pakutila fibwesha ilatisity waunfwa teh.I thot noko senge uyu alikwebele nomba washala mulimwamoneni.Nomba chita so.Joina ba namakwenkwe pamusebo pantu tapali ichobe iwe uleunfwa teh.Ifisheleko iwe kusangukafye confirmerd,certified solola,uleunfwa teh?Walibelesha ifya fulee,chinyo chobe ukalashibombela emo bwaila nebo mwacha.But pulizi napapata,nafukama Rashai,teti nkutobe uwa # 1,uleti po shani?Leka nkushemo now but ndekubwelela nakambi pantu shilapwa ukuku pishamo waunfwa teh,wachiletafye pamulabasa.Boi Tutu nakushilako,mukange uyu makaka……Nalamwishila limbi…..
Suarez+Zuniga=Chielini+Neymar
July 22, 2014 at 10:03 am
I need advise from Tumfweko readers, my name is Rashai, I have been dating a married Zambian businessman who promised to leave his wife for me after giving him a son…
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Simply put you are an id!ot not worthy of any advise!!!! Nansoni ulibe to bring out your stup!d morals. Didn’t you know that you were damaging the other woman’s marriage? Uli mbwa we hule wee!
BRAMS
July 22, 2014 at 10:14 am
What goes round comes around and do unto others as you want them do unto you.You and your so called aunt,you are wicked and need to repent and be delivered from that spirit.Get a man of your own and start a new life,otherwise you are just reaping what you had sowed.
pozi
July 22, 2014 at 10:39 am
ati she has dated all rich men in zambia. including mr hh?
Tanny
July 22, 2014 at 11:23 am
You need deliverance!
Denkete
July 22, 2014 at 11:55 am
Rashai, bushe niwe mwenye nangu uli mu filika? Ishina lileeumfwika ilya cimwenye. Nganiwe mwenye kapoke advice ku india. Nomba ba nokosenge kuti bakucila shani ukulowaa? Pantu ine ifyo naishiba ukulowa kukonka na tightness ya engine. Engine ngayaba loose ninshi nomu ndowe-ndowe wapwa. Elo icilenga engine ukuba loose ninshi abaume abakwingishako baafula. So iwe go to the hospital to do some stiches and reduce the entrance.
ba luanshya
July 22, 2014 at 11:57 am
repent my sister!
UMWAUME
July 22, 2014 at 12:33 pm
In her family all are prostitutes, ba antie, yourself……….. So in this family all they know best kutombwa especially bamuka bene.
drinx
July 22, 2014 at 12:55 pm
rashai ichinyo uku fimba waunfwa tampa fye ukutombwa kuli mulamu owbe not sister owbe akeshibe
panyo po bwe mwana chinena.
IF NOT
July 22, 2014 at 12:57 pm
rashai reaping what she sowed. actually the waste for you is yet to come.
tutu
July 22, 2014 at 1:18 pm
iwe wehule we kwindi fumbafu kubola chinyo kununka pamusula,abaume ubwingi muchipanda abali singo iwe ulefwayafye bamukabene wanya lelo fintu walelya bakuchenjesha…abakulu bakulu,ba aunty bobe bakula mubuhule so tekuti uchifyane nabo iyo,pantu umusango bangasishamo ubukala nichakupesha mano kanshi kulatashafye no kupunda pantu wambile ukutomba mpaka na pakupowa…anyway chief of grief nalanda fyonse fintu ningakweba,but kuti natemwa nainewine ukutombapo ukumona fintu walelufyanya mayb I cn give u some few pointaz,wamonaposhani?
Kapaso
July 22, 2014 at 1:23 pm
Grief, awe walikowela language ububi mwe!!!!
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 3:04 pm
Nga yalikowela languagi yandi yanshi ubelenga stanyoko!!Pantu aba nobe abanjishib nomba bapililafye ama coment yandi waunfwa??Fya ku yi faila fye makaka iwe,ileshibata nga fika payandi waunfwa teh,VOETSEK!!
grazaccs
July 22, 2014 at 2:14 pm
no norml man wil eva leav hs wif 4 a prostitute,jst wt z wrong wth us abakashana?stories ar repeatd on bt we cnt learn a leson.if tht ws y u stpd takin yo contraceptiv pils n bore hm a son so tht he cn mary u waloba ilyauma!u dnt evn hav 2 complain cz u dserv evn de worst,he ddnt mary u y ar u panikin?it cud hav made sam sence if it ws hs wife complainin nt u.u ar evn luky he tuk u tu sku 2 reduc yo sufering wen he isolates u so jst fnd a wy tu tek cre of u n yo son cz u’ve lost hm 4 yo felo prostitute(yo aunt)dat man z jst playin wth yo family cz u ar desparet prostitutes n b4 u evn realis it he wil strt goin out wth yo mum so, u stil av more real suprises.jst leav dat married man alon n hs wife,evn yo aunt wnt sty wth hm 4 long,sh wil jst giv hm a son n be dampd!
No teeth
July 22, 2014 at 2:37 pm
Simple maths my sister, a guy who leaves his wife for you will leave you you for someone else.
Chani
July 22, 2014 at 2:43 pm
You and your aunt are both idiots. That is why this guys has been playing with you like that.
RSK
July 22, 2014 at 2:44 pm
do to others as u want them to do unto u.ask god to forgive and forge ahead with yo lfe.if y gotn married then take mr x to court bt if u also went on the window jst call him with yo famly.
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 4:08 pm
Nabwela nafuti nafuti as promised.Ummmm..,where were we ayi?Okay,so ifi ufimbile,din’t t ever dawn 2u that naiwe akesa kulampa ayi?U were very ready uku toba banja yamunobe for yo selfis gains ayi?So umunobe ngaunfwile shani?Elo ena ali muchupo teh?All you guys wer doing was just cohabiting chapwa.Elo walishibe @ noko senge li ‘BIILLA’ uku ku chila naiwe elyo waya palamika uyo chikala @ x.Kuti wapalamika ichende pe ichende iwe tondo ayi?Nikoswe nembalala kind of senario wachitile waunfwa teh?Wi selapo,naisa first,pantu wachi yiletafye pamulabasa teh??
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 4:11 pm
Nabwela nafuti nafuti as promised.Ummmm..,where were we ayi?Okay,so ifi ufimbile,din’t t ever dawn 2u that naiwe akesa kulampa ayi?U were very ready uku toba banja yamunobe for yo selfis gains ayi?So umunobe ngaunfwile shani?Elo ena ali muchupo teh?All you guys wer doing was just cohabiting chapwa.Elo walishibe @ noko senge li ‘BIILLA’ uku ku chila naiwe elyo waya palamika uyo chikala @ x.Kuti wapalamika ichende pe ichende iwe tondo ayi?Nikoswe nembalala kind of senario wachitile waunfwa teh?Wi selapo,naisa first,pantu wachi yiletafye pamulabasa.
Pate
July 22, 2014 at 4:56 pm
But my sister ulichipuba to start with, you date a married man do you know what pain you are causing to his family? even happy about it? you deserve this and I hope your aunt goes through worse
Chief of Grief
July 22, 2014 at 5:07 pm
Am bak,but no worries coz i aint gona blow smoke up yo ass waunfwa mami.Lesa alikutemwa sana.All the bet in yo plight,hop things wil workout for you,bati winpata chikashana waunfwa teh
wow
July 22, 2014 at 5:33 pm
Bemba mother father monkeys at it again! WHY DO YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO USE BAD LANGUAGE!!? WTF! You behave live you were all born from the same whore! Someone is asking for help and you busy insulting talk about sticking your dirty penis in her. WTF? You all belong in the DRC jungle.
tutu
July 22, 2014 at 6:46 pm
@chief of grief tata namipela umuchinshi…nafuti nafuti nabwela!!! wantobaula imbafu chikala,@wow chikala wa itole kwindi fumbafu stanyoko mabolo mukanwa,iwe chikala lyonse kuletamo tribalism? kakutunga wire yakaba pachimusula and watch yr language makaka iwe
scott
July 22, 2014 at 6:51 pm
Bewitch your Anuty so you can have your stupid man back period.
umuntu
July 22, 2014 at 9:05 pm
Awe mwacheba ichi chimayo so chena chachimona ati mwalachisapota. Chileti nokuti tumweko readers bushe batumfweko readers ebasapota ifyabupuba waamona. Echo akutwalile kusukulu 4 u to start supportn tht child iwe walemona ati akatwalilila. Wechipubawe u thnk u were better than his wife. kwaliba ifinangwa pachala nakweba nokukweba ati i am a married man eco chileye cant u find yo own single man. The man gote wat he wanted frm u and he is back to th wife. Stupid
wow
July 22, 2014 at 9:59 pm
@tutu. You have just proved your stupidity. You can’t just talk like a normal human being who grew up with his fellow humans?? You were sexually abused as a child. I now see where the problem is. You have so much hate in you. Learn to forgive them. At the end of the day they are still your parents. Life goes on my friend.
kvs
July 22, 2014 at 11:38 pm
It is so irritating to see most of the blog us on tufweko are all ways posting there comment in bemba. Is this site for bembers? some of us we find it difficult to debate objectively here on this site. am fade up.
tutu
July 23, 2014 at 2:20 am
@wow chikala manyame mukanwa kutomba musula wambwa ulekwata umuchinshi…do u know wu I am makaka iwe? fumbafu kwindi,wa amba ukutukila kumo nabafyashi,anyway I dnt blame u, obvious efyo wiso na noko bakufunda…kakupopa imiseba pa chimusula
MIG
July 23, 2014 at 2:40 am
I hope you have an overdose of your own medicine! You broke the marriage of someone, what did you expect? Your boyfriend is a player!
Amake Mwana
July 23, 2014 at 8:22 am
A married man would NEVER leave his wife for the likes of you. Your aunt just did to you what you did to the mans wife but the wife still gets all the things money can buy and marriage while you get nothing. Serves you right. Repent and start life on a new leaf. Find a way to look after your son. Stop prostitution.
GRiddles
July 23, 2014 at 8:50 am
I see,everyone only z blaming the lady.Any 1 of u especially ladies are capable of doing wat she did.Do U think 1000 ladies who were Solomons wives & concubines were all fools?
We all make stupid mistakes dats y we are humans.U can only insult dat lady if u are an Angel or God & if u arent u arent fit 2 Judge dat lady negatively.
All she nids z an Advice.
Miss how z your child?are u working?what z it dat u really want frm de man z it money if u didnt complete ur Tertially Education/support.
My Advise z dat,find urself & move on.Life z lyk a mirror,watever u do always reflects back at u.The wife whom u glabed de man from also passed thru dat & mind u she was a covenant wife b4 God.The Almighty wud strike u with poverty & other misfotunes if u continue.Take care of the child & never forget dat de Tear of the wife are a curse dat can only be broken if u go & apologize wherever she z,coz u son z also partaking of ur sins.Becareful & be wise u cant die without dis man.Uve lived most f ur lyf without him,u wont die
Chief of Grief
July 23, 2014 at 9:46 am
I had no chance to get back to u yestrday coz nalikolwa!@ wow Mustanyoko iwe,wakolomona ifyaibela stanyoko.!Nomba leka tuku pela justice pumbwe iwe makaka.Is t that all coments in Bemba come fom Bemba speaking people makepula iwe.Ichi Bemba chaliangukapo uku chita stress out ama grievances yesu waunfwa chikala cha noko iwe.& besides,what advice did you want us to render to this BI****tch ayi mutanina iwe.Nga ula fimba uku belenga ama Bemba coments yanshi ubundwila kolwe.If u scared of heat,stay the F*****ck out of the kitchen waunfwa iwe kolokombwa.Is their any vilegar word in Nsenga,kachokwe,ichilamba,etc etc.Njeba ba ko chikamba chobe bcoz av got a vile persona ine kembo iwe.Triblistic maner yanshi kanshi,ulefwaya uka lete hotel Rwanda pa Zed?U Cockroach.Bemba comes in handy noko ichi…..walapwilikisha teh.Voetsek!!
Chief of Grief
July 23, 2014 at 9:54 am
I had no chance to get back to u yestrday coz nalikolwesha.Nomba leka tuku pele justice @ wow mutanyoko.Do all Bemba cments come from Bembas speaking people ayi iwe stanyoko??
Chief of Grief
July 23, 2014 at 10:06 am
Ati Kvs.Kaikulikefye.So u freaking Fu*****king telin me that u still can’t stretch out yo ‘so called objectivity debate in a foreign language’ayi,you can hang for all i care coz i care less waunfwa teh.!!!?
luse
July 23, 2014 at 11:05 am
mama..just move on with your life.stop exposing your stupidity here.you are useless.
luse
July 23, 2014 at 11:26 am
am back again,,,i think u deserve worse than dat! enjoy it that is Wat u wanted.
kvs
July 23, 2014 at 11:01 pm
Why insulting me? its better you answer my question, “is this site for bembers ” Am just concerned about most comments here they are always in bember, which some of us find it difficult to understand. lets use platform to educate each other an insulting.. let me warn all of you insulting innocent people here on this site. The law will catch up with you soon. Are you are aware that you can be traced and brought to book? be careful.
WEAKILEAKS
July 24, 2014 at 11:43 am
satanyoko who told you that this site is for bembas bukala bwanama tutu mupwishe uyu ulundepo chief of grief
badass
July 26, 2014 at 4:16 pm
sweetheart you are screwed, never date a married man. the never live there wives.your aunt is just another toy like you had been period.