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My Wife Comes From Work Wearing Different Panties
Dear BA Tumfweko,
My names are David Bronso Chishimba from northern province.My problem is that my wife comes from work wearing different panties or not wearing one at all.I’m a 40-year-old man who married again two years ago after my first wife passed away in 2011. My new wife is 27 years old and she works for a private medical company as a secretary. Our problem is that I have caught her countless times coming home with different panties. She might leave home wearing a red one but she would return wearing a white one. At times she would come back home without wearing one at all.
If confront her she tells me that she is having her menstrual cycle and for about twice she once said she had defecated in her panties hence she removed the panties. I love my wife so much and I can’t even think of partying ways with her, but I’m worried about the panties issue. Other than that we don’t have any problem. She respects me and she doesn’t make me feel insecure except on the above mentioned case.
Please share my story because i need advize from your readers.Thank you
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kakolwe
July 31, 2014 at 11:10 am
Ala wemwaume!! Ukucinjafye kaputula eko usakanane?
Her answers seem plausible to me. Ka pant no less than K20, what can make her fail to buy one & wash the soiled one? The fact that she comes as such is evidence of her innocence. Iwe tolokelapifye if she has none!!
PARI PASU
July 31, 2014 at 11:15 am
Strange one am married myself and have never heard of a woman 27 Years peeing in pants,and attending periods doesnt come as suprise she has to know her days better than you do,Mr Chama wake up and establish the cause of this fun behaviour,im not better placed to condemn her ,but i suspect the secrtarie in most cases
Ken
July 31, 2014 at 12:02 pm
Where did you get Mr Chama?
Suarez+Zuniga=Chielini+Neymar
July 31, 2014 at 4:04 pm
Kikikikikikikiki echiweme emo buchelele!…ati Chama yaba!
uwakumushi
July 31, 2014 at 8:40 pm
Kikikikikikikiki.chama.Kikikikikikikiki.chama
vidal
August 1, 2014 at 9:48 am
Hahahahahahaha he is referrin to bronson chama the football player hahahahahaha
abene bansamba
August 1, 2014 at 5:45 pm
elyashifye
melanin man
July 31, 2014 at 11:34 am
Chiliulefye leave her and marry a house wife.Baleku tombela boyi.
Abaakaabaa!!
August 1, 2014 at 8:58 am
true story
kadaya
July 31, 2014 at 11:34 am
Stop over feeding her,defeacating in her panties !?
Ichipampa
July 31, 2014 at 11:37 am
I am a woman it could be true that this lady has a problem with pants, ala tukaputula tulanunka ngatayishiba ukuwasha elo paponena utumisu eh eh eh chisusu panshi.
Sotambe
July 31, 2014 at 1:01 pm
Ask Chisha Folotiya on his Dora ex
5524
July 31, 2014 at 11:38 am
where on earth a woman changing pants lik diapas balekulila ku ma doctors.
TK11
July 31, 2014 at 11:59 am
First she said it is coz of her period. Then secondly she says she defacated (sp) in her panties. Believe me there is more to this than meets the eye. Whether monthly period or defacation; The common denominator in both cases is her change of pants. How? It is like she will keep on giving excuses as to why she changes her pants. I want to find out something; when she said it is because of her monthly period, as a husband, did you prove that this was the case? I smell a rat.
Ka Gelo
July 31, 2014 at 12:28 pm
@ TK11, what is your problem? let the man use his ntweno while the woman also services hers, capwa.
pompwe
July 31, 2014 at 11:53 am
nonsense…get lost and concentrate on improtant things in life..
dorika
July 31, 2014 at 12:25 pm
So when she knocks off from work the husband starts checking what underwear she has on? Wecaume ulicipuba sana, why check someone’s pants? You are abusing the girl. Koma nao, why marry an old man like you with such age difference? As a woman, if my undies are smelling of wee wee, I can change, nomba ninshi ala. He should just start taking two bambas nga alefwaya no umulumbe.
dorika
July 31, 2014 at 12:26 pm
I meant umulume (the husband).
GUNDE
July 31, 2014 at 12:39 pm
Maybe you do not buy pants for her nangu she wants fresh air.
Rainier
July 31, 2014 at 12:53 pm
Its good to here dat u stil love your wife Am sorry to hear that, but the best way is try and understand her nd what she tels u, hating or fighting is not the solution, the truth wil be seen oneday. If it continues then report the matter to the elders they wil help u. Continue prayin to god to review wat u want to know.. But with good reasons. May the lord bless yo marriage. By prince of peace.
muzo
July 31, 2014 at 1:20 pm
start buying her pant liners so she can be changng if messed up otherwise, your wife is cheating on u. am a lady nd dnt change pants tht way bcoz i use liners or maybe she has an infection hence da discharge tht makes her uncomfortable.
id!ot!
July 31, 2014 at 4:02 pm
You could be right there!..take her to the clinic iwe chi mudala!
mutombela kwipaya
July 31, 2014 at 1:31 pm
try this method. have marathon sex with her every morning from 01:00am to 06:00am. see if she will continue changing her diapers again.that is the only remedy to infidelity
Chief of Grief
July 31, 2014 at 1:58 pm
Ba mudala naimwe!So tamwishibe ati mwaupa ka solola aini.Ala abanakashi besu twakwata apa nomba ma hule BAD.Ku le akanafye ba bi***tch aba mudala.Cha bipa pantu mwalikatemwa pantu ba la ka sakuta nangula uku katomba sana naba kafwika na dusta coat na stethoscope mumatwi mu theater room noku ka bika thermometer muchinyo palast.My advise to u is just increase on the times you faque her,lets say uummmmmmm 8-10times a night & 4X before she dashes for work waunfwa teh?Just make sure u quench all her nyele pamu bili mwaunfwa…..
Bourne
July 31, 2014 at 2:11 pm
A woman on her periods is likely to need her pant to hold the sanitary pad unless she is using a tampon (which is not likely for a rural girl in N/Prvc). The defecation story is plausible. But to set the record straight, set a trap. You can get to the bottom of it.
midu
July 31, 2014 at 2:13 pm
Mr. Chishimba if u think she is cheating then she is. if u want to believe what she tells u, then believe.
ChiKA
July 31, 2014 at 2:31 pm
The possibility of her cheating is very high, who would manage to change underwear like that? Like that ad which used to come on tv, accidents are a thing of the past with pads.
IF NOT
July 31, 2014 at 2:58 pm
there is nothing wrong just reread your biology if u did it at school. many she discharges allot so….
CHALO BANTU
July 31, 2014 at 3:30 pm
You people are missing the point. This lady is just a thief. When she goes in a clothes shop. She steals a new pant wears it and keeps the old one in the bag. Guards will just check the bags and when they see an old tone pant they let her go thinking sheis carrying just in case she wants change.Meantime she is wearing a stolen new pant. Simple So nichipompwe chimayo ichi
Njota
July 31, 2014 at 3:58 pm
Chalo Bantu,,,iyo yamene wakamba ni sense…..she steals ma pants from these boutiques…mr man let her be showing u the extra pants she should be carrying in case she defects on her self. iyo yaperiod nama pads ya these days bufi.
Dodoma Daeresalaam Dansania
July 31, 2014 at 4:09 pm
But when you are having sex you take off your pant and wear it after. What would be the reason to change a pant after sex? you used it to clean?
kwa george
July 31, 2014 at 4:51 pm
BUY HER THE SAME COLOUR OF PANTS SINCE ITS YOU WHO GETS CONFUSED.
maybin
July 31, 2014 at 4:52 pm
Just find out
MUFYONKOTOMPO
July 31, 2014 at 5:08 pm
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Tj
July 31, 2014 at 5:42 pm
The big man hs a problem also! Im a married man nd i dnt monitor my wifes under wear.. I dnt think u hv thinz to do. Im sure yo wife feeds u, Get a life big man. Every day wen u wakes up is to check wat colour of a pant yo wife is wearin. I dnt think u even make love to yo so called.
Bemba woman
July 31, 2014 at 5:54 pm
@ Muzo, you are right. She is embarrassed to tell her husband about the abnormal discharge.
Bala Ng'ombe
July 31, 2014 at 5:55 pm
Ilyewe! Wanyanya nsanje Chishimba nalelo tizadya.
chiingu
July 31, 2014 at 7:16 pm
ba yama yo wife is an adulteress.wake and make her achite get out.she must be sleeping around.with aids around you re in trablo.
kakolwe
July 31, 2014 at 7:25 pm
To all you suspecting infidelity, I have a question: what would be the use of an extra pant in case of a ‘quicky?’ Let the man just gather up his confidence. Unless tafikapo!!
tutu
July 31, 2014 at 7:30 pm
chikala naiwe wine waliba insecure ai,ninshi kanshi first thing umukashi ngaisa ku checkinga ngamuli nika? nishi uliwakabukala akanono nangula takema uli nama erectile prbms? anyway boi reason 4 her doing d@ except d@ balekulila kachilemba ba dokota,elo umukashi obe takaleke pantu ba dokota balishiba bwino anatomy ya kachilemba tekuti uchite compete nabo…but to b sure contct me so d@ ikachite confirmu ubulowe bwaka chilemba ako, kakanyenga ubwaila no bwacha ala ukatasha mudala
Emmanuel Bwalya
July 31, 2014 at 7:36 pm
MR.why maring a young one
please ba mudala mufikeni umukashi tabumfwisha afwile naena apowa.
July 31, 2014 at 7:41 pm
Ala utubakashana nomba tufwaya ukufikapo mudala ulefikapofye ifyo ifya mapant fya chabe-chabe
Emmanuel Beston Bwalya
July 31, 2014 at 7:50 pm
AM SO SORRY FOR U
mal
July 31, 2014 at 8:36 pm
Br. Chama, u must have known your better by now since the time u married. The moment your wife starts cheating on you, with such pantie stories or any other. you will see a change of some kind in behaviour. Be patient with her or else muzasokoneza chikondi canu.
MNC
July 31, 2014 at 8:42 pm
She is a clean lady!So what is your worry?
jukes
July 31, 2014 at 8:53 pm
boi ukukonkelesha ama ladies u can die pofye, your wife is yours when you are with her, whn she goes shez not yourz. fwayafye naiwe apakutomba, naba zim zim nizee..
Digo
August 1, 2014 at 2:27 am
chama ndiwe polo zoana.mukaziwako bamunyenga ma patients.sakilache nini ina
Kamushi
August 1, 2014 at 4:39 am
kwena ichalo calapwa bane all we talk about is ukutombana! nabamunyengela madam or baledodana.that lady has tombanitis ubulwele bwakuchinyo cure bu kala mwaumfwa ka??
Oracle
August 1, 2014 at 8:59 am
Ask the Zimbabwean’s men. They have a solution to stop such. I smell a rat!!!
Amake Mwana
August 1, 2014 at 8:59 am
There is nothing like monthy period or pee or whatever, this woman is cheating on you. The lover wants to see her in a certain underwear and she stays with it. Woman, remove the underwear and put the one you left home with back…. if you can’t stop cheating on your loving husband.
Mr T
August 1, 2014 at 9:19 am
My friend, you need prayers. These women are careless. Send her to see the Alagizi and address this situation to avoid embarrassing the family. Set a trap with someone to check and report to you on her whereabouts.
Good luck
chile1
August 1, 2014 at 10:02 am
Mmmmm mulumendo fyakubipila,I cn understand the issue of cmin wit a different pant,bt cmin wit no panties at all? Awe kwena,uyo bala mutomba utuma quickie mumotaka especially dat ni secretary.thez mor dat secretaries do than jus carrying files ka
gverbal
August 1, 2014 at 11:43 am
kindly use english reading bemba and nyanja is soo time consuming
i sense lack of communication in your situation mr chishimba, if a woman wants to cheat on you trust me women are sleek u would not even c her change undies they way u have noticed
Darth Vadar
August 1, 2014 at 12:55 pm
Due to the big pipe from her boss she get bruises and sometimes she sh*ts on herself out of the pain from s*x.
Imwe
August 1, 2014 at 1:05 pm
Dorika ulichipuba tawafundwa hw can a marriage woman have such a life style… the husband is also a fool like dorika brings bedroom issue into the public, grow up people.
Crystal milk white way
August 1, 2014 at 3:52 pm
Take her out for a day. Or long trip see wat she will carry in her hand Bangor if she will change her panties….
Kapaso
August 1, 2014 at 4:10 pm
Awe mwebantu she is not a hule as you may take it. Kwaliba abanakashi bamo abakwata ka smell when you use a pant for a full day, sometimes its better to change during the day. Limbi abalume tabaishiba ati alanunka. So for her to tell the husband ati nalikwata ka smell its very difficult bane please understand her situation. Amen.
abene bansamba
August 1, 2014 at 5:47 pm
kuumufwasafye amenshi akaleka.
G.S
August 2, 2014 at 9:10 pm
I umderstand the poit from Kapaso, its like the wife she is not too open to the husband thats why she cant even tell him. Mr chishimba try to know your wife very well, when you will easly know why she is doing those thing to you!!!