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‘I Slept With A Married Woman’
Dear Readers
About a year and half ago, I gave a lift to a woman and it happened that she stayed two streets before mine. After a chat in the car I discovered she was married and has 3 kids. I also told her I was married with a child. We got friendly and exchanged numbers.
One day my wife traveled and she asked to visit me. Another thing led to another and we had sex unprotected. We had Sex 3 more times on different days. Twice in my car, and twice in my house.
Now, one day I asked her why she was doing this… she said she doesn’t sleep with her husband anymore and he had reported her to their priest but she doesn’t care. That the husband doesn’t satisfy her and she hardly looks forward to having sex with him. I felt bad and guilty and advised that we should stop seeing each other.
She agreed and said we should remain friends.
Three weeks ago, she called to say she missed her period and that I was responsible. I advised her that this would be disastrous to both our marriages and that she would have to terminate the pregnancy. Now she’s refusing to do so even after I gave her K5, 000 to take care of it. She is promising to make my life a living hell and that she doesn’t care what the world thinks.
Claiming that she loves me and that if I loved my wife I wouldn’t have slept with her. However true this is… I love my wife and I’m not ready to crash my marriage.
I seriously have no idea of what to do. I practically live in fear cos she calls me every other day and my wife is getting suspicious.
Mail from reader
Posted by
lemi
November 28, 2014 at 10:07 am
Its yo problem.
Sam
November 28, 2014 at 10:15 am
Leave with it…you will properly advise the next generation of your foolishness…a leaving example….I pity u though…
Maiko
November 28, 2014 at 10:17 am
You made the bed – sleep in it.
You can not choose the consequencies of your actions.
bonse reposted
November 28, 2014 at 10:18 am
mamamama yakosa,boi just confess by yourself to your wife..and her husband well her husband will try to kill the hell out of you
Lilian
November 28, 2014 at 10:29 am
gather your strength tell your wife, apologize so many times ask her what she thinks and tell that married woman is threatening you. and anyway she might be liying its u to make u leave your wife. where do u take her 4 children now. Mark my words your wife will understand help u to talk to this woman. above pray about it first as for more of his Grace abounding en its over. she will keep the child that woman that what she wanted i mean if its true later u pipo can talk with your wife. What yoy hide you do not repent of.
Czar
November 28, 2014 at 10:30 am
Go kill yourself and do no harm to the innocent unborn child you illegitimate muppet!!! Infact report yourself to the authorities for the crime you are intending to commit.
Atase
November 28, 2014 at 5:14 pm
True just drink umuti wabakoswe so that u die fast becoz the husband is still going to mutilate all genitals and force u to eat them, then aka kulepula pa mala naka leza takes out all your intestines na bachief bamumala and prepare ama ofosals yapachililo chobe
Chief Of Grief
November 28, 2014 at 10:31 am
Ifyakulya ubushiku fimonekela kwisa??
Judge Joe Bidden
November 28, 2014 at 12:42 pm
Ku mafi Te!
ayoba
November 28, 2014 at 10:31 am
Tumfweko turns into Sis Dolly. From a sister to a brother, iyo ni cross yobe, twingilemo shani mubuchende bobe? We should worry about PF pangas, the resurrected male version of Belinda-RB, tubikepo nefyobe?
Chief Of Grief
November 28, 2014 at 10:38 am
Boi just come out clean!!Tell your wife nombaline & be apologetic nawo muntu she’ll understand!!
saka g
November 28, 2014 at 6:59 pm
lelo walandako bwino boyi thus Gud.
bmc
November 28, 2014 at 11:09 am
Yabaa!better use king solomons judgement on 2 wives who claimed the same child.in the army they say each man for himself, God for all.going by these sayings , both of you committed Adultery.
I think the woman is to blame she seduced you willingly.
Find a conducive environment and imform your wife promising not to do it again.
hs
November 28, 2014 at 12:12 pm
in short you are on your own
bmc
November 28, 2014 at 12:37 pm
Not being on your own, in simple terms its to make a wise decision in complex situations like for the poor handsome man. Solomons judgement=let him decide whether to tell the wife in advance or keep quite until. ….
God for all =since both are guilty of adultery, each of them shud forget about the otherone completely.
SHIBUKOMBE
November 28, 2014 at 11:11 am
Aah kabili uli chipuba,kuti waya shani mukulepawila mun’ganda.Obviously it was on your matrimonial bed.U difiled your bed.I would encourage her to leak the news to your wife.u abused her trust.twice having sex in your home?? bupuba ubo.
Chibote
November 28, 2014 at 11:12 am
Just own up and tell your wife the truth. At first she will be very annoyed with you but later understand and support you. She wouldn’t want to leave her marriage to a woman of 4 children. Be prepared to pay that woman’s husband compensation for marriage interference.
Then confess your sins. God will forgive you.
chaona
November 28, 2014 at 11:18 am
bwa u clashed ur mariage the very day u entered btween her legs. the problem with u is that u did use ur brain to think, u used ichikala chobe to do the thinking. wrong method. so now use ur brain to sort this thing out, not ichikala again.
thankx.
JAMES P
November 28, 2014 at 11:25 am
life goes on my guy…..
malama
November 28, 2014 at 11:32 am
You are an idiot, how would you feel if it was your wife doing this????. How can you sleep with a married person?????
Umupandapwiti
November 28, 2014 at 11:34 am
Boyi bonse tulalya bamukabene nomba ilyashi lyefumo lyankoselako. Wesheko ukukeba kalaleko no mulume nangufye once and promise you will continue giving it to her forever. Also make sure you are not caught. Play the game and do not let the game play you.
Maiko
November 28, 2014 at 1:38 pm
Umupandapwiti! I am also ‘eating’ your wife. How does that feel?
Umupandapwiti
November 28, 2014 at 4:56 pm
Ndokulombakofye pantu ndiwaluse, ubomfyekofye na ka condom pantu ilyashi lyakupimisha nebo nshakosa. lol
Mapenzi
November 28, 2014 at 11:39 am
She is bluffing, just testing your reactions and emotions to see if she made an impact. She has children with her current husband; and whether she likes or not, they still do it. Since she has no morals, it could be from somebody else who took over from you in a fit her revenge but she does not love him.
She has also a lot to loose, women are not like that, they protect their standing in society. Threaten her with a DNA test; she will back off.
ZambianToTheBone
November 28, 2014 at 11:41 am
Eya!
t
November 28, 2014 at 11:52 am
U can’t claim to love your wife when you have the guts to even last for another woman….what do u know about love?
Foolish man.
kakolwe
November 28, 2014 at 11:46 am
Men, the moment you free your bwamba from your pant in readiness for entering past a soswe, be prepared cor ALL the consequences: HIV, Pregnancies, ukuponokwa & the whole lot.@ Chaona has put it best, this fool wrecked his marriage the day he invited the stranger into his house when the wife was out. My advice to this phucking idiot is to use the K5pin to terminate his own life. The 2 women & his children will be better off.
Iwe chichikala, we fear bamukabene, not because tafiima, but for the social consequences.
Dude
November 28, 2014 at 11:47 am
Who did you consult before starting that affair? You know the answer. Efyo mulwalila aids, you do know the ci woman but uli busy doing her, atase.
Kayombo
November 28, 2014 at 11:58 am
Ulichisushi
biggie
November 28, 2014 at 12:01 pm
she is a liar shez just playing with your mind chana, think. let her be.
State house
November 28, 2014 at 12:08 pm
be friendly to her, do not avoid her. once she feels accepted by you she will stop petering you. be wise you may be killed by either your wife or her spouse
Clement Milonga
November 28, 2014 at 12:35 pm
My brothe you should be prayerfull.if you have never repented start now ans confess for your own good.but before you confess,that woman must tell you the truth.it could be that she is not even married.or if she is married then its possible its not your pregnant but she has seen material things in your marriage.believe me this is not your battle and you must rialise that through her your mariege can be destroyed to dust.please I beg you in the name of Our lord Jesus to act as soon as possible.ask that woman in good faith and use wisdom to speak to her.if you conclude it’s the truth ask your most trjusted person whon you seek advice from all the time and forge ahead.please!!! bless you if you seek God.know that no problem is biger than God so do something to come out of it.
melody rosa liywali
November 28, 2014 at 12:17 pm
my dear,dis z hell. Bt i guess u were stupid to hav gone in without protection.dat married woman z satan tryin to break a home,confess to yo wife,God wil see u throu.
NTONGO
November 28, 2014 at 12:19 pm
To begin with, ULICISUSHI MANINGI, There is no problem iam telling you.Ulecitombeshafye, ukusheko nobukala pakuti ngabwaingila atenda ati inyeeeeeeeeeeeeeee”””””””””””. Kabiye apapene mukucipopa wechipuba iwe
Chimamawaluse
November 28, 2014 at 12:21 pm
Just Kill your self like that21 year old!
mark x
November 28, 2014 at 12:45 pm
we had sex three times. twice in the car and twice at my home! nice fiction
Chiwanangala
November 28, 2014 at 1:01 pm
Iwe we had sex 3 more times, this makes 4 together with the first one, are you that dull. so from 4, twice in his house and twice in his car, you get it now you maggot ,,,
Judge Joe Bidden
November 28, 2014 at 1:06 pm
My advice:
1. No termination see her thru
2. Introduce the kid when he’s grown say at 5 – 7yrs to your wife or family
3. Let the woman pretend it’s for the husband unless you are coloured or white
4. When times comes bring the kid and pretend it was a one nighter and ask for forgiveness
5. Confessing today u might run into trouble possibly the woman was kidding or the pregnancy isn’t even yours.
6. Be friends with the woman to keep the secret for betterment of both families
Kennedy
November 28, 2014 at 2:11 pm
Perfect
Chims Kay
November 28, 2014 at 1:07 pm
It has bin. Said “no sex outside marriage” ths is the wage of sin. U must have thought wht would happen before having sex wth her. Any way, you have already disturbed your marriage bt jst agree wth her
MK
November 28, 2014 at 1:08 pm
The demon that caused her husband not to perform could be responsible for your actions; you are are a week soul and probably possessed. Seek deliverance or else your problems will never end as the same demon will lead you to another problem.
Mahoko P.Samuvanga
November 28, 2014 at 1:24 pm
man, its time for you to pay back, what you sow, so you reap.
lelolelo
November 28, 2014 at 1:27 pm
continue ukuchilya kaili ulachilya ukuchila the husband,. But naiwe be ready nga chafwaya ukukulya icho ulilako ababa nobe ,.obvius chalilowa nga Belinda the resurected RB,.hopin to win using 1 weapon @ experienc,.ts tooth for a tooth boi ,.
bmw
November 28, 2014 at 1:40 pm
the wages of sin is death,but the free gift of God is everlastng lif through Jesus christ our Lord.Wht u reap is wht u saw
craiz
November 28, 2014 at 1:45 pm
You sound like a guy from Livingstone you were warned not to mess with this woman she is bad news .you work for OP RIGHT
Pink panther
November 28, 2014 at 1:52 pm
Ba guy mulicipuba after mwaingilamo live nokupemeno tamwaishibe ifikakonkapo lwenu ulo mukosepo
Anthony chisanga
November 28, 2014 at 1:55 pm
Iam very disappointed with you if that woman you gave her a lift in your she is married then the pregnancy is not yours , and if she insists to say tell her that you are going to tell her husband and your wife about the story, but the bad thing is how can you take the girl in your home there so many hotels and guest house if your wife finds out it wii end your marriage
Rahyata
November 28, 2014 at 1:57 pm
Just tell her to do to he’ll first. She is just playing with your mind because she has seen a weakness in you.
kalulete
November 28, 2014 at 2:04 pm
it is alie,next please!
mbalundu
November 28, 2014 at 2:39 pm
Wait until the right time comes,you will know if she is really pregnant
emmanuel
November 28, 2014 at 3:19 pm
My Dear this is pure adultery which is among the ten commandments that God guided us through. Do you go to church? That woman was reported to the priest but she doesn’t care!! You are both SATANISTS!! Go and repent.
Word
November 28, 2014 at 3:30 pm
Come out clean to your wife. she may go sleep with another guy and then forgive you.
nshafilwapo
November 28, 2014 at 3:44 pm
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nshafilwapo
November 28, 2014 at 3:59 pm
Ala ubucnde bwamwaume tabutobe nganda nomba ngachacilamo bulatoba. Fwebengi twalilufyanyapo lelo kukwatafye icichetekelo no kuyelela to your wife I know it will be hard for her. It happened one time to me when my husband cheated on me and foolish enough the girl confronted me on phone and I discovered to say she was claiming to be carrying a baby for him, without him knowing that there was another guy going out with her. As time went on the guy started coming and it was discovered that it was not my husband’s pregnancy
jamoka
November 28, 2014 at 4:18 pm
why did you go for married woman????the married women their always sweet. that is why basanganisha…after fyabipa elo mwamba kufwaya advise.
amano ukubula
November 28, 2014 at 4:23 pm
Your wife must take that sweet baby you have together, your house, your car and bank balance and then find herself someone who deserves her trust. Then when your child is old enough she should explain what an idiot of a man you are.
That new woman won’t go anywhere near you when you even have to ask her for bus fare.
Atase
November 28, 2014 at 5:15 pm
True just drink umuti wabakoswe so that u die fast becoz the husband is still going to mutilate your genitals and force u to eat them, then aka kulepula pa mala naka leza takes out all your intestines na bachief bamumala and prepare ama ofosals yapachililo chobe
Aisha
November 28, 2014 at 6:12 pm
God to hell with your evil story. Just hung yourself with your neck tie and you will completely be free.
dap joe
November 28, 2014 at 6:14 pm
simple issue. shift to another area and blacklist her phone and forget. ask forgiveness from God.
benard
November 28, 2014 at 6:23 pm
Mambala after walia ati less end the relationship,walamwenako waumfwa
Cool temple
November 28, 2014 at 6:40 pm
We Chibwa wee!