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‘My Wife Is Too Sexually Uptight / Rigid’
From a male reader:
Its unfortunate I have to share my intimate secrets with total strangers on this forum but this bothers me a lot. My wife and I have been married for 4 years but its all the same.
Sexually my wife is too uptight. I have tried all I could to liberalize her mind concerning sex, but to no avail. Here are some issues I have with my wife’s sexual inhibition. She does not think a woman should initiate sex and she doesn’t.
We have only had sex in the bedroom because she wont get turned on if I try another place. We only do missionary style as she is reluctant to learn new skills and doggy to her is somehow animalistic.
We cant have sex if we are in mine or my parents house. We cant have sex if any of her siblings of mine are around she doesn’t want them to hear her moan.
We only have sex on weekends as she gets tired after work.
We have never had quickie. Like sex after she is fully dressed for occasion.. for where.
I asked her if she had any sexual fantasies she replied NO
She doesn’t shave her pubic hair. No sex with lights on
Blow Job? my D can not even touch boobs talk less of her mouth. Neither does she allow me to go down on her
Some advised counseling, others advocate porn to dis-inhibit her mind.
Please readers how do I turn my wife to a freak in bed. I have discussed with her many times with promise to change but still the same.
Posted by Kunda
on February 6, 2015. Filed under LATEST NEWS, STYLE.
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he he
February 6, 2015 at 3:23 pm
Ala
lnvestigator
February 6, 2015 at 3:59 pm
Tafyashupa, muchite position alefwaya. Nomba do it in such a manner that akala ati naumupilibula dog type. Bushe do you surely understand sex? limbi mutoba iyakwa mukolwe?
Twetwe
February 6, 2015 at 4:40 pm
Do not start something you may regret , that is open floodgates of doom – one thing is clear and it is either your wife is seeing ka guy to give her the level acceptable in her view or the two of you have not mastered the fine art of FULL orgasm. Bedroom issues are so tricky there will never be full counsel offered depending on couple compartability.But if she moans out of pleasure, why not go out for a weekend where you will not be heard give her your full dose of goodies?
Laso
February 6, 2015 at 6:22 pm
My friend u r married to a tree….
Mu chibemba, niwe kapenda mabula…
dman
February 6, 2015 at 6:30 pm
no comment
Bujo mujo
February 6, 2015 at 7:37 pm
My guy av u tryd to talk with her bana chimbusa. ..maybe she ws nt taught properly. ..b coz ukuchita kusuma especially some u committed to yo all life. ..
better
February 6, 2015 at 9:23 pm
Thats bush mouse
Renee
February 6, 2015 at 9:39 pm
Sometimes, it could be spiritual husbands. She must be open enough to share dreams.
Sometimes, fimeko.
freak
February 7, 2015 at 4:00 am
Choices
1. Talk
2. Get drunk and get wild
3. Get her drunk and get her wild
Probably she had a bad experience earlier. Walked in on her mum and pop getting nasty.
truly zambian
February 7, 2015 at 4:15 am
from the comments there are a lot of people with this problem it seems .before marriage that behavior will seem to be decent ka village chicken and that what all men love virgin grounds.yet we love women them crazy and wild .as men we should be loved ,wanted its important for us .such women are slow and dnt care types very boring over principled.we will never know them maybe was abused,masturbates alot,very quite and timid type.it will be good finding a gal friend cause they will really give you the moments of your life but will never trust them.these untrained women spoil the us good men
to you bro,i feel your pain, frustration you want to be true but if you remain will be sad for ever yet if you cheat will have good moments
Renee
February 7, 2015 at 5:39 am
Sometimes, it could be spiritual husbands. She must be open enough to share dreams. Sometimes most women dream having sex with snakes, unknown men. This in turn causes them to hate sex with their real partners.
Its torturing to a man, more especially when you are on your full battery level.
vindapala jeanks
February 7, 2015 at 6:55 am
bane,ilyashi lyaku nyengana it’s all about getting yo mind prepared for it,otherwise it has no meaning regardless of the style used.b4 we completely blame the woman,hw does the man prepare himself sexually for her? it could be that she has noticed some short falls in the man’s ability to satisfy her sexual desires which makes her think negatively…therefore,the only solution is to talk about it.
Email
February 7, 2015 at 8:14 am
Its unfortunately there ar such pipo existing..marriage is sex nomata hw other pipo may nt want to accept dat fact.sex shld b enjoyed in different rooms,styles and snapily..bathrooms,sitting room,bathroom even kitchen or rather in yo car.shaving:cinshi eco tafwaila ukubeya amaso,she mst b stupid,dirty..shaving is much talked abt by banachimbusa.ata,mafi yakwe.ADVICE:do it brother in a ruff way if she cant learn.mutombe iyakunuma,yalilowa.if she continyes being rigid ur free to use insults to teach her.mayb in a hard way she might learn..
concerned citizen
February 7, 2015 at 8:22 am
go and fetch advice from your church pastor, this problem is not a small one.
tuyakange
February 7, 2015 at 9:58 am
Ngatawakwata mano mwilaupa.Tawafundwa wemwaume ba PK CHISHALA balimba ati wabula ilyashi lya kukati waleta pamwela ulicipuba sana.Bushe uko wikala takwaba bakalamba abo wingepushako
The Proffesor
February 7, 2015 at 12:37 pm
False!
The wise man
February 8, 2015 at 9:49 am
yeah spiritual husbands are also funny.,check if she feels jealousy for u if she does u both need deliverance becoz. Soon u will. Start behaving the same.
The wise man
February 8, 2015 at 9:53 am
yeah spiritual husbands are also funny.,check if she feels jealousy for u if she does u both need deliverance becoz. Soon u will. Start behaving the same. I have never used this web site with comments.
cliff
February 8, 2015 at 6:07 pm
Mr. Be gentle,ladies needs a hand to get to that level u need to feel.ku mu nyengelela slowly and patience until she accept your styles, do nt be a laughing stock at last!!!
Taj
February 9, 2015 at 12:48 pm
@ she dosent shave niwadoti aaaaai na sisi fulu
edge
February 9, 2015 at 5:25 pm
Hey,,,,!Man bed issues are handled by elders,no coment under age,please let us not air out bed issues wen we h’ve got elders around. Elders first.
FALSE
jeff
February 10, 2015 at 8:32 am
My brother ,it shows u skipped the most important part of marriage whuch is counselling,if u two had gone through it you would have been,enjoying yo marriage ,all those talking of counselling their right go for it.gudluck