My Husband Doesn’t Know How To Handle Me In The Bedroom- Reader

black womanThis is one issue causing serious wahala in many young marriages today. Read her story below:

I don’t enjoy s*x with my hubby because of many reasons which I cannot state here. Its really frustrating. I have tried to subtly give him clues so I wont hurt his feelings but he never learns and would release even before I finish removing my pant…

My elder sister bought a rabbit vibrator from the UK for me and its out of this world. I am a house wife and I now see myself looking forward to my husbands leaving in the morning so I can indulge, my problem now is that I cant seem to get enough. I cum like 2/3 tyms every day before he comes home from work. My orgaszm always knocks me out and I tend to deeply sleep off immediately.
My kids are home on mid term break and I had to chase them out of my room yesterday so I can indulge. I slept from 11am to almost 3pm and my kids were hungry. I was so ashamed of myself when I woke up and the thing was still in my veejay.
I feel as if my new rabbit is beginning to change me into something else. I rarely have strength to do any thing these days and my hubby is beginning to complain though I pretend to be sick to get him off my back.
I hid it inside one old long shoe but I am never comfortable. Whenever hubby goes to the wardrobe my heart jumps into my mouth.
I really am very confused about this thing. It has taken me to heaven yet has stolen my sanity and peace of mind. I have thought about throwing it away but I really don’t know if I can cope without it.
Please what do i do?

66 Responses to "My Husband Doesn’t Know How To Handle Me In The Bedroom- Reader"

  1. Manda   February 20, 2015 at 10:20 pm

    Sex sickness. Metals, fingers or whatever you caLl it cannot replace a person. Throw away that garget otherwise u will lose ur marriage. It better little than nothing.

  2. Stevinho   February 20, 2015 at 10:46 pm

    iweee!jx luk out n b careful wth wat u’re doing…st thng u’ve 2 no z dat u’re jx being used by satanix wth yo rabbit vibrator ozawise u’ll lose yo lover n de last thng tel yo sis 2 repent if nt,den giv me yo husband’s number so dat i cn inform him wat z hapenin in yo marriage.

    • the "presedantaile"   February 23, 2015 at 9:55 am

      man Get serious Hubby’s do you wnt to make things bad than they are. kikikikikikikikikikiki

      • Joe   February 23, 2015 at 11:01 am

        Communication in marriage is very important.Madam should be very open with her husband so that he knows where he is not fully satisfying her.Replacing her husband with a gadget for her sex pleasures will simply corrupt her morals.

  3. Chief of Grief   February 20, 2015 at 11:07 pm

    Pwahahahahahahaha ati he atimes cums b4 u drop yo pants.Ok tel him 2 burst a nut b4 u guyz get heatd up 2 avoid his premature cumin.2) let him knw ati nga tasalapwike ka kalulu kakamupoka ichupo.Anyway that ka rabit dildo shud be trashed.Thats an eye opener to u lazy nigaz out there ati nabakalulu balatombela.

  4. New Educated Zambia   February 20, 2015 at 11:30 pm

    Chief of Grief your village girlfriend is now writing to tumfweko? Can you tell her to sort personal issues personally. Back to the issue at hand, these types of problems can be attributed to the rampant abuse of alcohol by most of the PF cadres. It leads to poor performance in the bedroom. As I have stated when HH takes over we will ensure drunkards and poor performers such as this rat called chief of grief are being productive on co-operative state farms. Be clever like me and vote HH

    • HH UMUTOMBESHI   February 23, 2015 at 12:42 pm

      ONLY UPND CADERS/HH CAN RELEASE JUST BY EYEN THE OPONENT & ENDUP LOOSING AN ERECTION/ELECTION!!! PWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

  5. chika Edson Ike   February 20, 2015 at 11:50 pm

    Kikiki ilyashi lyakutomba. Awe mwandi

  6. kakolwe   February 21, 2015 at 5:08 am

    You are the first woman your husband ever phucked. He is the 99th man you phucked! So it is not that he doesn’t know ‘how to handle you’ hut that you compare him to 30 other phuckers that dipped it into you. With the introduction of that rubber d!ck, an sorry to tell you that you are becoming a lost case.
    I have always felt for the men who marry the ladies I have met before. What if they can’t make them ‘semuka’ like I do/did? I usually get the answers & feel guilty.

  7. cliff   February 21, 2015 at 6:09 am

    U re mad woman!!!!! And may God forgive u and your chi foolish sister

  8. elvis k   February 21, 2015 at 6:42 am

    my dear sister th problem of yo husband its normal and can b hundeled only wen h accepts and u a b ther 4 him its wat we call premature ejeculation which z very common a men nowdays first thing wen during f/play avoid touchng his penis,incerise tim of f/play th most impotant thing introduce stop start method its peferct wen he z doing timmidietly he fills lik releasing he comes out jst 4 less thn 4min thn he starts its not easy 4 both of u bt it helps

  9. elvis k   February 21, 2015 at 6:51 am

    control his deaty and wat u ar doing now stop coz evin wen yo husband starts recorvaring u will not b sutsfyed u will stil go bac 2 t wch will not help th both of u jst stop and work on yo husbands problem let me ask did u find him lik tht or t jst hupened along th way? Did he tell u enythng lik him hvng ulushinga/akankulila wen he ws young? If so thn its wat makng him lik tht t z capeble of comng bac as a peson z growing enyway if wat im saing z makng sense a u gt bac a me on 0962267518 and lets chat more yo husband z ok

  10. illuminati freemasons   February 21, 2015 at 7:01 am

    too bad,consult

  11. Salvatore Shawa   February 21, 2015 at 7:51 am

    demonic sister justthrow that away coz it will destroy ur life n u will be addicted to it probably u are already

  12. Meek   February 21, 2015 at 8:02 am

    You Sis and You need deliverance!!

  13. PAMPUTI   February 21, 2015 at 8:35 am

    Ati new educaued mafi pamo na president wenu hamatako hanaka ukunya pamenso kwati MASO yakwa mulyokela.viva edgar castle lungu.

  14. juju   February 21, 2015 at 8:46 am

    Satanism moving day time,why should u buy such an idol,you are in for a great shock…..

  15. PAMPUTI   February 21, 2015 at 8:49 am

    Ba new educated penis &joe bidden kantobo habwamba hakanono u never rule mother zambia as long as u ar tonga idiots coz u cant think o u know is cow dung in ur boos idiots .viva castle babe lungu.

    • Judge Joe Bidden   February 21, 2015 at 10:08 am

      Just avoid including me in silly discussions. Take it as an advice, just comment on the issue. Am not that person you need to be exchanging insults with.

      • kakolwe   February 21, 2015 at 10:28 am

        Good advice to the low-calibre useless debaters! @Judge Joe Bidden. That is what I have included in my blog time: -Never Respond To Any Goon that insults or campaigns when elections are long past. Imagine, even campaigns for the Chawama seat haven’t started!

    • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 1:51 pm

      Useless chap who has never seen the interior of a basic primary school. Who said anything about tribe? Do you see how stupidity can lead to irrelevant conflicts? u are really a mputi of the lowest standard. uli mputi ya kolwe.staaanyoko iwe. tomba noko

      • HH UMUTOMBESHI   February 23, 2015 at 12:46 pm

        NEW EDUCATED ZAMBIA chikala chobe iwe bwamba bwanama mutomba mbwa iwe musaatanyooko

  16. pat   February 21, 2015 at 9:36 am

    Yangu uyu kalulu eeee apoka ichupo

  17. Ramsey   February 21, 2015 at 10:20 am

    Both u & yo hubby needs total delivarance. U’re very stupid.

  18. PAMPUTI   February 21, 2015 at 11:11 am

    Ba joe bidden CLITORIS & new educated SPERM u re idiots just accept dat edgar castle babe lungu is our president if u want go and hang urself on ur grandmothers clitoris ba hh namashinsha pamatako cowards u want 2 scare me pamputi d u no wr i cm frm idiot reply if u want 2 lose ur penis 2day.

    • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 1:55 pm

      Foolish boy who cannot construct even one simple sentence in English. Sadly this is what PF’s education policies have led to. We in the UPND will ensure that basic education is given priority in terms of funding etc. We want to ensure that every zambian, even the most underprivilleged like this koswe called pamputi will get basic literacy in early stages of life. Hopeless cadre. vote HH

  19. Zambian-To-The-Bone   February 21, 2015 at 11:32 am

    Give me your number and/or email email address!

  20. major chileshe   February 21, 2015 at 11:36 am

    Iwe mukashana inyele yobe yampeshamano,jus get in touch wit that retard new educated fimofimo

    • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 1:53 pm

      hehe unfortunately for that poor soul i am very happy with my madam. With stable relationships comes stable leadership. Look at the way the PF cadres and leaders constantly commit adultery and sleep with each other. It is not a shock that they have failed to provide leadership and example for the young to follow

      • kakolwe   February 21, 2015 at 7:29 pm

        Is Shakafuswa a PF cadre?
        Consider his escapades?
        He is the One who christened parliament motel as an official brothel.

        • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 7:47 pm

          What proof do you have iwe. Wenzeko pamene enzo kunyenga? Please I am not talking about simply sleeping around. Everyone has the right to do as they please sexually within the confines of the law. However, what I am refering to when it comes to the PFis that which has reached the courts e.g well documented cases of adultery.

        • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 7:50 pm

          I mean look at your late president sata, the chap didnt even know how many kids he had

  21. Ghetto   February 21, 2015 at 3:34 pm

    you are sick mukashana, I think you can even open your legs kwishilu. You need medicine or see your doctor . A normal person teti aletomba chi object umusango uyo. So iwe akanyo kobe kalisanguka nama electrones abalume bobe kungondwa that’s why he is not fvcking your puzzy.

  22. WHITE JUJU   February 21, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    fellaz u are polluting this site!! the lady just need help, not insults! how many of us guys hav neva wanked b4!! lets hav care 4 others pipo’s problems..one day it gonna b u!!! anyway my sis…just hav confidence & let ur man kno abt it, & pliz cease usin dt toy…it ll neva b human..thanks..may GOD see u through!!!

  23. fearless.com   February 21, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    Its sad hearing that coz really sex was made to be enjoyed. Just have courage and talk to him and seek advice from elderly trusted people. Coz that thing shall never change to a human being you end up looking for men which will bring bigger problems that you will fail to handle.

  24. Bhinsimatako   February 21, 2015 at 7:26 pm

    woman. both of you are too young. the problem is that your bodies circulate alot of sexual hormones to the level beyond your control. everything will normalize as you get to mature. there is nothing wrong with this. besides, you are more exposed to sex than your husband who seemed to be a virgin at the time you married him. you seem to be used with experienced men who even take longer than your husband. finally, where were you to know that this man undersatisfies you before it was to late than start embarassing yourselves with petty issues?

  25. MUDIDI   February 21, 2015 at 7:34 pm

    0979332046…..

  26. watcher   February 21, 2015 at 7:44 pm

    Hi my sisi out of all these insulting and unhelpfull bloggers i m the only one with solution but i m currently out of the country i m a professional in this field please sick for one like me in z stop exposing yrslf i wish to to meet both of u i ll see how i can do i cnt put my details here but i ll c good luck

  27. mutototoo   February 21, 2015 at 8:14 pm

    U r too beaultful to do that & its too early 4 u to stat using such gadgets mo ova u v got kids wit da man.xplain to him how u wnt to b fuly satitisfied sexuly

  28. king solomon   February 21, 2015 at 8:42 pm

    New Educated zambian.mind your language.we are watching you closely. Iyi site niyanyoko?tikakoune weo mwana, uliye ulemu, soti uli namanyozo ngako.
    sembe baliye unifunyako ku state house sembe nakulanga nchibwino.mambala iwe.

    • New Educated Zambia   February 21, 2015 at 10:40 pm

      hehe iwe chita get out. Ndiwe wo sasa mumutu. Can you please attack me on principal and the views that I have. Can you please say new educated u stated so and so, I think you are wrong because of so and so. Noti matuvi aya yamene wayamba.

  29. MR DAY   February 21, 2015 at 10:28 pm

    NINYELE YABWANJI IYO MAMI

  30. let's face it   February 21, 2015 at 10:35 pm

    This is a sensitive marital problem babe girl. First,dialog with yo hubby,get him to understand that this problem is putting yo marriage on the line. Second, get counsel from fimbusas,with these two steps am sure it will be the starting point to the solution of yo problem. As for that gadget,try to discontinue using it ,because it will do more harm than good to your marriage once you get addicted to it. Good day.

  31. investigator   February 22, 2015 at 4:38 am

    I think new educated Zambia is resurfaced Sara mulenga, this new educated thing can talk rubbish and quite irrelevant things from the topic. He/she brings politics when we are talking bedroom issues. What sort of a person is this?

    • New Educated Zambia   February 22, 2015 at 3:12 pm

      You are a silly cadre iwe. The whole point of such public forums is so that people can give their varied views on issues. This is the joy of freedom of speech and thought. Why should you expect my comment to fit in with what you percieve to be a comment befitting this article? If you cannot handle the fire, stay out of the frying pan. PLease Vote UPND to ensure people have freedom of speech.

      • HH UMUTOMBESHI   February 23, 2015 at 12:51 pm

        NEZ nalikutombela umukashi mailo!!!!!!!

        • New Educated Zambia   February 23, 2015 at 3:54 pm

          hehehe. very funny guy. my woman cannot associate with illiterates mwana. keep dreaming. Why cannot you engage me on serious debate. Dull people always try to lower debates to petty issues which their small brains can handle haha. very funny retarded boy

  32. let's face it   February 22, 2015 at 7:32 am

    When I check on blogers responses on tumfweko, mostly, I get to read about out of topic replies ,insults,people at each others throats. This makes me wonder,is this the nature of this site? Or maybe some of you r drunk when you blog,or maybe this is the way you have fun. Come on guys, this girl has brought her personal problem to you, trusting you wil help her out of the mud. But insted what do you do ? Exactly the opposite. People,most of you if your blogs had sound,you’d sound like stray monkey cries in trees. For the sake of change why can’t you try to stick to the topic,you would really sound like grownups you know?

  33. mulanshoka   February 22, 2015 at 8:35 am

    This is HH’s wife complaining because his husband has come frustrated to an extent of failing to perform,

    • New Educated Zambia   February 22, 2015 at 3:16 pm

      Tpyical of the PF cadres. Am sure you are speaking from experience which you saw with how your late president suffered in his last days to peform as a leader and in his personal life . Have some respect for future leaderhsip.

  34. Anthony silavwe   February 22, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    my sister if you love your marriege throw that rabit machine.it will damage your feeling you are not a machine how can you like a machine more than your hasband

  35. katoto   February 22, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    Whose kids is talking about it obvious not her husband,it very clear that he can’t impregnant her bcoz amaluti yaba kaamba tawe ngila muchinyo she has said

  36. abene ba nyekese   February 22, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    0954732034!

  37. jobreaker   February 22, 2015 at 11:41 pm

    wait were r my posts..Iwe tunfweko Iwe iwe

  38. kay   February 23, 2015 at 9:21 am

    satan mukali!!

  39. Njanji   February 23, 2015 at 10:44 am

    He must not pee when he wants to have sex,most men will pee before sex bt u need to talk to him first n make him understand he doesn’t satisfy u n that u two need to work together on this,suggest that ,it may work it may not bt give it shot . Try to have forplay whilest his penis is pumped up with urine then to the main menu . try it.

    • major chileshe   February 23, 2015 at 11:50 am

      Wats the connection btn urine and sex?

    • New Educated Zambia   February 23, 2015 at 11:55 am

      hehehe alipena uyu njanji hahah. Thanks for making me laugh early in the morning

  40. Mubanga Chipalo   February 23, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    Listen to this advice my dear sister,
    Right now once you have finished reading my suggestion go into your bedroom and ring the following number to Mr. Friday Mulenga 0955 848918 and tell him your problem for sure he will give you a proper answer.
    Listen to this advice my dear sister,
    Right now once you have finished reading my suggestion go into your bedroom and ring the following number to Mr. Friday Mulenga 0955 848918 and tell him your problem for sure he will give you a proper answer.

    • New Educated Zambia   February 23, 2015 at 3:55 pm

      I am very certain this chap is the same Mr Friday Mulenga. Kabiye uko iwe hahaha

  41. slim t   February 23, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    As for u upnd and Pf stop this we r one family

  42. poly   February 23, 2015 at 5:11 pm

    One Zambia, One Nation

  43. Chi gelo cha sweet   February 23, 2015 at 5:12 pm

    Iwe mwaiche, just find someone able-bodied and young, almost your age and go and f.uck like crazy. Your husband is probably doing the same thats why he cant satisfy you. These men, they have affairs all the time, all of them! Why not you? Stop suffering, take my advice and make sure you keep that affair on the low. Men never want to hear that they cant satisfy you because they think you are a log.

  44. kuluminizya   February 23, 2015 at 10:11 pm

    Shame mama. Be open to your husband and tell him de truth en if loves you he will work on his weakness. Thank God mine is a real bull.

  45. ANNACONDA   February 23, 2015 at 11:03 pm

    We shud give the thinkless wowan to their boss. Silly thugs, wokeup next vote HH

  46. Observer   February 24, 2015 at 12:07 am

    Publisher b selective on what you post not all enjoy silly coments ad insults