MUBANGA NONDO, Ndola
“They say cousins make dozens”. This came to life in a Ndola Local Court when a man narrated how he caught his wife committing adultery with her cousin.
Watson Ndembo, 62, of Chief Chiwala’s area in Masaiti sued Matowe Chishiba, 43, for committing adultery with his wife Bridget Chisenga, 39.
He told the court that Chisenga, insisted on leaving their matrimonial home on February 15 this year and went to their farm house within Chiwala.
Ndembo told the court that Chishiba walked for more than 20 kilometres on that particular night to meet Chisenga.
He told senior local court presiding magistrate Oscar Kalaba, sitting with senior local court magistrate Rosemary Muke that he had some suspicions about his wife and decided to trail her movements following her insistence to go and spend a night at the farm house.
Upon arrival at the farm house, he heard a male voice from the house and listened in. Ndembo also overheard his wife telling Chishiba that she did not love Ndembo anymore.
Chisenga also told Chishiba that it was best that they get married once she leaves Ndembo, the court heard.
Ndembo told the court that thereafter there was silence after which he forced his way into the house and caught the two having sex.
“I kicked the door open and found Chishiba and my wife having sex. I and Chishiba started fighting,” Ndembo said.
After the scuffle, Chishiba ran away leaving his clothes behind. Chishiba’s wife identified the husband’s clothes while his daughter identified the phone as belonging to Chishiba.
But Chishiba denied committing adultery with Chisenga because she was unsure of his HIV status. He, however, agreed being at the farm house.
He said he was found naked by Ndembo because he was getting ready to sleep while Chisenga had her clothes on.
Chishiba told the court that he only met Chisenga to discuss their child’s welfare. The two had a child before Chisenga got married to Ndembo.
And Chisenga told the court that she decided to phone Chishiba because she needed someone to talk to as she has been having marital problems with Ndembo.
Ndembo submitted before court that it was sad that Chishiba had destroyed his marriage.
Handing down the judgment, the court found that Chishiba and Chisenga were guilty of committing adultery, adding that most marriages today were breaking up because of unfaithfulness.
The court ordered Chishiba to pay Ndembo K20,000 as compensation. The court ordered that the settlement be payable in monthly instalments of K500, with the first amount being K1,000.
Sikiza
March 8, 2015 at 9:30 am
But are they cousins when they had a child before?
Advert Mulantamba
March 8, 2015 at 9:35 am
This is a common problem in BEMBA Women.When you marry a bemba woman while you are from the other tribe get ready to face the challenges.
kgm
March 8, 2015 at 8:12 pm
Advert mulatamba uli chipuba.leav bembas alone u frog.
GOVERNING FROM THE BOTTLE OF KACHASU
March 9, 2015 at 10:15 am
Thats the reasons why Bembas are matrilinual, enheritance is on the mother’s side, because even when a bemba woman takes time to conceive, the family will send in a male cousin to come and visit…you will be busy at work, eena aletomba munganda…then you will hear @ I am pregnant…khikikikiki…mucenjele bane!!!
Mubita
March 10, 2015 at 7:43 am
Chisenga is not Bemba she is Lala man
munyelo pwete
March 10, 2015 at 4:05 pm
Those are Lambas we chinangwa wee! Even the name Chishiba and Chisenga are both either Lamba or Lala and not B emba names. This how tribalism can make a man make an arse of himself! Which Bemba, pathetic little brain?
Ba buza
March 8, 2015 at 10:37 am
@Advert mulantamba u va really shown ur foolishness and dullness,the article has not mentioned of any tribe here and besides the lady in question,s name is from another region not the tribe u mentioned.we are all zambian wth different weakness u cant pin point which tribe does what.Stop ubufontini.
story story
March 8, 2015 at 10:50 am
Uhmmmmmmmmmmm sweet cousins!!
jobreaker
March 8, 2015 at 11:00 am
Iwe Cousin munani…kulyapofye waikuta
new educated Zambia
March 8, 2015 at 11:02 am
Sorry bane but hhangover temunobe. Am struggling this a.m. before you criticise me knowthat eeven tthe educated drink and have a laugh. I will comment in full once my madam cooks a ppowerful bfast to eradicate this feeling. I know alot of you are anxiously waiting for my informative contribution. Sorry for the wait.
major chileshe
March 9, 2015 at 7:58 am
I really hope u hav the worst kind of diarrhoea ever known to man,the 1 that will make u marry the toilet after havin that breakfast u punk.
new educated Zambia
March 9, 2015 at 9:16 am
Kiki everyone has alcohol diarrhoea after a heavy night mune. Take heart do not be too angry
chichi.
March 8, 2015 at 11:56 am
@advert mulantamba,i think u’re were born frm yo aunt!wiso alele naci aunt cobe icipuba elyo afyalemo iwe wine we shilu.why do u owez talk abt bembas?
Fulu fulu
March 8, 2015 at 12:18 pm
Mmmmm.. When we were young, ama cousins twale someka mo. And the chicks even knew ati nga mwaisa muku tandala or ku holiday, ka boss ka fwile kalyapo. But there is an age you reach where you stop that notion ati ‘cousin munani.’
juku1
March 8, 2015 at 1:08 pm
mawee
Chief of Grief
March 8, 2015 at 1:20 pm
So!Why mek a fuss about it.Lekeni batombane,kaleba’amba.
son of a Gun
March 8, 2015 at 2:29 pm
Too bad uyo kazen aonaula I chupo chabene,he must marry her and take the responsibility for the children,limbi baguy balibafyaliko kuli chi kaze,this saves a good leason to all u guys,if your wife insists on something un usual,know that there’s something wrong here,like what this guy did,he let her go to the so called farm house and caught her read handed.Not ukubilima,in my mother tongue we say:kuona maso ankhono ni ku deka!
mulanshoka
March 8, 2015 at 3:01 pm
mulantamba,atleast bembas go for fellow human beings unlike tombas oh tongas who sleep with cows and chickens
Chinyama
March 8, 2015 at 5:28 pm
Lawlessness in this world… They can be no excuse!
Pastor Daniel
March 8, 2015 at 9:29 pm
this doest make sense to me.,,,,,,,,
act
March 8, 2015 at 10:26 pm
Watson’s D!ck wont do the job anymore, hence the woman’s determination to walk 20 kilometers to find a functioning d!ck that once did the job before..”the old broom knows all the corners”
cmk
March 9, 2015 at 3:34 am
naine ndapopa kazeni wandi
Be careful
March 9, 2015 at 5:30 am
Kuchenjela nama family yamo. Now hiv will spray among the family. What a shame.
Hon Harrison HB mwila jr
March 9, 2015 at 6:14 am
So sad 4 Ndembo,problem z wt ladies,dey r getn married 2 men dey dnt lyk or love jst 2 impress or boast dat dey r married bt wen dey meet sam1 dey hv tuma feelinz 4 dey start cheatn on der husbands.men leav dem & get sam1 mor beutifull dan her & treat her lyk a queen.
jikutu
March 9, 2015 at 8:19 am
pamputi
chaona mzako
March 9, 2015 at 10:31 am
kazeni obe chinyengelo…. thats one adage common pa kopala.
Skwatta Kamp
March 9, 2015 at 11:25 am
We only have good stories to tell.
Jenkem
March 10, 2015 at 12:29 pm
If the 2 are really cousins as the story says, the court would also have charged them with incest. Just WONDERING
kasantana
March 10, 2015 at 1:18 pm
ba mudala pali 62 balefilwa ukunyenga,that’s why banamayo ati kampange ka plan,uyu wine cousin wakwa uliko namaka
cadre
March 10, 2015 at 2:24 pm
Fyaupuba Aaaaatase!!
IF NOT
March 10, 2015 at 3:21 pm
I am meant to believe the real issue here is the age difference between Ndembo and chisenga, 62 and 39 is too much. The lady is at her peak when the man is almost finished.
chiku
March 10, 2015 at 4:15 pm
fyabupuba ukulalana pa lupwa,bubwa
t-raw
March 10, 2015 at 10:52 pm
Munashala u such a coward bastard,hw dare u talk trash abot tongas,,hopeless idiot.
t-raw
March 10, 2015 at 10:56 pm
Mulanshoka u such a coward bastard,,hw dare u talk bullshit abot tongas,,hopeless idiot..
CLYNE CHIMUKA
March 10, 2015 at 10:59 pm
Awe twachapitafye ukumona ngabaikala shani
Andrew Mubanga
March 11, 2015 at 9:51 am
bt m surprised the court did nt act to its ful powers.is this nt incest & s it nt a case.these 2 must nt b spared bt taught a lesson coz they hav been having sex oftenly.if this mata isnt dealt with then zambian laws re encouraging members of the same family to hav sex & marry each other.shame!!!
Carlos Tembo
March 11, 2015 at 12:51 pm
but cousins we marry.but not in this miner.if it were me I kill them both.
Frank
March 11, 2015 at 1:37 pm
The husband is too old to satisfy kama young girl so do not marry your daugthers
Joe
March 11, 2015 at 2:25 pm
I can kill them akalumbafye!!
omega jnr
March 11, 2015 at 10:10 pm
to bad bane,but remember,we ar in condemed generation & no should b trasted