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Lusaka Man Refuses To Reconcile With ‘Sex Worker’ Wife
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A man of Lusaka’s Matero Township has refused to reconcile with his wife claiming that she is a sex worker .
John Banda, 39, told the court that during the three years that the two had been on separation, he had on several occasions met his wife, Beauty Banda, making cash from sex.
This is a case in which Beauty, 31, sued Banda for marriage reconciliation after being on separation for three years.
Facts before the court were that the two got married in 1994 and have four children, although problems in their marriage started shortly after they tied the knot.
“I meet my wife in the streets at night in short pants, especially at Club Zone in Emmasdale selling her body. So there is no way I can reconcile with her,” Banda said.
Banda, a truck driver, said he had in the past met his wife kissing another man and wondered how she could think about reconciliation.
“I stopped telling my wife that I would be going home, but whenever I got home, I used to find that my wife was not there and used to come home around midnight drunk,” she said.
But Beauty told the court that she was sent packing three years ago by her husband without any reason.
She said she had tried to seek audience with her husband so that the two families could help in resolving the problem but nothing had worked, hence her decision to seek court intervention.
Beauty said her husband told her to go and stay with her parents for some time so that she could be taught how to live in a marriage.
“I have been waiting for my husband to come and talk to my parents so that we could get back together but my husband has never bothered to do so,” Beauty said.
“He is accusing me of getting all household goods but he is the one who packed everything for me.”
Magistrate Patronella Kalyelye, sitting with Lewis Mumba, said marriage reconciliation had failed because the man had refused to reconcile with her. In any case the couple had been on separation for too long.
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Sikiza
March 22, 2015 at 12:46 pm
I thnk the wife likes sex she should hv complained b4 but other men were servicing her too bad.I KNOW CLUB ZONE IN MATERO sex workers make alot of mney there.
Shakaz
March 22, 2015 at 2:40 pm
Is Club Zone in MATERO or EMMASDALE? Or there are two of them?
wezu
March 23, 2015 at 12:33 pm
iwe chimo chine its just opposite matero police
Hollines
March 22, 2015 at 1:14 pm
Too bad
AMASHOKO KOPALA
March 22, 2015 at 1:16 pm
ilyashi kutombana elyabako bane
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 1:36 pm
This is a pure sign of lack of empowerment of women in Zambia. Thanks to the PF’s failures to ensure empowerment at grass root level. In a society where empowerment had reached grass root level, this woman wouldnt be so desperate to get back with this man. She would instead be on her way to start a new life and move on. Poverty really can make people sink so low such that they become so dependent on another like a baby and its mother’s milk . Vote UPND to ensure effective empowerment of women using a bottom to top approach
Chimbwi
March 22, 2015 at 6:07 pm
Old educated Zambia. The issue here is prostitution not UPND this and that. Grow up. Sipping my blue label on my yacht.
New Educated Zambia©
March 23, 2015 at 12:13 am
kiki mwalishita yacht. You see am proud of you if you own that. However, my only aim and hope is to make sure as many zambians as possible get to the level where they can also buy such expensive boats and enjoy life. This is our aim as UPND and am sure you would want this for your countrymen too. Join us and together we can make it work
major chileshe
March 22, 2015 at 8:44 pm
Legendary stupidity
New Educated Zambia©
March 23, 2015 at 12:14 am
The majors in zambia have a funny way of expressing themselves. it seems most army staff tend to lack in the department of communication and people skills. Usually they are used to screaming a bunch of gibberish few words to each other in the army as a form of communication. I see it when they train, hence major chileshes two word comment here.
leon
March 22, 2015 at 1:42 pm
the husband is a good man other men could have beaten her apon finding her kiss.beating of women emanet from married women having ilicity sex when husbands are out for work there are few men who beat wives over nshima in zamba 99 out of 100 are beaten for opening legs for other men
Chief of Grief
March 22, 2015 at 1:50 pm
were my coments bafikala tu tumfweko.
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 1:56 pm
in the chimbusu where shit goes kiki. morning mune
dk
March 22, 2015 at 2:07 pm
Nez talking gibberish as usual.how long has prostitution been in existance? we in the upnd blah blah you sound like a fool..
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 3:17 pm
It is the oldest profession on earth that we all know. However, that doesnt mean that we cannot ensure that people have a choice whether to get into it or not. It is not morally right that people are forced into this due to economic hardships.
Chief of Grief
March 22, 2015 at 2:55 pm
Iwe ka NEZ sonny atishani?Leka ubutole,aftrnoon.
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 3:35 pm
kiki chief of grief just chilling muntu wandi.Sunday is time to rest and reflect on how UPND will win these coming elections.
Ghetto
March 22, 2015 at 2:11 pm
This dude met his wife in the streets and he think he can change a hooker into a wife lol…. It can’t happen mune hike is hike they never stop. Leave her alone amaule they won’t stay in marriage without ukutombesha outside true but sad.
major chileshe
March 22, 2015 at 8:59 pm
Kazizi ni kazizi,sanga baze pa programme yankunda
Chief Puta
March 22, 2015 at 3:06 pm
Prostitution is the oldest trade. I wud rather b a cow than a Tonga.
KOSWE
March 22, 2015 at 7:14 pm
chief puta? You IDIOT. Stop your tribal remarks.
when you have nothing sensible to say, keep quite.
Your days are numbered
Etart major
March 22, 2015 at 3:21 pm
I wz almost being convinced by nez bt his recent comments hv made me realise dat he.s jst a piece of shit.
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 6:29 pm
I have never seen you blogging here ba PF. Please stay tuned and soon I will persude you to join. I am a very patient man who believes that people should have the right of choice. Please familiarise yourself with our manifesto by visiting our website or popping into one of our offices depending on your location.
Etart major
March 22, 2015 at 3:28 pm
I wz almost being convinced by nez bt his recent comments hv made me realise dat he.s jst a piece of shit……
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 3:54 pm
What makes you say that mune? Please engage me rather than just offer criticism. Give reasons and alternatives. I am a frank person who realises that there is no need to sugar coat things just so that they do not hurt our feelings. Please familiarise yourself with UPND material online.
Zebige
March 22, 2015 at 3:49 pm
Pa Zed. Yaba. Banana republic. Period.
Aba kumawa balishishita sana. Bagwele
Etart major
March 22, 2015 at 4:18 pm
Knw whre 2 draw th line between politics nd personal behavior lik dis story thn your desperation wont b doubted
Etart major
March 22, 2015 at 4:24 pm
Jst 2 giv u benefit of doubt, wats yo web address?
biko
March 22, 2015 at 4:54 pm
When we discus marege isues, lets politics aside. Who knows what our wives does when we are out? As men we should be very careful of ladies we take as wives, its not good to marry a knife insteady of wife. LATEST NEWS IS THAT ALL THE DCs ARE FIRED. LETS WAIT FOR NEW ONES IN A SHOTWHILE.
mutaba
March 22, 2015 at 7:42 pm
Ilyashi lyakutombana nefyakukati tefitu fwaya ukulalanda mwaleka ndeya mukulapila.
Katundu Madzi
March 22, 2015 at 8:17 pm
Married in 1994 and the woman is now 31 years old? She got married at 10 years???
major chileshe
March 22, 2015 at 8:56 pm
I hav tha same question as well
jobreaker
March 22, 2015 at 9:56 pm
@ edu man the more u talk the more Tonga I see in u .i came to discover it wasn’t really akainde who pulled the whole southern province to vote,I just discovered tongas like to mix colours,ukusoshikila,one earing green and orange the other earing yellow and pink,if u look at them they look like rainbows, and thats what akainse icilema did,he got crazy colours and put a hand there,Tongas love that
New Educated Zambia©
March 22, 2015 at 11:58 pm
Reduced to a tribal bigot just like the rest of the pf cadres with pea sized oblangata. And these are the chaps calling upnd tribal. Glad we can all see who u all really are. Am not tonga and will never be but will vote upnd come rain come sun. Whether it is ruled by a bemba lozi tonga umusungu name them
Box 01
March 22, 2015 at 9:57 pm
Amaule yasuma.But if you decide to get one of them as your wife then,get ready for anything including leaving you for another big pie …
Judge Joe Bidden
March 22, 2015 at 10:39 pm
Am tired of trivialisation but this is a typical family issue that wouldn’t have to happen to which party, time and era.
son of a Gun
March 22, 2015 at 11:35 pm
Same as the saying goes,you can take an African out of Africa,but can never take away Africansim from him,this is a story here,prostitute ukumuleta panganda!ulichipuba!@women empowerment? Na prostitute? NEZ mwaiche ilyenchito yaba kwati ma Cadres ba UPND,nangu muwamye shani,tabatasha!ukubabikila the most xpensive road iyotabamonapo! Most Expensive Bridges, ku mongu.they can not see that development,balefwayafye ukwenda musandi no kuliwa na ma crocodiles mumabanana boats.you can buy a prostitute a House,most Expensive Car you Can ever think of,she will never appreciate, that’s how a prostitute is.So this man shouldn’t have even made the first stupid move.
New Educated Zambia©
March 23, 2015 at 12:09 am
You think a road and bridge is development? Kiki you must be drunk with poverty. Those are things that should be provided by any government. Zambians are giving that pathetic government revenue and therefore expect them to build basic infrastructure.
New Educated Zambia©
March 23, 2015 at 12:10 am
You want us to be thankful for things we are giving you money for?Are you foolish iwe? You want cookies for doing things you are supposed to do and owe people? Please come up with job creation for our youth and facilitate the development of new businesses by local zambians and then maybe we can talk development. Foolish cadre
twetwe
March 23, 2015 at 12:27 am
The man said he is not able to reconcile with the wife bcoz he MEETS the wife cuddling with different men…that is after separation. Not that he MET (first time) prior to marriage.She was not a sex worker…uuum but problems started soon after marrying.
(1) The problem is the man’s occupation of being away from home for days.
(2) The quality of Human being in this so called Lady. Genetic?
(3) This P enlargement and mutoto which were known quietly then today play its own music to its audience and the less endowed watch helplessly.
(4) Times are hash to the weak and have nots and this citizen empowerment something does not share with the unknown.
To live a life with out money..the Devil rubs his hands like a house fly sure of its next stop!!!
kalembe kafyuke
March 23, 2015 at 1:44 am
New educated Zambian,who ever you are,i think if there are dull educated zambians,you are one of them,even in this case you still blame the PF,wechibwa we,you are just a bucking dog who doesnt know what you are talking about,the whole world is full of sex workers,is it because of PF,we mbwa yamuchila in between your stinking legs.
Telemundo
March 23, 2015 at 9:19 am
THE UNFORTUNATE THING IS THAT THE BUSINESS ENVIRONMENT IN THE COUNTRY APPEAR TO FAVOUR FOREIGNORS MORE. FOR EXAMPLE, JUST SEE HOW THE CHINESE ARE PLUNDERING THE RESOURCES OF THIS COUNTRY. THIS IS VERY MUCH TO DO WITH GOVT POLICIES.
mwelwa
March 23, 2015 at 9:43 am
the story to me is not adding up…….the man met his wife in the streets, the woman is 31 years old and the man is 39 and the two got married in 1994 meaning the woman was 10 years old then and the man was 19. So how would someone meet a ten year old in the streets and marry as a wife? I smell defilement here……
poly
March 23, 2015 at 9:55 am
I have never realised that every subject on Tumfweko is political.
poly
March 23, 2015 at 11:26 am
Damaged women are the most dangerous kind,because they already know they can survive.
Trixy
March 23, 2015 at 3:06 pm
I suspect it is a typing error on the part of tumfweko (as usual). I think they meant to write that the man got married in 2004.