Dear readers,
I am a young man about to wed a lady I am deeply in love with; she is HIV positive and am not. I introduced her to my family recently and I love her despite her status and have resolved to marry her in the next six months. But how do I convince my mother and family that I am ready to marry someone with HIV while I am not?
Confused.
You must be a douchiebag a$s clown faggot jerk.How do you fall in love with a sick person & not just sick but a sickness which will be transmitted to you as-well & has no cure?Its like marrying someone with Ebola.Now I throw this question to you, Are you ready to get HIV from her since you need to have sex with her being her/your conjugal right? Do you know that HIV is a disease with no cure hence you are cut shot of your lifespan from the normal one? Do you know that ARV’s have side effects? Are you read for kutulula, herpes, vipute, TB, stroke,pale skin (sometimes green) & overall weak body? If YES then go for her.
Marry sum1 positive? Wat 4? When u cn easily get sum 1 negative? U must b out of ur fackin mind my friend
a clear sign that most of you here have no understanding of what love is. It seems most of you here are underage bloggers who are probably still experiencing wet dreams. Grow up silly muppets
Go for someone who is negative,this might cause you problems in future,moreover you are still young.
You can, but that would mean using condoms for life, never easy.
But then how did you discover? did the two of you arrange the tests if so what was the objective of doing the tests. Go by your objective. Any nkobekela tecupo, you can find a way out if you so wish
Is she very rich? may be that is what is attracting you
To start with u are not allowed to disclose her status to anyone unless she allows u to do so because its against medical ethics my friend.secondly being HIV +ve is no death sentence because with the availability of ART now infected persons can live longer and productive lives with a much more reduced chance of infecting u and yr unborn babies.so if u truly love her as u claim keep her medical condition confidential and gotta marry her.
grow up chap think and act like a man.is that true love? go for her and get infected with a deadly disease,is this that you have chosen and expect your family to gladly agree with you as if they are mad? think twice boy.
EVEN LOVE HAS LIMITS.U KANT MARRY SOMEONE HU IS POSITIVE KOZ THEY ARE RISKS INVOLVED TO YO HEALTH.MOVE ON DEAR.THEY ARE ALOT OF HIV NEGATIVE WOMEN WAITING FOR U OUT THERE.
Kwena iwe yu are a fool. Is this a question you can waste our time on? If you think your relatives have a say in this matter ask them not us!!
We wil accept not !
Iwe mwaiche elyashi wingalaleta pano ilyo? Go and ask your HIV+ Girlfriend if you can marry her and then compare her answer to your relatives answer period!!!Styopeti
If you truly love her go for counselling so that you know how you can have health children without you getting infected. HIV/ Aids is no death sentence with or without it one day each and every person will die.
Tekutifye not easy my friend.
This article is old, read pa kitwe times…awe sure this site.
I am very disappointed at how ignorant people are of HIV… In this day and age sure. My dear it is not a death sentence. Visit UTH or even clinics and they will tell you how to keep yourself negative and your children. If you love this lady, marry her. How many prominent people do we know that were in this situation and married and now they are as happy as ever. This was years ago.
Not me sorry keep it to yourself.
Ati sign sign umwenso ninfwa!walipama mwaiche aiyi?Anyway u knw were u standin,am sure sh’z got the dough ka pantu luv iyo yabufi,if i may ask,u’v fcukd her b4 ka?If not,u just a dare devil,aftr ichalo chamupesha elo iwe ukombeleshe eiko fyabambi.My advic to mwaiche is run n nevr look bak!!
If you love her marry her that’s your choice not family’s
You should be jailed for voluntary suicide,you are one of the reason why a big country like Zambia has just under 16 million inhabitants foolish boy.
Living with Hiv is more like hell
iwe chikala chawiso wabe itole waufwa kolokombwa wembushiwe fumbafu,y wud u even ask any1 such a question?mutombefye nechipapa dibili dibili nafuti nafuti nankwe nankwe ngatawamutombapo then dump her faster than spid f light waufwa? pantu uyo gelo obvious alebafye mu enjoy palya uleikasaula nefitabo
tija musankwa, it will seem morally right to marry her now by the long life repercussions will be un bearable and you will regret. It is not psychologically easy to live with a disease that u know has no cure my bro, it is good you have known b4 you are in the position of no return. decide, u ar of age
Its like u find lion sleeping then u pick up a stick waamba ukuitonkola kumabolo ati this dog is lazy.madafacha grow up n think.go to UTH n visit HIV patients then seat your monkey ass down n decide .nganiwebo she gave u a bj wafulunga,lobe .by the way HIV kulaba ukunya like umusula nautulika.
Some comments kikikiki
HIV transmission Breakthrough: Now You Can Have Unprotected Sex And Remain Negative
Scientists have developed a “molecular condom”, which they claim is actually a vaginal gel that would help protect women from contracting the deadly HIV during s*xual intercourse.
According to them, before s*x, women would have to insert the vaginal gel that turns semisolid in the presence of semen, trapping AIDS virus particles in a microscopic mesh so they can’t infect vaginal cells.
“The first step in the complicated process of HIV infection in a woman is the virus diffusing from semen to vaginal tissue. We want to stop that first step. We’ve created the first vaginal gel designed to prevent movement of the AIDS virus. This is unique. There’s nothing like it.
“We did it to develop technologies that can enable women to protect themselves against HIV without approval of their partner,” said lead scientist Prof Patrick Kiser of the University of Utah.
According to the scientists, due to cultural and socioeconomic factors, women often are unable to negotiate the use of protection with their partner.
“So we developed a vaginal gel that a woman could insert a few hours before s*x and could detect the presence of semen and provide a protective barrier between the vaginal tissue and HIV. We wanted to build a gel to stop HIV from interacting with vaginal tissue.
“It flows at a vaginal pH, and the flow becomes slower and slower as pH increases, and it begins to act more solid at the pH of semen,” co-scientist Julie Jay said.
The scientists estimate that if all goes well, human tests of the gel would start in three to five years, and the gel would reach the market in several more years.
The findings of their experiment testing the behaviour of the vaginal gel and showing how it traps AIDS-causing HIV particles are to be published in the upcoming edition of the ‘Advanced Functional Materials’ journal.
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the question is childish. who knows your family? u shud hav asked abt wat to do & not abt your family.
The choice is yours and do not tell them if you wish. Ensure she is put on medication and her medicine cocktail should include Truvada. When her viral load reaches
undetectable level, chances of you contracting the virus are almost nil. There is alot ignorance being portrayed on this blog and it is good you know your status; the people who speak loud do not even know their status and they will just drop without knowing what will hit them.
kuwayawaya fye.ask dekente and chief of grief not ifyabupuba ifi mulelanda.
Friends, am at a loss of words. This person knows his family very well and then this same person is asking us who neither know him/her at all! This person has an answer and shouldnt waste our time.