Ndola Woman: My Husband Is No Longer Giving Me Good S*x

Dear Readers,
I have been married for five years and have two boys In Ndola. I am still the way I was before child-bearing. My shape and slim looks are still intact and many people who don’t know still see me as a hot spinster and I always tell the guys that I’m happily married and they should stay off.

But an issue is shaking the foundations of my marriage. My husband has had little or no interest in s*x for about a year. I have tried to find out why he suddenly lost interest in s*x but he is not forthcoming.

We have a good relationship apart from this problem but I cannot remain like this for long. I have done all kinds of things to seduce him. I’ve tried lingerie, backrubs, and romantic dinners, but nothing works.

I don’t know what else to do. Please help me.

53 Responses to "Ndola Woman: My Husband Is No Longer Giving Me Good S*x"

  1. Love Doctoer   June 26, 2015 at 12:24 pm

    Give him a head,Your man no longer loves you hot spinster regardless of wat u do his zeal for sex wont come back am sure his got a girlfriend who his bonking.

    • Denkete   June 26, 2015 at 7:30 pm

      “I’ve tried lingerie, backrubs, and romantic dinners” hmmmmmm walyendelela boyi. wafisambiliile kwisa fyonse ifi? former professional fimofimo.

      • Beautiful Moma   June 26, 2015 at 7:33 pm

        Aliyendelela pali back rub naimwe ba @denkete.

        • Judge Joe Bidden   June 28, 2015 at 11:44 pm

          Ha that woman just doest know that having a body and a shape is one thing, how you use it in bed is another, its like a nun with a sexy body and vowed never to give it to men! what a waste 🙂

  2. Chief of Grief   June 26, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    Mami,tekusambisha mwaleka fye aini?If wat u sayin is legit,u
    nid not to starv that pus$y,there’re so many horny bastrdz out there n me inclusive.Life is too short pantu kumanda kuli borin waikata ka?

  3. Czar   June 26, 2015 at 12:42 pm

    If you can’t solve that problem for yourself or getting advice in private from reliable sources you really think Tumfweko is the best site for you? Good luck!!!

  4. monk   June 26, 2015 at 12:46 pm

    come to me all you are thirty and i shall hammer you mercilessly. De guy must be seeing sambody.

    • Trixy   June 26, 2015 at 1:08 pm

      @monk and Chief of Grief….awe mwansekesha ati “come to me all you are thirty and I shall hammer you mercilessly….Kumanda kuli boring….”you guys are nuts!! Anyway lady I agree with Czar this is no site to come for a decent advise though you can sometimes get it from guys like me. Look there is definitely something wrong. If your marriage had a strong foundation of love and if there was nothing wrong in your relationship prior to you marrying, then one of you is not doing the right thing. I suspect you are too much into thinking you are hot to an extend where you have stopped going an extra mile for you to satisfy your man sexually….try counselling my dear (coz it is clear you have failed to penetrate your husbands mind). You need someone who can be able to penetrate your husband so that he can open up as to why he has lost interest in you….These things happen in marriage and with extra effort, things should be okey. All the best.

      • Tusa   June 26, 2015 at 1:42 pm

        That is good advice. Sometimes you need to spend some time praying for your partner. I believe there is something serious that is bothering your partner. It is possible that your husband has a girlfriend or not. Check him out, may be he could be experiencing erectile problems.

      • Chief of Grief   June 26, 2015 at 5:59 pm

        Boi @trixy atibwa?Ni justice twamulasafye.

  5. Tokyo   June 26, 2015 at 1:00 pm

    A giant gorilla with brooding good looks and rippling muscles is causing a stir at a Japanese zoo, with women flocking to check out the hunky pin-up.

  6. chatasha   June 26, 2015 at 1:15 pm

    this man is crazy,ulefilwa ukunyebga gelo iwe chimbwi,nga bamunyenga kuli ba guy wafulwa..am very annoyed with you

  7. major chileshe   June 26, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    Giv him sum blow job,u’ll c

    • MCCM   June 26, 2015 at 5:23 pm

      fool

  8. Kalyobwele   June 26, 2015 at 1:49 pm

    1stly Most idiots thnk mariage is all abt sex, U cn do all de sex U want bt blive Me U de Stomach wil remind U of reality
    2ndly threz nothng Tru abt vis story.

  9. cupid   June 26, 2015 at 2:15 pm

    Ndeloleshafyeeeeee

  10. chief DC   June 26, 2015 at 3:37 pm

    my dear am oso facing the same problem so lets mak a bond nd mak ourselvs hap

  11. ken   June 26, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    I think this guy neglecting the wife for ciber P*** is NEZ!

    • New Educated Zambia©   June 26, 2015 at 10:38 pm

      kiki there is always that one idiot that cant keep my name out of his mouth. vote upnd mune

      • Czar   June 28, 2015 at 12:52 pm

        Just like there’s one idiot on this site who can’t keep PF out of his mouth.

        • Judge Joe Bidden   June 28, 2015 at 11:15 pm

          🙂

  12. State house   June 26, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    i need to meet you. my wife has lost sex interest with me too. we can together solve our problems. so how do I see you. I live in ndola too. come to jacaranda mall near king pie every 17:30hrs still we meet

  13. Sangwapo   June 26, 2015 at 4:31 pm

    Dokota iwe naiwe take him to a doctor. He is suffering from very low libido. Does he get excited when he sees your sister? I bet not

  14. george mbewe   June 26, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    give me your phone number!

  15. jetseter   June 26, 2015 at 4:40 pm

    marriage is not all about sex.Sex is momentarily and fleating,find out what makes your husband happy when making love.Or else you will go astray and become every man’s peace of meat.If you are not carefull,you will lose your husband and people who respect you will not do the same.

  16. DMX   June 26, 2015 at 5:14 pm

    U IDIOT U ARE LEAVING RIGHT ADVISERS OUT THERE AND DECIDES TO POST YO NOSENSE SEEKING ADVISE FROM TASANA.SHAME ON YU!

  17. Cimbusa   June 26, 2015 at 5:50 pm

    My dear sister ,this is an experience that happened to a friend of mine this is woman hadtaken your man ‘s sperm and took it to the witchdoctper who latter made magic to have this woman control your man’s manhood the controlled.it’s a long story my sister.involve elders

  18. son of a Gunman   June 26, 2015 at 6:08 pm

    First n for almost this a wrong site for Bedroom matters.But since you want to wash your dirts linens in public,see what we can do For you.as follows:Firstly with no doubt,your Dearest hubby is shugging another woman,why?You ladies of nowadays,Tamwaishiba UKUSESHA!Eh!I mean in Bed.see alangizi for further clarification.Secondly,as follows:The lady where your man defected to,is a well Trained and knows how to take care of a man,such that he thinks you r his Sister.Alisanga chi self winning pumping n grinding,his job is just to inset the rest Takes care of itself,if u thinking he ever coming back!Pray harder.

  19. Kwena iye   June 26, 2015 at 6:49 pm

    Story yabufi, next Topic please!

  20. Kwena iye   June 26, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    For him to accept dinners I am sure he still loves her. Jealous mambalas

  21. Gold digger   June 26, 2015 at 6:55 pm

    Nangu tapali sex he is still the wife so you hookers stop ubufi just find a man and stop pretending.

  22. Raggaman   June 26, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    my Dear sister leave everything in God’s hand he will solve all your problems.

  23. monk   June 26, 2015 at 8:11 pm

    Is sex for marriage or marriage for sex?

  24. monk   June 26, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    Is sex for mareg or mareg for sex?

  25. Israeli   June 26, 2015 at 9:15 pm

    Sex strengthens marriage

  26. New Educated Zambia©   June 26, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    Such articles should not be given audience on such websites. However, we do realise that tumfweko is controlled by perveted pf members. Please can we be serious for once and report on how you have led to unrivaled deficit levels and poor economic performance. PF you are an embarrasment

  27. Broken Hillo Man   June 27, 2015 at 3:00 am

    The key is both of you needs deliverance at the same time with your husband. God is great he will answer your prayers. Remember teti ucenjeshe Lesa

  28. The spartacus   June 27, 2015 at 5:44 am

    I have lived with my wife of three kids for almost a yr nw sleeping in separate rooms & no sex..i have never loved this woman thru our entire yrs of marriage..we live together for th sake of our children. So be strong my girl th man doesn’t have any affection fo u anymore he just love his kids that’s th more reason y u ar even stil surviving at his home and he is not going to stop being responsible because of th kids as fo sex forget my sister u ar not a factor nw others have come on board.

  29. Nyambe Luhila   June 27, 2015 at 8:01 am

    Seek deliverance,you might have a spiritual husband.Watch Blessing TV and make you decision.

  30. Shaka Zulu   June 27, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Sex is the price women pay for marriage. Marriage is the price men pay for sex.

  31. Uncle Malume   June 27, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    shaka Zulu you are the most craziest of all advisors.

  32. NEZ   June 27, 2015 at 7:14 pm

    Ok please you can see Dr TUTU for ur problem he is in kopala,next please

  33. moonga samuel   June 27, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    tawafundwa mukashana.you may have a problem, but social media can not solve this particular one,have you visited a urologist? it could be erectile desfunction.wilasebanya icupo

  34. mwenda mwalimwa   June 27, 2015 at 8:32 pm

    Call me 0965798568

  35. battalion 745   June 27, 2015 at 8:54 pm

    Alot of weird stories coming from the copperbelt, my friend is no more after impregnanting a well known satanist at zibsib in kitwe , am told she is a goddess of sex…

  36. twetwe   June 27, 2015 at 10:40 pm

    Yaaaaba awuuu..my arse!!! A lot at stake here – Career woman. Low sex drive due to quarels at home about issues you are hiding, jealousy out of the Self-proclaimed ‘ NICE HOT LOUD MOUTH SPINSTER’,pre occupation of being hot and leaving the essentials of house keeping to fly thru the window…a man tolerates but not bound to your waist like stretch marks around a loose tummy. Man will skip bedroom chores and opt for flexible terms ,even if it is to sleep on a reed mat with scanty beddings!!!

  37. tutu   June 27, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    mwaiche iwe isa inkutombe mufipunda fyonse dibili dibili nafuti nafuti nankwe nankwe I quench yr thirsty..pantu chikala chakwe umulume obe aletomba ka nkashi yobe..but have u tried giving him a good thorough BJ or bringin a friend of yrs in bed?

  38. joojo   June 28, 2015 at 12:38 pm

    He needs your support. Erection dysfunction is real. See Dr Manda.

  39. central street nkana west   June 28, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    @battalion 745, i know the zibsip lady she had a serious relationship with my late friend and workmate at zra … Chama, he used to complain about her and he doubted her sanity, he used to call her demon possed.

  40. JSM   June 28, 2015 at 1:02 pm

    fictitious story. not even married.

  41. siampiibede   June 28, 2015 at 6:14 pm

    nyama nyama nyama for 5yrs ikutinka

  42. Synchromesh   June 29, 2015 at 10:49 am

    Let me ask google.

  43. Why Lie?   June 29, 2015 at 6:27 pm

    Private Matters!