In recent time, rants and blame have always been put on guys for forcing ladies into intimacy. If you think that only guys act weird when denied them entrance to promising land, then your cluelessness can be likened to that of a man who ruled the nation for nearly 6 years and threw the nation into a state of calamity Note:
No matter how we try to embellish pre-marital s*x, it will never change fact that it’s actually bad, so all ye pastors, don’t castigate me cos this is not to encourage pre-marital s*x Now lemme keep the ball rolling 10 Ways Some Nigerian Ladies React When You Deny Them s*x
1. She tags you an Impotent If you think only guys want to know the intimacy capacity of the opposite s*x or want have s*x for fun, then you must seriously be sleeping on a moving car. Some ladies hope to get laid once they visit you.
But failing to do the needful on their visit to your abode will make them label you impotent, and make your assumed impotence the thrush of discussion among their friends. It is thus started, do you know that Makinde is sheer impotent? Imagine he couldn’t even lay a finger on me despite how hot and sexy I was. and the hours spent in his God forbidden room.
2. She starts acting weird the next day Someone you barely had misunderstanding with suddenly started nagging for no reason, isn’t that funny? This mostly happens when you fail to do the needful.
3. She might call the relationship a Quit I’m a living witness to this and heaven can bear me witness. A lady has once dumped my ass just because I failed to take advantage of her intimate feeling. Her supposed love for me headed on diminishing returns and within the tinkle of an eye, that was the end of it. I would have broken my celibacy, if I had taken advantage of her wanton.
4. She Waits for a Pay Back Revenge, they say, is sweeter when served hot. Believe me, she is definitely going to wait for the day she will pay you back in her own coins.
When you so much desire it and your pestle has made a tent in your short, she mercilessly will leave you starved of forbiden fruit while dying to have it.
5. She Cheats on you They will be like ‘when my bae can’t use his instrument to deal with me or can’t make out with or give me that feeling whenever I come visting, I will need to get assistant/supporting bae(s) to service me whenever I get into the mood’.
This is how some of them are likely to cheat on their boyfriends when they were denied it
6. She Flirts They will start flirting with other guys just to make you feel she is giving them a chance since you are not doing your responsibilities (not all of them though)
7. She tells her friends that you are not fun to be with(or Romantic) Heaven can bear me witness that I had this experience during my ND programme. It reminds me of a junior college who happened to be very close to me and I used to crash in her villa when her room mate was not around. (Not an intimate friendship though). There was a day I and her room mate were cracking jokes when she said something that gave me the shock of my life. She said and I quote “I can bet a million that even if my friend goes unclad, you would still do nothing. At that instance, it was as if the ground should swallow me up
8. She Stops Visiting When you fail do your presupposed responsibility with them upon visiting, they give various excuses and then stop visiting. This is not a sort of exaggeration. They also do that and tag you immature
9. She indirectly Mocks you with her status updates You see updates like ‘it’s good to be with that person that will make you feel like a woman
10. Feel free to add yours
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Nonsense.
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
Repressed Homosexuality can lead to abuse when a gay man targets and marries a straight woman. The gay husband suffers from shame, denial, and repression of his true sexual identity. Most gay men who marry will never admit they are gay. Repression can lead to impotence with women. You may find yourself in therapy, marriage counseling, and your husband is having his testosterone levels checked. It is common for closeted gay husbands to suffer from guilt and self loathing, as his same-sex attractions continue. They are angry and resentful. You will never be able to do anything right in their eyes. You are confused. You tried to help as they suffer from depression,alcoholism, or both. The doctor changes or adjusts their antidepressants. Nothing works. They may have legal problems due to alcohol and drugs, this leads to more depression. The wife will also start to suffer from depression. Her psychiatrist will prescribe antidepressants and maybe some tranquilizers. Her confusion continues as she tries to make sense of this marriage. The women who marry these men are the most giving, and forgiving women. They have the biggest hearts.
These men who hate themselves, have nothing to offer in this fraudulent marriage. The wife becomes the target of all of his anger. My gay ex told me I was the closest one to him. He told me this is why I was on the receiving end of his anger, Lucky me! He lacks empathy, because he is so full of his own pain. He simply does not have room to care for you. He will intentionally cause you pain, he also seems to take some pleasure in this. This is because he resents you. His fear and shame prevent him from living an authentic life. He feels pressure to appear straight, what he feels the norms of society expects, this is why he marries. There is more to this, something in his core is disgusted by what he is. He is not comfortable in his own skin. He grows to resent the marriage. He wants to be free after many years of denying his true self. These men move on so easily after the marriage ends. They may have feelings for you like a friend or family member, but they were never in love with you. They feel relief when the marriage ends. The wife did not know her husband is gay, she was in love with her husband. She wanted her marriage to work. She is devastated.
The wife of a closeted gay husband goes through so much to put her life back together after the marriage ends. Many of these women suffer from post traumatic stress disorder. She blames herself for not knowing, and for the abuse she put up with. She thinks something is wrong with her. She has been stripped to the core by a gay man who never loved her. She feels used. She cannot trust her own judgment, or anyone for that matter. Her emotions and sexual feelings shut down, and she wonders if they will ever return. Sadly these men have told their wives, they are crazy. They have been gas-lighting their wives for years, in an attempt to throw her off the trail of truth. Many women find out by accident
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July 31, 2015 at 7:38 am
Quoting…Repressed Homosexuality By Debra Sutton
They find gay p o r n on the computer, or receive a strange phone call, or text message. The gay husband will blame the wife, or the children. If he is caught red-handed, he will only admit to what you know. He will say he never acted on his same-sex attraction. He was just curious. These gay/straight marriages become sexless. The closeted gay husband has been actively seeking sex with men throughout the marriage. As he ages it becomes harder and harder for him to deny his same-sex attraction. The gay husband wants, needs, and craves a man. He needs this connection that you his wife cannot give him. While the wife shuts down sexually, the gay husband never denied himself sex with men. Some gay husbands may admit to being gay, or bisexual after being caught, only to take it back later, or deny ever saying this in the first place. It can take many years for the closeted gay husband to come to terms with his sexuality. Some never do. They use the fact they are married to a woman, or have children to tell themselves they cannot be gay.
Tim
Works both ways- the husband of a repressed lesbian goes through the exact same emotional trauma. I know, I am one. And I’m not alone. Visit the Straight Spouse Network for more information.
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Debra S.
Tim you were married forty years? I know how devastating this is. I know you have been through a lot of pain. It is hard moving on when you have spent so much of your life with this person. Then realizing you never really knew them. It is so devastating. These marriages are so destructive to the straight spouse. Soul Shattering.
Tim
No Debra, I was married for 30 at discovery. My wife, though, had these “intense emotional relationships” starting at age 13. It w a s n ’ t until she was 54, when I asked her if she was a repressed lesbian based on some of her more eggregious recent actions, that she recognized that she had a SSA. How someone could live and not know for over 40 years is beyond me. She had 5 of these relationships by age 30, but they all lasted two years or less. This one has been going on for more than five years. That’s why, for the first time in my life, I started therapy. That and the folks from SSN saved my sanity and put me on a road to doing for me. My therapist, without ever meeting my wife, figured her out after one session. And it’s that understanding, along with the support from other people in the same situation, that has brought me back from the brink.
Number 11
Put on a very nice form fitting g attire and attend a business meeting around 18 hrs so you think a potential mate will make drop drop it like it’s hot since you cant feed me at home.
Number 12
Tell you that a childhood friend will visit, just too bad that when he comes by, you will have travelled for worked somewhere. It would ve been lovely if you were there.
13
Tell you that a good friend of mine said her colleague has the same BMW as mine so she ll introduce him to me, and he ll in turn refer his mechanic to me so he can look at my car after work. The mechanics you brought didn’t do a good job last time.
These tumfweko bastards are as lazy as the pf government, this article is talking about Nigerian women, you change the title @ Zambian women. I thought after a little break i find some changes, alas it’s the usual lazy bum journalism. Bleeding bloody sucking leeches.
@ Denying sex, ninshi ninshi Yalenga, akesesheko ifwe, takwaba na day twafilwapo maybe the Performance only %s 1 day 99, the other day 67 fillafine, i even tel my girl that the wife i will marry will neva complain of sex, am jst Naturally owez sexually active, elo kasuma ako mu pic uhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm chipuba umu guyz ale angasha na chi 4n,elo bambi bakasende @ am shocked bakafush ne chisungu….
Very true. It’s time guys started learning about these things. This kind of knowledge helps iron out misunderstandings before the relationship becomes dead. Wake up guys and stop pretending you know everything!
Is it. (kinshi efyo fyaba. Kwena abakashana awa, awe mwandi, kuti wa sebana.)
Iwe rubbish list. The heading should have read ati ten ways zambian girls react when denied sex.
Bane it is not every time you feeling like having sex. You need to agree about this. Otherwise it becomes mechanical, even though there is need to leave room for those surprise and instantaneous romps that can be the most exciting. I know how girls can nag you. Though for some when they say they want to romp with you it is because they know they are broke and looking for a way of meeting you and getting your money. This is usually when men look like they do not want to romp because they know some girl wants to deprive them of their cash. You are sometimes made to feel you have to pay for whatever services you may have received even when it was a long time ago. It is like girls never benefit from the physical satisfaction of sex and only men alone do.
Stupid article, written specifically for the PF audience.
Wabeja mambala. It is for hakaindeans also musankwa
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