Dear Readers,
I come from a conservative family and was never in a relationship before marriage. My wife before our arranged marriage told me that she never had any boyfriends and treated all guys as brothers (she initiated that topic). After marriage, I found out that she was not interested in getting married to me and was forced by her parents. When I asked, she cried and said she loved someone else but was within limits and never had any physical relationship.
She said she was forced and pressurized by her parents to marry me, but she also said that she loves me now. After a couple of weeks, I found out that she had physical relations with that guy and was in contact with him over emails even after our marriage until the day I found out. When I asked, she again cried and tried to lie but accepted her ‘physical relation’ part when I showed proof. She said she was still in touch as she was afraid that her ex will do something bad to himself or her and wanted to show him that she missed him.
She says she just wanted to keep in touch as she felt that she betrayed him and wanted to make sure that he doesn’t do anything stupid. But all this while, she has been good to me. I never got a doubt until I found out.
I do love her but it’s been hard for me to forget her past especially the physical relation part (I have seen their personal messages, pictures and videos) and her constant lies and her acting. Many times she told me that I was her first love.
I’m mostly good with her but inside me I have this rage building up that I have been cheated upon and feel depressed all the time to that point that I think of death at least once in a day. I fear that I may turn into a very bad person. I have already seen the signs in my behavior towards my parents, friends, co-workers etc. I have even become very cynical and sarcastic in my approach.
I find it really hard to trust her. In a way, I actually gave up on her and don’t even care if she goes and starts this affair again with her ex. Please help.
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She does not love you so let go.
Divorce her before you do something which you will regret for the rest of your life.Arranged marriages my bro do not work, she won’t stop seeing her ex.She is pretending by shedding crocodile tears, lether go.
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THIS IS NOT GOOD FORUM TO SEEK ADVICE UNLESS NEED INSULTS
Taumunyenga boyi,kosapo chabe,ufwaye congo dust
Munda wakale chikala uyu saziba yayi.unyenga two times a week mukazi sapowa nakupowa.ash aah aah I am calming calming touch the pusss
my humble advise is that divorce her soonest..that rage will keep building until it germinates into something regrettable and non-reversible..no wonder the bible also allows divorce on grounds of infidelity
This woman is a in a confused state. She still loves this ex- which is why she’s still entertaining him, and am sure she will never stop. If she has the guts to act, and play blame games to obtain sympathy from you, while willingly cheating on you. EVERYBODY HAS THE POWER OF CHOICE. SHE HAD THE POWER TO CHOOSE TO SAY NO.AND OPTED NOT TO USE IT.WHY? Mama if it comes down to a divorce, then you will get exactly what you were sowing.
Try to find out …if u r not circumcised & de guy is, den ur n trouble coz she wont stop hitting out wit de guy.Its either u get yo skin cut or divorce…..free advice.
Hahahahahahaha oweeee
You are foolish, yes I repeat foolish. Why are you stupid:
1. There was no love between you ever since you met and your marriage was arranged.
2. You are very naive and the only relationship you had was actually ended up into an arranged marriage.
3. You are likely to commit suicide if you are not already dead as I am typing.
4. Lastly, give her the last warning about her Ex, if she continues communication, leave her and move on. Life is short to be contemplating death on daily basis, this is why you are foolish.
I totally agree with your points. If he is wise, he will take heed!
lol. Now this I like. staright to the point. I feel sweet 🙂 Spot on
lol. Now this I like. straight to the point. I feel sweet 🙂 Spot on
arranged marriages,no true love.
LEAVE HER SHE HAS NO LOVE FOR YOU.
too bad,
Women like. Men who are circumcised careful iwe chikala elo takutemwa leka she’s not the. Only woman walafwa necikonko bukala bwanama iwe
She has said it that she was forced by her parents to marry you. Therefore she doesn’t love you. Some habits are hard to break, she will continue hurting your feelings. Let her continue with her boy friend after all he is not even her ex since they are still hitting out together. It is just that you didn’t have experience that is why she could tell you you were the first one to open the bags and you believed. Take her back to her parents we still need you alive to contribute to the well being of this great nation.
Forget about her nd look for someone who will love you truthfully
Man,you never were in a relationship before.she was in love before until you were forced on her.their love is like a script from a romantic move,and yours boring.Good guys finish last so man up and divorce the b***h!!
GOOD GENTLEMAN, ACT NOW.
GET OUT OF IT. SHE DOES NOT LOVE YOU. IT IS FAMILY ARRANGED MARRIAGE. FIND YOUR OWN LOVE, AS GOD HAS ONE WAITING FOR YOU.
EXPLAIN EVERY THING TO YOUR PARENTS AND LET GO NOW.
YOU HAVE A WONDERFUL LIFE TO LIVE .
the only solution is divorce ! Ico canakashi cikakwipaya, tacakutemwa. Please nga walikwata fimatwi umfwa !
That is a prostitute dirvoce her!
Yaaaa awe mwe! Some comments n advice, one wonders hw old some people are. Your friend is seeking advice busy ukutuka. Please let us differentiate tIme to joke and time to b serious.
ngawafwa ukatwite kuchililo
Dnt think about death discuss this with ur family and hear their input this woman is a snake in a thin grass there are better women up there loning for mariage.
She is not your wife damn it! She belongs to the guy you are foolishly calling Ex. Put her away!
IF YO SPOUSE CHEATS ON U,FIRSTLY U 4GIVE AS A CHRISTIAN AND SECONDLY U ARE AT LIBERTY TO CHOOSE WEHTA TO CONTINUE THE MARRIAGE OR NOT.THE BIBLE Z CLEAR THAT IN CASE OF UNFAITHFULLNESS,U CAN DIVORC E YO SPOUSE.IN THIS CASE U LOVE YO WIFE SO MUCH,BUT THE CHEATING HURTS U ALOT AND MAKING U DEVLOP A DANGEROUS RAGE.BEFORE U DO ANYTHING U MIT END UP REGERETING,ITS BETTER U DIVORCE HER.THIS WOMAN IS NOT TRUSTWORHTY FROM WAT UV SHARED AND KUD BE DOING WORSE THINGS THAN U KNO.WHICH NORMAL WOMAN WUD SAY SHE IS JUST IN TOUCH WITH HIM KOZ SHE BETRAYED HIM.NO ONE FORCED HER TO MARRY U.SHE KUD HAVE MARRIED U 4 MONEY,YET HER HEART Z WITH HIM.SHZ NOT WORTH THE TROUBLED HEART.JUST LEAVE HER AND GOD WILL GIVE U A FAITHFUL AND TRUSWORTHY WOMAN.
live her before is 2 let my bro) on 2012 isackid my fest wife by now I.m joinying mariege pliz do it”
That gal is not in love with you.so stop wasting your time
Norwander the bible says in the case of adultery you can divorce. It is pointless my dear to stay together if you cannot bear it. You are still you and can start all over again. Be nice to innocent people and there is no need to die for her, Jesus did.
ask God to show u the way forward before you end up do wrong thing. 8
JST LET IT GO MAN SHE NOT UR EVER