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‘She’ll Nurse Me Till I Die For Infecting me Willfully With HIV/AIDS’
A THIRTY-TWO-YEAR-OLD man of Lusaka’s Mtendere East township has vowed not to allow his wife to leave him because he wants her to nurse him to his death as punishment for willfully infecting him with HIV.
Christopher Ngoma told the Chelstone local court that his wife, fully aware of her HIV positive status consented to marrying him and should therefore bear the consequence of nursing him as his health continues deteriorating.
“I want the court to order her not to chase me from our home because she is responsible for my deteriorating health condition. I want her to nurse me until death,” Ngoma said.
Ngoma was narrating before Local court Senior Presiding magistrate Hope Mwila in a case in which he sued his wife Justina Phiri 36, of Kalikiliki township for marriage reconciliation.
Ngoma told the court that he married Justina in 2009 and found her with three children already.
He said that he tried on several occasions to formalise their marriage but that Phiri refused to allow him meet her family.
After a year, Ngoma said they failed to convince her and so he requested Phiri to allow him have a child with another woman.
“In 2011, Phiri said she had no problems with me marrying a second wife. I went ahead and married my second wife with whom I have a child with,” Ngoma said.
Ngoma said he later discovered Antiretroviral (ARV) drugs in one of Phiri’s jackets in their bedroom.
“When he confronted her, she told the drugs were pain killers and that the doctor only used an empty ARVs container to store her drugs. A few months later, I found a paper showing results for an HIV test and this time she had no answers for me,” he said.
He said the situation has complicated things for him as he has now failed to disclose his HIV positive status to his second wife who he fears he might have unknowingly infected.
But Phiri said Ngoma has neglected her ever since he married his second wife. She said she has nothing to do with Ngoma’s HIV positive status and as such should sort out his issues with his second wife.
The court adjourned the case for judgment pending the appearance of the second wife to court.
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IF NOT
October 5, 2015 at 9:27 am
Sad development Ngoma should have found out first where the father (s) to those children were. How can he marry a mother of three when he does not have a child?. On the other hand this lady must have known her status way back hence she did not mind her hubby getting a second wife a deliberate move to spread the disease.
Ng'ombe Mbuzi
October 5, 2015 at 10:30 am
Senseless. What proof does he have that he was not HIV positive at the time he married the first wife? If he is someone who regularly goes for the HIV Test then he should have known he’s HIV positive at the time he was marrying the second wife.
ba muntu
October 5, 2015 at 10:37 am
I diot wif
Ron M
October 5, 2015 at 1:09 pm
Judging by how mute the wife was about her status, u have a feeling she knew that sh was HIV positive before marrying ba Phiri. I wouldn’t be surprised if I heard that the father of the three kids died from a long illness.. sad mwee..
Ron M
October 5, 2015 at 1:16 pm
Not that I’m saying ba Phiri was negative at the time of marrying the lady. If he never went for HIV tests regularly, chances r that he may also have had the virus before chikwati.
Major Zotaya
October 5, 2015 at 2:29 pm
Bongoma,
Major Zotaya
October 5, 2015 at 2:31 pm
What if SHe retires first, you ll nurse her to the grave
Chipuba
October 5, 2015 at 3:56 pm
Just start taking ARVs chikala!
someone
October 6, 2015 at 3:04 am
second wif , second wif … ukutemwa ukutomba
mwila
October 6, 2015 at 6:35 am
U r 32 wit no kids and u marry a 36 year old woman wit 3 kids,wats tha logic in that? Is illiteracy or jus legendary stupidity?
Bapitilila
October 6, 2015 at 9:09 am
Uliimbe mwana nakani ya aids ukutomtomba ur second wife will demand the same thing u ar demanding for.what would you tell her?
Ivy Nsama
October 6, 2015 at 9:44 am
Why do people keep blaming others for their hiv positive status? It is wise to do tests before a couple engages in sexual acts. These things have been taught to us. The problem is that people rush into having sex and start regretting after. sad indeed…
kalunga
October 6, 2015 at 2:08 pm
No matter how many time you”ll complaine,the desease ont go. The best for you is to go to the healthy center,exmined and see if at all your cd4 is ok. Thts how life is,beside,you’we supose to go for vct before marring her,who knows maybe you were + tho not on arvs. Tulepimishisha liibela not ukulapelana imilandu bane.