Dear Sir/madam,
I have a problem that cannot get out of my mind. Please help me.
We have been married for 26 years and have 2 children. We had a very good marriage until my best friend perturbed it. My best friend has been chatting on whatsapp with my wife at midnights. Whenever he phoned me, he always wanted to talk to my wife and their conversations usually took long. Eventually, he started informing my wife about his movements.
At early stages my wife used to tell me whenever she received a message from him. Whenever I ask her why he writes her and not me, she always says “ I don´t know, ask him yourself ”. I never bothered because he was my best friend and I trusted him very much. He was like my own brother to me.
Their communication on Whatsapp continued until I realized something was going on between the two. My friend even stopped communicating with me instead he was busy chatting with my wife on Whatsapp.
Eventually, I was extremely disturbed and I was forced to know about their chatting. I asked my wife to show me the massages that she has been receiving from my friend. She refused totally and was very upset. She immediately erased all his messages. I could not see the messages on her phone since it was protected with a password. I got her phone and erased the number of my friend. She started screaming and wept the whole night long.
When I asked my friend why he was chatting with my wife, he refused.
He said, she has been chatting with his wife. From that time I don´t trust my wife anymore. It seemed they have been going out together for a very long time.
I have known my friend for a very long time. We have been good friends and we were like brothers. He is also married has two children with his wife. My friend, his wife and my wife speak the same language of which I don´t understand. His wife does not speak any language that I do speak and understand. Therefore, I cannot raise any conversation with her. They are living in the same town with my parents In-laws. My wife at times goes to visit her parents alone.
I had to break our friendship because I could not trust my friend any more. I don´t even know if they are still communicating since my wife´s phone is password protected.
I am really confused. It has been 6 months since this crucial circumstance took place. The whole situation has disturbed me totally. I cannot concentrate on whatever I do. It keeps on circulating into my mind that their love affair is still at large.
Kindly advise me on how to deal with this kind of situation.
Best regards,
Male Reader
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Its not normal for your friend to be chatting with your wife in the middle of the night. You have so far shown that you are so weak in handling your affairs.The best you can do is to seek counselling from your elders or take your wife to alangisi or banachimbusa. Kelly
1, get sim+ memory card+ nrc. Have phone replaced and through the records on the memory card you willl get all data and images back.
2. Every morning take her phone and dunk it in water. When she gets tired of replacing the phone she will ask her b/friend to replace 15 hand sets
3. Take her and deposit at your former friends place. get another one. let her go with the kids. too many women to sweat over one monkey. if she wants rain let her enjoy the mud too.
Let her go buddy. There’s plenty of fresh fruit out there. Put on your thinking cap and move on.