Dear Editor,
Please post for me and hide my ID.
My brother is married to a Namwanga woman and they have 3 cute kids together. The problem is my sister-in-law, she doesn’t like our family. She claims to love only me and my brother, her husband.
Our Dad is no-more and we have only our mum, who has asthma and BP so my brother invited mum for a visit. But since my mother came, my sister-in-law has changed; she doesn’t stay at home or cook. She has stopped doing laundry for her husband. She doesn’t help him to get ready to go for work. She doesn’t talk to her husband for 3 weeks now.
My brother said he will divorce her but mum was against the idea advising that people will think she came here to end the marriage. So she decided to just go back so that peace would return home but my brother refused and instead planned to send mum to Luanshya for a while so that he can divorce her, without mums consent.
Now when my sister-in-law was washing, their child threw my brother’s clothes in her washing tab. we all thought she had started washing for her husband and we were amazed.
When they met in the bedroom, she said to her husband, “don’t think I washed your clothes on purpose, it was never my intention your child did this and that”.
She said, “I am waiting for you to divorce me, I can’t live with you anymore, no washing clothes for u.” Brother said,” I can’t divorce u because of mum. If you are in hurry then you, yourself divorce me.”
She said she is going to bring the divorce papers soon so my brother is just waiting to be divorces
Mind you this sema doesn’t work but my brother works gets up to K5, 000 per month. but sometimes he gets less than that since his work depends on how much he worked. And when he gets K3000 she refuses to make a budget claiming that the money is too little.
Help, should we let this woman go?
Sad Bro. She is a money digger. Your Mum’s arrival triggered thoughts that the monies would be reduced which go to her. Fact that she does not work and yet risks going away separate ways via a divorce means that the kids would only be comfortable with your brother. It also means that she is taking a very high risk route to the unknown. Since I do not know the ages of the kids, it is hard to say whether their Mum’s departure would be damaging to them or not. If they are very young, then your brother needs to bring in your Mum to help grow the kids. Let your brother get divorced as his wife is a serious liability in this marriage. Money is not a good foundation of marriage.