I am a lady aged 32, was married to a 38-year-old man and we had two kids together. Before he married me he assured me he never drank alcohol but after he married me he started drinking uncontrollably. Whenever he got drank, he would insult and beat me for no reason. I would confront him about this problem but would always point to beer the cause. Sometimes I would go back to my mother’s place and he always came there to pick me up and it was hard for me to refuse because mum would always tell me to go back because of the respect that man had for her.
He continued doing the same things over and over again, and when I went back to my mothers place, unfortunately this time she had died, he came for the funeral and he told me he wanted me back home, I refused because I couldn’t take it anymore.
My family called his family and sat us down, I refused to go back but my uncles and aunties said that people will laugh at them if they allow me to stay since mum had just died and my father died when I was just seven years old. My husband promised my family to change his ways which he never did. I stayed with him for eleven yearss and my children grew up. I used to feel embarrassed when insulted in front of my children and his brother we used to keep.
I stopped loving my husband and my feelings for him disappeared and it became very difficult for me to have sex with him because the same thing he insulted in afternoon is the same thing he wanted to enjoy in the night, he suspected me of having a boyfriend but I never had one. I decided to divorce him against his wish and my family got upset with me. This was in June 2016 but now he has started coming back again claiming he has changed now.
Please I need mature advice and he is saying he can’t love no other woman but me. No insults please!