How To Tell Your Kids About Romping

Talking to children about sex should start at an early stage

By Tina.
“Mummy has a house in her stomach. Some people are playing from there” said puzzled 3 year old Martha. You did not need to be a psychic to realize that she was confused and needed someone to guide her. Martha is not the only one, many kids task their parents to explain some of the puzzling things. Miria, a friend could not hide her embarrassment when her 6 year old Tony asked out loud during breakfast, ‘Dad, why was mummy crying that you were killing her last night?’ So how do you tell your kids about sex and where kids come from? We clue you.

Start early
Teaching your children about sex requires a continuous flow of information that should begin from a tender age. For instance, when teaching your toddler where his nose and toes are, include “this is your penis” without it you cannot pee or “this is your vulva” in your talks. As your child grows, he or she will know these parts. This should be done with continuous education by adding more information gradually until they understand the subject well.

Take the initiative
If your child has yet to ask questions about sex, look for a good opportunity to bring it up. Say, for instance, a female friend of yours is pregnant. You can say, “Did you notice that Pamella‘s belly is getting bigger? That’s because she’s going to have a baby and she’s carrying it inside her. Do you know how the baby got inside her?” Then let the conversation move from there.

Talk more
While children need to know the biological facts about sex, they also need to understand that relationships are more than sexual. They involve care, concern and responsibility. By discussing the emotional aspect of a sexual relationship with your child, she will be better informed to make decisions later on and to resist peer pressure. And if your child is a pre-teen, include some message about the responsibilities and consequences of sexual activity.

Talk to your child of the opposite sex
Some parents feel uncomfortable talking with their child about topics like sex if the youngster is of the opposite gender. While it’s certainly understandable, don’t let it become an excuse to close off discussions.

Anticipate the next stage of development
Children can get frightened and confused by the sudden changes their bodies begin to go through as they reach puberty. To help stop any anxiety, talk with your kids, not only about their current stage of development, but about the next stage, too. An eight-year-old girl is old enough to learn about menstruation, and a boy that age is ready to learn how his body will soon change. This will get them ready for any stage.

Remember
In this internet age, you do not want your kid to learn about his body changes from the internet, so you better start talking.

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