If you spot any of these men trying to enter your life, think twice before trying to build a relationship with them. And do not convince yourself that you will change them. It is much easier to move on to a really good man than to try to make things work with one of their kind.
Mama’s boy
So attached to his mother. He behaves like a child; always telling you how his mother used to prepare special food and juice for him every Sunday, as if you never had a mother.
If you are supposed to go for a date and his mother calls him home to cut her fence, he will first go and cut his mother’s fence. In his life, it is mother first then you second. So, unless you are ready to compete for his attention with his mum, you are better off kicking him out.
The flirt
Do you really want to be angry and spend sleepless nights? When he sees a hot girl, for that matter, any decent girl, out come the pick-up and flattery lines. He always wants to be seen as a gentleman and does things to get the girls’ attention.
If you try to stop him, he will think you are being jealous and want to control his life. He is not even embarrassed to flirt with your closest friends and sisters. He will have the audacity to say there is no harm in flirting. But, we all know how many flings and affairs start out with flirting.
Such a man is not worth your time. With a man like this one, you will always look over your shoulder, wondering who is next in line for his attention.
Should you play him at his own game, and flirt with guys around, you will not believe the anger that will emerge in him.
The party animal
It is okay to go out and have fun every now and then, but this kind of man wants to make everyday a party and he parties hard. When a man has a beautiful woman who wants nothing more than to spend quality time with him, why in the world would he want to be out there all the time?
Is it really worth it to continue dating him? If he was really intent on committing to you, then he really has no reason to spend all of his time out.
Negative attitude
Everything he says comes out negative. He is always criticising you. When you put on short dresses, he says you cannot dress like that in public.
If you wear the long ones, he avoids you. He will never appreciate who you are, yet he is quick to compliment the other girls in the neighbourhood. What are you still doing with him?
The selfish egotist
It is his world and you just happen to live in it. Which means you hang with his friends, visit his family.
Every aspect of your relationship will be dictated by his quest to fulfill his own needs. This type is also bossy and will not help with any chores. He will lounge on the couch, flipping through TV channels or checking out his Facebook page if he has a smart phone. When he comes home with visitors without letting you know in advance, he expects you to take it all in stride and host them. Worse still, be prepared to meet the bills half-way with this one.
If that is what you are prepared for, by all means stay, if not, find a man who can balance being all-man and yet have no time to make you feel like you are his world.
The player
Are there really any kind words for this one? If you find out that the man you are interested in has a string of girls, do not wait for the heartbreak.
He is not about to change. Even if he finally agrees to marry you, expect that he will cheat on you.
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SEGULA GIGO!!!!
January 4, 2012 at 11:22 am
@MAMA;S BOY that my friend is the Good Life!!Plus Mommy looks out,protects and makes sure I never associate or come into contact with Hule Goldigging,good for nothing,endless yapping rubbish,think they are smart asses,frustated types like abena @Maria!!!!
Generous
January 4, 2012 at 12:00 pm
I read through the discriminatory article aimed at denting maen’s image. I hardly agreed with any part of this stuff that is obviously misleading women’s folk. Don’t they have a choice in life? If they can, let them stay away from men. These carelessly sturbon,ignorant, frustrated individuals without direction. That explains why they cannot do without men. The article is misleading to women themeselves, imagine it even carelessly compared someone’s mother to just another woman! What if this comparison was the other way round? What was going to be women’s response and that of the author of this article? Get real! never support even when it matters the least………
Chibombebombe
January 4, 2012 at 12:34 pm
Hi Ba Tumfweko,
Am not a regular member on this blog and don’t normally participate in posting comments but i would like to express my disappointment over this descriminatory article against men today,how can someone just write a cooked news and you publish it on the net?Who’s Decision is it to choose whom to flirt with anyway…Even if if like your stories,Ala limo mulasekesha ba tumfweko no tu ma stories tumbi oto mulemba.
Ukutemwa ifyakulyamo… too disappointing!!
Buju
January 4, 2012 at 2:16 pm
I think an article about “Women You Never Marry” would make more interesting reading!!!
Buju
January 4, 2012 at 2:18 pm
I think an article about “Women You Sould Never Date/Marry” would make more interesting reading!!!
Samson
January 4, 2012 at 3:16 pm
It takes two to tango. We also need information about the right kind of woman! Both parties are responsible for the fate of a relationship.
Chama
January 4, 2012 at 3:18 pm
Am always up for one more night of fun does that make me a party animal?
sage
January 4, 2012 at 3:57 pm
why shouldnt they marry when God called marriage a blessing and has allowed it?? mwila lemba fye.
have you failed to find your self a man
fling master
January 4, 2012 at 4:10 pm
Not every girl you date u shud marry. some are there to satisfy your sexual pleasure,even dem girls knows and accept it after all both parties benefits. girls! some guys are there to fulfill your fantasies, allow dem and enjoy as long as u like dem. LETS DATE GUYS NOT FOR MARRIAGE BUT FUN. HEHEHE!
Shibukombe
January 4, 2012 at 4:47 pm
@ Dahlia & Munalian. It seems like mwakondana. Dahlia, congrats for being a Lawyer. We need more educated & sharp women like you around. Just watch your mouth & avoid underating other peoples careers. Seems like the trouble you’ve been having with men is over. Munalian is the man for you. The 2 of you guys should SMS me. I’ll link you up. Munalian I’ll be your Shibukombe. All bloggerz on this article including, IT specialists, Doctors, Mama’s boys, Flirts, Party freaks, Snobs etc… are invited for the wedding.
Matron: Segula Gigo
Master of Ceremony: Uko
Knife girl: Mary
Ps. Print your own invitation Cards.
Marvell Rock
January 4, 2012 at 4:49 pm
Eish, if i wasnt careful i wud fall under the flirt, but i changed since i met her and trying to balance my time and hers…
Blood Basket!!!
January 4, 2012 at 5:03 pm
bantu bakakondana nishi bakonda not vima classifications dat r comin on yo shit mind!!!Dont confuse da pipo!!!
Blood Basket!!!
January 4, 2012 at 5:04 pm
bantu bakakondana nishi bakondana not vima classifications dat r comin on yo shit mind!!!Dont confuse da pipo!!!
Nemwine
January 4, 2012 at 6:06 pm
The status of someone doesn’t matter coz this love thing is the matters of the heart, mama boy can date a all price knower, john bwila udye nsima can date daddy girl and the like am gardener proudly dating a daddies girl hw is doin her 6th year medicine course
munalian
January 4, 2012 at 6:20 pm
@shibukombe,
I like very much your idea but it looks as my fiancee miss Dalhia isn’t speaking…
our household would be interesting with Mrs Munalian claiming her profession has given us legal documents from the dawn of civilization while I as a software developer always reminds her that IT specialists invented the modern world!!
Some observations:
Matron should Janet C
No need for cards coz invitations will be on Tumfweko and Facebook…and of course everyone will be welcome
munalian
January 4, 2012 at 6:24 pm
@shibukombe,
I like very much your idea but it looks as my fiancee miss Dalhia isn’t speaking…
our household would be interesting with Mrs Munalian claiming her profession has given us legal documents from the dawn of civilization while I as a software developer always reminds her that IT specialists invented the modern world!!
Some corrections:
Matron should Janet C
No need for cards coz invitations will be on Tumfweko and Facebook…and of course everyone will be welcome
Micheal
January 4, 2012 at 6:26 pm
I agree that it is not neccessary or relevant to be mentioning a meal that a man used to have which was being prepared by the mother, it could be quit irritating to the woman,especially if he repeats it over and over to encourage her to cook like the mother. However, I don’t see anything wrong with a man doing whatever the mothers says, besides the Bible simply says obey your parents. It does not specify in what way one should do that. I’m quit sure Jesus obeyed his mother every time. so for you to say it is alright for a man to disobey his mother and worse still, his parents,in favour of his wife or girlfriend is simply sinful in whatevr way you look at it. Please Tumfweko, Zambia is a Christian Nation ,so even as you write these articles always recognise that, it’s a glorious blessing it shouldnt be taken lightly.
fimo fimo
January 4, 2012 at 8:00 pm
@Dahlia ichikwelafye,uletinya bani.atase
munalian
January 4, 2012 at 8:08 pm
@ fimo fimo,
Respect future Mrs Dahlia Munalian…issues of love aren’t rushed coz they are very delicate!!
maria
January 4, 2012 at 8:59 pm
@shibukombe,lol youve cracked my ribs.ine Ka knife girl ka promotion kekekeke.Nomba nkamutumbula na knife segula gigo,ukutumpa umwaiche uyu!Congrats to mr and mrs Dhalia Munalian pliz set the date tukese fwenkula,fwenku fwenku
munalian
January 4, 2012 at 9:33 pm
@ Maria,
Take it easy on Shubukombe coz we don’t want detective Culombo on Mr & Mrs Munalian big day!! The date will be the day of a double rainbow and everyone shall be welcome,especially Tumfweko bloggers!!
Chikalabwamba
January 4, 2012 at 9:55 pm
Segulala gigo bakuzombesha kuli gelo. Anyway good friendship starts on rough rocks. You can ask shibukombe to organize ka manifesto so that iwe ne maria mupane. there is chemistry and biology between you guyz. this will be historic moment ati Maria ewafwaile Segula giga pa blog.
Caution Segula giga… Don’t be in hasty to ask her to open coz you will tell you awe gigo! do it like mama’s boy, she will segula.
Ghost Writer
January 4, 2012 at 10:14 pm
Huh! What are we four year olds……
Mumbwamumbwa
January 5, 2012 at 6:04 am
@Dhalia. Bushe teiwe ex-wife wamunandi ZNBC George Mubanga? Awe uli kasabula we!
Munalian, awe kamuntu
Mumbwamumbwa
January 5, 2012 at 6:06 am
Did Kalusha make money while playing soccer for useless teams nangu ekalilafye muli fimayo?
Mumbwamumbwa
January 5, 2012 at 6:07 am
Just woke up and I feel pissy. Dont get me started!
Mumbwamumbwa
January 5, 2012 at 6:16 am
@munalian I can guess you are from Eastern Province and partly grew up in Lusaka. I think you have a masters degree. You have had amatebeto before but you run ran away abroad.
Mumbwamumbwa
January 5, 2012 at 6:19 am
Nganabazamuka teti munjikate
watchman
January 5, 2012 at 1:32 pm
Duhlia, leave the lawyer crap i have seen a lawywer being hammered by a guy who has never been to a classroom and works for a chinese company, what do you know about love? atase!
Blood Basket!!!
January 5, 2012 at 2:00 pm
Also tell us a lady men shuld never date or marry rather than just favourin women!!!
Sangwa
January 6, 2012 at 7:15 am
Dahlia give munalian your number,i have a good feelin bout this.shibukombez right.hope ur both single.
mwinazedian
January 6, 2012 at 11:39 am
this is nonsense….I hope all you women who listened to this advise are ready to die single…you’ll never find a perfect match
pussyslider
January 16, 2012 at 3:51 am
a man’s attitude towards a girl depends much on the girl’s personality. If i meet a respectable chick,its just natural that the gentleman in me will prevail. Now watch me come accross a sexy ***** who is flauntinting her mechandise, you will definately watch the animal in me as i prime up a huge erection of my choclate brown pipe. i’ll have nothing on my mind apart from wanting a screw. In other words some girls are just meant for a ****, others for platonic affairs…