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What Your Age says About Your Sex Life
Our sexual behaviour varies at different times in our lives. Tracey Cox in her bestselling book, ‘Sextasy’ reveals the sexual urges and traits of lovers according to their age…
20-something
Most guys just can’t stop dreaming about sex every couple of hours. At this age, girls are usually rebellious in their sexual imaginations. They share same-sex fantasies or want to try out bi-sexuality. A 2006 study of nearly 2000 people discovered that 76 per cent of women who slept with women reached orgasm (for women with men, the figure stands at 50 per cent).
The 20s are the time when young boys and girls are most experimental in their sexual positions. One in 10 people claims Tracey Cox have had a threesome in their early twenties.
Also, people in this age group have most likely visited a strip joint or a lapdancing club – with their friends or their better half.
30 something
The 30s are a time to experiment, almost all 30-somethings claim to have had sex outdoors. Unlike the teens when making out was the most common form of sexual experimentation, most 30 somethings prefer having sex somewhere semi-public like the beach, in the garden or on a park bench in the darkness. There’s something wildly erotic about these sexapades! Also, high on the 30 something popularity chart are having sex in the shower or in the bath tub.
Kinky pleasures also rate high as most 30 plus couples claim to be giving in to their fantasies of bondage, blindfolds and spanking on a weekend of debauchery.
This is also the time when women are most likely to befriend gay male pals. Straight women love gay men; gay men love straight women. Swedish research is confirming just why the two groups get along so famously – they both have symmetrical brains. Straight men and lesbians have asymmetrical brain hemispheres.
The 30s also mark the arrival of children in a married couple’s life, so the sex drive naturally dwindles. But, Cox points out that during pregnancy, couples have sex four to five times a month. Most put the brakes on their sex lives for about seven weeks after delivery, but four months later are back to four or five times of sex a month. Cox says six months after delivery, the average couple goes back to having sex three to five times a month. But incase you don’t fit the bill, remember getting disheartened ain’t gonna help. Remember it’s just a temporary period, so continue touching and cuddling and if your baby robs you of chances to have sex, indulge in quickies.
Most women says Cox in her book experience higher orgasm rates. Ninety per cent of women past 30 regularly experience orgasm, compared to just 23 per cent of younger women.
40 something
Men in their 40s are more likely to experience erection problems. Also, this is the age when maximum number of men tend to be unfaithful. Also, men are more compelled in their 40s to watch more porn or indulge in sex chats. Women on the other hand get sexually very demanding, often being attracted to younger men.
If you thought the 40s were about low libido, think again, while 40-somethings maybe having less sex than ever, the thrust has shifted from how many times in a week to an emphasis on better quality. You are more sure of your sexual needs in this age group and thus more likely to insist on passion play as opposed to a mere making out session.
Posted by
Uwakwamununga
April 23, 2012 at 12:13 pm
ifyapalako.
Tupac
April 23, 2012 at 12:27 pm
And you expect the infection rate for HIV/AIDS to go down?Instead of talking about the dangers of sex before marriage you re talking about sins and diseases.Bring developmental issues not ifyabupuba.
doc b
April 23, 2012 at 12:40 pm
we cnt live without sex,its da spice of love.
2012 Zambia; The African Champions
April 23, 2012 at 12:57 pm
mupwanyo & zambia..not a single day passes without one talkin abt sex…
Exhaust blown diffuser
April 23, 2012 at 1:06 pm
Yaba nowanda ndebalila so its hormones and not me being mischievous
GUN
April 23, 2012 at 1:12 pm
Sex moves mountains.
handsome
April 23, 2012 at 1:23 pm
As 4 me pussy is the best thing that has ever existed in this world.it is more important than water even food.i just cant live without it.
Muna
April 23, 2012 at 1:26 pm
Love
Colonel Gaddafi
April 23, 2012 at 1:46 pm
Ait its one of the basic needs to a being.. but we gat to read some serious local news from this site..
Since when did u change it to sexomfweko ?
Wycliff
April 23, 2012 at 2:13 pm
So it means people have nothing else to talk or think about apart from the “deadly”sex.
Eshu the Comfuser of men.
April 23, 2012 at 3:03 pm
The hunger for love is difficult to remove than the hunger 4food. hey….thnx shibukombe.
mutoba kongwe
April 23, 2012 at 5:17 pm
Imwee bafikala ndamweba ine ati sex isuma
Ticky Edris
April 23, 2012 at 5:20 pm
Nonsense, how can a married couple hav sex three 2 four times a month? If its four times that mins once a week in a month, kwati mwikala ukwapusana, fyabupuba fye ifi ukokwine kuli bamwenye. Once a week teti bakubutuka abakashi.
Just Asking
April 23, 2012 at 5:26 pm
More questions need answers…
1. What age is defilement? At age sixteen the law states that is the legal age for a girl to get married.
2. Why is it that in ZEd you are allowed to get married before you can vote? Yes to vote you have to be eighteen, and to get married you have to be sixteen.
Automatic Dick
April 23, 2012 at 5:36 pm
Nabo ba Tumfweko nanyele yabo awe sure !!!
ati shani apo
April 23, 2012 at 7:04 pm
Atase efinshi ifi nomba?bet ba tumfweko mwalitemwa ukunyenga
mpozi
April 23, 2012 at 7:31 pm
bt kwena teti mwikalefye.
Goodman
April 23, 2012 at 7:36 pm
A man can stay without sex. For example priests do stay without wives
Mwenya mwaume
April 23, 2012 at 8:36 pm
Let us be realistic,sex isuma but not 3 to 4 times a month,atleast 3 to 4 times in 24hrs.
Piss off!
April 24, 2012 at 12:44 am
Sex aint love so dnt get it twistd. I love sex but 4 or times a month! mmmh! Is it time tabled? Teti atleast a week or any time fyaisamo.
Jbx jøñ
April 24, 2012 at 3:39 am
Too bad
Zubligo
April 24, 2012 at 8:54 am
Sex is good especially when a woman is pregnant. But I guess what the book is talking about is based on someone’s opinion because in my case just is the case with many couples I do not think once in a week is enough especially when a couple sleeps in the same bed. Once in a week is starvation and canonly lead to infedility in marriages so give each other whenever need arises no sanctions banamayo otherwise your man will go and look for another pussy.
yaba
April 24, 2012 at 9:49 am
sex is only great when the person giving it to you knws.
Akaz
April 24, 2012 at 10:40 am
people thts jst a book ok??
shady gates 745
April 24, 2012 at 10:47 am
sex and living
kokoliko
April 24, 2012 at 11:00 am
i love 40s women they are sweet the way they want dick so much… i like the doras,mugalas,they look like they are already wet there. i love them maningi mwe.
cuttie
April 24, 2012 at 11:49 am
sex was disigned for married couple only, so please let us stay away from it until we are married
Beeg
April 24, 2012 at 12:50 pm
yaba sivintu sex.
cute
April 24, 2012 at 1:02 pm
SEX INVOLVED NEMITI THATS WHAT HAPPENS. NORMAL SEX FROM GOD YOU CAN SLEEP WITH YOUR WIFE SAME BED FOR DAYS WITHOUT IT AS LONG AS LOVE IS THERE IN THE HOUSE. AVOID TRADITIONAL MEDICINE BANE ECHO TAMUNFWILA. SO MUCH OF SEX MAKES PEOPLE GROW OLD FAST. ME AND MY HUBBY ENJOYS IT MORE NGA KWAPITA AMA DAYS.
Thinker
April 24, 2012 at 1:47 pm
What about us in the 60′s and 70′s or 80′s or 90′s? We also love it!!
POLITICAL OBSERVER
April 24, 2012 at 2:40 pm
Sex ilibad….im actually addicted to it, kunsana almost each day!
Carolina Rodriguez
April 24, 2012 at 3:57 pm
Take me on vacation anyone before and after I get married. sex with no strings attached please! Lots of love Carolina Rodriguez,Liaison Officer at the High Commission of the republic of Zambia in Ottawa, Canada.
Chief Bungwe
April 24, 2012 at 5:25 pm
Sex and idiyots go together…watch out
Ba Dex
April 24, 2012 at 6:16 pm
Everything in moderation…
Prof. Pinnochio
April 24, 2012 at 11:53 pm
What’s with Caroline Rodriguez and this bufoon who who writes about her?
eng
April 25, 2012 at 8:31 am
normal sex should be atleast 14 times a week.anything less means yo interests r diminishing n may lead to infidelity. but its hard for a woman to keep her body healthy and appealing enough to arouse another encounter within 8hrs of shagging.that’s y men r always looking for fresh ones but rarely succeed coz it’s almost the same everywhere u go.
Queen
June 8, 2012 at 8:19 am
God is love so let us please him becoz he is our creature of all things. Without him you can not enjoy sex if he removes your breath.