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My Brother In law Aged 45 Wants To Have Sex With Me
Dear Editor,
Please don’t disclose my Id. There is something I want to share with your readers that has been making my life miserable. I’m seeking advice.
I am a girl aged 18 years and I had just been accepted at CBU( copperbelt University)to study medicine. I had 7 points at Grade 12. I am initially from Kasama.
The problem is my brother in law who is an engineer.
When I was processing my papers at CBU I was staying with my sister in Kitwe. Now her husband has been on me for sometime now, he wants to have sex with me, he has on several occasions stormed into my room while I am either sleeping or dressing demanding for sex.
One day he stormed the bath room while I was naked and demanded for sex, he usually goes for work around 06: 00 hours, meaning I would be up by 05:00 hours to prepare food and water for him, during this period he would be all over me wanting to touch me but I would either run away from him or threaten to scream.
One day around 14: 00 hours my sister was away at the market, we were the two of us at home plus his son. He chased the son aged 8 years to go outside and he started watching a porno movie, when I was passing through the sitting room to go outside he held my hand and forced me to sit next to him to watch the porno movie but again I threatened to scream and I left.
He sent me an SMS saying “Your sister (his wife) since she is pregnant, she produces a lot of water from her vagina and I don’t enjoy sex so I want to be having sex with you and you will always be having money in your pockets.”
I have these SMS with me and after I realized that it was becoming too much, I had to run away from Kitwe.
I told my mother who is a nurse in Kasama and my brothers and dad everything what her son in law has been doing, she was and she is still shocked but she advised that we must not inform my sister who was then pregnant saying her (blood pressure)BP can easily go up and anything can happen.
True to my mother’s words, my sisters BP went up during delivering, she almost died. She had to undergo a lot of medical requirements when giving birth.
People my brother in law would around 03: 00 hours call me or send me SMS to go to the other room or sitting room so that we can have sex, it was just too much.
Recently, I visited them, they are keeping my cousin who is 17 years old, I asked her if my brother in law has been doing the same to her, she said he has been doing the same but that she warned him that the entire family knows his behavior and that we no longer respect him that is how he stopped.
I overheard him on the phone talking to a woman saying “ you must come to Kitwe, I will book you a room and I love you very much”. Here are my questions, did we make a mistake by not telling my sister about her husband’s behavior and could it be that he is seeing another woman?
My mother has maintained that we must not tell my sister about this issue. I still have the SMS’s he has been sending to me and I am not comfortable with my brother in law any more.
Thanks in advance.
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Katwa
October 6, 2012 at 4:41 pm
What type of clothes do you wear when home because on the photo posted hereto you seem to be struggling with culture and ethics. You and your cousin should go and live with your parents. Your 7 points must have been gotten through sex and leakages. Your brother in-law see it in your eyes. It is not your duty to be over-hearing your brother in-law’s conversations on phone. This story can sound different if your broher in-law tell it. I think you and your cousin just crossed on your in-law and now you are bitter with him hence embarrancing him to the public against your parents’ advice. You are just monkeyniac.
opness
October 6, 2012 at 4:53 pm
katwa this not issue of clothes the brother in law ha sickness need prayers, his behavour will take him to early grave. he does not deserve a wife and a family. there no excuse his sleeping with the wife and calling the sister in law to have sex with her, his lust is bigger than his brains.
michael
October 7, 2012 at 8:36 am
this man is a Dog in a humnan’s skin.Ata
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 1:36 pm
Opness! you see also, this is a story being told by one person and the brother in-law has not said anything. So, be careful with such chaps who just blow the whistle to suit their story. What are her mistakes. Besides she told her parents and they gave their advice but if you read in between the line this lady seems to be overlooking the parents’ advice which also could have been deeper than it is told to us. There is something wrong with this lady and she cant be so strong on her in-law when she has her own parents.
Kabwata MP
October 6, 2012 at 5:19 pm
Ba mulamu bobe has no dignity,you know it. ur sister’s life is in danger, and the more silent you become the greater danger she gets into. sit down with ur queen, explain the dangers of a sexual network, then find a solution as soon as possible. God be with you.
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 1:47 pm
We are not told whether her sister is not already affected with her husband’s sexual network and also we are not told why this girs seems to be the one with data on her in-law. Apart from herself being a target of this man, this girl seems to over hear the conversation on phone that suggest according her that the in-law has other lovers. Is the wife dull? How does the man love his wife? We are not told whether the man is mistreating the wife but the fact is this family seems to depend on him – herself and the cousin already mentioned. Am sure he also entices them with cash that is why they want to be near this unproven sexmaniac.
NYALE
October 6, 2012 at 5:25 pm
U HAVE SEEN ALL THEV SIGNS.GET OUT OF THE MARRIED PERSON’S HOUSE.YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH TO STAY ON YOUR ON.YOU ARE RIPE FOR MARRIAGE.AT YOUR AGE IF YOU SIT CARELESSY EXPOSING YOUR THIGHS OR YOUR PRIVATE PART HIS MANHOOD WILL GO UP.GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS USING A CONDOM.
Sikozi
October 6, 2012 at 5:41 pm
MY sister. I would like to have that bustards cell number so that I talk to him. He is a big old fool. He has no morals and no fear of God. I also want the number for your mother or Dad. I commend you for the carriage but you shouldn’t have put the picture on the blog.
Do not keep this anymore. Discuss with your sister and let her knw what has been happening including sms. But she needs to be strong.
Iam sure he has many ladies he is sleeping with. May God deliver him. I hope he is not HIV positive
God bless you.
barny wizzie
October 6, 2012 at 5:45 pm
you did well not to tell your sister firstbut after delivery please ask some elders to talk to her about your complaints or if you are close then you can just talk to her yourself. i hope you didnt give it to him coz u sound otherwise at some point. hope thats not your photo here
Nigga
October 6, 2012 at 6:08 pm
What tribe is your brother in-law? In some tribes chewing your sister in-law is allowed. Your brother in-law is moving with times: at more money in your pockets! Kekeke
MULENGA
October 6, 2012 at 6:31 pm
IAM HOLDING BACHELOR OF SCIENCE DEGREE IN NURSING CAN I APPLY 4 BACHELOR OF MEDICINE & BACHELOR OF SURGERY [MBchB] OR BACHELOR OF DENTAL SURGERY [BDS]. WHAT IS THE TUITION FEE?
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 1:54 pm
How does this answer the article in question Ba Mulenga? Bachelor of….bachelor of … and bachelor of …. congrats but learn to respond to subject matter before you bring your tuition problems here.
DOLOKO
October 6, 2012 at 7:18 pm
u are one of a few ladies who comes in the open to report such abuse.There is need to tell yo sister,convience yo family,let them sit him down in the presence of his family and u produce those sms.he bad habit has to b stopped.
kungfu
October 6, 2012 at 8:28 pm
This guy says “You will have money in your pockets!” Tell me is he a PF member.
Mutale
October 6, 2012 at 8:59 pm
I know the truth hurts but you sister knowing the truth will help her a great deal. You sound to have a very bright future. Do you have a bursary or you are relying on your brother in law? You need to sit down with elders in your family over this matter and seek God’s guidance. What tribe is your brother in law? I believe he is a herbalist – sexually. He needs deliverance. What more out there? Sad
chiti.m.m
October 6, 2012 at 9:11 pm
your brother_inlaw doesnt love your sis.tel your sis and forgive him.remember we only leave once.speakout before your life is ruined
fools are fools
October 6, 2012 at 9:24 pm
is he a pf member to be using same strategy of more money in your pocket? read whats happening to pf now because of their countless lies. its more money in their pockets…..hahahaha. be wise girl and tell ur sis like the way chanda chimba told us
me I used to fabk my sister in law !
October 6, 2012 at 9:34 pm
hey! give him ! e’normal !
those things happen including to the one giving that advice !
vwww
October 6, 2012 at 9:38 pm
Ba tumfweko Pa CBU paliba school of medicine ? Ubufi mwacilamo. I wonder whether the story is true.
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 2:05 pm
mmmmm sister or bro!!! Be informed that the school of medicine in Ndola fall under the Copperbelt University. People will laugh at you. Consult unless your environment is deprived of up-to-date people like this girl in this article who is only 17 but seems to be the eldest in her family and has no one to advise her already. That is the price if children’s source of wisdom is the TV, AM, radio, internet etc. Now observe the comments and let her tell us which one is the best advice here.
PK
October 6, 2012 at 10:53 pm
this story is more fictional than truthful.Its just a concoction
how come
October 6, 2012 at 11:00 pm
mh.at 45 still having erections?
Fault Finder
October 6, 2012 at 11:36 pm
You see, always base your lie on an aspect of truth. Since when does CBU offer medicine and what papers do you process when you are accepted at a university? Anyway I give you 48%.
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 2:08 pm
I refer you to the comment I have given wwwww. see above
demba ba
October 7, 2012 at 12:13 am
the best u can do is to stay away from that home…however to help your pregnat sister u need to commit that mulamu of yours in serious prayers coz surely its only the lord that can deliver such a wicked man!!!
dnice
October 7, 2012 at 12:33 am
medicine at CBU????? Surely you are idiots’ ba tumfweko. ubufi bweka bweka
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 2:34 pm
What if you find out that it is you who is not just aware that School of Medicine in Ndola is actually a campus under CBU, who will be an ***** in this case?
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 2:38 pm
What if you find out that it is only who is not aware that the School of Medicine in Ndola is actually under CBU? Who will deserve your last sentence in your comment? Not Me but between you and Tumfweko.
TellTrurg
October 7, 2012 at 2:16 am
This story sounds not authentic.CBU to my knowledge has no degree in Medicine. Maybe they started this year. It is a made up story to stimulate debate.
Chanda
October 7, 2012 at 7:42 am
medicine is there at cbu
bangx
October 7, 2012 at 5:59 am
@telltrurg CBU offers medicine ba mudala
CALLED WISE
October 7, 2012 at 6:05 am
‘A MAN IS JUST LIKE A KID;U GIV HIM A SWEET,HE WIL KLAIM 4 DA WHOLE SHOP’
HEY LADY,YO MULAMU IS OK, IT’S DA EVIL IN HIM.
JUST PRAY N GOD WIL DELIVA HIM.
kakolwe
October 7, 2012 at 6:06 am
Your mother knows YOU BEST! I still maintain that you’ve given him. Consider the parts that you are not telling. Does he tell you NOT to lock the doors to bathroom & Bedroom? Is your Sis as dead ALL mornings as her randy husband is chasing you around?
You are sorry for your sis coz U know that she’s married to an man who will ditch every pussy he dips it in. He lefts his wife’s for yours & you thought you were the BEST, then you discovered he dips it in other younger girls & other women by using the same words you fell for and the only thing you can do is come up with CBU medicine + sms.
Kabiye uko! No f*cking dick can sms you to go to another room if you’d never agreed to before, you have just given up now that is all.
You could have sat with your nephew OUTSIDE than walking into the TV room the moment you saw & HEARD him chase the boy.
Verdict? A Disappointed Lady Trying to go out with a little dignity. A victim of a sex-psycho
Bwanza bwenu bilima
October 7, 2012 at 6:21 am
CBU offers medicine at Ndola campus (Ndola Hospital).
auria
October 7, 2012 at 7:38 am
Firstly let me say how disgusted I am with some comments here. A girl asks 4 help and society demonises her. Then also ba tumfweko, why put a picture if its not hers? If it is didn’t she ask 4 anonymity? These issues are real mwebantu. We’ve just dealt with one ***** in my family. Ifwe we tod my sister wen her husband almost raped our 18 year old baby sister. Your sister needs to know what she is married to. She has delivered now so what’s the danger. Tell your dad or uncle about this. There is too much abuse of dependants mumayanda. But the worst thing is our society who as we can see here wants to blame the victim. Messiah bwelanso!
Bro
October 7, 2012 at 7:57 am
were is my comment tumfweko cili shani kanshi.
no name
October 7, 2012 at 8:07 am
I last read this ****** story last year in March it was published in some paper in Bots.I wonder how it has become news on tufwenko! Lol
michael
October 7, 2012 at 8:35 am
@katutwa you should be the same chap as the chap in question how would you blame this girl.shame on you if you have been sleeping with your sisters in law at.Mano ya mbwa.
Critical Situational Analyst
October 7, 2012 at 8:40 am
She is blackmailing his brother-in-law ,the he is having an affair with CBU student who is benefiting alot
kalunga
October 7, 2012 at 8:46 am
This story is abit fishy because the girl seems to be going back were she says she can’t stand her brother in laws behavour,I think she has some thing for him.And there is no medicine course at CBU
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 2:48 pm
I agree with you on the analysis of this girl but please you killed your genius by not knowing that CBU has the School Of Medicine. This campus is in Ndola though but falls under the CBU.
DJ B
October 7, 2012 at 9:18 am
@this sounds funny with what your brother is doing,quite its really a habit for guys potraying such a way,only solution is to avoide him in any request,sit back back and think of your 7 points really encouraging u can do something better and become someone.But ba mudala leave your sister inlaw other pipo in need of prosperatious,interigent and vivide like the guy girl.Now onwards deliverance is required to you brother,stay blessed.
STEALTH
October 7, 2012 at 10:10 am
HE ENTERED THE BATHROOM WHEN SHE WAS NAKED,WHY DIDNT SHE LOCK THE DOOR?STRANGE…..
DJ B
October 7, 2012 at 10:20 am
Hala @me we talk 0964085664,confidential…..
Dread man
October 7, 2012 at 10:37 am
This girl too is a problem or tumfweko just made this up.No one would submit such a picture seeking help with the situation at hand.From the picture,I think the young lady somehow is seducing the big silly man.Just from you pausing,I can tell what type of an 18 year old girl.Too seducing!!Work on your dressing!What were you trying to achieve by submitting a picture taken from the bathroom?Again, to seduce.Your mulamu has studied you and discovered,you are an easy goer and that you love money which is why hes promising more money in your Vagina.
taliban
October 7, 2012 at 10:48 am
if that’s you int the pix..then your bro in law is teaching you a lesson..dress appropriate..
Abakonzi
October 7, 2012 at 12:23 pm
My girl its yo word against his but if yo sms claim is true then that’s the evidence u have.Talk to yo grandmother or an elderly aunty am sure they will find a way to deal with this issue.I think yo fear is recking yo sisters marriage but again yo inlaw is bad omen and there’s need to find a solution fast.Meanwhile keep refusing and try to avoid visiting that home and also check the way u dress when u are visiting inlaws and uncles to avoid arousing them ok.Wishing u a quick solution
kwasha
October 7, 2012 at 12:41 pm
MY ADVISE: GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS AND THEN OBSERVE HIS CHARACTER. THEN YOU MUST DEMAND FOR SEX FROM HIM EVERY TIME… YOU WILL SEE THAT HE WILL KEEP AWAY FROM YOU. TELL HIM YOU ONLY ENJOY IT LIVE
Ibu
October 7, 2012 at 12:49 pm
I know this gal. She is a maniser and very possesive. The big reason she published this story myt be because she heard that her cousin slept with her mlam nowonder she went bak to tell the cousin to stop wat she doing. The mlam myt have told her to kip away and thats how she reported this to tumfweko. Otherwise her inlaw used to chew her. Pls giv chance to your cousin to be chewed also. She also wants more money in her pockets. This man is gbm’s pal. He is also pf.
Josh GM
October 7, 2012 at 1:24 pm
****** cooked and fncked up story. Waste of time to respond, besides at her age what she doing in other people’s home? She visited second time, there is another grown up woman (cousin) already there “visiting” same couple, why cant the wife family stay away then? Is it poverty? ukutumpa, nainewine kuti nachita same thing just to keep y’all away.
Rb
October 7, 2012 at 1:47 pm
MEDICINE @ CBU? I have never heard of this before
Katwa
October 7, 2012 at 3:00 pm
You as archaic that law which HH is being charged on. Existing in Zambia but belongs to Welensky. How cant you know my school. The school is in Ndola but it is under CBU. That is what MMD achieved. I know you are aware of the intended two Universities in one Village in Muchinga by our nice rule of law govt – pf?
what your number
October 7, 2012 at 2:07 pm
Hey girl. You are going to CBU. What is your number? I am in kitwe, maybe we can meet?
impokeleshi
October 7, 2012 at 2:17 pm
Akapya walya. She is above consent age. Tumulamu tulomfwika bwino sana.
Amos Bwalya
October 7, 2012 at 2:18 pm
This guy says “You will have money in your pockets!” ask him if he is a PF member.
Kunta Kinte
October 7, 2012 at 3:25 pm
Just give the man some sex naiwe, after all he will be sponsoring you big time….better than giving amhule, the money stays in the family, in-law ni ndiyo! AND what do you mean Medicine at CBU, you are a naughty little cat aint you?
FUTURE PRESIDENT-ZAMBIA
October 7, 2012 at 3:32 pm
A SAD STORY OVER THERE THE MANY HAS TOP BE TOLD OFF THTS THE BEST WAY.
Francis
October 7, 2012 at 4:09 pm
what foolishness is this. there is no medicine at CBU. whoever wrote this is just a WHORE
MK
October 7, 2012 at 4:24 pm
4 SCHOOLS IN ZAMBIA OFFER MEDICINE NAMELY; LUSAKA APEX MEDICAL UNIVERSITY, CBU, UNZA AND CAVENDISH. JUST APPLY
kabova
October 7, 2012 at 4:43 pm
Theres total moral decay in our society today. This girl maybe fake but some pointers on her message. The inlaw calls other women and tried on the other cousin of the writter. The question is not whether theres medicine courses at CBU or not but if this is not a genuine case at least we have something to discuss. STOP defending evil schemes. They are alot of young girls who could be going thru such situations and this could be their life line. You complain that modern marriages end in divorce within a short time, do you know what these young girls go thru. Most have issues and when they turn to you, the so called elders the first thing you do is ask things like..how do you dress or you seduced him….rememder young girls tend to lean towards male elders not seeking sex but love and its fathery love they seek but are taken advantage of.
GAMBIRO FAMILY
October 7, 2012 at 5:58 pm
Anyway fi ma chitika secreeeeete ku bed.