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My Husands Ex- Girlfriend Just Cant Let Go, Please Advise
Dear Editor,
My husband and I have been married for about 7years, we have gone through thick and thin such that at times putting food on the table was a problem after he lost his job, I tried hard to get myself a job which was not very well paying and we started living in my house which i had acquired before we got married since he had lost his house due to a loan he got, he was discouraged after loosing his job i councelled him every day and even put him on a mini salary everymonth from the little i got just to keep him huppy but the problem started after he got himself a new job that was after a few years, he started having extra marital affairs one of which i caught him red handed and he apologised, i was so upset and i ended up breaking his possessions after this affair we were happy for a while and by then i got myself a very well paying job which was about four times his salary and built houses he became insecure and was ever suspicious even when i went out for workshops, then oneday i recieved a call from an unknown person telling me my husband was having an affair with this girl whose name i was informed and the source asked me to get hold of his phone and call this same lady which i did when he cam home, the response was shocking because she answered with very romantic words, i then got the phone and handed it over to him while she was on the line and he started murmuring, couldnt talk, i asked him what this whole thing meant he tried to refuse until i confronted one of his close friends and asked him abut this girl and he agreed that the affair was actually reality and he had tried to warn him against it, he even gave me information of where she lived, i confronted my husband with all this information until he admitted and accused me of also being unfaithful because whenever he was out to see this lady i also went out to have some air with my friends, i thought i had had it because he had in the past alot of girlfriends wh ich was hard for me to reckon with so i made a decision to divorce him and informed him, he protested and pleaded to stop, pastors counselled us and i changed my mind about divorce, we became prayerful people but the girl just couldnt let go, she even ended up attending a service at our church and told the pastor about the affair she was having but never mentioned my husbands name and said she knew it was wrong, that day she made sure i noticed her presence and continued calling me and sending me text messages for me to see the pic she had posted of my husband and herself and up to now she has continued creating ghost accounts on a social network and inviting me to be her friend, the worst part of it is that she made me loose my job after sending a funny email to my official email addressed which caused comotion and by then i didnt have any idea who it was but since i have been gathering facts together i found someone i was working with who is connected to her, i am very sure my husband is nolonger interested in her because he also complained about her sending him insultive sms’s on his mobile after she realised he was nolonger interested.
My worry is this girl can mess up my life because she knows alot about me than i do about her qnd i cant take it to the police bacause it can be considered a civil case and then the court processes are so long and boring please advise because i dont want to take the law in my own hands.
Depressed Wife
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on November 14, 2012. Filed under LIFE & STYLE, STYLE.
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MUNYELO PWETE!
November 14, 2012 at 10:37 am
Sad reading and this chap realy is an ingrate! Best advice is that you chuck out the idiet immediately! You have a proffession, a job ,houses etc and what else do you want from such a creature! If it is dwinking you like in this man, there are men out there who can give you realy good dwinking! Honourable Munyelo Pwete is just a stone throw away!
mali
November 14, 2012 at 10:58 am
@Munyelo Pwete
My brother for the first time you have talked sence.
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iwe naiwe china mayo, u are afool, cant you move out of that marriage, u behave like u are no educated, leave him, his is not your father, or brother, nangu kushippikisha, Bwamba nshi ubo? get sense from Munyelo Pwete, he has talked big sense, Munyelo besides your name’s meaning, I think u have a point brother.
FULL STOP.
chipolopolo
November 14, 2012 at 11:06 am
So far you have stood up for your marriage and thats good, women of nowadays do not want to give up but as long as your husband is no longer interested in her, she will give up. That said, let me tell you that your husband has a bigger role to play here. He should use all means even his friends if need be to inform this lady that no matter what she does, he will never go back to her and that he will never leave you for her.
mim
November 14, 2012 at 11:09 am
Sad story mama. but from the look of things your husband is still seeing that woman believe me. iam sure he is the one who gives her information about you. Men become crazy when they are in love. just leave this man and your life will be straight again.good luck.
The Prophet
November 14, 2012 at 11:10 am
ever heard of BEATRICE HAMWEENE? She’s there at Chimbokaila, pay her a visit and ask her how she made sure her rival was never a bother again
am a serious PF DIE HARD.
November 14, 2012 at 11:12 am
***** go to you bashibukombe. foolish ***** why bring this crap here. we want news and not your crap.
Janet c
November 14, 2012 at 11:21 am
Leave that man – as long as he continues to feel intimidated by your success, I beg leave that fool before your beauty dis-appears from frustration. There are many men out there of ‘your standard’ – that’s why I only date rich men mwe
Sido
November 14, 2012 at 11:29 am
A man is a key. Let him solve the problem if he is intrested in you. He started it and he should end it.
Keke
November 14, 2012 at 11:48 am
Insults are bad, it just gives information on how retrogresive a person is. Lets stop insults
Zed
November 14, 2012 at 11:57 am
I agree with Sido,the man is the key,he started it so he should make a plan of how to get out it.
Shootist
November 14, 2012 at 12:06 pm
u saying this girl “knows a lot about u” tell us the infor u r hiding so that we advise u frankly, not this crap u have av written
1 Kay
November 14, 2012 at 12:12 pm
Your husband knws how to ****! 4 that lady 2 be coming back!
mimiz
November 14, 2012 at 12:12 pm
I can’t stand dull people….when the bible says for better or worse,doesn’t mean you promote evil,sin,adultry,name it,things that happen without intention,partner losing a job,injury atfer car cash not planned adultry 24/7,grow up,advice my foot…next
Mushkarano!!
November 14, 2012 at 12:26 pm
Give him time to play around..he will get tired and come back begging for you..Am surprised the friend to that man revealed everyting about his best friend,he’s such an Id!ot…
YES
November 14, 2012 at 12:33 pm
pipo have u ever herd of what God has joint together let no man put asunder / till death do u apart? only death not girlfrend/s. Concerned lady in yo story u said an important thing,u turned to God the both of u at one point please continue.there is nothing he fails to do! on this website there chistians and there are devils,analyse each contribution. will it help u or distroy u?follow Godly advises talk to men and women of and i am sure they will help u.
Kakoswe
November 14, 2012 at 12:37 pm
For as long as u ar inchrist u protectd dear that gel bwamba bwaba lumebenu bwalimupesha amano
beautiful
November 14, 2012 at 12:59 pm
Yo husband is still seeing de girl!use yo brain God gave u free of charge! Nangu ifyupo nafishupa.
kunda
November 14, 2012 at 1:30 pm
Really sad if this is true. Unfortunately am not sure bring such maariage issues to such foras can help much. You appear to be wise and already know what to do. All has failed, report the matter to the police and let them deal with it. Thats the only option you have left. As everyone has said, your husband should be very honest in all this coz he may end up embasassing the family.
servant of God
November 14, 2012 at 2:31 pm
This world of today,where are we going?Any issue in marriage,you advise couples to divorce!What has happended to the original plan of God concerning marriage?”Let no man put assunder”.Woman,I know its not easy to withstand whats going on but God uses any foolish things to strengthen your desire for him or to prepare you for another level in Christ.This is one of those trials that if you pull through,your marriage shall be built on solid grounds and your husband will even love you more.Be careful with advise as most of it is not from God.Please pray earnestly and seek Gods face and deliverance.Since you are priveledged with cash,please get on a plane(you and your husband) and go to Nigeria,Synagogue Church Of All Nations and your deliverance and problems shall surely come to pass.God bless you but please take a step of faith and get onto that plane.
Janet c
November 14, 2012 at 4:18 pm
So that TB Joshua can sleep with you to ‘deliver you from evil’ – pleeese – this girl should leave this man or face death by HIV
another Iris
November 15, 2012 at 12:22 am
mmmmmm, the church people. What makes you think God enjoys to see people suffer and that suffering is his way of bringing you closer to him?
I wouldn’t trust this man with anything not even a stray one eyed cat.
Janet C
November 14, 2012 at 3:17 pm
I meant that is why i used to date rich men
mando*
November 14, 2012 at 3:58 pm
this is the pastor who was suspended in zambezi who keeps on sleeping with his former girl friend in guest houses. Sad man
Abakonzi
November 14, 2012 at 6:34 pm
Guys,girlfiends will always be there starting from the bible days BUT always remember the Golden Rule about girlfriends:Your Girlfriend must always FEAR and RESPECT ba Madam and never discuss your Madam when you go kuli ka girlfriend!QED
kbk
November 15, 2012 at 6:14 am
Jane c you re a fool namano tawakwa those reach man they also married man u re just the some like the girl who is disturbing a friend, ******.en for you to talk about pastors you a curset
Candy
November 15, 2012 at 10:15 am
I sincerely hope your husband has truthfully changed or he is once again broke and thus pretending to be a christian.From the look of things your husband may still be seeing this girl and telling you that he is equally bothered by his ***** which is all in the name of keeping everyone happy.my dear,what will it take for you to leave this foolish man who neither loves nor cares about you.Moreover he has not made any effort at all to stop communicating with his girlfriend such as barring her calls and texts,changing his number and telling his pals not to entertain this girl ever again but your foolish husband is there telling this girl all about you.There are caring and loving men out there all you have to do is kick that man out of your life.
Sweet love
November 15, 2012 at 4:20 pm
You could have all the possesions, profession and money. Thats what is destroying most marriages nowadays. People are forgeting why they get married. I would advise you to look back and ask yourself why you said yes and why you are still with that man todate. Marriage is God’s idea for families to be together. So are you going to leave your husband for another woman? Look back and see how you have pushed your spouse into cheating? Were you nagging, were you not giving him good sex, Disrepecting him, Unloyal, unloving e.t.c
About that concubine leave her alone.But go to the police and report about the texts she has been sending you..The police will warn and caution her.. Its your husband who went after her. So deal with your husband….