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HELP: Wife Needs a Child, asks Hubby to Try Another Woman
Dear Editor,
I have been married for six years to a very beautiful and caring woman. she is honest,humble,submisive and in her i find comfort. For all these years,we have never heard a cry of a child in our home.
We have been to hospials for tests but they always tell us that we are ok and she wil conceive. my wife is encouraging me to try another woman and see if i can have a child who she has promised to takecare of. I love my wife and as a christian,its unacceptable to commit adultery. what do i do?
Depressed Hubby
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on November 15, 2012. Filed under LIFE & STYLE, STYLE.
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Candy
November 15, 2012 at 9:58 am
my dear husband and wife,commit yourselves to God and he will surely give you that which your hearts desires pantu ukuboko kwakwa Lesa takwa ipipa nakalya.
BOKO HARAM
November 15, 2012 at 8:58 pm
I love the strong word of encouragement
TB Joshua
November 15, 2012 at 9:59 pm
The fact that you have pubcly written about it, it means you are considering it. So do you want/expect us to encourage you? No, thank you. You are on your own.
blessings mumba
November 15, 2012 at 9:59 am
You know what to do, go for it!
chabo
November 15, 2012 at 10:01 am
You re so lucky your wife telling you u to susuberry outside I wish mine could too !!!
Umuntu
November 15, 2012 at 4:37 pm
Tell your wife not to be desparet pantu ukachita nowasuba SWEET and CRY elo, ukamukane akashale alelila futi. Lwakwe naishiba ifyo alecita limbi naena alecitisha kumbali. so alefwaya mukalingane nga aimita kumbi,,
Mushkarano!!
November 15, 2012 at 10:05 am
My friend thats the only chance iya ku ba nyenga no kubatomba sana…go for it! afta all nabakusuminisha..Id!ot..
mrs lisibi
November 15, 2012 at 10:14 am
Morning my brother,i greet you in the name of our lord and Savior,i salute you because after six years of not having a child you are still steadfast with your wife,your wife is insecure and believes that if you have a child with another woman she could maintain the marriage ,my advice is that please tell your wife that it is unGodly to have a child outside Wedlock and that she should wait upon God who is the giver of life.LESA MWE BANTU EUPELA,GOD HAS HEARD YOUR AND YOUR WIFE’S CRY.WAIT PATIENTLY HE WILL SURPRISE YOU.PEOPLE HAVE STAYED 10 YEARS WITHOUT CHILDREN BUT GOD HAS GIVEN THEM.WAIT UPON HIM AND FOLLOW HIS INSTRUCTION COZ NO ONE HE HAS MADE BARREN IN HIS LAND.IF HE GAVE ELIZABETH,HANNAH SARAH In THEIR OLD AGE IS YOUR OWN PROBLEM DIFFERENT.GOD WANTS YOU TO TRUST HIM AND WAIT UPON HIM.HE MAKES WAYS WERE THERE SEEMS TO BE NO WAY.WAIT IN FERVENT AND PRAYER.PRAY OWAZ AND TOGETHER.I NO WHAT AM TALKING ABOUT.GOD BLESS YOU
Lisa
November 15, 2012 at 12:47 pm
Amen!
Umuntu
November 15, 2012 at 4:32 pm
Iwe no mukashi obe muli mafontini elo tamubelenga bible kwateni icicetekelo muli Lesa. tamwaumfwako TB Joshua. pokeni loan mukaye ku Nigeria (Synagogue Church of All Nations). Abakashi bobe bakesa batolela.
METAL
November 15, 2012 at 10:21 am
do you by any chance read the Bible? What happened to Serah and Abraham? Be very careful because you might not handle the consequencies…
TRUE
November 15, 2012 at 10:33 am
GOD IS THE ONE WHO GIVES.TELLING YOU TO CONCEIVE FROM ANOTHER WOMAN IS NOT A GOOD IDEA.THINK OF YOUR LOVE FOR WIFE.ITS RARE TO FIND A WOMAN WHO IS SUBMISSIVE.GO BACK TO THE HOSPITAL THEIR SOME TABLETS WHICH THEY GIVE.AND I HOPE YOU ARE NOT THE WHO HAS A LOW SPERM COUNT.IMAGINE THAT YOUR WOMAN TELLS YOU THAT I WANT TO CONCEIVE FROM SOMEONE ELSE HOW I CAN FEEL.PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES.REMEMBER HIV IS REAL.THINK TWICE AND BE A MAN
Ben
November 15, 2012 at 10:36 am
God’s time is the best. Since the medics have certified you all okay, just be patient. You never know why that delay. Something big might be on the way, just keep on asking God for guidance.
solidified
November 15, 2012 at 10:40 am
let your lovely wife try fertility pills.visit a Gaenacologist for advise. Some times they would advise on the type of love making positions which may assist in concieving. Put God in your prayers as you find a solutions.
Bwembya
November 15, 2012 at 2:31 pm
Try the fertility tablets. Look at this lady who gave birth to five children she also took the fertility tablets
maana
November 15, 2012 at 10:43 am
do not add or subract from what God has given you. if you and your husband do not any child what matters is love and not having achild has away of strengthening your marriage.remember that allowing your own husband to go and sleep with another woman means you are allowing the sprity of immorality in your marriage.the next time you hear that your husband has been caught having sex with your friend are you going to be happy or not?
Keith
November 15, 2012 at 10:57 am
God can give the desires of your heart without committing adultery. Contact TB Joshua for prayer and deliverance. Many childless couples have been assisted.
Kiyosaki
November 15, 2012 at 10:59 am
Be patient, God is in control. Sometimes its the mistiming of fertile periods, or wrong positions where sperm flows back, anxiety, depression, among others that may hinder conception. Going to another woman is not a solution. Your wife will not take care of the child from elsewhere. Sooner or later she will begin to feel jealous of the other girl and child. Remember, HIV/AIDS is real. why ruin yourselves? Children come from God.
SEGREGATION
November 15, 2012 at 11:07 am
He is just lying, no woman can ask for such. He is the one who is impotent.
fidel
November 15, 2012 at 11:12 am
you have two things to get from another woman,that is HIV and a baby.God is seeing you!!!!
NICKY SILVER
November 15, 2012 at 11:13 am
All what i can say to you is that God shall do it at the apponited time, let those who are having have. every fruit is good in it’s own season, wait for your season too. it shall surely come to pass and all those who are laughing at you shall laugh with you in your season.I as the servant of the almight GOD who never slumbers for his own’s sake(children) i speak and decleare the fruit of the womb in that marriage in JESUS name.It is weoll with you.
Richie
November 15, 2012 at 11:18 am
why cant she do it herself with another man. she wants to prove your impotency. let her commit that sin herself without pushing it to you man. stick to each other, i believe God will answer your prayers.
Sido
November 15, 2012 at 11:22 am
There is time for everything. Wait for your time to came. Tell your wife to stop behaving like the wife of job
The Prophet
November 15, 2012 at 11:50 am
WAIT UPON THE LORD
Janet c
November 15, 2012 at 11:55 am
I think this man is impotent. If I were the wife, I would try another man and tell my husband we have finally conceived. Many of these children only the mother knows the real fathers. So some of you bloggers, some of your ‘children’ are not your biologically.
kachale
November 15, 2012 at 12:22 pm
Its very simple in that you are a Christian.Choose not to sin against your God. He will take care of your needs and lift you up. Remember, the kingdom of God must come first and the rest will be added to you.Tell your wife to remain strong in the Lord.
Can you compare the 7 years to the period Abraham stayed with Sarah without a child?
Obey God’s word and be blessed.
Chichi
November 15, 2012 at 12:42 pm
Probably she knows its her fault. Must have had a fake illegal abortion as a youngster, and now when she needs the baby most her system is already damaged. Watch out tukasukulu na sex mutemenwe iyi.
lamfras
November 15, 2012 at 12:42 pm
My brother and sister,that plan sounds great, remenber Abraham story, the same woman asked him do that, now we are stack and being killed by muslims in huge numbers as a product of that act. the point is, what kind of family do wana build?
lamfras
November 15, 2012 at 12:46 pm
continuation:- will you urely stil love your wife the same way you do now when you would have known where to get a second, then third born? im aking you these questions knowing that i cant myself. if i was to be honest with you, adopt.
Suntwe
November 15, 2012 at 1:01 pm
My friend, if you make a bad decision in a second, the impact will be felt the entire mile of your life. Bembas say Lesa ‘nimalyotola’ where are you going to take your case if your wife changes her mind in case she gets pregnant when you’ve already messed up? remember that other woman will also need you by her side. how are you going to handle christianity and two women? please stick to your wife and keep on trying unto prayer and you will soon be blessed with a child.
Yama
November 15, 2012 at 2:06 pm
If you are so desparate for a child, try and adopt one, otherwise wait on the lord for he will surely not forsake you. Wishing you god’s blessing.
Prince TDC
November 15, 2012 at 2:39 pm
If only we cud ve 10 Pipo on ths site lyk kachale en lamfras! Ths site wud b interesting 2 visit all da tym! Luv ya analysis!!! Hats off…
cupid
November 15, 2012 at 2:55 pm
@janet c I know am not your fellow mbuya but about what you said, me and u lets try to do it and make a baby then tell your hubby that we have finally conceived another baby. feel the pinch ?
ZEDMAN
November 15, 2012 at 2:58 pm
TELL YR WIFE TO CHOSE THE OTHER WOMAN FOR YOU. THEN WIRE HER FREELY SINCE YR WIFE WILL BE AWARE OF WHAT YOU ARE DOING. NIGHTS AWOL. NO PROBLEM.
NDIYO ZO PULAMA
November 15, 2012 at 3:08 pm
ilifye bwino!!!!
Wangu Ni Wangu
November 15, 2012 at 3:51 pm
FIMO EFYO MWIPUSHA, FYABUPUBAFYE
Sumina
November 15, 2012 at 4:13 pm
Please just assre your wife that children are from God.God gives at the right time. He will surely bless you with a child when the right time comes. Being married for six years and not having a child shpould not bother you so much. People have been married for only a few months and the arrival of a child has brought in problems sometimes even to the extent of divorce.
Notepad
November 15, 2012 at 4:25 pm
I know it is painful not to have children…but God surely knows why He has not given you the gift. Nevertheless, wait on Him and He will satisfy the desires of your heart. Let His grace be sufficient for you. Human solutions (that the bible condems)bring pain and not blessings…God knows best and that is why He hates adultery.
darksider
November 15, 2012 at 4:40 pm
It is very easy for a person to tell u to go on because your wife said go on, but saying do something is easy the hard part is living with your choice, this is not a game make sure you can both live with your choice you and your wife.have you thought of adoption,this one of the other methods that do not need you to commit a sin in eyes of god. they many children in ophanages looking for pipo to look after them. who knows maybe thats gods plan for you,maybe he testing your faith, just as job was tested. i thought janet c would put a good comment what the hell for a person always taking about protecting women what a let down.
Loose Canon
November 15, 2012 at 4:43 pm
Just try TB Joshua if local pastors fail.
Notepad
November 15, 2012 at 5:02 pm
Clear misconception…no pastor, priest, pope, prophet can give a child to anyone! All we have comes from God. We have the right to talk to God directly and He will hear. Depressed hubby…plead your case with God directly and He will hear you in the same way He hears from TB Joshua. You have the right to plead your case with God through Christ…and God who answers will answer. It may be a no, wait or yes, whichever the case maybe, He will give you the grace to live with the answer!
NIKITA
November 15, 2012 at 5:55 pm
WAIT UPON THE LORD PEOPLE.HIS TIME IS THE BEST TIME!THAT IS A SIMPLE ISSUE,JUST HAVE FAITH!
Naomi
November 15, 2012 at 6:48 pm
Afta all has been said,let he who has ears hear.God’s time iz da best,trust in him en he ll grant u all yo desires.
ruth
November 15, 2012 at 8:42 pm
Go to SCOAN for prayers and trust God will surely deliver his promises.also read the scriptures on child blessing from God.i join you in prayers.
Helpers in Faith
November 15, 2012 at 8:42 pm
This a simple matter with the Lord, I would like to help you. Go to my page Helpers in Faith on facebook and in box me so we can talk further and bring you to the place you belong.
KASEMPA KIKONKONMENE
November 15, 2012 at 9:40 pm
HUSBAND AND WIFE PLEASE WATCH ROBERT REDFORD`S 1993 MOVIE CALLED INDESCENT PROPOSAL AND LEARN SOMETHING FROM IT.
Kadinkas
November 16, 2012 at 8:12 am
IF YOU give in, it will be the beginning of a brocken marriage – if you desperately need a child, go to an orphanage and adopt one.
Chuma
November 16, 2012 at 8:38 am
Lot of wise words. Wait upon the Lord. Ask it shall be given, knock it shall be open. Seek thy God with thy heart soul and mind. Trust God’s word and all his promises are yes and amen.
Your wife’s advice is nothing but beginning of trouble. Resist the devil en he will flee. Go round for prayers and let your wife attends theses prayers as she is the one so seeking fruit if the womb. These prayers are everywhere now be it.
princec
November 16, 2012 at 8:54 am
i ben,suntwe and others with postive advise. my bro compare yor 6yrs to 90yrs sara stayed without a child. jst trust God he wil surely give u one day
The Observer
November 16, 2012 at 9:03 am
This is sad reading.If this is really true,please Tumfweko connect me to this couple,if you can through my email address.There is no problem that is bigger than God.He has spoken once,and twice have I heard it that ALL power belong to God.
They must not fall into sin.
sheetbed
November 16, 2012 at 9:34 am
Janet C kwati kuti wamutuka insele ya mwaume
Blessed
November 16, 2012 at 9:51 am
My dear Brother…..the answer is in statement.” I love my wife and as a christian,its unacceptable to commit adultery”. Why not put every thing in the hands of GOD, HE will surely give you a child at HIS own time
kakolwe
November 17, 2012 at 1:01 am
Most probable & in cognisant of the power of God, would it suprise you bloggers to find out that the wife knows at which point she lost the ability to conceive? Now, she trys to make amends.
One Chilala sang ati ‘Mwalaba!’ Lelo ati go sow your seed elsewhere!!
Your choice? Live it Up! Man, adopt a child together with her, that would bring joy to you all.
ken
November 17, 2012 at 2:16 pm
I feel sorry for you my brother but it sounds like you are pushing your wife to have a baby when you know she cannot concieve and she only gave in for the sake of marriage and allowed you to have a child with another woman.This is not only wrong but also compromising your marriage as you will just end up loving this mother to the child more and in the end you will divorce your wife.Better still if the worst gets to the worst why not adopt a child from the orphanages and treat that child as your biological child?
Simuwelu Bernard
November 20, 2012 at 11:52 am
Kindly raise some money and travel to Synagogue Church Of All Nations in Nigeria (SCOAN). Many if not all who went there have seen the the power of God Almighty. It is not much for the 2 of you is about 20,000,000. to and from nigeria. This includes transport, food and accommodation at SCOAN.