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Readers Mail: Warning To All Single Ladies
My name is Temi. I have a huge issue. I have been married for two years now. I dated my husband for 6years.
Now this should be a warning to folks out there planning on getting married…don’t ignore the warning signs. Walk away from any relationship that brings u more pain than joy. It’s not worth it.
I made that mistake and I am paying the price.
I ignored it all,stayed n went on to marry him….not hoping he would change but deceiving myself that I would cope (foolishness). Today I am dealing with infidelity,emotional abuse, extreme control, bitterness and a confused life.
What is my issue today.? He keeps threatening to leave with our kid. In the past one month he has said it countless times. Sometimes jokingly and sometimes in the heat of our quarrels. It has made me think a lot and its extremely disturbing. He makes statements like you would go out and come back to an empty house. Threatens to throw me out. This is actually a new development…I know there is way more to it but I am just so tired.
I am just so sad and Shame would never allow me discuss this with my family or friends because they all warned me not marry him but I was so in foolishness. I wrote this mail to alert ladies. Please do not ignore the warning signs
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Wezzy
June 11, 2013 at 8:15 am
What a lousy and lame article… its not substantiated! I wish you could elaborate more on the signs…nonsense
Nshinwa bwino
June 11, 2013 at 8:51 am
Malabishi story!!
20th
June 13, 2013 at 11:33 am
exactly!!!
Anna
June 11, 2013 at 9:30 am
Its very true, once you notice bad signals in a man – LEAVE HIM. The way someone behaves in a relationship is exactly the way they will behave even in marriage and it will even be worse.
nachikola
June 11, 2013 at 9:48 am
it is not malabish story it is real and tha is exactly what has been happening to me. My husband of 7 years has been abusing me both physically and mentally. I have always been hoping and praying that he will change but he doesn’t. He can’t even provide for the kids it is all up to me.Now am not still sure whether i should leave him and be on my own, i can’t make that decision. please help me too.1
Comfort
June 11, 2013 at 11:22 am
@nachikola…wer u are able to provide for ur children nd he simply doesnt want to-wat exactly iz his role in ur lyf? a man was meant to be a provider-head of da house!if he z nt dat.u ar beta off alone wit ur children nd stress free,disease free,mo money for urself.dnt waste ur tym on sumone who z nt interestd in bein a gud man/husband/father.
this is y we ladies ar gettn educatd to hav a choice to stay/leave.
frozen yoghurt
June 11, 2013 at 12:17 pm
MONOGAMY IS UN-NATURAL
Jack Malama
June 11, 2013 at 12:40 pm
Hahahaha, monogamy is a tree. I’ll never get it why people wanna get married.
boma
June 13, 2013 at 12:21 pm
Jack, monogamy is not a tree. It is the act of being married to one spouse. Mahogany is the tree.
Mundia M
June 11, 2013 at 1:50 pm
Jack, ulishilu sana!!! Monogamy and mahogany are totally different things, you mongoose!
Woman leave that marriage right now. What are you waiting for? Even TD Jakes speaks about leaving a marriage that enslaves you! It is totally unwise and sinful to fail to use your brain to leave an abusive marriage.
Douglas
June 11, 2013 at 1:58 pm
hope she didnt say…UNTILL DEATH DO US APARTY.
pwete
June 11, 2013 at 4:38 pm
I hope so as well. From that sour article, it is too early to call it quits. Why do you get married when you can’t withstand the tensions that are in marriage. Some of us vowed that only death will us apart, come what may.
MARTHA
June 11, 2013 at 2:11 pm
IT IS BETTER TO ALWASY SAY IN MARRAIGE, GOD GUIDE US, NOT UNTIL GOD DO US PART, ATASE SHINO NSHIKU AWE MWANDI.
bizle
June 11, 2013 at 2:20 pm
failure to communicate effectively is the start of all problems in marriage, ladies and gentlemen avoid assuming or speculating that your hubby or wife is doing this and that.Sometimes men behave in a certain way for some reasons but failure to provide for the family should not be entertained.
Jeff
June 11, 2013 at 2:22 pm
Sometimes women create problems themselves by being suspicious of their husbands’ moves. Eventually it grows and seems to be real.
Umupandapwiti
June 11, 2013 at 2:38 pm
Wili cipubafye at night you always morn when he f*cks you and here you are complaining to the public. Taukwete isukulu, I am sure if you were educated and had a jod you would have left him.
moston
June 11, 2013 at 6:28 pm
It isnvery important for everyone to pray for the will of God in Marriage.Ask God to lead you to the right partner as you search.Avoid sin so that he can answer your prayers.The reason is it does not matter how many years you spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend,you can never really know him fully.Only God knows everyone fully.If there is a secret someone wants to hide from you,you will never know it no matter what.unless otherwise.
moston
June 11, 2013 at 6:28 pm
It is very important for everyone to pray for the will of God in Marriage.Ask God to lead you to the right partner as you search.Avoid sin so that he can answer your prayers.The reason is it does not matter how many years you spend with your boyfriend/girlfriend,you can never really know him fully.Only God knows everyone fully.If there is a secret someone wants to hide from you,you will never know it no matter what.unless otherwise.
chiefdestructer
June 11, 2013 at 7:04 pm
lacking substance
TyKe
June 13, 2013 at 3:39 pm
Things will never be the same.The more you leave the more problems you will face. the good die young. Haters